it's cool, us too.

By Meag and Cole

Two besties in our thirties. We're figuring it out with you.... more

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December 11, 2024[rerun!] green flags in dating
In this lively conversation - that happened back in 2022!! - Meagan and Nicole discuss the importance of planning and initiative in dating, exploring what they consider green flags in relationships. The conversation touches on financial dynamics during dates, personal preferences, and the challenges of adulting, all while maintaining a humorous and light-hearted tone. In this engaging conversation, Meagan and Nicole explore various 'green flags' in dating, emphasizing the importance of emotional awareness, listening skills, and individuality. They discuss the significance of chivalry, vulnerability, and the ability to engage in deep conversations. The dialogue also touches on the impact of social media on relationships and the value of actions over words. Through humor and personal anecdotes, they highlight what makes a partner truly attractive and compatible.
Takeaways
They emphasize the importance of positive reinforcement in dating.

The conversation highlights various green flags in relationships.

Initiative and planning are seen as attractive qualities in a partner.

Financial dynamics on dates are discussed, with a focus on expectations.

Personal preferences, such as attraction to certain styles, are explored.

Living arrangements and adulting challenges are humorously addressed.

The hosts reflect on their friendship and the importance of shared experiences. A garbage can in the bathroom is a green flag.

Men who floss show good hygiene and self-care.

Emotional awareness and self-improvement are attractive traits.

Listening and asking follow-up questions are essential in dating.

Navigating awkward dates requires self-awareness and communication.

Vulnerability in conversations can deepen connections.

Playfulness and willingness to engage in fun activities are important.

Respect for friends and family is a key indicator of compatibility.

Expressing individuality, like having painted nails or tattoos, is attractive.

Chivalry, such as walking a date to their car, shows care and respect.
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1h 2min
December 04, 2024episode 90 - so i guess i'm in charge now?
In this episode of 'It's Cool Us Too', we chat about work - probably the only thing we're actually qualified to talk about (lol)! We share personal anecdotes about our work experiences, the lessons we've learned from our career journeys, and the importance of following your talent rather than your passions. The conversation also delves into the transition from individual contributor roles to leadership positions, highlighting the struggles and growth that come with managing teams.
Takeaways
Navigating work in your mid-thirties can be challenging.

Personal experiences shape our career paths significantly.

It's important to learn what you don't like in your career.

Following your talents can lead to greater success than following passions.

Leadership often comes from natural tendencies rather than formal training.

Self-care is essential amidst career challenges.

Understanding your values can guide your career decisions.

Transitioning to leadership requires a shift in mindset.

Being a good manager involves letting your team take the lead.

Continuous learning is key to personal and professional growth.
Chapters
00:00 Welcome and Personal Updates
03:01 Navigating Work and Career Paths
06:00 Career Journeys: From Education to Employment
11:57 Lessons Learned from Career Challenges
17:53 The Importance of Following Your Talents
24:01 Transitioning to Leadership Roles
30:11 Managing Teams and Leadership Styles

We reference TikToks from @ScottGalloway and @gracemccarrick in this epi.
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36min
November 27, 2024episode 89 - starting fresh after a divorce
In this episode, Meagan and Nicole chat with Hanna about her journey through divorce, raising 2 kids, and dating in your 30s. Hanna shares her experiences of navigating the challenges of being a single parent while managing her professional life. The conversation delves into the emotional complexities of separation, the importance of seeking professional guidance, and the transformative power of embracing a fresh start. Hanna reflects on the highs and lows of her new life, emphasizing the significance of listening to one's gut and prioritizing personal happiness. In this conversation, Hanna shares her experiences navigating the dating scene as a single mom post-divorce. She discusses the challenges of online dating, the stigma associated with being a divorced parent, and how her perspective on relationships has evolved. The conversation also touches on the importance of authenticity in dating, the societal shifts regarding divorce, and the value of friendships during life transitions. Hanna offers advice for women entering the dating scene after divorce and reflects on what living well in her 30s means to her.
Takeaways
Divorce was a gradual realization rather than a sudden decision.

