Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert

If our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone's mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks' guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is covered in her sweet, sweet excrement. How does one get into pooping on people and why? What do her submissives get out of it and what does she enjoy most. Shayla answers the timeless question: after you've used someone's mouth as a toilet, is there anything in life you can't do? PLUS, we answer listener questions about how to find someone who is into the thing that you're into!

Follow Mistress Shayla @YesMissShayla on Twitter & Instagram

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This weeks' end of episode song is the fucking Carpenters: "Top of The World" ... because it really is the perfect ending to this perfect episode. Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

If being kinky is a spectrum from a simple roleplay all the way to chastity and eternal servitude, where does a new Pro Domme (Dominatrix) fall into it? Kicking off a string of BDSM focused guests is someone on the newer side of Pro Domming, but who is no stranger to smut. Mistress Nikita Reign is a true performance artist. From peep shows to titty bars to her latest medium: Domination. We talk to Nikita about the difference between Pro Domming in Australia versus the U.S., the role of community within sex work, and why strippers should thinking about having QR codes on their G-Strings. PLUS we answers a listener Q about what to do when you think your partner is depressed.

For everything Mistress Nikita Reign: nikitareign.com And follow her on instagram: @mistress_nikitareign

Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org

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This weeks' end of episode song is our favorite BDSM themed Bowie tune: "I Would Be Your Slave" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

With all of the positive strides modern media is making with showcasing different types of bodies and faces, it can feel like body positivity is a simple compliment away, right? It's not always as easy as telling yourself "I Love You" specifically if that negativity is rooted in insecurity and esteeming through others. *cough* Stephen *cough* This weeks guest Devon Moretti is a body image coach, but she didn't get there overnight. Devon tells us the steps she took to getting to more accepting place with her body and where she still needs work. Because recovery is a process and not a destination. PLUS announcements for our event: Pass the Porn.

You can find Devon & all of her programs at devondaymoretti.com And follow her on instagram: @devondaymoretti

Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org

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This weeks' end of episode song is Julia Jacklin "Head Alone" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant is: Ask not only what do you want, but what can you offer.

You can find Cyndi's work, digital courses, or contact her for sessions at: https://cyndidarnell.com/ And follow her instagram: @cyndi_darnell

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This weeks' end of episode song is Qveen Herby "Sade In The 90s" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the mind-body experience? Whether you subscribe or not, hypnotism has many interesting parallels to BDSM and sex. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get hypnotized and have (you guessed it)*very* different reactions.

You can find all things Wizard or book sessions with Devin at personisawake.com and hear him on his podcast: THIS PODCAST IS A RITUAL.

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? MANIFEST! [email protected]

Books mentioned this episode: Mindplay: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman

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This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Aphex Twin "Film." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

No conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from one night stands past, present, and maybe even the future, Momo and Lola bond over shared ghosts and Stephen gets to the bottom of why cis-dudes are so susceptible to becoming ghosts. PLUS: We tackle fantasy habits in our listener questions.

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, Email us! [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is THE DETROIT COBRAS "Bad Girl" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

This week we boldly go where two white podcasters dare not tread... for good reason. Inspired by a listener question regarding the fetishization of her race within her dating pursuits, Stephen and Lola try their best not to "white savior" by bringing in roommates and friends Yuko and Rachel. Both Yuko and Rachel grew up in wildly different parts of the US and have had wildly different experiences as asian women. Get ready to tighten your butthole as we discuss wildly uncomfortable, yet necessary conversations from the stereotypical roles of Asian women in porn, to the difference between having a 'type' and fetishizing a race. Uncomfortable yet?

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, who knows, YOU MAY INSPIRE AN ENTIRE EPISODE! Email us: [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is FLUME "Voices (feat. Sophie & Kucka)" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

It's summer and we've been on vacation! Lola and Stephen reconvene after a little break and recount what happened with their summer flings and things. While Lola fucked (and educated) her way through Europe, the Reluctant Sexpert spent his days sex nerding at Sex Camp. There's some romance, revelations... at least a few good stories. Whether you realize you're more of a Dad than a Daddy or that you need to keep your European submissive in check, capture the fleeting flag of that summer fling and get ready to head back to introspection school.

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is THE REPLACEMENTS "Unsatisfied" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

If codependency is a spectrum, where is a healthy place to sit? How can you tell if your relationship is in equilibrium or codependent AF? Are you in-love or enmeshed? This week we sit down with Rachel Khints, who specializes in treating codependency with a focus on group therapy. We learn the correlation between codependency treatment and Al-anon as well as where codependent tendencies typically come from. Starting with esteeming ourselves. Rachel walks us through the five compartments of codependency and the process of slowly chipping away in order to move mountains.

PLUS opening up relationships in the listener Q's!

You can find Rachel's practice at: http://www.rachelkhints.com/

If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! Esteem Us! : [email protected]

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This weeks' end of episode song is SWAIN "But Then What?" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

No greater sex goal has plagued man more than the non-ejaculatory orgasm. Ok... well maybe not, but unless you've been living under a 'fuck' rock, chances are you've heard of The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Sometimes thought only to only be achieved by tantric yogi's meditating in mountains (and livestreaming to youtube), Dominus Eros is here to clear the air.

Whether you're a full on guru seeking that sweet 8 hour Sting-esque fucksesh, or a skeptical realist hoping to practically up your game, Dominus breaks down his two paths to achieving internal orgasms so you can find your own toe curling sexual experience.

You can find Dominus' classes and workshops: pagansparadise.co daddyretreat.com/ Instagram: @dominuserosprodom

Books Mentioned this Episode: 'The Multi-Orgasmic Man' by Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams 'Jewel In The Lotus' by Sunyata Saraswati

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This weeks' end of episode song is White Reaper "Real Long Time" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com