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In this episode, my dear friend and co-host Christine Marcario joins me to talk all about Gathered, the cozy fall retreat for women we’re hosting November 5–7 at Christine’s home in Toms River, New Jersey.

We share how Gathered came to be (spoiler: we had the exact same idea on the exact same day), why we’re keeping it to just 8 women, and why we didn’t plan an hour-by-hour itinerary. This retreat is built around the women who say yes. We answer your questions about cost, what to wear, travel, and what you’ll walk away with, and we get real about mom guilt, fear, and how often we skip the things that fill our own cup.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to slow down, get clear, and step into the holidays grounded instead of frazzled, this conversation is for you.

In this episode:

• How a Sedona retreat plan turned into an intimate weekend in New Jersey
• Why we’re personalizing the retreat around you instead of a set agenda
• Getting calm, clear, and back home to yourself before the busy season
• Why the sisterhood doesn’t end when the weekend does
• Honest answers about cost, what to wear, and getting to Jersey
• Christine’s story about missing a dance recital and how it made her a better mom
• Why you shouldn’t be afraid to travel solo

Ask yourself this week:

• When was the last time I did something just for me?
• What’s one thing I keep putting off because of everyone else?
• What would it feel like to end this year clear and confident?

Come Gather with us 🍂
November 5–7, 2026 · Toms River, NJ · Only 8 seats
Doors close Monday, October 26. Hearing this later? Reach out anyway. If a seat is open, we’ll help you get here.
👉 https://aligned-and-abundant.kit.com/products/retreat

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Music by: Jason and Ashley Scheufler
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Tears were streaming down my face, my pants were falling down, and the fix was sitting right in my pocket the whole time.

In this episode, I’m taking you up the Twin Sisters trail in Colorado. I’m not a hiker. I panicked at the trail sign, the altitude hit hard, and I spent over a mile hiking my pants up with every step because my phone was weighing down my pocket. I wouldn’t hand it over, and I didn’t think to move it. Then my boyfriend turned around and asked one simple question that changed the whole climb.

It’s funny (and a little ridiculous), but it’s also a real lesson about how often we make things harder than they need to be. Sometimes all it takes is moving one thing to finally enjoy everything else.

In this episode:

• Saying yes to something new and then wondering what you got yourself into
• How stubbornness keeps us struggling when the fix is right in front of us
• The stranger on the mountain who hikes every morning with half a lung, and the push he gave me
• “One step at a time” as a real strategy, not just a saying
• How this shows up in business, and why I created Lit Up Launch to take the backend stress off your live calls

Ask yourself this week:

• What am I making harder than it needs to be?
• What’s the “phone in my pocket” I keep fighting with?
• What one thing could I move so I can enjoy the rest?

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Come Gather with us 🍂
Christine Marcario and I are hosting Gathered, an intimate retreat for women, November 5–7 in New Jersey. We’ll connect, get clear, take action, and you’ll leave with a sisterhood and a follow-up call a month later to keep you moving. Only 8 seats, and some are already gone.

Join Here or reach out to us with questions:https://aligned-and-abundant.kit.com/products/retreat

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Music by: Jason and Ashley Scheufler
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There was black dust shooting out of my vents, and I knew exactly whose fault it was. Mine. I didn't ask.

In this Shower Sprinkle, I'm sharing a messy (literally) day at home and an upcoming surgery I've been avoiding asking about, even though I used to work in the OR. Both taught me the same thing: sometimes we skip the questions because we're excited, relieved, or honestly scared of the answer. That avoidance costs us clarity, peace of mind, and sometimes a couple of hours of scrubbing walls.

This week, I'm challenging you to look at where you're not asking, and whether you're asking in a way that actually gets you a clear answer.

In this episode:

• Why we say yes before we get clear
• How avoiding questions can be a way of protecting ourselves from what we don't want to know
• The difference between asking and asking well
• Looking back on the Grief Series and what asking made possible

Ask yourself this week:

• What question am I avoiding right now?
• Am I scared of the answer?
• Could I rephrase it so I get a clearer response?

Come Gather with us 🍂
Christine Marcario and I are hosting Gathered, an intimate retreat for women, November 5–7 in New Jersey. It's all about asking yourself the real questions, getting clear, and leaving with action steps and a sisterhood. Seating is limited to 8, and some seats are already gone. Ask us any questions and ask yourself if this feels aligned! 

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Music by: Jason and Ashley Scheufler
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After ten conversations about loss, love, and everything grief actually looks like, I'm closing out the Grief Series with the one thing every guest agreed on: what actually helps someone who's grieving isn't the right words — it's staying in the room.

In this finale, I revisit the most powerful moment from each episode of the Grief Series — from Pam Sandrock's beach ball metaphor to Justine King's "you never move on, you move forward" — and pull together a real, practical toolkit for how to comfort someone who's grieving. This episode covers what to actually say (and what not to say) when someone dies, how to support a grieving friend without overwhelming them, and why "let me know if you need anything" almost never works.

In this episode:

• A one-line takeaway from all 10 Grief Series guests
• The exact phrases to stop saying to someone who's grieving — and what to say instead
• Why "I'm sorry for your loss" isn't as comforting as you think
• Practical, specific ways to show up for a grieving friend or family member (no meal train required)
• Why there's no timeline — and no hierarchy — to grief

If you've ever wondered what to say to someone who's grieving, how to support a friend after a death, or how to talk to a child about loss, this episode is the recap and the toolkit in one.

Catch up on the full Grief Series: Starting from Episode 51 

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Anthony Marcario was three years old when his mother was diagnosed with breast cancer — and she spent the next two decades making sure he never noticed. In this episode, Anthony (husband of my dear friend Christine, and a high school educator of over 12 years) shares what it was like growing up with a parent who was sick for nearly his entire childhood, and how she turned every Friday treatment, every hospital stay, and every hard day into something that just looked like ordinary life.

Anthony walks through the five stages of grief as he actually lived them — the denial after she passed, the anger, the bargaining with God, and the sadness that still shows up around her birthday, Mother's Day, and the holidays. He talks about "coming out of the clam shell" to finally speak about his loss, the signs he still looks for that tell him she's near, and the moment he found the yellow string tied to a Christmas ornament — proof she was there the year they lost the hooks.

He also opens up about how losing his mother young shaped the way he shows up for his own students, many of whom are grieving parents of their own, and why he now tries to live by one rule: go to bed with no regrets.

In this episode:

• Growing up with a parent who has a chronic or terminal illness
• The five stages of grief, as experienced rather than as theory
• How families "normalize" hardship to protect each other
• Signs, symbols, and staying connected to someone after loss
• Supporting grieving students as an educator
• Finding joy and living without regret after losing a parent young

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I met Justine at a boxing gym, and it didn't take long to realize she's one of the most genuine, heart-of-gold people I've ever known. She's spent seven years opening her home to strangers walking through the unimaginable — the loss of a child.

In this episode, Justine shares the story of her son Josh, who she and her husband Bob lost on Easter Sunday, 2017 — the day after what she calls one of her best birthdays ever. She talks about the moment everything changed, the years since, and the support group she and Bob ran out of their own living room for families who understood exactly what she was carrying.

We talk about what it actually means to help someone who's grieving — why "call me if you need anything" doesn't work, why just showing up does, and why sitting in silence with someone can say more than any words you could find. Justine shares the phrase she's started using instead of "I'm sorry," what her tattoos mean to her, and why she believes you never move on from a loss like this — you move forward, carrying it with you.

This one is heavy, and it's also full of hope. Justine's faith carried her through the worst thing she could imagine, and she's spent the years since turning that into a place for other people to land.

In this episode:

• Justine's story of losing her son Josh, and the years that followed
• Why "call me if you need anything" isn't real support — and what is
• The support group Justine and her husband ran for seven years
• What her tattoos mean and why she got them
• Why grief isn't something you move on from — it's something you carry forward
• Where to find support if you or someone you love has lost a child

Resources mentioned:

• While We're Waiting support group — Wichita, KS (Riverlawn Church, last Thursday of the month)
• While We're Waiting Facebook group (for bereaved parents)

Listener challenge: If you know someone who's lost someone — whether it was last month or ten years ago — reach out today. Not "let me know if you need anything." Just reach out. Send the text. Bring the toilet paper. Sit with them in silence if that's all you have.

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This week, I step away from the guest chair and get honest about my own grief — mid-eclipse season, mid-edit, mid-life.

Fresh off the conversation with Dr. Craig Farney about the difference between feeling sad and being sad, I found myself living the answer in real time. A physical health scare pulled her straight back into an old fear, grief showed up uninvited at her desk, and she made the choice to let it move through her instead of pushing past it.