Listening to your gut is crucial in relationships.

Single parenthood comes with both challenges and opportunities.

Professional guidance can ease the separation process.

It's important to prioritize personal happiness post-divorce.

Children adapt to new family dynamics over time.

Finding joy in new hobbies and friendships is essential.

Embracing change can lead to personal growth.

Managing emotions as a single parent can be overwhelming. Navigating online dating as a single mom can be challenging.

Disclosing children on dating profiles can feel daunting but is essential for authenticity.

The stigma around divorce is lessening in society.

It's important to find a partner who adds value to your life.

Dating perspectives shift significantly after experiencing marriage and divorce.

Women often feel pressure regarding their desire for children on dating apps.

Friendships can deepen during challenging life transitions like divorce.

Living well in your 30s means prioritizing what truly matters to you.

It's okay to embrace a 'fuck it' attitude in dating.

Building a fulfilling life involves cutting out negativity and focusing on joy.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
05:59 The Decision to Separate
12:02 Seeking Professional Guidance
17:50 Embracing a Fresh Start
31:04 Shifting Perspectives on Dating After Divorce
39:10 Advice for Women Entering the Dating Scene Post-Divorce
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56min
November 20, 2024episode 88 - how to be happily single, right now
In this episode of 'It's Cool Us Too', Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being women in their 30s, particularly focusing on the feelings of loneliness and societal pressures that arise during the winter months. They share personal anecdotes about dating, the excitement of preparing for a Taylor Swift concert, and the challenges of cooking and self-care. The conversation delves into the impact of social media on mental health and the importance of reframing feelings of singlehood. Through humor and vulnerability, they navigate the ups and downs of this stage in life, emphasizing the need for connection and understanding. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being single in their 30s, discussing the societal pressures of timelines in relationships, the joys of singlehood, and the emotional struggles that come with it. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging feelings, celebrating personal freedom, and finding community while navigating the ups and downs of love and connection.
Takeaways
It's important to celebrate being single, especially in winter.

The winter months can amplify feelings of loneliness.

Cooking can be a therapeutic distraction.

Social media can negatively impact mental health.

Comparison with friends in relationships is common.

Finding joy in small moments is essential.

Creating your own fun and excitement is key.

Having supportive friends can help navigate tough feelings.

It's okay to feel overwhelmed during the holidays.

Embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Meeting a partner doesn't have a strict timeline.

Singlehood can offer unique joys and freedoms.

It's okay to feel bitterness while celebrating friends' successes.

Acknowledging feelings is crucial for emotional health.

Finding community can help shift negative energy.

New experiences can enrich your life and perspective.

Manifesting love involves believing it's possible for you.

Self-criticism can compound feelings of inadequacy.

Celebrating personal achievements is important, even if not recognized by society.

It's essential to focus on personal growth and connection.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Weekend Recap
03:00 Navigating the Excitement and Challenges of Dating
05:53 Preparing for the Taylor Swift Concert
09:01 The Impact of Seasonal Changes on Mental Health
12:03 Feeling Lonely in November
14:59 Coping Mechanisms for Singlehood in Winter
17:59 The Comparison Game and Societal Pressures
19:58 The Pressure of Timelines in Relationships
22:41 Celebrating Singlehood and Personal Freedom
24:15 Navigating Emotions: Bitterness and Joy
27:05 Acknowledging Feelings and Moving Forward
31:42 Finding Community and New Experiences
35:56 Manifesting Love and Connection

TikToks referenced by @melrobbins and @notskinnybutnotfat
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42min
November 13, 2024episode 87 - breaking up with drinking
Sarah Gagne shares why she stopped drinking 2 years ago, discussing the challenges and insights she gained along the way. From her initial decision to stop drinking to the profound impact it had on her relationships and self-identity, Sarah emphasizes the importance of authenticity and finding peace in one's choices. The discussion also touches on the evolving nature of friendships and the spectrum of sober curiosity among peers, highlighting the personal growth that comes from embracing a healthier lifestyle. In this engaging conversation, the guests reflect on their personal journeys, focusing on themes of self-awareness, sobriety, and the transition into their 30s. They discuss the importance of trusting one's instincts, the value of relationships, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The dialogue emphasizes the beauty of embracing change and the wisdom that comes with age, particularly as they approach a new decade in life.

