In The Rising Podcast- A Health and Wellness Podcast

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There are opportunities we may not have pursued or even recognized in our path that we see as missed opportunities. The fear of missing opportunities (FOMO) can be nerve-wracking or overwhelming, but analyzing and evaluating your missed opportunities to find out if they are worth pursuing is key. Not everything we pass up is an opportunity worth our attention, whether that was buying a real estate property, going up the corporate ladder, starting our own company, or saying something special to a family member. Whatever it is, whether we took the opportunity or we allowed it to slide by, it is not time to beat ourselves up. Sometimes we could be worried about missing something when we should be learning and thankful to take the next best step. Take time to own and respond in a way that helps you make progress. This is part of learning who you are and your values and recognizing that this is part of the human experience.

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she talks about missed opportunities. We don't have missed opportunities. It is just another experience to learn how to respond appropriately next time. Learn how to be confident, competent, clear, and concise In your pursuit and be in your true self when responding to our situations. 

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:30] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[02:20] The FOMO: the fear of missing out

[03:56] Three things to help you when dealing with FOMO

[06:34] Lessons from Bettina's experience with two interview positions

[15:20] Learning from missed opportunities to respond appropriately

[16:05] Focusing on opportunities right now and believing in yourself

[17:39] Creating opportunities and enjoying them

[18:19] Wrap up and end the show 

• You don't have to make up competence or confidence when it is the right time.
• When you understand your value, it is hard to compromise for the sake of a title or pay.
• We don't have to hang up from missed opportunities, but we can learn from them and respond more appropriately next time.
• We cannot be so busy looking for the next opportunity that we are blind to the opportunity in front of us.
• Sometimes we don't have to miss opportunities; we just need to create them.

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We all want to be in control of everything in our life, and having no control over things around us can freak us out. Life does not stop when situations change, and neither should your dream. This is “I can control attitude, and no one can take that for you when you have a dream.” Even when you don't know what is coming in the future, your mind can still be excited about it. Every achievement begins in the heart and the mind as a dream. So dream it to bring it into reality. If you don't believe you're perfect for what you're called to do, you will be afraid to dream. Dreaming is your first step to accomplishing your dream. Everything that has been achieved today was once a dream. Say yes to your dream and yourself. 

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she discusses about following your dream, turning dreams into reality, and lessons from successful dreamers. Great achievers have a habit of doing every day, which helps them believe in and expand their dream.

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:30] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[02:47] What inspired today's podcast; I can control mindset 

[04:49] Dreaming your dream; dream it

[06:15] Believe in your dream

[07:06] See your dream and build habits

[08:02] Tell your dream

[08:59] Plan your dream with the date in mind

[10:20] Work on your dream

[11:14] Enjoy your dream

[14:18] Wrap up

• If you don't believe deep down in your heart that you are perfect the way you are for the assignment you feel called to do, you're not going to do it.
• Your dreams need to be big; when you dream small because you don't want to fail, you don't recognize your potential.
• Whatever your dream is, you have to be able to see it and build the habits it requires.
• One reason a lot of dreams never go anywhere is because dreamers keep them to themselves; if you keep your dream to yourself, you are not obligated or accountable for doing anything for it.
• Plans need a deadline and an end goal.

Article by Dr. Burton

Article about the difference between self-esteem and confidence

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Do you ever ask yourself why some people present so much confidence, and others are clearly timid? Why are some people able to call on courage in an instant, while others struggle?

Recapture your self-esteem by understanding more about your confidence.  

Resources:

Article by Dr. Burton

Article about the difference between self-esteem and confidence

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IQ is all about knowing what and who we are. We know we are supposed to be important, love, forgive, and respect ourselves. On the other hand, EQ is all about internalizing all these things and knowing that you have some Worth. It is the emotional intelligence side that is not just about recognizing or not recognizing the feelings we have but being aware of ourselves and developing and maintaining relationships through empathy. Empathy is being able to get out of ourselves and to feel from somebody’s else perspective. Without empathy, there is no emotional intelligence. Knowing your emotions, other people's emotions, and how to alter your behavior so that you are kind to all is key to emotional intelligence. 

