Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert

Is Our Love Particular? Does our love even know what it wants? Whether you're ideal pairing is in pay-for-play, a long term partner, or your career we could all take a few notes from Mistress Eva Oh (@youwillplease_me) in patience and consistency. Enter this week's episode bursting with logic. Mistress Eva Oh has a particular list of her small life's pleasures and knows exactly how to go about getting them... or punish shortcomings. We could all learn a thing or two from Eva Oh when it comes to being patient and getting satisfaction.

You can find Eva Oh and all her work on eva-oh.com

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is Tiny Deaths "If I'm Dreaming" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Why are femme Dominatrizes more prevalent and heralded than masc Doms? Is there a stigma against masc Doms, particularly cis-male Doms? We discuss why that is and what you can do about it on our latest episode with Master Peter. From swing dancing to switch hitting, Master Peter got into the business sideways and now he is firing from all cylinders. From his time as dungeon monitor, personal relationships, and his clients both couples and singles alike, you're going to want to learn what puts Master Peter as the creme de la creme and why he is so often sought out in the London scene. Speaking of scenes, Master Peter's signature teaching tool is gentle dominance. Learn how partnered dance and partnered play have more in common thank you'd think and how YOU can be a better dominant and a better partner.

You can find Master Peter at: masterpeter.co.uk

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is Miss Kittin "Life Is My Teacher" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What is a dungeon and are they all created similarly? We speak with all around sex worker Adreena Angela on how she doesn't follow all the rules from curating her studio space, how she interacts with clients, and the controversial stance on if Dommes take their tits out. Dungeons and sex work isn't as scary as you would think and Adreena pulls back the veil to let you know some of the best -- and worst messages and experiences she has in her decorated career. PLUS Adreena, Lola and Stephen answer a listener q from a couple interested in approaching a sex worker for a session. Find out all the etiquette and ways to go about making your fantasies a reality, yes….even in Florida.

You can find more about Mistress Adreena and Inanna Studio at mistressadreena.co.uk

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is Moses Sumney "Cut Me" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Have you ever had a stereotype projected onto you? Have you ever felt guilty about embodying or identifying with a stereotype of your ethnicity or otherwise? These conversations may not be easy but they're absolutely necessary. This week we welcome Rebecca Carvalho to discuss her relationship with her ethnicity as it relates to her sexuality and how this comes into play throughout her dating life and interaction with porn. Latinx people covers a WIDE range of persons. Rebecca uses her personal journey as well as learning about her roots and past, including reconciling with a shame of embodying some of the common stereotypes. PLUS Stephen and Lola answer an advice question about squirting that isn't really about squirting at all!

Follow Rebecca on Insta @rebeccaecarvalho or find her at rebeccaecarvalho.com

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at [email protected]

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Ricky Martin, "Shake Your Bon-Bon" because holy shit that really happened once upon a time.

Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Do you remember getting the talk? Who gave it to you? How would you give "the talk?" Easier said than done. This week's guest Jet Setting Jasmine is not only walking the walk but talking THE 'talk'. Jasmine is a mother of three and can add therapist, pornographer and domme to her extensive resume. Jasmine schools us on the sex positive parenting playbook that doesn't exist, answering questions like: When do you start introducing topics of sex to your children and how you go about doing it? Do you have to be comfortable with your own sexuality to be able to provide them with a quality 'talk?' Does it have to be awkward? Above all, how do we keep our children safe while enabling them to explore sexuality in a healthy manner? PLUS we talk to Jasmine about how to educate your kids on looooove.

Find everything Jet Setting Jasmine on: jsjlinks.com (or, like she says, just google her)

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is Madison McFerrin "TRY" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Does it seem like everyone is talking about open relationships and polyamory lately? Is non-monogamy actually better? Who is it for? Does non-monogamy mean you have more sex? And why does it have so many syllables? Ruby Rare joins us this week to spell out the shades of non-monogamy from A-Z. Whether you're already considering non-monogamy or you want some applicable learnings for your future relationships, this episode has relatable bits of wisdom for everyone - monogamous or not. PLUS, Stephen, Lola and Ruby give some advice to a pleasure seeking individual struggling to achieve orgasm with a partner.

Follow Ruby on Instagram: @rubyrare

If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback: The Rapture "Open Up Your Heart" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Did you know you have a pelvic floor? Yes, all of you. Do you know what is does? Spoiler Alert: EVERYTHING. Rachel Gelman a San Francisco based Pelvic Floor Therapist joins us this week to tell us everything from the 411 on kegals to why a good bowel movement can make your week.

Whether you had no idea that the hammock in your pelvis was responsible for your orgasms AND your urination or you've been trying to kegel your way to the heavy weights - there's always something new to learn. Trust us: you're going to want to get a notebook for this ep. PLUS Stephen, Lola, and Rachel give some advice to a vortex of vaginal odor & erectile difficulty shame.

You can find the extensive list of resources Rachel mentioned here: www.painperceptionproject.com/patients & you can find Rachel's practice on instagram: @pelvichealthsf

As always, if you're finding yourself in need sex, love or relationship advice : Email us at [email protected] ... if we can't help we'll be happy to search for a trained professional.

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This weeks' end of episode song is the Soulwax remix of Hot Chip's "Ready For The Floor" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Rebelling against your Pagan family by joining a church... this isn't your average darling come porn performer coming of age tale. From the industry trying to pigeon hole a multi-racial gal as "latina," to diversifying her porn profile Liv Revamped drops some wisdom for any aspiring porn performers about how she's stayed fresh with over a decade of performing sex on camera. We learn pros vs. cons, working indie vs. contract, and discuss porns' rampant streaming evolution PLUS Stephen, Lola and Liv give virginal advice for first time sex!

Follow Liv at livrevamped.com and @bish.izbak on Instagram

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End of Episode music feature this week is Blossom Dearie "Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Everyone and their step-sibling seems to be making their own bootleg smut these days. Is there room for a new era of porn graduated form the yesteryears of gonzo? Is there a difference between porn and erotica? And above all - how does one transition from growing up in a sex cult to creating responsible porn?

Frustrated by a lack of quality heterosexual porn that spoke to her, one-woman-show Inka Winter set out to make her own with For Play Films. We find out about the process that goes into each scene and how Inka selects her talent.

As if Inka wasn't already productively putting us all to shame, this director is adding "sex therapist" to her list of accomplishments truly ushering in a new era of porn.

Find all of Inka's films at forplayfilms.com, which is currently running free memberships. You can also follow @forplayfilms on socials, and subscribe to her educational series "Sexucation" on YouTube.

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End of Episode music feature this week is Pom Pom Squad "Red With Love" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

"I have caffeine, nicotine… and the conversation's all over the place just like I like it." - Stoya

This week is the conclusion of our 2 part conversation with Stoya. We dive right in. If you haven't listened to pt.1 … well, you're doing it wrong.

We talk balancing love, a career in adult film, and how the modern world forced her to become an expert in costuming & disaster-preparedness. We discuss Stoya's tween years spent researching sexuality, bdsm, & evolutionary biology at her local library. Plus Stephen and Stoya get a bit of closure rehashing their relationship. Stories abound. We hope you enjoy it.

Hear Stoya & Stephens' conversation about Unicorning (and other groupsex experiences) on the upcoming issue of Zerospaces.com and follow Stoya on Twitter & Instagram @stoya

If you'd like advice on sex, love, or relationships you can always email us at [email protected] ... (PS you can also email Stoya & her advice column 'How To Do It' at [email protected])

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Exit music for this episode is Tom Waits "You Can Never Hold Back Spring" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com