Takeaways
Sarah has been sober for two years, which has opened up new experiences.
She felt a constant battle between her hobbies and alcohol's influence.
Breaking up with alcohol allowed her to focus on what adds value to her life.
Self-discovery led her to realize she was more introverted than she thought.
Her friendships have deepened, with more meaningful connections.
She encourages others to find what makes them happy, regardless of societal expectations.
The journey to sobriety is unique and should be viewed as a spectrum.
Sarah emphasizes the importance of mental and physical well-being in her journey.
She found that she didn't miss out on experiences after quitting drinking.
Authenticity and self-assurance grew stronger after removing alcohol from her life. Trusting your gut is essential for personal growth.
Embracing change can lead to beautiful outcomes.
Self-awareness is a powerful tool for women.
Relationships are the foundation of a fulfilling life.
It's important to slow down and enjoy the process.
Life is about continuous learning and applying lessons.
Your 30s can be a time of beauty and self-assurance.
Focus on what truly makes you happy.
Don't let societal pressures dictate your path.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Eminem Nostalgia
02:32 Sarah's Journey to Sobriety
05:59 Breaking Up with Alcohol
11:50 Self-Discovery and Authenticity
19:37 Impact on Friendships and Relationships
23:01 Finding Balance and New Experiences
25:00 Embracing Change and Trusting Instincts
31:05 Reflections on Turning 30
40:12 Living Well in Your 30s
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46min
November 06, 2024episode 86 - come as you are
This is a campaign against being the 'good company' friend. In this epi, hosts Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of friendship, vulnerability, and authenticity, particularly as women navigate their 30s. They discuss the importance of being able to show up as one's true self, the societal pressures to be 'good company', and the need for flexibility and support in friendships. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, they emphasize the value of being present for friends during tough times and the significance of creating safe spaces for vulnerability. The conversation also touches on practical tips for deepening connections and fostering meaningful relationships.
Takeaways
Authenticity is crucial in friendships.

It's okay to be messy and vulnerable.

Friendship should allow for flexibility and support.

You don't have to be 'good company' all the time.

Being present is more important than fixing problems.

Reach out to friends when you need support.

Create safe spaces for vulnerability in friendships.

Games can help foster deeper connections.

It's important to communicate your needs in friendships.

Friendships can be the center of our universe.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to 'Come As You Are'
02:55 The Importance of Authenticity in Friendships
06:40 Navigating Vulnerability and Messiness
10:12 The Pressure to Be 'Good Company'
14:05 Understanding Emotional Needs in Friendships
18:04 Flexibility and Support in Friendships
21:54 Being Present: The Key to Friendship
25:06 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability
29:40 Tips for Deepening Friendships
32:34 Games and Activities to Foster Connection
36:56 Conclusion and Reflections
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36min
October 30, 2024episode 85 - following your intuition in your 30s
In this week's episode, Diane shares her transformative journey through various cities, including her experiences living in London, New York, and Mexico City. The discussion delves into cultural differences, personal growth, and that hit of energy we get from new beginnings. Diane reflects on her dating experiences, the challenges of being single, and the importance of maintaining a positive mindset in relationships. The conversation highlights the balance between masculine and feminine energies in dating and personal interactions, offering insights into navigating the complexities of modern relationships. In this engaging conversation, the speakers explore the complexities of modern dating, the influence of media on relationship expectations, and the importance of community and connection. They discuss the challenges of navigating dating apps, the significance of in-person interactions, and the impact of moving to new places on friendships. The conversation culminates in reflections on what it means to live well in your 30s, emphasizing self-discovery and following one's curiosity.
Takeaways
Diane's journey through different cities has shaped her perspective on life.

