When you first hear the words “You’re autistic,” it can feel like the ground shifts beneath your feet. For some, it’s relief—finally, a name for years of confusion. For others, it’s resistance—does this label now define who I am? In this episode, Jeremy unpacks the tension between identity and diagnosis through the lens of what he calls The Autistic Identity Ladder—a four-part journey from denial to confident acceptance. He shares candid stories of his own process, the humor and heartbreak of self-realization, and why true understanding isn’t found in a label, but in how we choose to live with it.


In this episode, Jeremy takes listeners on an honest walk through what it means to navigate identity after a diagnosis—especially when the label feels both clarifying and confining. He explores how we move from discomfort to confidence, from “I don’t want this to be me” to “I can live well with who I am.” Through grounded wisdom and gentle humor, Jeremy reminds us that autism may help explain your wiring, but it doesn’t write your worth.

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Sometimes the hardest battles are the ones we fight inside our own minds. In this deeply honest episode, Jeremy opens up about a recent moment when a big life decision could have easily spiraled into conflict. What started as a simple disagreement began to trigger old patterns—rejection sensitivity, impulsivity, blame shifting, and worst-case-scenario thinking. But instead of reacting from fear, Jeremy chose to pause, regulate, reframe, and use the tool's offered in prior Podcast episodes. What followed wasn’t just a better outcome—it was a breakthrough in emotional maturity, empathy, and connection. 

With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Jeremy walks listeners through the exact tools he used to interrupt the mental chaos and find calm in the middle of uncertainty. He shares what it looks like, step-by-step, to move from defensiveness to self-awareness, from shame to ownership, and from catastrophic thinking to collaborative problem-solving. This isn’t a story about perfection—it’s a masterclass in progress. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation in your head or felt hijacked by your own emotions, this episode is a gentle reminder: growth isn’t about never being triggered—it’s about learning how to stay present when you are.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In Part 1, we explored why neurodiverse love can feel so hard—and what makes it work. In Part 2, Jeremy Rochford and Dr. Stephanie Holmes continue their heartfelt conversation with world-renowned autism expert Dr. Tony Attwood, diving even deeper into the complexities of connection between autistic and neurotypical partners.

Building on insights from his new book, Relationship Counselling with Autistic Neurodiverse Couples: A Guide for Professionals, Dr. Attwood unpacks how couples can move from misunderstanding to mutual respect, and from exhaustion to emotional safety. Together, the trio discuss the hidden layers of communication, why repair can be harder—but more meaningful—in neurodiverse relationships, and how small shifts in empathy and language can lead to profound transformation.

With honesty, humor, and hard-won wisdom, this follow-up conversation brings even more practical tools for therapists, coaches, and couples who want to make neurodiverse love not just possible—but deeply rewarding.

For more on Dr. Tony Attwood, check out:  https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/  and his New Book

For more on Dr. Stephanie Holmes, check out: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
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When love meets neurodiversity, even the smallest moments can feel impossibly complex. In this heartfelt and deeply insightful episode, Jeremy Rochford and Dr. Stephanie Holmes sit down with world-renowned autism expert Dr. Tony Attwood to unpack why neurodiverse relationships can feel so challenging—and what helps them truly thrive. Drawing from his new book, Relationship Counselling with Autistic Neurodiverse Couples: A Guide for Professionals, Dr. Attwood offers practical wisdom for both clinicians and couples who want to better understand the emotional dynamics at play when two minds love differently.

Together, they explore what’s really happening beneath the surface of missed cues, emotional shutdowns, and moments of disconnect that can leave both partners feeling unseen. Through humor, humility, and decades of lived and clinical experience, they reveal how empathy, language, and patience can bridge the gap. This episode isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap for real love in the real world, full of grace, laughter, and the kind of hope that comes from finally being understood.  

For more on Dr. Tony Attwood, check out:  https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/  and his New Book

For more on Dr. Stephanie Holmes, check out: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/

To learn more about NeuroFam, please check out https://www.ourneurofam.com/  

Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this heartfelt conversation, Jeremy Rochford opens up about his personal experience with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) — that intense emotional pain that can come from even the smallest hint of criticism or disapproval. With honesty and humor, Jeremy breaks down what RSD really is (and what it isn’t), exploring why it hits so hard for many neurodivergent adults and how it often hides beneath anger, shutdowns, or avoidance.

