It's A Mess, Sis!

YO! You ever get suspicious of yourself,  and end up wondering, Am I as good as I think I am? This is the episode for YOU!  This time around we ask ourselves what's the difference between Self-Confidence and Delusion, how it plays out in society and how that impacts our sense of self. We are going to tell you now, we don't have the answers, but if you too are pondering this question, you don't have to think on it alone. You can DIC it down with us!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we define what is means to have “self-confidence” and to be “delusional”.

Then we discuss the impact of those definitions on our view of our confidence in ourselves.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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With Cuffing Season quickly approaching, social media debates surrounding who is bring what to the table, and all the expectations and anticipation that comes with relationships in general, we decided to ask ourselves a very important question:

Would YOU date YOU?

and for a little fun we also answer the hypothetical question "Fuck, Marry, Kill"? as it pertains to how we see ourselves aligning in a romantic relationship.

We had SO MUCH FUN this episode.  We were both confused, and  it was clear that we don't have the answers, which is great because not only does it allow us to explore our authentic feelings about our "dateability"...but it will leave space for you, the listeners, to do the same.

We hope you enjoy!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we define what it means to “date”, assess what we bring to the table by asking ourselves if we would date ourselves and explain why or why not?

Then we discuss the impact of our outlook on dating ourselves on our view of and relationship with ourselves and others.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of all of the above and how we would like to proceed.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.


Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

Business Email: [email protected]
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Hey There!

We are back and this time we are talking about "Hustle Culture". This episode  challenge ourselves to define what it means to "Hustle". If you have ever asked yourself the questions,   Do I want to hustle? Do I have to?  and What does it mean if I don’t? this episode is for you!  We hope you sit through this convo, DIC down what it means to "Hustle" for yourself, and leave with a little clarity on your personal approach to the "Hustle".

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define the definition what it means to “Hustle” if we feel like hustling is necessary, what’s the point? And what it means if we choose not to hustle?

Then we discuss the impact of Hustle Culture on our lives.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of work, hustling and life, how we wish to proceed in the future.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

Business Email: [email protected]
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Long title...I know

Buuuuuttttt Welcome Back Y'all!

Ever feel  tired, drained, ...just through and find yourself wondering what is going on and what to do about it?! Well, this episode is for you! This episode is all about RECHARGING, when we need it and what it looks like for us. Hopefully you'll listen alongside us and leave this episode with insight on when YOU need to RECHARGE and what recharging looks like for YOU!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define the definition what it means to us to “recharge” and how we go about doing so.

Then we discuss the impact of recharging and our methods on our lives.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of recharging ourselves, our methods, and how we wish to proceed in the future.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

Business Email: [email protected]
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Hey Tribe!

We're back with another Episode!

Annnnnnd.....Question?

Y'all ever come across someone crying...hysterically...or have you ever been that person that thinks that they are "too emotional" and try to control their feelings so that you aren't labeled  "dramatic" or "unhinged" ? Well, this episode may be of interest to you! The MESS we aim to tackle in this conversation is all about our perceptions and responses  to other's emotions when they are need. Long story short,  in this episode we we pose the question "Why do we hesitate when helping the "Overly Distraught"?

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define the definition of “overly distraught" and what it means to "hesitate".

Then we discuss the impact of  seeing others being overly distraught while in need and how that has affected view of helping and needing help. 

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of the meaning of these words , the impact on our lives and discuss how we will proceed when  in the future.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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Hey Everybody! Thanks for listening in to another episode. This time around we are exploring what it means when we say something is "Good" or "Bad".  Are "good" and "bad" universal terms or are they subjective? Can we definitively label something as "good" or "bad"?   All questions we aim to answer for ourselves, so,  listen in as we dive deep and explore how these words make us feel and how they impact us, and  how effects how we approach or perceive something. 

Also, If you have ever wanted to share your MESS with us, We'd love to hear it and now have a dedicated email just for you to share your mess and how you’re dealing with it. If you’d like to share, have questions, or just want to connect, write to us at [email protected] .

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define the definition of “good” and “bad”.

Then we discuss the impact of using those words in our lives, how it makes us feel, how we react to situations when we attach these words under our personal definitions. 

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding of the meaning of these words and discuss how we will proceed when using these words in the future.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!

We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:

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Hey Hey Y'all

This time we are talking ALL about RISK. In episode we challenge ourselves to review the risks we've taken in our lives and dissect what that risk meant to us, how it impacted our lives, and how it allowed us to move forward. We DIC down this topic with y'all in hopes of not only inspiring ourselves to take more leaps but to help facilitate the conversation with yourselves so that you too can leap towards the lives you desire.

