In Part Two of this episode, we pick up exactly where we left off—unpacking lessons six through ten.
These lessons speak directly to the Neurodiverse marriage experience, where it's not all about “fixing” the relationship or proving you’ve changed—but rather, it’s about becoming safer, steadier, and more relational over time. If Part One helped you start to understand what it takes to repair and restore a marriage, Part Two helps you understand how to make those new habits stick. 

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

In Part One of this two-part series, Jeremy steps back from theory and frameworks to share something more personal: five hard-earned lessons in the five years since he and his wife went through their separation. This episode isn’t about assigning blame or offering quick fixes—it’s about telling the truth of what separation, or the threat of, teaches when you’re willing to learn from it. Jeremy reflects on the internal shifts that only happen when a relationship breaks down, questions about identity, responsibility, emotional regulation, and the stories we tell ourselves to survive pain, and how it all factored back into restoring his marriage to be better than it was before. 

Rather than rushing toward closure, this episode invites listeners to slow down and listen for more nuanced lessons and what separation reveals about patterns, blind spots, and growth that can’t be forced. Whether you’re walking through separation yourself, processing a past one, or simply wrestling with the cost of relational loss, Part One offers ideas for experiences & repair that are often desired but rarely named. The remaining five lessons—and how they intertwine with the first 5—will unfold in Part Two.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this episode, Jeremy Rochford sits down with therapist-turned-coach Barbara Grant for a candid, grounded conversation about a question many couples and individuals silently wrestle with: What’s the real difference between counseling and coaching—and how do I know which one I need? Barbara breaks down the distinction with refreshing simplicity. Counseling, she explains, is about healing what’s been wounded, untangling old stories, and creating emotional stability. Coaching, on the other hand, is forward-focused—designed to help you build skills, apply tools, and create momentum toward who you’re becoming. Together, they peel back the misconceptions, including why coaching isn’t “therapy lite” and why counseling isn’t just for crisis.

From there, Jeremy and Barbara explore how to get the absolute best out of coaching—especially if you’re wired neurodivergently or navigating a mixed-neurotype marriage. They talk about the importance of setting realistic goals, naming the problem you want solved, and showing up with both honesty and curiosity. Barbara shares practical tips for maximizing sessions, from embracing accountability to resisting the urge to people-please your coach. Jeremy adds his own lived experience from both sides of the table, reminding listeners that coaching works best when you’re willing to experiment, self-reflect, and take small, brave steps between sessions. Whether you’re on the edge of starting coaching or simply trying to understand the landscape, this conversation gives you a roadmap that feels both doable and empowering.

To learn more about Barbara Grant, you can find her at https://bg-hc.com/

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 Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this episode of NeuroFM, Jeremy Rochford gets personal about something people don’t always expect to hear: why he’s thankful for his autism diagnosis. Not because it made life easier or tied everything up with a bow, but because it finally gave shape and language to patterns he’d carried his whole life. Jeremy breaks down the five reasons he’s genuinely grateful — from the relief of finally understanding his wiring, to the emotional clarity it brought to his marriage, to the unexpected confidence that comes from calling something what it is instead of fighting what it’s not.

Jeremy also shares how the diagnosis reshaped his fatherhood, transformed the way he makes decisions, and gave him a sense of purpose he never saw coming. Through humor, honesty, and a few hard-won insights, he invites listeners to see diagnosis not as an ending, but as a beginning — a moment of truth that clears the fog and opens the door to a more honest, more aligned, more compassionate life. This episode is raw, real, and filled with the kind of hopeful gratitude that only comes from understanding yourself at a deeper level.

To learn more about NeuroFam, please check out https://www.ourneurofam.com/  

Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

When the woman you love looks at you and says, “I think you might be autistic,” it can hit like a surprise plot twist you didn’t see coming. For some men, it feels like clarity. For others, it feels like criticism. And for most? It’s confusing, disorienting, and more emotional than they expected. In this episode, Jeremy breaks down what actually happens inside a marriage when one partner starts connecting the dots and the other isn’t sure they want to. With honesty, humor, and the kind of practical wisdom only lived experience can teach, he walks husbands through the very normal reactions—denial, defensiveness, curiosity, relief—and explains why this moment doesn’t have to be a crisis… it can be the beginning of understanding yourself in a brand-new way.

But more importantly, Jeremy shows how this conversation can become a turning point for the relationship, not just the individual. He unpacks why your wife brought it up, what she’s actually hoping for, and how to respond in ways that build connection instead of conflict. This isn’t about labeling yourself or proving anything. It’s about learning to see what your partner sees, honoring your own pace, and deciding what to do with the information sitting on the table. Whether you’re skeptical, seeking answers, or somewhere in between, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for husbands who want to understand themselves—and love their wives—better than ever.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/


Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

When you first hear the words “You’re autistic,” it can feel like the ground shifts beneath your feet. For some, it’s relief—finally, a name for years of confusion. For others, it’s resistance—does this label now define who I am? In this episode, Jeremy unpacks the tension between identity and diagnosis through the lens of what he calls The Autistic Identity Ladder—a four-part journey from denial to confident acceptance. He shares candid stories of his own process, the humor and heartbreak of self-realization, and why true understanding isn’t found in a label, but in how we choose to live with it.


