On this week's solo episode I delve into the Topic of the Domino Affect and Family Estrangement

What is a domino affect?

Although this might seem obvious, if an adult child becomes estranged from his or her parents and there are grandchildren involved, it will mean that the grandparents will not get to see their grandchildren and similarly, the children the children will not get to see their grandparents.

How can you use the Domino affect to your advantage after family estrangement. Can you create a chain of positive reactions in your life?

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Today's episode, I will explore how you can utilised mindset strategies in your journey of healing. 

I'm absolutely fascinated by what people can manage to overcome and subsequently achieve despite of the adversities that they have faced in their lives.  Some people can go through severe trauma and they can use that pain  to expand and others would be be shrunk by the trauma leaving them stuck for decades. 

I also believe that sometimes we don't know, what we don't know (i.e..mindset strategies) . Sometimes we think certain feelings and behaviours are just 'US' and that we have no power to change them. But we do! It simply takes our deep desires for wanting healing for ourselves. With that said, desires alone is not enough on pursuit of healing. We must capitalise on the behaviours of commitment and consistency - in other word, making a commitment to yourself to heal from this trauma of estrangement and learn about mechanisms behind it, also learn to invest in you,  emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. When we feel wholesome, we see wholesome in others. We are able to see love and possibilities instead of limitation and subsequently, our hearts become open. I wholeheartedly believe it is your birth right to feel this way.  

Karl is a Psychotherapist in private practice where he has spent the last 10 years specializing in Family Estrangement, supporting those suffering from this phenomenon by helping them navigate the many psychological, relational and social challenges they regularly face.

As well as being an accredited therapist, he has a Master's Degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy where his dissertation was entitled 'The Experiences of Family Estrangement'.

He also consults with organisations, media companies and estrangement support groups globally on the complexities of Family Estrangement and how to protect individuals who are struggling.

Karl has worked with several media outlets, including Virgin Media, Irish Independent and Elite Daily.

Karl can be reached at www.karlmelvin.com

For this week's podcast episode, I have my wonderful guest  Chinitha Johnson. She helps people to find belief in themselves. 

Chinitha Johnson helps women struggling with low self-esteem and confidence as a result of childhood abuse, to kickstart going from inferior to empowered, by giving them the K.E.Y.S to open the door that begins the healing of "little me." She is host of the Influence Yourself 1st podcast, a show downloaded in over 20 countries dedicated to helping people break mental barriers and founder of True Bold Beauty LLC, a personal development firm offering tools to help curate confidence. Chinitha understands the power of a changed mind and through her work, she is committed to helping others discover the same power to transform their life and legacy.

Going through family estrangement is form of a life adversity. Like with all other life adversities that can come upon us through out our life-course, our mindset can determine the outcomes of those tricky  life lessons wrapped in cactus or sandpaper. Thus; Mindset is everything. 

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For this week's episode, I'm discussing why I use Family Estrangement and Fragmented Families interchangeably. 

Some of our close relationships can become fragmented due to family member's life style, for example; a family member suffering from  severe  addiction to substance  that would ultimately impact on the relationship in ways that the relationship becomes distant  but not necessary complete estrangement. 

If you share a similar experience to me, I would like to hear from you. Please email me on [email protected]

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For this week's episode, my amazing guest Stephine  McNeal - A forgiveness Catalyst shares on why it is important to forgive. Stephanie's message is clear, Forgiveness is a daily conscious choice. 

Stephanie McNeal is a certified relationship educator, licensed in Identity and Destiny and former Women’s Ministry Leader.  And for nearly 9 years, she’s been known as a Forgiveness Coach who identifies as Christian.  But, none of those credentials mattered because one day, she was confronted with the truth and realized that although forgiveness was on her lips, it wasn’t in her heart.   It was her ministry, but it wasn’t her mastery until she changed her mindset.

Today, she is an author of her soon to be released memoir Freed 2 Love - How Forgiveness Can Heal You From Broken Pieces to Master Peace, speaker and podcast host of The Freed 2 Love Podcast and teaches her powerful mindset shift - P.R.E.S.S. (acronym for perseverance, resilience, endurance, submission and supplication).  This powerful mindset shift empowers women to walk out their own forgiveness lifestyle daily.  This translates in their lives to peace, freedom and success.

How to reach Stephanie; 

Website; https://www.freed2love.com/

Instagram; https://instagram.com/stephanieymcneal?igshid=15vu7zfz4vlam

Please download the Free E-book; freed2love.com/freegift

Going through family estrangement is a form of an adversity and like all other adversities in life at first it can feel like parts of ourselves can become fragmented, but this is my take of life adversities: Adversities are not meant to steal things from you, but rather adversities have the ability to make you look inside of yourself to find your inner giant (I call mine resilient giant).

There are so many sides to family estrangement, moreover, causes to family estrangement  are multifaceted, but this is what I know for sure. Whether you're the one who initiated the estrangement or was initiated by your family, the hurt and sense of betrayal  is real. 

I also know that with the right tools and various modalities of mindset strategies emotional recovery is possible. 

Achieving a state of emotional and psychological balance after going through family estrangement, requires inner work in order contextualise what you have have just been through. This podcast will cover all topic relating to family estrangement and how you can build resilience and positive mindset as roadmap to emotional recovery.      

Family estrangement is the loss of a  previously existing relationship between family members through physical and /or emotional distancing, often to the extent that there is negligible or no communication  between the individuals involved for  pre-longed period of time. 

There is strong emphasis in keeping family ties, after all, the warm and loving company of uncles, cousins, aunties, brothers, sisters, parents and grandparents are packaged with shared memories and hands on emotional and practical support and sense of unity and belonging. 

With that said, if you have been through family estrangement, the above might not have been your reality. In fact your shared memories are enshrined in family toxic dynamics that perhaps have left you in a state of constant stress - Fight or flight.

Tune in to our weekly episodes for stories of resilience and building positive mindset that would enable you to pivot from emotional pain to emotional recovery.