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- How To Take Down The Parts Of Your Life That No Longer Serve You
If you’re willing and/or ready to take down or release the parts of your life that no longer serve you, here’s how I suggest that you begin to do so:
- tackle the physical clutter
- start with the smallest spaces (drawers) and with the things you don’t really care about or feel attached to
- move on to sentimental physical belongings, relationships, acquaintances, or habits that no longer serve you
- now that you’ve built momentum, you can begin to identify and release the “big” trees or “challenging NOs” like a career or job, relationship, a location, or a long-term obligation
- you may want or need the support of a coach, therapist, or trusted mentor to begin to release these types of things
The discomfort you may feel as you release things from your life will pale in comparison to the long-term space and relief you’ll experience on the other side of letting go.
If you know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
16 min - tackle the physical clutter
- How To Be A Friend Others Celebrate
In celebration of the life of my beautiful college friend, Christine Marquise, I’d like to highlight what made her wonderfully brilliant, as there is so much to be learned from her legacy.
Christine, or “Ollie”, as we lovingly called her, was an energizing, rather than depleting or draining friend. Here’s why:
- She was emotionally mature and willing to be emotionally vulnerable
- She gave her friends “equal air time” by listening and asking questions
- She didn’t compete with friends (from a place of superiority) or get stuck in comparison-itis with friends (from a place of inferiority). She brought her best self to the friendship and wanted others to do the same.
- She was physically, emotionally, and mentally present without the distraction of her phone.
Inner Critic Assessment
I invite you to consider these questions:
- How willing are you to share vulnerably with your friends without dumping
- How aware are you in your friendships of listening more than you talk?
- How willing are you to get curious about how competition and comparison-itis might be showing up in your friendships?
- How willing are you to be present in your friendships
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
13 min - How To Start, Stop, or Create
In order to start, stop, or create this, what is the system I am going to need in place? A system is a step-by-step checklist that you can follow on auto-pilot in the direction of your desired destination.
I invite you to consider these questions:
- What do you want to stop doing?
- What do you want to start doing?
- What do you want to create?
- Will saying YES to this energize me?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
9 min - What To Expect When You Birth Something Different
Birthing something new in your life will be:
- Painful
- Uncertain
- Confusing
- Disappointing
But feeling these emotions doesn’t mean that you’re on the wrong track. In order to “birth” your own version of different, you must be capable of and willing to feel “negative” emotions.
I invite you to consider these questions:
- When do you notice quitting on your goals or dreams when they feel uncomfortable or painful?
- How willing are you to ask for help in order to create your different life?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
9 min - What You Always Have A Right To
Years ago, my beloved therapist, Meg, gave me a “Personal Bill of Rights”. Admittedly, at that time, I wanted to want to believe everything on the page, but I didn’t… yet. But thanks to years of personal development with the help of therapists and coaches, today I practice and embody every right on the list. You can too, my friend.
If there’s a “right” that you really want to believe, I invite you to practice these prompts:
- “I want to want to believe that… “
- “It’s possible that I have a right to… “
- “I’m willing to consider that I deserve… “
I invite you to consider these questions:
- What did you notice feeling when you read this Bill of Rights?
- How willing are you to create your own?
- What might prevent you from doing so?
- As you listened to tonight’s episode, did a specific relationship come to mind?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
22 min - How To NOT Feel Overloaded or Shutdown in December
If we’re not aware of our stress levels, it’s easy to become overloaded or shutdown during the month of December.
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling overloaded:
- Clenched
- Hot
- Heart pounding
- Fighting
- Anxious
- Hypervigilant
- Impulsive
- angry/frustrated/annoyed irritable
- Defensive
- Overwhelmed
- Shaking
- Aggressive
- Revved up
- Agitated
- Intense
- Panic
- Antsy
- Wound up
- Stressed
- Tight
- Fidgety
- Jittery
- Trapped
- Excitement (can often feel like anxiety)
- Nervous
- Buzzed
- Tingly
- Jumpy
- Knotted
- Saturated
You may also notice that you:
- want to run away
- have stuck, intrusive negative thoughts
- have heightened awareness
- have trouble sleeping, relaxing, or resting
- can’t concentrate
- sweat
- turn red
- have difficulty making decisions
- have anxiety/panic
- feel agitated
- have a racing heart
- loose focus
- experience digestive issues
- are jumpy or easily angered
- lack an appetite
- have racing, stuck, or intrusive thoughts
- experience distraction
- feel restless
Here’s what to try in order to decrease the stress and calm your body:
When you feel this way, rate the number of your stress/activation on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = non-existent and 10 being unbearable.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to calm my body down and reduce the amount of energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
- Exercise
- Breathing
- shaking/bouncing
- Tapping
- tense/release your muscles
- Go outside
- Write down thoughts on paper
- Yell in a pillow
- Punch a pillow
- Lift weights
- Dance
- Play a sport
- Ask for help
- draw/paint/create
- Cross-lateral stimulation
- Meditation
- Laughter
- Read
- Anything mindful that keeps you in the present moment
- Color
- Word search
- Body work like massage or acupuncture
- Yoga
- Silence
- Stillness
- solitude
Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling shutdown:
- Shut down
- Frozen
- Unmotivated
- Apathetic
- Stuck
- Stagnant
- Confused
- Low energy
- Numb
- Disconnected
- Lethargic
- Withdrawn
- Dissociated
- Flat
- Slow
- Distant
- Foggy
- Tired
- Collapsed
- Fading
- Dissolving
- Out of your body
- Drained
- Emotionally unresponsive
- Empty
- Fatigued
- Depressed
- unfocused
You may also notice that you:
- Don’t want to be with others
- Are leaking energy
- Don’t want to engage or connect
- Want to curl up and hibernate
- Start to withdraw
- Pull away
- Feel fatigued and exhausted
- Struggle to take actions
- Have brain fog
- Feel heavy or sluggish
- Feel frozen
- Are overwhelmed
- Experience hopelessness
- Feel numb or dissociated
- Are in avoidance
- Feel Shame
- Use food, alcohol, or drugs for comfort
- Procrastinate
- Feel immobilized, depressed, and/or numb.
