Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert

On our last episode of 2019, we take a look back on our favorite episodes of the year and also discuss our take on "Resolutions." What's the deal with benchmarks and why do we put so much weight into the changing of the years? Find out what Stephen and Lola are looking forward to in 2020 and what they're leaving behind in 2019. Most of all, thank you for listening and we look forward to bringing you even more in 2020. If you have any episode requests or are seeking advice of your own this coming year, reach out to us at [email protected]

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

The end of episode song is Daniel Johnston "True Love Will Find You In The End," Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week's Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a'ticking? Fresh from freezing her own eggs mere weeks before recording this episode, Morganna spills all the tea on what the entire process was like from the hormonal shots down to how much pocket change is required to pluck those golden eggs from her ovaries.

Follow Morgana at: @morganna.jokes

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): [email protected]

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Yo La Tengo "You Can Have It All" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Sometimes love feels like a struggle, but sometimes… maybe we want it too? Wrestling fetish is the biggest craze you've never heard about and it's a lot more common than you think. Before we throw down, we sit with professional fetish wrestler Ursa Fierce to talk about the primal-ness, competitive, and smothering nature of this sport. From pro-style antics to the Butt-Fights you won't want to miss. Ursa explains how wrestling gave her a new perspective on her body and what the sport, the fetish, and the community has taught her. Oh yeah, and then she wipes the fucking floor with Stephen's face, LIVE!

Follow Ursa Fierce on twitter: @UrsaFierce

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): [email protected]

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is "Doggg" by SebastiAn Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week's guest knows a thing or two about talking sex stuff in public. Remy Kassimir is the comedian cum role model who still worries if people think she's cool. Remy joins us to talk about the funny thing that happens when you share your sex life on a global scale. From her first orgasm to managing social responsibility while cracking jokes to going way too hypothetical on how to manage a breakup on a podcast. PLUS, why Hitler would have benefitted from air pulsation technology.

You can find links to How Cum and see Remy's live dates on: remykassimir.com

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): [email protected]

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is... Just listen. You know what it is ;) Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we are joined by Pro Domme and sometimes sociologist Lady Euphoria to pick apart why it is that we are so drawn to rules and why the lack of rules makes us so uncomfortable. We are a culture taught to thrive on efficiency and not thoroughness. This conversation uses BDSM as a framework, but make no mistake: this is a human conversation that EVERYONE needs to hear. We find ourselves questioning What are our rules and where do they come from? Does this come from a fear of rejection or fear of failure? If this makes you uncomfortable... or just curious, give this episode a listen.

You can find all of Lady Euphoria's links and upcoming classes on her Instagram: @ladyeuphorianyc

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Moderat "Therapy" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Sometimes our love feels like a game, but just how much are we toying with it? What are the roles of toys in our sex life and how should we be using them? Are we using toys too much? Too little? ARE WE EVEN USING THEM CORRECTLY!? Nadia Deen of AM.appointment teaches us how to chill the fuck out and stop pressuring ourselves (and our partners) to achieve the sexual equivalent of keeping-up-with-the-Jones'. Whether you vibrate, buzz, or just plain suck, come share your toys, your questions and curiosities with us on this weeks ep.

You can find Nadia on: amappointment.com and Instagram: @am.appointment

Tickets for the next PASS THE PORN event on Tues Nov 12th are available at: houseofyes.org

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Sasami "Turned Out I Was Everyone" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It's Halloween and we're still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we're not question what our love is or isn't. Instead, we're taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, you'll need to head to our next event for that! What happens when we get a Witch, a Wizard, a Shamanatrix and a Porn Performer on a panel? Tune in to find out!

Featuring: Sophie Saint Thomas (@thebowiecat) Sabina Magic (@sabbyshow) Dia Dynasty (@dia_dynasty) Devin Person (@personisawake) Valerie Merced (@precipicemagazine) Moderated by: The Violet. (@theviolet_bk)

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Twin Temple "I Am A Witch." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to share how she stumbled upon her calling and how a pink frosted donut changed her life. Find out why doctors are saying "Fuck Yes" to a solution created by a patient.

For info and to purchase an OhNut: ohnut.co

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Sarah Vaughan "Make Yourself Comfortable" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

What a week to have our first guest on to talk STI's and we're kicking things off with the black sheep of the STI fam: Herpes. We get honest with our personal HSV stories: both contracting, spreading, and having in all it's various formats. This weeks guest explains why people are so socially wired to freak out about Herpes and how discerning between HSV 1 and HSV 2 can add weight to that stigma. Busting myths and forging research, sexologist Emily Depasse is changing the way we talk about and frame a herpes diagnosis. Come one, come all, and give us your cold sore (stories.) Spoiler alert: it's herpes… it's always herpes. PLUS, Lola has Gonorrhea this week and she's blabbing all about her first STI.

You can find Emily at: emilydepasse.com Or on instagram: @sexelducation

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is Blossom Dearie "Boum" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

Our BDSM trilogy continues on Is Our Love?! After a few weeks of Dommes, we head to the other side of the spectrum and dive deep into sub space with this week's guest: Indygo Ann. Indygo is a PRO SUB. Yeah, we're capitalizing it, 'cause they're the unsung heroes of dungeons far and wide. But just because she's a sub, does she actually enjoy her sessions with clients the same as with a partner? How does one keep themselves safe as a masochist? Whether you're a Daddy or a Dad, a Mister or a Master, how do you get down with what your partner is into? PLUS, we get to the bottom of: what's the deal with the hate on male Doms?

Follow Indygo Ann on Instagram: @indygo_ann

------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert

This weeks' end of episode song is LAKEHOUSE "Fare Thee Well" (which... super loving this new EP) Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com