Does it always have to be about my Autism? In this candid episode, Jeremy unpacks a question many neurodivergent adults quietly wrestle with: when conflict shows up in your relationships, is it really about autism—or just being human? Drawing from personal experience, scientific evidence,  and years supporting neurodiverse couples, Jeremy explores how self-doubt and defensiveness (amongst other things) can creep in when you feel like every disagreement gets traced back to your diagnosis. He breaks down why this happens, what it costs you emotionally, and why it’s so important to separate genuine autistic traits from the universal challenges of partnership.

You’ll also hear practical strategies to help you figure out whether autism is at the core of a conflict—or whether something else, like communication style, stress, or mismatched expectations, is driving the tension. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by the sense that you’re “always the problem,” or wondered how to advocate for yourself without dismissing real differences, this conversation will give you tools to find clarity and build connection. Whether you’re autistic, partnered with someone who is, or simply curious about how neurodiverse relationships work, you’ll walk away with fresh insight and a little more understanding for everyone involved.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/