Intelligent Intoxication

“Happiness is not a feeling… one of the biggest reasons people don’t get happier is that they’re chasing a feeling… feelings are evidence of happiness… the three parts of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction and meaning.”

Arthur C. Brooks/author

Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.

According to Brooks,

if you want to get happier,

you must develop

the skills needed to:

In order to

find what you

really enjoy,

ask yourself:

How Adults Play

How To Rest

Here are a few questions

to help you

remember what

truly satisfies you:

To help you

get curious

about creating a

meaningful life,

here are a few questions:

If we want

to be happy,

get in the habit

of solving for what prevents

you from:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

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My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

I’m thrilled to share with you a brilliant resource I just found:

Overcoming Overthinking, Ruminating, and Intrusive Thoughts Workbook

Licensed Therapist, Suzette Bray, shares her professional insights, tips, and strategies for overcoming these three unhelpful thought patterns. 

When we’re overthinking, we’re stuck in thinking about the future in the form of worries, what ifs, and worst-case scenarios. We likely experience “analysis paralysis” and may find it difficult to make decisions. 

Courtesy of L Suzette Bray, here are a few questions:

Try this:

For 3 minutes, write down all of your worries, what ifs, and worse-case scenarios. When the timer goes off, say this to your brain:

“You’ve had your turn to overthink. Now we’re moving on.”

When we’re ruminating, we’re stuck in looping thoughts regarding things that have already happened in the past. Ruminating doesn’t solve anything - it keeps us stuck in resentment, regret, anger, and frustration. 

Here are a few questions:

Try this:

When we’re contending with intrusive thoughts, we may notice that disturbing, violent, or inappropriate thoughts pop into your mind seemingly out of nowhere, much like junk mail in your mailbox.  Intrusive thoughts don’t mean anything about your character. 

Here are a few questions:

Try this:

Here’s a link to buy a copy of Suzette Bray’s workbook:

Overcoming Overthinking, Ruminating, and Intrusive Thoughts Workbook

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

A diagnosis for a mental health disorder is not meant to label you or become part of your identity. A diagnosis is intended to provide you with the information you need to work with a professional to create a plan that will allow you to thrive as you curate a life that is sustainably satisfying to you.

Here’s how the Mental Health Management Group (MHMG) explains a diagnosis:

“A mental health diagnosis is a clinical assessment made by a mental health professional to determine whether a person meets the criteria for a specific mental health disorder or condition. Mental health diagnoses are based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which the American Psychiatric Association publishes.

A mental health diagnosis is made after a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation that includes a clinical interview, a review of the person’s medical history, and a discussion of their symptoms and impact on daily life. A mental health professional may also use standardized assessments and rating scales to help with the diagnostic process.

The purpose of a mental health diagnosis is to provide a framework for understanding a person’s symptoms and to guide the selection of appropriate treatments. It can also help mental health professionals communicate with each other about a person’s condition and ensure that they receive the most effective care.

It’s important to note that a mental health diagnosis is not a label or a judgment of a person’s character or worth. Instead, it is a tool to help mental health professionals provide the best care possible and improve a person’s quality of life.”

According to MHMG, here are some frequently asked questions:

1.Who can diagnose a mental health condition?

A mental health condition can be diagnosed by a licensed mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist, psychologist, clinical social worker, or professional counselor.

2.What are some common mental health diagnoses?

Some common mental health diagnoses include anxiety disorders, depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), eating disorders, and personality disorders.

3.How is a mental health diagnosis made?

The diagnostic criteria for mental health conditions are based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). A mental health diagnosis is typically made through clinical interviews, observations, and assessments. A mental health professional will gather information about a person’s symptoms, medical history, and family history. They may also use standardized assessments and rating scales.

4.Can mental health diagnoses change over time?

Yes, mental health diagnoses can change over time. As symptoms change, improve and evolve; a diagnosis may be revised or updated to reflect a person’s current condition. Additionally, some mental health conditions can be comorbid, meaning that a person may have more than one diagnosis simultaneously.  Mental health disorders, such as depression, PTSD, and anxiety, can also improve because of changes a person has made by developing improved coping skills, life circumstances, or advanced alternative treatments such as TMS or Ketamist (™), resulting in the remission of symptoms.

5.Should I be worried about getting a mental health diagnosis?

No, you should not be concerned about getting a mental health diagnosis. A mental health diagnosis is a tool to help mental health professionals better understand your symptoms and develop an appropriate treatment plan. Having a diagnosis can help you access the right treatments and support to manage your condition effectively. It’s important to remember that a diagnosis does not define you, and seeking help for mental health concerns is a sign of strength, not weakness.

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

If you were the main character in a movie of your life, what might the audience be yellling at you to finally do? Finally stop doing? Finally be or create?

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

We don’t build momentum before we get “moving”. First, we get into motion, then we create momentum. 

Here are a few strategies to try in order to build momentum:

On paper, brainstorm any tasks you’ve been waiting to do until you build momentum or “feel” like it. 

Block off time on your calendar to focus. 

Practice the Pomodoro productivity technique:

Pomodoro Technique

Buy a time cube here:

Time Cube

Turn off noise so that you can tap into your inner, wise voice:

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

If you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself:

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

When we don’t “like” someone, it’s often because we aren’t compatible with them or to them. It’s likely that our values, views, habits, passions, or priorities just don’t match. 

When you notice that you don’t like someone, try this:

“I’m noticing that I don’t like him/her. I wonder if it’s because we aren’t compatible.”

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

Dr. Stuart Ablon, creator of Think:Kids, bases his work with “challenging” kids on this six-word philosophy: 

“Kids do well if they can.”

The implication in these six words is that kids want to do well but don’t have the skills to do so. 

Ablon is also the author of the book Change-able: How Collaborative Problem Solving Changes Lives at Home, at School, and at Work:

Change-able

Here’s a terrific interview with Dr. Ablon:

Rethinking Challenging Kids

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

A “clean break” is a definitive end or intentional closure. We often avoid “clean breaks” in regard to habits, relationships, companies, or situations, because we are people pleasing or trying to control the thoughts or emotions of others. We mistakenly believe that the discomfort we’ll feel in the moment is not something that we can endure or handle. But, temporary discomfort will pale in comparison to long-term suffering. 

I invite you to consider these questions:

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory

“Why do we do the things we do? Why is it that we measure success and value by attention and status, yet frown upon complacency? What force drives and shapes all of our emotions, actions, quality of life and, ultimately, our destinies? Did you know that the answers to these questions can all be explained by learning about the 6 human needs?”

Tony Robbins

Our NEEDS are our requirements as human beings:

“All dysfunctional behaviors arise from the inability to consistently meet these core needs. But people’s needs aren’t just behind the bad decisions we make – they are also behind all of the great things humans accomplish. Understanding your own needs and psychology can not only help you avoid toxic behaviors and habits but can also help you achieve your goals.”

Tony Robbins

I invite you to consider these questions:

Watch Tony’s TedX Talk here:

"Why You Do What You Do"

Take Tony’s “Needs” Quiz here:

Needs Quiz

If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:

[email protected]

Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. 

If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. 

Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. 

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:

Intentional Intoxication Book

If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:

[email protected]

For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:

Intoxication Inventory