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about the importance of balancing EQ and IQ for self-love. Without empathy, self-love, self-worth, and self-esteem that you get from emotional intelligence, it is impossible to live a happy and fulfilling life. Change your story, change your life, and open up your emotional intelligence. There is so much in you that you have not tapped into.

During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:30] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[03:38] Definition; IQ vs. EQ

[05:04] The relationship between self-concept and IQ 

[07:45] Emotional intelligence in self-awareness and social awareness 

[08:49] Relationship management through empathy

[10:16] How EQ and IQ relate to your self-worth in self-love

[14:04] Four things why we are not able to internalize our self-worth 

[18:38] Wrap up

• IQ is important, but without some EQ, you never reach your highest potential.
• If we are not always aware of ourselves, how are we supposed to relate to other people?
• People without emotional intelligence don't feel empathy; they only think about themselves, and getting out of their own heads is impossible.
• We love to stay in comfort, not knowing that it is in the discomfort that the greatest drive and the greatest change happens.
• Without the self-esteem that you get from being emotionally aware of where you are, a happy and fulfilling life is just not possible

Resources Mentioned:

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Are you practising genuine self-love or unknowingly fueling narcissism? Self-love and narcissism are not the same. However, narcissism has so many similarities with self-love deficiency. Self-love deficiency has so many layers, and it usually stems from a person feeling that they have no self-esteem and self-worth outside the role they play to someone else. On the other hand, narcissistic personality disorder also relates to having low self-esteem, but their way of coping is to inflate their self-worth. They demand constant and excessive admiration and think of themselves as special people who deserve incredible amounts of attention, money, and influence but lack empathy and remorse for others. 

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about how to tell the difference between practising genuine self-love and fueling narcissism. Learn how to connect with yourself and embrace self-love without feeling guilty about extending it to others from within.   

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[01:53] Similarities between narcissism and self-love deficiency disorder

[03:32] Self-deficiency space and attracting what we don’t have 

[04:30] The human magnet syndrome and co-dependency  

[05:31] Narcissism Vs. psychopaths and sociopaths

[06:56] Caring about yourself so that you have enough love 

[09:26] Self-disconnection and how it continues in our relationship 

Notable Quotes 

• The resonating theme among narcissists is that they lack empathy and cannot step outside of themselves and look at something from another person's view. 
• When you are in the self-deficiency space, you tend to attract what you don't have.
• Sometimes we carry the burdens and emotional trauma of our own lives and those of our parents, their parents, and so on. 
• You have every right to feel comfortable, loved, and valued.
• The best gift you have to give is the gift of yourself, but not so someone else can have attention but because you know you have that much to give and you’re created for so much more.

Ross Rosenberg’s book The Human Magnet Syndrome and links to additional information.

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In the hustle and bustle of everyday existence, it's easy to feel like life is happening to us rather than being guided by our own choices. We find ourselves drifting along, tossed by the winds of circumstance, unsure of our purpose and lacking a sense of fulfillment. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle and seize the reins of our destiny? What if we could live intentionally, with purpose, and cultivate a deep sense of self-worth and self-love?

Living intentionally is more than just existing; it's a conscious decision to take charge of our lives and become the architects of our own destinies. It means mindfully aligning our thoughts, actions, and values to create a life that reflects our truest desires and aspirations. By doing so, we transcend the role of passive spectators and become active participants in our own narratives.

Are you ready to transform your life, embrace self-love, and live intentionally? Join this conversation with Bettina as she helps you discover the secrets to starting a life filled with purpose, clear goals, and gratitude. Learn how to live a life where you feel pulled towards your dreams rather than being pushed by external forces.