In this episode, Jeremy takes listeners on an honest walk through what it means to navigate identity after a diagnosis—especially when the label feels both clarifying and confining. He explores how we move from discomfort to confidence, from “I don’t want this to be me” to “I can live well with who I am.” Through grounded wisdom and gentle humor, Jeremy reminds us that autism may help explain your wiring, but it doesn’t write your worth.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/

Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

Sometimes the hardest battles are the ones we fight inside our own minds. In this deeply honest episode, Jeremy opens up about a recent moment when a big life decision could have easily spiraled into conflict. What started as a simple disagreement began to trigger old patterns—rejection sensitivity, impulsivity, blame shifting, and worst-case-scenario thinking. But instead of reacting from fear, Jeremy chose to pause, regulate, reframe, and use the tool's offered in prior Podcast episodes. What followed wasn’t just a better outcome—it was a breakthrough in emotional maturity, empathy, and connection. 

With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Jeremy walks listeners through the exact tools he used to interrupt the mental chaos and find calm in the middle of uncertainty. He shares what it looks like, step-by-step, to move from defensiveness to self-awareness, from shame to ownership, and from catastrophic thinking to collaborative problem-solving. This isn’t a story about perfection—it’s a masterclass in progress. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation in your head or felt hijacked by your own emotions, this episode is a gentle reminder: growth isn’t about never being triggered—it’s about learning how to stay present when you are.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

In Part 1, we explored why neurodiverse love can feel so hard—and what makes it work. In Part 2, Jeremy Rochford and Dr. Stephanie Holmes continue their heartfelt conversation with world-renowned autism expert Dr. Tony Attwood, diving even deeper into the complexities of connection between autistic and neurotypical partners.

Building on insights from his new book, Relationship Counselling with Autistic Neurodiverse Couples: A Guide for Professionals, Dr. Attwood unpacks how couples can move from misunderstanding to mutual respect, and from exhaustion to emotional safety. Together, the trio discuss the hidden layers of communication, why repair can be harder—but more meaningful—in neurodiverse relationships, and how small shifts in empathy and language can lead to profound transformation.

With honesty, humor, and hard-won wisdom, this follow-up conversation brings even more practical tools for therapists, coaches, and couples who want to make neurodiverse love not just possible—but deeply rewarding.

For more on Dr. Tony Attwood, check out:  https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/  and his New Book

For more on Dr. Stephanie Holmes, check out: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
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When love meets neurodiversity, even the smallest moments can feel impossibly complex. In this heartfelt and deeply insightful episode, Jeremy Rochford and Dr. Stephanie Holmes sit down with world-renowned autism expert Dr. Tony Attwood to unpack why neurodiverse relationships can feel so challenging—and what helps them truly thrive. Drawing from his new book, Relationship Counselling with Autistic Neurodiverse Couples: A Guide for Professionals, Dr. Attwood offers practical wisdom for both clinicians and couples who want to better understand the emotional dynamics at play when two minds love differently.

Together, they explore what’s really happening beneath the surface of missed cues, emotional shutdowns, and moments of disconnect that can leave both partners feeling unseen. Through humor, humility, and decades of lived and clinical experience, they reveal how empathy, language, and patience can bridge the gap. This episode isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap for real love in the real world, full of grace, laughter, and the kind of hope that comes from finally being understood.  

For more on Dr. Tony Attwood, check out:  https://attwoodandgarnettevents.com/  and his New Book

For more on Dr. Stephanie Holmes, check out: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/

To learn more about NeuroFam, please check out https://www.ourneurofam.com/  

Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. They don’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here -  https://heyworldcreative.com/

In this heartfelt conversation, Jeremy Rochford opens up about his personal experience with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) — that intense emotional pain that can come from even the smallest hint of criticism or disapproval. With honesty and humor, Jeremy breaks down what RSD really is (and what it isn’t), exploring why it hits so hard for many neurodivergent adults and how it often hides beneath anger, shutdowns, or avoidance.

But this episode doesn’t stop at awareness — it’s about healing and growth. Jeremy offers practical strategies to recognize emotional triggers, create safe relational spaces, and retrain your nervous system for resilience. He shares the tools that helped him move from reactivity to regulation, and from fear of rejection to deeper connection. Whether you’re living with RSD or loving someone who is, this conversation is both validating and full of hope — reminding you that sensitivity isn’t weakness; it’s an invitation to understand yourself more fully.

To learn more about NeuroFam, please check out https://www.ourneurofam.com/  

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/
 
Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/