In this Shower Sprinkle, I talk about:

• Why eclipse season seems to be surfacing heaviness for everyone lately
• The moment grief ambushed her while editing an upcoming guest episode
• A physical trigger that took her back to a hard season of her health history
• Why hosting a grief-focused show doesn't make her immune to grief
• The practice of letting a feeling have its five minutes, instead of solving or explaining it away

A note on what's ahead: Next week's guest joins me to talk about the loss of a child, and how she's turned unimaginable pain into helping others survive theirs. Trigger warning noted in advance — I want you to know this one will be tender.

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In this episode of the Grief Series, I sit down with Dr. Craig Farney — who I jokingly call "the feelings doctor" — for a conversation about the connection between our emotions and our physical health. Dr. Farney has personally helped me work through my own grief, and in this episode he breaks down why so many of us were never taught how to feel our feelings in the first place, and what that costs us physically and emotionally when we don't.

What we cover:

• Dr. Farney's approach to helping people become aware of the subconscious patterns driving their wellbeing
• The three questions he asks every client: what do you feel, where do you feel it, and why do you feel it
• The inner parent / inner child framework, and how most of us "parent" ourselves the same way we were parented
• Why feelings aren't the problem — it's the behavior that follows them that we're really trying to control
• The critical difference between "I feel sad" (an experience) and "I am sad" (an identity) — and why that distinction changes how grief moves through you
• How unprocessed grief shows up in the body: gut issues, fatigue, sleep problems, autoimmune flare-ups
• Grief isn't only about death — the death of a relationship, a dream, or a career can grieve just as deeply
• Why grief has no timeline, and why something can resurface 20 years later
• Gendered grief norms — why men are so often taught not to cry, and the health cost of that conditioning
• Dr. Farney's own story: a distant relationship with his father, not being able to cry at his dad's funeral, and the moment his dad turned, kissed his mom, and passed away
• Why "the past without emotion is wisdom," and how to hold complicated grief without judgment

You can connect with Dr. Craig Farney at:https://www.docerelifecenter.com/

On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCraigFarney

Listen to his podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@mind.shift.podcasts

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In this episode, I'm sitting down with someone I don't usually get to interview — my grandfather, Glenn Gum. He was married to my grandmother, Sheila, for 69 years before she passed. We recorded this conversation at Table Rock Lake, where our family has vacationed together for over 50 years — so this isn't a studio interview. It's just us, talking the way we always have.

My Grandpa agreed to share this because he wants it to help someone else walking through the same thing.

He talks about what grief has actually felt like for him — not the version people expect, but the real one: isolation, the pull to stay in bed, the guilt of still being here. He talks about the friends who chose to stay in that isolation, and the sister-in-law who told him plainly: if you sit in your house and do nothing, the devil wins. And he talks about what it took to choose differently — staying active, staying connected, and deciding, one morning at a time, to be the guy who says good morning instead of the guy who doesn't.

This one is personal. My grandpa didn't just answer questions for this episode — he gave us 69 years of love, and what he's learned about living after loss.

In this episode:

• What grief has actually felt like for him, in his own words
• The role isolation plays in grief, and how it compounds
• The moment his sister-in-law's words changed his mindset
• Why "positive" has to be a practice, not just a feeling
• How he's rebuilt a life, health, and community after 69 years with one partner

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In this episode of the Inner Spark Grief Series, I sit down with Terri Brown, an LSCSW psychotherapist with 39 years of experience in death and dying, critical incident response, and grief counseling — including work with Kroger's critical incident teams and 12 years serving soldiers returning from Iraq and Afghanistan with the Department of Defense.

Terri has personally walked alongside me through my own journey, and in this conversation we get into why grief is so rarely talked about — and why that silence leaves so many people feeling alone in it.

We talk about:

• Terri's beach metaphor for grief — the waves that lap gently at your feet, and the ones that swamp you without warning
• Why "I'm so sorry for your loss" isn't the comfort we think it is, and what to say instead
• The "grief grocery bag" — a simple, tangible way to show up for someone grieving
• Why there's no timeline, no order, and no wrong way to grieve — even 20 years later
• What happens after the casseroles stop and everyone goes home
• How to actually mean it when you say "I'm here for you"
• Why grief and joy aren't opposites — and how humor becomes part of healing
• Terri's own story about her dad, and the moment they still laugh about today

A line worth sitting with: "This is your process. This is your journey, and it's your timeline. No one gets to drive this but you."

If this episode brought something up for you, please know — grief doesn't need to be earned, explained, or timed. You're allowed to be exactly where you are.

If you found something that sparked you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it today.

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