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[01:36] What living intentionally means

[04:45] Life as a collection of choices

[06:16] Things you can do to start living life with intention

[06:27] 1. Set a purpose for your life

[09:19] 2. Have clear goals

[11:40] 3. Learn to express gratitude

[13:54] 4. Living a life where you feel pulled rather than being pushed

[16:15] A quick recap

• Our life is a collection of choices that can lead us to a strike or an end with precision and accuracy.
• How we live our days is how we live our lives.
• You must have a clear set of goals, lest you find yourself moving backward while you should be moving forward.
• You are the only person responsible for your life.

5 Ways to live intentionally

Being mindful of living your life with purpose

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Forgiving yourself from guilt and shame: Step 6 of 7 Self-Love Mini Series. 

Sometimes we feel guilty for something we participated in, enabled, or turned a blind eye to, and forgiving ourselves and getting over it can prove to be difficult. We may go into denial to suppress the guilt, but this only lead to self-loathing or self-neglect. When we carry guilt for so long, it turns into shame. Shame never serves any purpose to our higher level of consciousness or relationship with others or selves, and forgiving ourselves makes all the difference. It allows us to use guilt to open our eyes to a situation, figure out what is out of place and get some clarity from the other person's point of view so that we can start moving toward forgiveness and self-love.

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about forgiving yourself, self-love, and the importance of forgiving yourself for various things, thoughts, words, and deeds. Learn how to get on a path that leads to self-forgiveness and live your life without the captivity of guilt and regret. 

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:30] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[01:33] When forgiving yourself and letting go becomes very difficult 

[03:01] Living without the captivity of guilt and regret

[03:49] Forgiving yourself for what you did and did do for yourself

[04:19] David Hocking's research on “We all need an ego.” 

[07:42] Brene Brown's perspective on how to unlearn guilt and shame  

[08:34] Three steps to get on a path that leads to self-forgiveness 

[13:38] Wrap up and end the show 

• Guilt can be an emotion that initially helps us figure out something is out of place and wrong. 
• We all need an ego because that is what gives us survival.
• Shame is as close as we can get to death while still alive.
• Guilt is a learned behavior from society, parents, and religion; it goes hand-in-hand with feeling underserved, unlovable, and worthless.
• You can't deal with what you can't feel. 

Resources:

Information about Brené  Brown

YouTube describing the levels of consciousness from Dr. Hawkins.

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We all instinctively know that protection involves the physical sense of not being harmed, but there is another way just as violent but leaves no mark, which is the realm of emotional and psychological violence. These pretty often don't get the same sort of recognition because they are not so visible but they are extremely hurtful to a person, and those bruises don't go away. So many of us would rather be physically hurt than emotionally or mentally hurt because it stays with us even when we are not actively thinking about it, and our patterns and behaviours are based on those experiences.

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about protecting yourself from people that you know in your gut are unhealthy for you. Giving is wonderful and it is part of showing love to others, but if there is no sense of security, protection and value to you and your time, it is not going to help you. However, when you express love to yourself, you don't put up with unhealthy relationships. 

During this episode, you will learn about;

[00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[01:09] The two sides to protection and what they mean

[02:14] Bettina’s experiences of psychological and emotionally destructive relationships

[04:21] Seven signs of an unhealthy relationship

[04:44] 1. When you cannot go to the specific person for emotional support

[05:51] 2. The person is trying to take centre stage and cuts you off from your social circles

[06:27] 3. You are told you only have two reasons for being around, Physical looks and what you can bring to the table

[07:28] 4. You don't have a sense of security in your relationship

[09:21] 5. Your successes are never truly celebrated 

[10:27] 6. They always joke about leaving

[11:46] 7. You are constantly told how lucky you are to have them in your life 

[12:57] A quick recap

[14:05] Giving in a relationship and how we get burned out 

Notable Quotes 

• Sometimes things come to you when they're supposed to so you can have something to offer somebody else.
• You are not in a protected self or place when you cannot go to a specific person for emotional support.
•  When you see nothing but a sea of red flags, you're not in a protected relationship, and it doesn't help if you have a red flag waving if you don't do anything about it.
• We all deserve to have those moments when we can be celebrated.
• We are truly meant to have relationships where we are two whole individual people that can come together to have a good time and do life together.