But this episode doesn’t stop at awareness — it’s about healing and growth. Jeremy offers practical strategies to recognize emotional triggers, create safe relational spaces, and retrain your nervous system for resilience. He shares the tools that helped him move from reactivity to regulation, and from fear of rejection to deeper connection. Whether you’re living with RSD or loving someone who is, this conversation is both validating and full of hope — reminding you that sensitivity isn’t weakness; it’s an invitation to understand yourself more fully.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this episode, I share my personal journey of learning to manage anxiety and impulsivity—not through lofty theories, but through practical tools that actually work. From simple breathing practices to building routines that ground me, I’ve discovered that the right strategies don’t erase the struggles, but they give me enough space to choose my responses rather than being ruled by them. We also explore how these same tools apply when it comes to politics.

Just like in our personal lives, the political world is full of impulsive reactions and anxiety-driven decisions. By looking at how tools for self-regulation can help us engage with politics in healthier ways, this conversation highlights why intentional practices aren’t just personal—they’re powerful enough to change how we show up in the world around us.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this episode of NeuroFM, Jeremy breaks down the concept of Enemy Mode—which is when the brain is treating individuals as enemies to overcome, rather than people to love.  This leads connections to shut down, and for every interaction to start feeling like a battle. He explores how enemy mode shows up differently in neurodiverse relationships, especially when partners think, feel, or process the world in different ways. Jeremy shares real-life examples that reveal how easily couples can slip into this defensive posture and why it leaves both partners feeling misunderstood, isolated, and stuck in cycles of conflict. 

But this isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap toward hope. Jeremy outlines practical ways to recognize when enemy mode is active and steps couples can take to move back toward empathy, curiosity, and connection. Whether you’re autistic, ADHD, neurotypical, or somewhere in between, this conversation invites you to see enemy mode not as a flaw, but as a signal—one that, if noticed and addressed, can actually strengthen your relationship. It’s a must-listen for anyone who wants to replace disconnection with deeper trust and love.

To lean more about Escaping Enemy Mode, please check out https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/escaping-enemy-mode-podcast/id1651300799

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this episode of NeuroFM, Jeremy sits down with his son Johnathan for an honest, funny, and surprisingly deep conversation about the power of accommodations. Through the lens of Johnathan’s experiences in both hockey and theater, they unpack what it means to be supported in ways that don’t erase differences but actually empower strengths. From the ice rink to the stage, Johnathan shares how thoughtful adjustments—whether it’s a coach breaking down a drill in smaller steps or a director allowing extra time to rehearse—don’t just make participation possible, they make growth and confidence flourish. 

Together, Jeremy and Johnathan show how accommodations aren’t about “special treatment,” but about leveling the playing field so every kid can thrive. Their back-and-forth is filled with insight, humor, and heartfelt stories that highlight how small, intentional changes can transform challenges into opportunities. Whether you’re a parent, educator, coach, or simply curious about what true inclusion looks like, this episode offers a hopeful and practical reminder: when we make room for differences, we create space for everyone’s potential to shine.

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So many neurotypical wives find themselves whispering—or sometimes shouting—the same question: Why can’t my husband follow through? In this candid conversation, Jeremy Rochford unpacks what’s really going on beneath the surface. It’s not laziness, carelessness, or a lack of love. More often, it’s a collision of executive functioning challenges, emotional regulation, and the unspoken expectations that swirl inside neurodiverse marriages.

Through real-life stories, relatable humor, practical insight, and the introduction of the OCS Model, Jeremy shows why what looks like procrastination is often something much deeper—and what it means for connection at home. But this isn’t just about identifying the problem. This episode offers a fresh framework for moving forward together. You’ll hear strategies to shift from frustration to collaboration, build rhythms of accountability that actually stick, and create space for both partners to thrive. Whether you’re exhausted by broken promises or simply curious about the dynamics at play, this is your invitation to trade confusion for clarity—and blame for better tools.

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Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

If you’re neurodivergent, you already know regulation can feel like chasing something that keeps slipping through your fingers. In this episode, Jeremy Rochford takes a practical look at what it really means to become more regulated—and why it’s not about “fixing yourself” but about creating rhythms that work for your unique wiring. You’ll discover how to spot your personal stress signals earlier, how to build in small resets before burnout hits, and why regulation is more about building systems that fit you than trying to copy what works for everyone else. 

Jeremy also dives into the staying-regulated side of the equation: the everyday practices, environments, and mindsets that help you hold steady instead of bouncing between calm and chaos. Whether you’re navigating work deadlines, parenting on overload, or just trying to get through a noisy grocery store without shutting down, you’ll walk away with simple, sustainable tools to help you stay grounded. This is about thriving in your neurodivergence—not in spite of it.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/

 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/