There are times we enter with nothing left to give, but we still step inside. Something powerful and unifying happens when we enter the bedroom naked and unashamed.  Becoming rule breakers is a conversation about the gift of sex, the need for self-discovery, and the value of pleasure. Growing up a church girl who followed the rules, had a checklist of husband qualities, and "kissed dating goodbye," the first few years of marriage with sexual desires proved difficult.  

We choose to show up because we’ve committed to fight back the darkness of fear, shame, and division. This conversation addresses the mental capacity needed to accept ourselves as wives desired by our husbands. Becoming rule breakers is a choice to reimagine the rules we used to keep and develop an understanding of sexual desire that serves those who will follow in our footsteps as wives. It is the beginning of a conversation leading to liberation in sensuality, and enjoying sex in marriage for what it can be.   

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.     

 https://reimaginereinvite.com/

Growing up as a church girl who followed the rules, made a checklist of ideal husband qualities, and kissed dating goodbye the first few years of marriage with sexual desires, expectations, and failures proved to be messy season. Becoming rule breakers was a conversation about the gift of sex, the need for self-discovery, and the value of pleasure.   

There are times we enter with nothing left to give, but we still step inside. Something powerful and unifying happens when we enter the bedroom naked and unashamed. We choose to show up because we’ve committed to fight back the darkness of fear, shame, and division.  This conversation addresses the mental capacity needed to accept ourselves as wives desired by our husbands. 

Becoming rule breakers is a choice to reimagine the rules we used to keep and develop an understanding of sexual desire that serves those who will follow in our footsteps as wives. It is the beginning of a conversation leading to liberation in sensuality, and enjoying sex in marriage for what it can be.   

This is a clip from the Stimulate Summit Session: Becoming Rule Breakers with Shaina Weisgerber || https://www.stimulatesummit.com/ ||  

SPEAKER BIO: Shaina Weisgerber is a Texas girl, born and raised. Writer, teacher, speaker and creative she lives for the wide open spaces. She loves spending time with her husband, Nick, and their two girls and creating things. Whether it's crafts at the table with her girls, creating content for Sycamore and Sparrow, or dreaming up ways to encourage others through WeisCoaching.

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together. 

https://reimaginereinvite.com/

We can have the best intentions, but they will remain good ideas if we don't plan to execute those intentions. Kat boils down goal setting to it’s essential components. What are we trying to accomplish in marriage's spiritual, relational, and physical aspects?   

Kat walks us through understanding the goal vs. the problem. She gives examples of common goals to explain the process of solving problems and being consistent.   Goals don’t motivate us as much as solving a problem does. If we are going to set S.M.A.R.T. goals for our marriage, we need to begin with an honest reflection of the season and status of our spiritual, relational, physical lives as wives.  

 Kat shares how breaking down the process into small amounts of time makes it possible to achieve our goals. Imagine the satisfaction of solving a problem that impacts you and your husband through consistency. She will address the barriers we face and teach us how to set ourselves up for success through accountability.  

This is a clip from the Stimulate Summit Session: Goal Setting 101 w/ Kat Lee || https://www.stimulatesummit.com/ || 

#goals #goalsetting #relationships

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.      

https://reimaginereinvite.com/

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 Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of

Imagine the satisfaction of solving a marriage problem through consistently meeting your goal! 

She shared essential components of goal setting, addressing our barriers and needs.  Author and founder of HelloMornings.org, Kat Lee, led us in a goal-setting 101 workshop. She has helped thousands of women worldwide build grace-filled, life-giving morning routines. Now attendees of Stimulate get to learn from her how to set goals that stick.

 We can have the best intentions, but they will remain good ideas if we don't plan to execute those intentions. Kat boils down goal setting to it’s essential components. What are we trying to accomplish in marriage's spiritual, relational, and physical aspects? Kat walks us through understanding the goal vs. the problem. 

She gives examples of common goals to explain the process of solving problems and being consistent. Goals don’t motivate us as much as solving a problem does. If we are going to set S.M.A.R.T. goals for our marriage, we need to begin with an honest reflection of the season and status of our spiritual, relational, physical lives as wives. 

Kat shares how breaking down the process into small amounts of time makes it possible to achieve our goals. Imagine the satisfaction of solving a problem that impacts you and your husband through consistency. She will address the barriers we face and teach us how to set ourselves up for success through accountability.  

BIO: Kat Lee is passionate about teaching others how to jump-start each day with a grace-filled, life-giving morning routine. She is the author of the Hello Mornings book (published by Thomas Nelson), a speaker, podcaster, and the founder of HelloMornings.org. With their three children, she and her husband, Jimmy, live in Waco, Texas.  

https://www.hellomornings.org/ 

https://www.hellomornings.org/podcast... 

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.     

https://reimaginereinvite.com/

Starting their careers together while still dating created a unique level of discipline and ownership needed for marriage. Life was busy from the get-go. She reminds us that doing life together as partners requires maturing communication skills. The way we communicate is the key to surviving career pivots, growing families, and selfish impulses. Addressing spending habits took courage, and talking openly about accountability with finances required practice. Physical needs change with each transition, but commitment to getting it done and sticking to non-negotiables keeps the fire alive.  

This is a clip from the Stimulate Summit Session: Thriving in Career and Communication with Kyra Santos || https://www.stimulatesummit.com/ || 

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.     

 https://reimaginereinvite.com/

Thriving in career and communication is a conversation that reminds us of the power of priorities and the trickle effect of trying new things. For Kyra Santos, an independent consultant and TSgt Hawaii Air National Guard, making decisions together with her husband is a foundational aspect of marriage.   

This is a recap from the Stimulate Summit Session: Thriving Career and Communication with Kyra Santos || https://www.stimulatesummit.com/ ||  

Starting their careers together while still dating created a unique level of discipline and ownership needed for marriage. Life was busy from the get-go. She reminds us that doing life together as partners requires maturing communication skills.  

The way we communicate is the key to surviving career pivots, growing families, and selfish impulses. Addressing spending habits took courage, and talking openly about accountability with finances required practice. Physical needs change with each transition, but commitment to getting it done and sticking to non-negotiables keeps the fire alive.    

SPEAKER BIO: Kyra Santos a Tech Sergeant in the Hawaii Air National Guard, and the CEO of Shine With Aloha. She started her career with the Air National Guard in 2002 shortly before marrying her high school sweetheart Larry. 15 years later they have three sons, two organizations, and a thriving community of support. She’s passionate about lighting a spark in others to pursue their passions and grow in self-confidence. When she’s not leading a team at work, building her business, or being mom, she serves with her husband at Ukulele Project Hawaii, teaching ukulele and impacting the community throughout Oahu and beyond.    

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.     

 https://reimaginereinvite.com/

Thriving Career and Communication with Kyra Santos   

Thriving in career and communication is a conversation that reminds us of the power of priorities and the trickle effect of trying new things. For Kyra Santos, an independent consultant and TSgt Hawaii Air National Guard, making decisions together with her husband is a foundational aspect of marriage.

This is a recap from the Stimulate Summit Session: Thriving Career and Communication with Kyra Santos || https://www.stimulatesummit.com/ ||  

Starting their careers together while still dating created a unique level of discipline and ownership needed for marriage. Life was busy from the get-go. She reminds us that doing life together as partners requires maturing communication skills.  The way we communicate is the key to surviving career pivots, growing families, and selfish impulses. 

Addressing spending habits took courage, and talking openly about accountability with finances required practice. Physical needs change with each transition, but commitment to getting it done and sticking to non-negotiables keeps the fire alive.  SPEAKER BIO: Kyra Santos a Tech Sergeant in the Hawaii Air National Guard, and the CEO of Shine With Aloha. 

She started her career with the Air National Guard in 2002 shortly before marrying her high school sweetheart Larry. 15 years later they have three sons, two organizations, and a thriving community of support. She’s passionate about lighting a spark in others to pursue their passions and grow in self-confidence. When she’s not leading a team at work, building her business, or being mom, she serves with her husband at Ukulele Project Hawaii, teaching ukulele and impacting the community throughout Oahu and beyond. 