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define the definition of “risk” and describe the biggest risk we’ve taken so far in our lives.

Then we discuss the impact of the outcome of that risk on our lives.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above and how we would like to proceed going further.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

 
 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us. We have exciting things in the works!
 We love to engage with y'all, so be sure to let us know what you think or simply keep in touch by following us here:
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Latest episode (video) here: https://youtu.be/goHTlo4ErTQ

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Hey Hey Everyone!

We've reached the middle of the year. Things are slowly  settling back into a new "normal" now that COVID restrictions are lifting, we're becoming more social, commitments and responsibilities are returning and the pace of life is starting to pick up. With all of that said, we, your hosts, of It's A Mess, Sis felt it would be a good time to revisit one of our earlier episodes of this season and ask ourselves, and YOU...Are you STILL being intentional?

Have you kept sight of the intentions you have set at the beginning of the year? Have they changed? Where are you putting your energy these days?

Theses are questions we tackle in this episode!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC it down. Define, Impact, Cope". 

This episode we will explore and define what an intention is and reflect on the intentions we set for ourselves at the beginning of the year.

Then we discuss the impact of our intentions so far.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above and how we would like to proceed going further.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Follow us so you don't miss all of these exciting things we have in the works!
 
 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.

CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down on the podcast!

 
 Contact information:
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Latest episode here: https://youtu.be/jzes5kxIGu0

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HAPPY JUNETEENTH! HAPPY PRIDE!

We have an exciting episode for you all. With June being  a month celebrating blackness and gayness we thought it would be fitting to dust off one of our previous topics, but this time with a twist! Previously we posed the question are you BLACK or WOMAN First? This episode we sit down with the talented guys (Kerel, Dawon, and JerrelI) of the MinoriteaReport Podcast and ask them, Are You BLACK or GAY First? We had an amazing time DIC'ing (define, impact, cope) it down with these guys and we hope you enjoy listening to the conversation as much as we enjoyed having it.

MinoriteaReport is a weekly Queer podcast that leaves no TEA untouched. MinoriteaReport manages to tackle current events, sports, culture, history, activism, advocacy, etc. in their episodes, ensuring that there is something for everyone on the spectrum of black queerness. We were honored to be able to share space and collaborate with another BLACK QUEER platform👏🏾🙌🏾 !

Be sure to check out MinoriteaReport's episodes, every Monday,  everywhere you listen to podcasts and on youtube. Also follow them on social media using the information below:
IG: @minoriteareport
Twitter: @MTeaReport

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define what it means to black and gay and then choose if we feel like our blackness or gayness is more prominent in our life. 

Then we discuss the impact or “the why” for our choice to put “black” or “gay” first.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings of all the above and how we would like to proceed going further.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you.

Follow us so you don't miss all of these exciting things we have in the works!
 
 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.

CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down on the podcast!

 
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Latest episode here: https://youtu.be/4-dbr9rRERo

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HAPPY PRIDE EVERYONE!

This episode is all about labels and exploring what goes into the ones that we affix to ourselves. As we dive in and DIC (Define, Impact, Cope) it down we implore ourselves (and YOU) to consider the labels you hold, where those labels came from, and if they stick?

And if they do stick, who stuck 'em there...I know... grammar police...be graceful.

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC

Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope. 

This episode we will explore and define what labels are, especially in the queer community, and provide a description of our personal labels. 

Then we will discuss the impact of labels on our lives.

And lastly, we talk about how we cope with our understanding, experiences, and feelings concerning labels and their impact on our lives.

We make each section clearly known, so feel free to pause throughout the sections to give yourself time to answer. If you want to. Maybe even jot down your answers and thoughts. Do what feels right for you. 

ALSO,  be sure to tune in  for our "After Podcast" where we break down this topic on IG LIVE 6/13/21 @ 9:30/6:30 PM ET/PT and have the conversation with you! SO, Join us and lets talk labels and how they impact us in the queer community. Follow us so you don't miss it!

OH, one more thing! Be on the look out for our collab episode on 6/24  with The Minoritea Report,  a black queer perspective on social issues, hot topics, and life in general. We are excited to DIC it down with these guys.  Check out and follow the Minoritea Report IG: @minoriteareport. Also be on the look out for our guest spot on their podcast! 

Follow us so you don't miss all of these exciting things we have in the works!
 
 Oh, and as always, if you vibe, we tribe! So, don't hesitate to reach out to us using the info below.

CHECK OUT Jessica's TikTok: jesstryinshit
 to see what ya host is up to when she isn't DIC'ing it down on the podcast!
 
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