Cultural differences between London, New York, and Mexico City influence social interactions.

Embracing new experiences can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.

The energy you bring to a new place can significantly impact your experiences.

Dating in New York was a positive experience for Diane compared to London.

Being happily single can be a rewarding phase of life.

It's important to enjoy the dating process rather than dread it.

Finding emotional connections is key to meaningful relationships.

Balancing masculine and feminine energies can enhance dating experiences.

Maintaining a positive mindset is crucial in navigating relationships. The media shapes our perceptions of relationships and soulmates.

Women often analyze relationships more deeply than men.

Lowering standards on dating apps can open up new possibilities.

Finding humor in bad dates can shift your dating energy.

Maintaining friendships across distances requires acceptance of change.

Creating community spaces for dating can enhance connections.

In-person interactions are crucial for genuine connections.

Living in a new country presents unique challenges and anxieties.

It's important to communicate differently with various friends.

Living well in your 30s means exploring who you are.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:46 Journey Through Cities: From Scotland to Mexico City
04:38 Cultural Comparisons: London, New York, and Mexico City
09:58 The Energy of New Beginnings: Embracing New York
15:20 Dating Experiences: From London to New York
20:51 Finding Happiness in Being Single
25:29 Navigating the Dating Landscape
30:11 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
31:34 The Impact of Media on Relationships
35:51 Navigating Dating Apps and Lowering Standards
40:02 The Importance of In-Person Connections
46:00 Creating a Dating Community
50:00 Challenges of Moving and Maintaining Friendships
59:04 Living Well in Your 30s
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1h 7min
October 23, 2024episode 84 - the winter arc
In this episode, we celebrate the two-year anniversary of our podcast (!!!!), reflecting on our journey and the changes they've experienced. We discuss the concept of a 'Winter Arc,' emphasizing the importance of maintaining momentum towards personal goals as the year ends. The conversation also delves into core values and how we shape personal growth and relationships, encouraging listeners to prioritize their needs and aspirations.
In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole reflect on their personal growth over the past year, discussing the importance of identity work and setting goals for 2025. They emphasize a shift in focus from outcomes to the feelings and habits that contribute to their well-being. The discussion includes the significance of adventure, both in travel and local experiences, and the concept of micro adventures. They also explore the need for effective systems to manage procrastination and stress, particularly during the holiday season. The conversation concludes with strategies for testing and learning new habits to create a successful winter arc.
Takeaways
Celebrating two years of podcasting is a significant milestone.

The Winter Arc encourages maintaining personal goals through the end of the year.

It's important to prioritize self-care and personal needs.

Core values play a crucial role in guiding personal growth.

Relationships and connection are fundamental to happiness.

Planning for personal growth should start now, not next year.

Small actions can lead to significant changes over time.

Reflecting on past experiences can provide valuable insights.

Creating a supportive environment is essential for achieving goals. Identity work is crucial for personal growth.

Focusing on habits rather than outcomes can lead to better mental health.

It's important to identify how you want to feel in your daily life.

Adventure can be found in both travel and local experiences.

Micro adventures can bring joy and fulfillment.

Building systems can help manage procrastination and stress.

Finding balance is essential for overall well-being.

Mental resilience is key during challenging seasons.

Planning for seasonal affective challenges can improve mood.

