In this episode I welcome accomplished director and friend Lanre Olabisi to discuss what is self work and how it can help you heal. This is one of the most personal and candid episodes with wonderful nuggets of how knowing yourself better improves all your relationships. Catch it here first before it drops in audio form. 

Here we Discuss:

What is Self Work

How it Can Help you Heal 

Couples Counceling 

Silent Retreats

Meditation 

Love & Relationships

Dating trial and error 

Malcom Gladwell's book Blink

John Gottman - Gottman institute 

John Gottman's Book - Eight Dates 

To learn more about Lanre's work click here. 

In this amazing episode discussing somatic work I welcome back somatic experiencing practicioner Sarah Baldwin! After my own experience dipping my toes in that work and feeling the massive impact it created, Sarah Baldwin returns to explain what it is and share a little bit on how it can help you heal. 

Topics Discussed:

Somatic Work 

Trauma Healing

Narcissism

Impact of letting babies cry

Developmental Somatics 

If you'd like to work with Sarah you can find her through the links below:

Today I welcome life coach Adriana Bucci of Let's Get Your Shift Together to discuss how do we fall in love with a narcissists. We talk about how dating a narcisist is like your house is on fire a dn you are trying to find a way out to save your life...just as the fire alarm rings.

This episode is so juicy and you will learn about:

• Love Bombing
• Gaslighting
• Grand gestures 
• Narcissistc Cycle 
• Tools of narcissistic control 
• Gray Rock concept 
• 3 tips to avoid narcissitic relationship 

To find Adriana please check her out on her

WEBSITE 

YOUTUBE

INSTAGRAM 

Thanks for listening and tune in next week for another fresh episode. 

Today I wecome back clinical psychologist, author and survivor Dr.Ingrid Clayton.

In Part 2 of our chat Dr. Clayton explains what Trauma Reenactment means and how that can keeps us in an endless loop of abusive relationships. We also talk about those "butterflies" and of we do in fact just "like who we like" without being able to control those feelings and why. 

We discuss intermittent reinforcement in narcissistic relationships, how that strategy keeps us coming back, how hope can be damaging in an abusive setting as well as trauma responses.

There is so much to unpack here let's do quit recap on what we are discussing in this episode:

• Trauma Reenactment
• Why we "like who we like" 
• Narcissistic relationships
• Hope can be damaging 
• Trauma responses

You can find Dr. Clayton's amazing book Believing Me here.

For more wisdom on the topic follow Dr. Clayton on: 

Instagram 

YouTube 

Website 

TikTok

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is the author of "Beliving Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma" where she brilliantly shares with the world her experience surviving a narcissistic relationship in her youth, the impacts of complex trauma and how to use all of that for growth and transformation. 

This is such a dense and informatitive chat that I broke it up into two episodes so you can have time to process, consider and create change in case you find yourself in this kind of relationship today. 

Here Dr. Clayton describes the common strategy of narcissistic abuse the acronym D.A.R.V.O - Deny, Arrack, Reverse, Victim and Offender. This one really rang a bell for me in when reflecting about a past relationship. 

This is part 1. Don't Miss Part 2 dropping next week. 

You can find Dr. Clayton here:

Instagram 

Website 

In this episode I welcome Carmen Royale to tell her experience dating a Narcissist. So many of us have fallen into these terrible dating experiences that feel like you've met "the one" just to shortly after be met with "the real one": a callous manipulator who doesn't care about anyone's feelings but their own. 

Throughout the week I will be sharing some of the dating profile of this man with how he pitched himself and the truth of who he turned out to be in real life. Make just to check it out on instagram. 

IG : @incessantly_seeking_podcast 

This one is so juicy and Carmen, like all of us, learned so much from this experience. I hope you do too by listening to this story. 

You can learn more about Carmen Montgomery on social media via the links below

IG: @thecarmeroyale 

YOUTUBE: Karma Meets World

WEBSITE: Carmenroyale.com

In this epsiode therapist and author Vanessa Bennett and I discuss what standards are, red flags and how we show people how we want to be loved by how we love ourselves. 

Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU  which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inner life. This book did that for me so I highky recommend it. 

You can find Vanessa Bennett Here:

TIKTOK

INSTAGRAM

CHEAPER THAN THERAPY PODCAST

I welcome back podcast host and all around great human Louise Rumble. Louise and I met in Tulum when I went across the world for love and was met with silence. Listen to this story and what it means to have standards when dating. This chat was so delicious that Louise and I could have chatted for hours but we kept it short enough for 2 episodes. This episode goes deep into the aftermath and how we can grow from hurtful situations. 

Make sure to listen to her podcast The Openhouse with Louise Rumball  that is rising the charts of most listened podcasts in the US and the UK quicker than I can type this. There Louise opens up about her part experineces, her therapy journey and her relationship growth. It is amazing. I highly recommended. 

You can find Louise Rumball on: 

TIKTOK @thetherapygirl__

INSTAGRAM @theopenhousepodcast @iamlouiserumball

PART 2 of this Chat Dropping Next week! 

For the next two episodes I welcome podcast host and all around great human Louise Rumble. Louise and I met in Tulum when I went across the world for love and was met with silence. Listen to this story and what it means to have standards when dating. This chat was so delicious that Louise and I could have chatted for hours but we kept it short enough for 2 episodes. 

Make sure to listen to her podcast The Openhouse with Louise Rumball  that is rising the charts of most listened podcasts in the US and the UK quicker than I can type this. There Louise opens up about her part experineces, her therapy journey and her relationship growth. It is amazing. I highly recommended. 

You can find Louise Rumball on: 

TIKTOK @thetherapygirl__

INSTAGRAM @theopenhousepodcast @iamlouiserumball

PART 2 of this Chat Dropping Next week! 

What would be better than a solo epidose on codependency? Oh the irony. After my chat with therapist Vanessa Bennett in our previous episode I found myself having many realizations and thought it was time to get close and personal about my own codependency recovery. 

WARNING: This episode discusses loss, death and grief. 

If those topics might be triggering for you please proceed with caution and seek help if a mental health professional if needed. 

If you haven't listened to episode 21 yet: We are ALL Copedent - with therapist Vanessa Bennett I highly recommend it.