Here is the book discussing Give and Take and how it relates to your life. 

Additional information regarding the ways unhealthy relationships look like.

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Setting boundaries is a topic that has been discussed extensively, but what do boundaries mean when it comes to self-love? Boundaries are the beginning of one thing and the end of something else so that something else can begin. Although we usually think of boundaries in the format of physical boundaries, such as those between properties or countries, there are also financial, spiritual, and emotional boundaries that must be established to help us understand who we are in relation to others. 

When we set boundaries, we take ownership of our emotions, attitudes, and behaviors, allowing us to distinguish what belongs to us and what does not. By establishing your own boundaries, you can live in your truth, even if it is not accepted or embraced by others. Your truth belongs to you, and nobody has the right to dictate it to you.

Join the conversation with your host Bettina as she shares more about establishing boundaries to help you figure out who you are compared to someone else. Backlash will always happen with coworkers, family, friends, kids, spouses, and any relationship, but setting boundaries will give you a healthy life without fear and regret and with an understanding of love and value. However, this will not be given to you by someone else. It has to be claimed by you. Boundaries are all about claiming your importance, reason, and permission to be alive and happy.

During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:01] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[01:39] Honoring boundaries and the boundaries we need to establish

[03:05] How our inability to have boundaries develop

[03:45] Responsibility; learn who is responsible and stop being the victim

[05:22] A great illustration of boundaries and responsibility

[09:37] Freedom; the freedom to have control over your life

[10:26] Love; true love within boundaries 

[11:09] Truth; being truthful to yourself

[12:20] Self-control; how to put control in your hands

[15:08] How to build your boundaries by using the word "No"

Notable Quotes 

•  When we can better identify what is truly ours, then we can better identify what isn't.
• Regardless of our household, whether it's a single parent or double parent, our inability to have boundaries develop in our childhood 
• When you have responsibility, you have some opportunity to gain power; victims don't have power, and to take responsibility, you have to stop being the victim. 
• You can lie to other people, but your body will never allow you to lie to yourself, so be in your own truth, whether it is accepted or not.
• The more grounded you are in your boundaries, the more energy you will have, and the more you feel aligned with your priorities and goals in life. 

If you are interested in learning more about boundaries, then you can read their books or follow them on YouTube.

RC Blakes. Jr You Tube

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As human beings, we have a number of basic needs that must be met in order for us to thrive. These needs include food, water, shelter, and safety. However, our basic needs extend beyond these necessities. We are also designed for relationships, sleep, exercise, and proper nutrition. Neglecting these needs can lead to physical and mental health problems, as well as a diminished quality of life. By taking care of our basic needs, we can ensure that we have the energy, motivation, and resilience to tackle life's challenges.

Join this conversation with Bettina as she discusses the importance of taking care of our relationships, sleep, exercise, and proper nutrition. She also dives into the impact of neglecting these needs on our physical and mental health and overall well-being. You will also learn some practical tips and strategies for prioritizing our basic needs and showing ourselves the love and respect that we deserve.  Tune in!

During this episode, you will learn about;

[01:07] Intro and what in for you in today’s show

[02:05] What is considered a basic need? 

[03:26] Best approaches to interacting with other people

[05:22] Three categories of universal relationship needs

[09:58] Good food and adequate sleep cannot be underestimated

[14:12] The basic need of exercising and movement

[17:59] A quick recap and episode’s key takeaways

• We, as mammals, are built for relationships. We are not designed to be isolated. Relationships are just as important as food, water and shelter.
• All of us want affection, but not to the same degree. Affection can take the form of words, looks, actions or feelings.
• Good food and adequate sleep are pillars of our basic needs. They cannot be underestimated.
• Health is not just equated to the weight you lose but also the health you gain.
• If you multitask while eating, you create a disconnect between your gut and brain.
• Body and organ functions decrease when we do not move.

1. Relationship Universal Needs
2. Serotonin & Gut Health
3. The Amherst article can be found here

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