Testing and learning new habits can lead to sustainable change.
Chapters
00:00 Celebrating Two Years of Podcasting
12:07 Understanding the Winter Arc
16:11 Core Values and Personal Growth
17:20 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Identity Work
18:00 Setting Goals for 2025: Focus on Habits Over Outcomes
19:49 The Importance of Feeling Good: A Shift in Perspective
20:51 Exploring Adventure: Travel Goals and Local Discoveries
22:14 Micro Adventures: Finding Joy in Small Experiences
23:46 Building Systems for Success: Managing Procrastination and Sleep
25:18 Finding Balance: The Need for Grace in Life's Journey
26:35 Mental Resilience: Preparing for the Holiday Season
28:53 Managing Seasonal Affective Challenges and Stress
31:34 Testing and Learning: Strategies for a Successful Winter Arc
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38min
October 16, 2024episode 83 - why situationships hurt
We're back baby! In this episode, we return from our hiatus to discuss personal updates, dating experiences, and the complexities of situationships. We explore the emotional impacts of dating in their 30s, the challenges of navigating friendships and romance, and the importance of authenticity in relationships. The conversation delves into the pain of unreciprocated feelings and the lessons learned from their dating experiences, emphasizing the significance of self-work and personal growth in the dating landscape.
Takeaways
What we define as a 'situationship', and how it might be different for you

Dating experiences can vary widely, with both highs and lows.

Situationships often lack clear definitions and can be emotionally complex.

Friendships can complicate romantic feelings and vice versa.

Understanding the emotional impact of situationships is crucial.

Authenticity is key in attracting the right partners.

Unreciprocated feelings can lead to significant emotional pain.

Self-work is essential for healthy relationships.

Navigating dating in your 30s requires self-awareness and honesty.

It's important to recognize when to let go of a situation that isn't serving you.
Chapters
00:00 Welcome Back and Personal Updates
03:03 Reflections on Dating Experiences
05:56 Navigating Situationships
12:02 The Complexity of Friendships and Romance
18:00 Understanding Situationships: Definitions and Dynamics
23:55 Emotional Impacts of Situationships
30:03 The Role of Authenticity in Relationships
36:07 The Pain of Unreciprocated Feelings
42:23 Lessons Learned from Dating Experiences
48:11 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships
54:05 Final Thoughts on Dating and Self-Discovery
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1h 5min
August 02, 2024episode 82 - the *good* games women play in dating
In this episode, Meag and Nicole discuss their recent dating experiences and share the games they play with themselves to make dating more enjoyable and sustainable. They talk about the importance of maintaining momentum, being open to meeting new people, and not putting too much pressure on finding a future partner. They also discuss the mindset shift of treating dating apps as a way to go on first dates rather than finding a long-term partner. Other topics include the benefits of talking to multiple people at once, setting boundaries with texting, and viewing matches on dating apps as Tamagotchis. In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss various strategies and techniques for navigating the early stages of dating, including when to save someone's name in your phone, using the archive feature in messaging apps, creating an 'ick list' to manage expectations, and practicing self-care before and after dates. They also emphasize the importance of listening to your intuition and setting boundaries. The conversation is filled with humor and relatable anecdotes, making it an enjoyable and informative listen.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Catching Up
03:02 Maintaining Momentum and Enjoying the Dating Process
08:26 Treating Dating Apps as a Tool for First Dates
14:26 Talking to Multiple People to Identify Preferences
18:08 Viewing Matches on Dating Apps as Tamagotchis
20:18 Navigating the Early Stages of Dating
22:20 The Power of the Archive Feature
24:31 Managing Expectations with the 'Ick List'
27:16 Pre-Date Self-Care Rituals
35:33 Listening to Your Intuition and Setting Boundaries

Takeaways
Maintaining momentum and being open to meeting new people can make dating more enjoyable and successful.

Treating dating apps as a way to go on first dates rather than finding a long-term partner can help alleviate pressure.

Talking to multiple people at once can provide a point of comparison and help identify personal preferences.

Setting boundaries with texting can help maintain sanity and prevent anxious attachment.

Viewing matches on dating apps as Tamagotchis can make the process more fun and gamified. Timing of saving someone's name in your phone can vary depending on the person and the connection

Using the archive feature in messaging apps can help manage expectations and reduce anxiety

Creating an 'ick list' can provide a reality check and help maintain perspective

Practicing self-care before and after dates can help boost confidence and manage nerves

Listening to your intuition and setting boundaries are key in dating
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41min

FAQs about it's cool, us too.:

How many episodes does it's cool, us too. have?

The podcast currently has 132 episodes available.