Here’s what to try in order to increase your energy level:
When you feel this way, rate your energy level on a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 = no energy and 10 too much energy.
Ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to boost or increase my energy?
Here are some coping strategies to try:
- Focus on the five senses and how they impact your energy:
- What smells energize me?
- Experiment with essential oils… peppermint is great for this.
- candles/incense/soaps/perfumes/lotions
- What sounds/music energizes me?
- Create a playlist.
- Listen to a podcast.
- Listen to natural sounds on a app.
- What do I find energizing to look at?
- Is it something outside?
- Art?
- A vision board or Pinterest board?
- Scrapbooks/photos?
- What flavors/foods/textures energize me?
- Spicy?
- Chewy? Crunchy?
- Brush your teeth
- What can I touch?
- Certain fabrics?
- Massage
- hot/cold showers
- Breathwork
- Dancing
- Spending time with a pet
- Seeing friends
- Going for a drive
- Sitting outside
- something else?
Here’s how you’ll know you have a tolerable level of stress:
- Comfortable
- Present
- Calm
- Relaxed
- Rested
- Safe
- Alert
- Grounded
- Mindful
- Engaged
- Energized
- Confident
- Alive
- Bouncy
- Smiling
- Leaning forward
- Chill
- Loose
- Open
- Lounging
- Playful
- Grounded
- connected
- something else?
I invite you to consider these questions:
- When do you notice feeling overloaded during the holiday?
- When do you notice feeling shutdown?
- When do you notice feeling a tolerable, comfortable level of stress?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
18 min - You're Righteous - Not Right
When we are trying so hard to be “right”, we often become “righteous” and believe ourselves to be intellectually, morally, emotionally, or mentally superior to others, and we blame those who disagree with us.
When we’re in integrity, we are empowered to align our words and actions to our own core values. While we may challenge (respectfully) beliefs or decisions different from our own, we don’t persecute or bully from a place of blame.
I invite you to consider these questions:
- When do you notice tipping into a “righteous” habit? How willing are you to course-correct in order to pivot back into integrity?
- When do you notice feeling mentally, emotionally, politicallly, religiously, or spiritually superior to others?
- What benefit do you get from feeling superior? What is it costing you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
9 min - What Healthy, Secure Friendships Really Are
Healthy, secure friendships must be based on these three beliefs:
- “I want my friends to have other friends.I don’t get to decide who my friends choose as friends.”
- “My friends don’t have to love what I love or value what I value. We aren’t going to be 100% compatible.”
- “I want to make sure that I give my friends equal air time.”
I invite you to consider these questions:
- Which of your current friendships are genuinely healthy and secure?
- How willing are you to celebrate your friends having other friends?
- How willing are you to be responsible for finding matches for your wants and interests?
- How willing are you to give your friends equal air time?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
14 min - Gathering More Information Won't Allow You To Change
There is a difference between collecting information and applying it. We can know and understand, but if we don’t use the information and understanding in our daily lives, we aren’t really growing or expanding.
I don’t believe that we need more information in order to make sustainable change. We might need a small amount of different information AND a simple and sustainable system for applying the information.
If you’re stuck, you might need:
- different information
- a sustainable, simple system for applying the information
- a habit for managing uncomfortable emotions so that you can follow through with your system
I invite you to consider these questions:
- How might it feel to practice thinking: “I know enough”?
- What benefit do you get from collecting more information than you really need to change?
- How willing are you to create a simple, sustainable system for making the changes that really matter to you?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
11 min - How To Be Senstive To Others Without Self-Sacrificing
We can be sensitive to the needs of others without sacrificing our own health, well-being, and relationships.
“... being sensitive to the emotional needs of others is actually about understanding other people’s emotional needs but not necessarily doing something about them. It can hold space without taking it on as something to fix. And, when we are really honest with ourselves about what belongs to us and what doesn’t, our capacity, our boundaries, and our values, it is easy to know when to hold space and when to try to meet their needs.”
Christie Inge
The Sensitive Soul
I invite you to consider these questions:
- When do you notice setting yourself on fire in order to keep others warm?
- When do you notice assuming that it is your responsibility to “fix” someone else’s emotions?
- How willing are you to give yourself the permission to be sensitive to the emotional needs of others without having to do anything about them?
If you’re ready to curate a deeply fulfulfilling, inspired life yet know you could use some support and accountability, email me to schedule a complimentary happy hour call:
Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.
If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.
Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.
My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour:
Intentional Intoxication Book
If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat:
For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory:
Intoxication Inventory
16 min
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Get ready to craft a top shelf life with new episodes every Wednesday. Join your host, Terri Bradway, for season two of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast.