it's cool, us too.

By Meag and Cole

Two besties in our thirties. We're figuring it out with you.... more

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July 26, 2024episode 81 - lessons learned from Love Island USA
The main theme of Nicole and Meag's conversation is Love Island USA and what it teaches us about modern dating and relationships. They discuss the dynamics between men and women on the show, the impact of Casa Amor, and the behavior of the male contestants. Overall, they express their love for the show and the lessons it provides. The conversation explores the themes of loyalty, exploring multiple connections, embarrassment, self-discovery, attraction to odd or mysterious qualities, the relatability of contestants, the influence of group dynamics, and the role of producers in the show.
Takeaways
The concept of emotional edging, continuously bringing oneself to the edge of crying without allowing the release, can lead to a more cathartic experience (yes, this is weird, but we're coining the term ok?!)

Love Island USA provides insights into modern dating and relationships, highlighting the dynamics between men and women

Casa Amor on Love Island shows how easily men can be distracted by new and shiny objects

The behavior of male contestants on Love Island USA can be disheartening, as they often forget about their connections with the women in the villa Act loyal before commitment

Don't limit yourself to one connection

Women are often attracted to mysterious or odd qualities in men...how does this show up in Love Island?

Group think is real...group dynamics can influence behavior and decision-making

Producers should bring fresh ideas and better contestants for Casa Amor

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Question about Men's Posed Instagram Photos
02:15 Discussion on Emotional Edging
05:00 Makeup Products and Updates
07:55 Love Island USA: Insights into Modern Dating and Relationships
11:13 Up and Down with Rob on Love Island USA
13:31 Emotional Edging: A New Term
15:46 Aaron's Love for Rob on Love Island USA
19:30 Men Easily Distracted by New and Shiny Objects on Love Island USA
22:16 Embarrassment and Self-Discovery
25:26 The Struggle with Hooking Up
31:15 The Relatability of Contestants
42:26 The Influence of Group Dynamics
45:44 The Role of Producers
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47min
July 19, 2024episode 80 - mindset shifts in your mid-30s
The main theme of this conversation is about Meag and Nicole's current mindset and the positive reframes they have made in their lives. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan discuss their favorite characters from the reality dating show Love Island and share their thoughts on personal reframes for the year. They talk about the importance of not taking ghosting personally and reframing it as being fumbled. They also discuss the changing definition of fun as they get older and the idea that success is not about doing the most but being intentional and moving at a sustainable pace. They touch on the concept of not having everything figured out by a certain age and the importance of continuous growth and learning.
Takeaways
The joy of summer activities and spending time at the cottage

The ups and downs of dating and the need for momentum

The benefits of journaling and finding the right journal

The empowerment of going braless and embracing personal comfort

The impact of positive reframes on mindset and well-being Don't take ghosting personally, reframe it as being fumbled

The definition of fun changes as you get older

Success is not about doing the most, but being intentional and moving at a sustainable pace

You don't have to have everything figured out by a certain age, continuous growth is important
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Improving Podcasting Skills
03:04 Embracing Summer Activities and Cottage Life
06:05 Navigating the Ups and Downs of Dating
08:07 The Power of Journaling and Finding the Right Journal
10:12 Empowering Yourself by Going Braless
15:24 Positive Reframes for a Positive Mindset
18:08 Love Island Characters
21:13 Reframing Ghosting
22:07 The Changing Definition of Fun
22:54 Redefining Success
25:19 Continuous Growth and Learning
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40min
July 05, 2024episode 79 - making goals and holding yourself accountable
In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss their intentions for 2024 and reflect on their progress so far. Meagan's intentions include finding joy in new ways, de-centering drinking from her life, prioritizing dating, working out, connecting with friends, traveling, improving social media presence, and nesting in her new home. Nicole's intentions focus on self-care, setting boundaries, prioritizing mental health, and finding balance. They both reflect on their progress and identify areas for improvement. They both prioritize dating and health as key areas of focus. Nicole aims to clear space in her life and prioritize self-care, while Meagan wants to connect with her long-term goals and aspirations. They emphasize the importance of being intentional and consistent in making progress towards their goals.
Takeaways
Setting intentions can help guide personal growth and prioritize important areas of life.

Reflecting on progress and reassessing goals is important for staying on track.

Finding joy in new ways and de-centering unhealthy habits can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Prioritizing self-care, setting boundaries, and finding balance are essential for overall well-being.

Connecting with friends, traveling, and engaging in new hobbies can bring new experiences and personal growth.