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many. 

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. Let's journey together.      https://reimaginereinvite.com/

"My husband is not a mind reader!"  

 “He should know!” Sixteen years into marriage, Tiffa shares about real struggles and hard situations. She reminds us that our husbands are not mind readers and reflects on the freedom that comes with embracing the truth that he doesn't know unless we’ve told him.   

Have we told him that our needs aren’t being met, or have we just used non-verbal cues and expected him to figure it out? Are we exploding in anger before we’ve ever expressed that there is a problem?   

There is solidarity in this conversation for wives in all seasons. Tiffa shares the transforming power of sisterhood when a marriage feels hopeless, the humiliating transformation that comes with Godly rebuke, and how asking for help can change the future. Her vulnerability will spark conversation that we’ve been waiting to have but didn’t know if it was safe enough. 

She paves the way for the sisterhood of Stimulate Summit attendees.  

SPEAKER BIO: Tiffa and her husband Imua have 3 children, Zeo, Zemmy and Zander. She teaches at Pacific Rim Christian University. She is a pastor, preacher and worship leader at C4 Community Church in Honolulu. Tiffa has a strong desire to raise generations to worship and love Jesus and to know Him with strength and joy. She’s passionate about playing guitar, writing songs and serving her church and community.

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Sabeth Kapahu is an entrepreneur with a passion for encouraging people. She is a versatile coach, fluid social media strategist, and community initiative developer. She is a wife, mom of four, and friend to many.   

Invited Back LLC is designed to accelerate your growth as you reimagine, reinvent, and re invite others into your passionate purpose. 

Let's journey together.     

 https://www.reimaginereinvite.com/

Hope Is A Rebellion  Tiffa shares about real struggles and hard situations. She reminds us that our husbands are not mind readers, and reflects on the freedom that comes with embracing truth even when it is humiliating. She shares the transforming power of sisterhood when a marriage seems hopeless.  

This is a recap from the Stimulate Summit Session: Hope is a Rebellion with Tiffa Garza || www.stimulatesummit.com ||  “He should know!” Sixteen years into marriage, Tiffa shares about real struggles and hard situations. She reminds us that our husbands are not mind readers and reflects on the freedom that comes with embracing the truth that he doesn't know unless we’ve told him. Have we told him that our needs aren’t being met, or have we just used non-verbal cues and expected him to figure it out? 

Are we exploding in anger before we’ve ever expressed that there is a problem? There is solidarity in this conversation for wives in all seasons. Tiffa shares the transforming power of sisterhood when a marriage feels hopeless, the humiliating transformation that comes with Godly rebuke, and how asking for help can change the future. Her vulnerability will spark conversation that we’ve been waiting to have but didn’t know if it was safe enough. She paves the way for the sisterhood of Stimulate Summit attendees.  

SPEAKER BIO: Tiffa and her husband Imua have 3 children, Zeo, Zemmy and Zander. She teaches at Pacific Rim Christian University. She is a pastor, preacher and worship leader at C4 Community Church in Honolulu. Tiffa has a strong desire to raise generations to worship and love Jesus and to know Him with strength and joy. She is a member of ZEO Worship. She’s passionate about playing guitar, writing songs and serving her church and community.

Resources Mentioned:  

Marriage Triggers: Exchanging Spouses' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses | Amber and Guy Lia | https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Trigg... 

The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages: How 15 Minutes a Day Will Help You Stay in Love |Marcus Warner | Chris M. Coursey | https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Joy-Fil... 

The Joy Switch: How Your Brain's Secret Circuit Affects Your Relationships - And How You Can Activate It| Chris M. Coursey | https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Switch-Cir... 

Bullet-Proof Your Marriage | Chris Coursey - THRIVEtoday | https://youtu.be/qOfaff1BaTo 

Esther Perel | estherperel.com