Improving social media presence can help build connections and share experiences.

Creating a comfortable and personalized living space can contribute to a sense of home and well-being. Prioritize dating and health as key areas of focus

Clear space in your life and prioritize self-care

Connect with your long-term goals and aspirations

Be intentional and consistent in making progress towards your goals
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
08:08 Setting Intentions for Personal Growth
12:15 Reflecting on Progress and Reassessing Goals
14:00 Finding Joy and Decentering Unhealthy Habits
15:30 Prioritizing Self-Care and Finding Balance
16:17 Connecting with Friends and Traveling
17:58 Creating a Comfortable and Personalized Home
18:25 Struggles and Mental Health
19:19 Desire for Slow and Grounded Approach
20:40 Setting Boundaries and Removing Unnecessary Tasks
22:39 Having More Fun and Enjoying Life
23:46 Prioritizing Self and Putting Yourself First
24:03 Making Dating Fun Again
27:18 Ingredient Prepping and Health Hacks
28:27 Challenges of Health and Well-being
29:12 Connecting with Long-Term Goals and Aspirations
33:06 Aligning Goals with Long-Term Vision
36:43 Clearing Space and Avoiding Overpacking
39:29 Consistency and Sustainable Progress
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41min
June 28, 2024episode 78 - our dating commandments
In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss their recent dating experiences and the challenges of navigating the early stages of dating. They share stories of disappointing dates and the tendency to overanalyze and future trip. They also discuss the importance of setting personal boundaries and managing expectations. The conversation highlights the rollercoaster of emotions that come with dating and the need to stay grounded and present. In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss their experiences and reflections on dating. They explore topics such as lying to oneself, staying present in relationships, evolving preferences in a partner, the importance of engaging conversations, the role of texting in early stages of dating, and ideal summer date ideas. They emphasize the need for self-reflection, acknowledging luck and timing in dating, and the importance of clear intentions and actions.
Takeaways
Dating can be challenging and frustrating, especially in the early stages.

It's important to set personal boundaries and manage expectations.

Overanalyzing and future tripping can lead to unnecessary stress and disappointment.

Staying grounded and present is key to enjoying the dating process.

The rollercoaster of emotions in dating is normal, but it's important to maintain perspective. Lying to oneself in dating can lead to disappointment and losing oneself in the process.

Staying present in a relationship can be challenging but is important for genuine connection.

As one gets older, the stakes in dating can feel higher, leading to a sense of urgency.

Engaging conversations and active interest in each other's thoughts and experiences are crucial in a relationship.

Texting in the early stages of dating can create a false sense of intimacy and should not be overemphasized.

Ideal summer date ideas include going to a fair, a drive-in movie, or a beach sunset picnic.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
05:18 Canceled Date and Reflections
08:21 Nicole's Date and Disappointments
09:59 Meagan's Dating App Experience
15:02 The Point After the Initial Connection
23:05 Overanalyzing and Creating Imaginary Worlds
24:31 Lying to Yourself in Dating
25:21 The Challenge of Staying Present
26:17 Why Stakes in Dating Feel Higher as You Get Older
30:24 Evolving Preferences in a Partner
30:58 The Importance of Engaging Conversations in Dating
34:36 Navigating Texting in the Early Stages of Dating
45:28 Ideal Summer Date Ideas
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48min
June 14, 2024episode 77 - life lessons we still haven't learned
"Don't sweat the small stuff." "If you love them, tell them." "Work to live, don't live to work." All advice we've struggled to actually take on.
In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan discuss their struggles with taking advice in different areas of their lives. They touch on topics such as work-life balance, physical health, and dating. They both admit to having difficulty prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries. They also reflect on the importance of enjoying the present moment and appreciating their bodies. Overall, the conversation highlights the challenges of implementing advice and the need for self-reflection and growth. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan discuss various pieces of advice related to different aspects of life, including body image, mental health, relationships, and friendship. They reflect on their own struggles and experiences with the advice, sharing personal anecdotes and insights. The conversation highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and being true to oneself.
Takeaways
Struggling to take advice is a common experience, especially in areas such as work-life balance, physical health, and dating.

Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care are important for overall well-being.

Appreciating the present moment and being grateful for one's body can lead to a more positive mindset.

Reflecting on past experiences can help gain perspective and realize that self-criticism is often unfounded.

Implementing advice requires self-reflection, growth, and a willingness to change. Focus on what your body does for you rather than what it doesn't do

Be ruthless about your own wellbeing

Prioritize sleep and limit phone use before bed

Don't overthink and take action instead

Love yourself and don't try to convince someone to love you

Pay attention to people's actions, not just their words

Don't take things personally and remember that not everything is about you

Surround yourself with people who make you laugh

Invest in meaningful friendships and let go of toxic relationships
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Where We're At Emotionally
09:25 Work-Life Balance and Prioritizing Self-Care
14:14 Struggles with Taking Career Advice
22:12 Physical Health and Self-Perception
25:10 Reflection on Past Experiences and Gratitude
28:57 Conclusion and the Journey of Implementing Advice
35:19 Navigating the Complexities of Dating and Love
39:06 The Importance of Friendship and Laughter
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54min
June 07, 2024episode 76 - why is no one hanging out anymore?
We stepped off the funny train to have a serious conversation about loneliness in your 30s and how to handle it as a single woman.
Loneliness hits different in your mid-30s. We're all in totally different eras of our lives, or at least our friends are. Some of us are spending weekday evening putting our kids to bed, some of us are out on a date, and some of us are sitting on the couch, flicking through channels, wondering what to do with ourselves.
What we discuss in this episode:
The antidote to loneliness is vulnerability. And you need to find people that see you for who you are in order to get to that vulnerability.

It’s important to put in the effort to be spontaneous. Go have that random drink with a friend you haven’t seen in awhile. If your Saturday night plans fall through, make the effort to create new ones. Give someone a call on a long drive. Go to the in-person workout. Those moments will give you more than a couple hours of scrolling or re-watching The Hills.

Those things that make you feel alive and connected to the world are typically experienced alongside other people. Continue to prioritize investing in those experiences even though they require life admin.

You can’t expect the same level of connection through seeing what your friends are doing on Instagram. But even though we don’t know how to classify the type of connection they give us, they do still offer some feeling of connection for us, especially with long-term relationships.

Community is another antidote to loneliness. Whether that’s online or in-person, being able to be a part of something as an adult acts as a proxy for the ‘third spaces’ (clubs, sports teams, etc.) we used to have as kids.
Chapters
00:00 Navigating Post-Holiday Blues and Loneliness
07:14 The Impact of Technology on Intimacy and Connection
11:00 The Significance of Vulnerability in Combatting Loneliness
14:05 The Challenge of Small Talk and Surface-Level Interactions
21:50 Navigating Loneliness in the Digital Age
32:00 The Challenge of Vulnerability in Relationships
35:18 Finding Community in the Modern World

In this episode we dive into an Atlantic article, an Esther Perel and Brene Brown podcast episode, and a few other reference points to chat through what it means to be lonely right now and how we can pull each other out of it.
We hope you enjoy!
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41min
May 31, 2024 episode 75 - holibobs, pneumonia, and funny boys
The conversation covers Nicole's health struggles, Meagan's recent trip to the UK, and their plans for the podcast content this summer. It also touches on dating experiences and the challenges of maintaining communication across different time zones.
Chapters
00:00 Navigating Health Challenges and Travel
03:32 Exploring New Podcast Content
13:57 Dating Experiences and Communication Challenges

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21min
May 17, 2024episode 74 - ingredients for a hot girl summer
In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan discuss their recent experiences with self-tanning and Meag getting wisdom teeth removed. They also talk about their plans for the summer and their dating goals. Nicole reflects on her busy summer last year and expresses a desire for more me-time and spontaneous moments. Meagan shares her summer aesthetic of wearing oversized t-shirts and no pants at the cottage. They both express their excitement for summer and the possibility of fun and flirty dates. In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss their plans and aspirations for the upcoming summer. They talk about their preferred summer outfits, their goals for being more active, and their desire to detach from work and focus on self-care. They also mention their excitement for spending time together in Toronto and enjoying city life. The conversation ends with a discussion about their favorite summer drinks and the possibility of creating content on TikTok.
Takeaways
Take time for yourself and avoid overbooking your schedule during the summer.

Embrace spontaneity and leave room for fun and unexpected experiences.

Set dating goals and enjoy the process without putting pressure on outcomes.

Create your own summer aesthetic and embrace your personal style.

Focus on having fun and flirty dates during the summer season. Plan and define what a great summer looks like for you

Focus on self-care and detach from work

Spend quality time with friends and enjoy city life

Try new activities and learn new skills

Indulge in refreshing summer drinks
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Self-Tanning Stories
09:45 Summer Plans and Dating Goals
15:24 Reflecting on Last Summer
23:00 Concert Plans and Excitement
25:10 Being More Active and Trying New Things
29:46 Exploring City Life and Spending Time with Friends
31:28 Trying New Activities and Learning New Skills
33:16 Indulging in Refreshing Summer Drinks
36:32 Creating Content on TikTok
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40min
May 10, 2024episode 73 - the tortured *girls* department
We had to do it. This episode is an exploration of Taylor Swift (our lord and saviour's) newest album and all the nostalgia and themes it brings up.
In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole catch up after a few weeks apart. They discuss Nicole's upcoming bachelorette party in Miami, Meagan's housewarming party, and their thoughts on Taylor Swift's new album. They also touch on the production of the album and the tension between artistic quality and fan expectations. In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole discuss Taylor Swift's album 'Red (Taylor's Version)' and dive into the themes and lyrics of the songs. They explore the idea of Taylor's evolution as an artist and how her music resonates with listeners. They also touch on the concept of 'tortured poets' and the nostalgia and emotions that come with relationships and situationships. The conversation ends with a discussion of their favorite songs and lyrics from the album.
Takeaways
Nicole is excited for her upcoming bachelorette party in Miami

Meagan had a fun housewarming party and is taking care of her parents' dog

They discuss Taylor Swift's new album and the production choices

There is a tension between artistic quality and fan expectations in the album Taylor Swift's album 'Red (Taylor's Version)' resonates with listeners due to its relatable themes and emotional lyrics.

The concept of 'tortured poets' is explored in the album, reflecting on past relationships and the emotions that come with them.

The album showcases Taylor's evolution as an artist and her ability to connect with her audience through her music.

Listeners can relate to the nostalgia and emotions portrayed in the songs, especially when reflecting on past relationships and situationships.

Favorite songs and lyrics from the album include 'Down Bad,' 'Daddy I Love Him,' 'The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived,' and 'The Prophecy.'
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Catching Up
01:21 Exciting Plans for the Bachelorette Party in Miami
10:21 Upcoming Wild Weekends
12:09 Thoughts on Taylor Swift's New Album
22:40 Exploring the Themes and Lyrics of Taylor Swift's 'Red (Taylor's Version)'
23:33 The Evolution of Taylor Swift as an Artist
24:21 The Concept of 'Tortured Poets' in the Album
25:17 Nostalgia and Emotions in the Songs
27:36 Favorite Songs and Lyrics from 'Red (Taylor's Version)'
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45min
April 26, 2024episode 72 - identity as a (working) mom
Monica discusses her experience of balancing work and motherhood, highlighting the challenges and the need to manage expectations. She shares her struggles with guilt and the pressure to be a perfect parent and partner. Monica emphasizes the importance of adjusting expectations and recognizing external factors to determine if she's doing enough. Meagan and Nicole reflect on their own experiences and the difficulty of knowing when it's enough in various aspects of life. They also touch on the topic of guilt and the need to give oneself credit for their efforts. In this conversation, Monica discusses the challenges of balancing motherhood and a career. She shares her experience of wanting to maintain her ambition and identity while also being a present and involved parent. Monica highlights the societal expectations placed on mothers and the need for support and understanding from friends and colleagues. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and finding a balance that works for her. Monica also discusses the mixed feelings and guilt that can come with being a parent and the need for open communication and empathy.
Takeaways
Balancing work and motherhood is a constant challenge, especially for ambitious individuals who want to excel in both areas.

Managing expectations, both from oneself and others, is crucial in finding a balance.

Guilt often creeps in when it feels impossible to meet everyone's needs, but it's important to recognize that perfection is unattainable.

Recognizing external factors and evaluating the success and well-being of children, projects, and relationships can help determine if one is doing enough.

It's important to give oneself credit and acknowledge the efforts made in various aspects of life. Balancing motherhood and a career can be challenging, but it is possible to maintain ambition and identity while being a present parent.

Societal expectations often place pressure on mothers to do it all, but it is important to set boundaries and prioritize self-care.

Support from friends and colleagues is crucial in navigating the challenges of motherhood and a career.

Open communication and empathy are key in understanding and supporting the experiences of working mothers.

Mixed feelings and guilt are common among parents, and it is important to acknowledge and address these emotions.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Bedtime Routines
09:23 Being the First of Friends to Have Kids
25:58 The Guilt of Not Being Perfect
32:30 Balancing Career and Motherhood
40:31 Open Communication and Empathy
46:40 Being Mindful of Different Parenting Styles
55:28 What Living Well in Your 30s Means
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1h 11min

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