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  • episode 94 - where did all the parties go?

    In this episode, hosts Meagan and Nicole discuss the complexities of being a woman in your 30s, focusing on the challenges of maintaining friendships and social connections in a digital age. They reflect on their personal experiences, current events, and the emotional toll of isolation, while exploring the need for more in-person interactions and the impact of technology on relationships. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of adult friendships, particularly for women in their 30s. They discuss the concept of the 'splinter era,' where individuals often find themselves pursuing different life paths, leading to a sense of disconnection. The duo emphasizes the importance of prioritizing friendships, the challenges of maintaining connections, and the need for spontaneity in social interactions. They also highlight the significance of micro connections and the effort required to create space for meaningful relationships in a busy adult life.

    Takeaways

    People are struggling to make time for friends.
    Over 40% of Americans feel emotionally distant from friends.
    Social events have decreased by 35% since 2004.
    Nostalgia for past social gatherings is prevalent.
    Digital connectivity often replaces meaningful in-person interactions.
    Burnout affects the desire to socialize.
    Finding balance between connection and disconnection is crucial.
    Engaging in activities can help combat feelings of isolation.
    Intentional time with friends is more fulfilling than digital interactions.
    Travel can provide a refreshing break from routine. Friendship dynamics change significantly in your 30s.
    The splinter era complicates adult relationships.
    Women often feel guilty about not maintaining friendships.
    Micro connections can be as fulfilling as larger gatherings.
    Spontaneity is key to fostering connections.
    Proximity plays a crucial role in maintaining friendships.
    Effort is required to create and sustain relationships.
    Emotional labor impacts women's social lives.
    Creating space for connection is essential.
    Prioritizing friendships can lead to greater fulfillment.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Weekly Updates

    04:53 Reflections on Current Events and Personal Impact

    10:07 The Need for More Social Connection

    15:02 Exploring the Challenges of Modern Friendships

    19:58 Finding Balance Between Connection and Disconnection

    24:02 Navigating the Splinter Era

    28:06 The Complexity of Adult Friendships

    31:26 Micro Connections vs. Big Gatherings

    36:14 Spontaneity in Social Interactions

    41:04 Creating Space for Connection

    46 min
  • episode 93 - how to activate sexy vibes

    In this episode, Meagan and Nicole discuss the transition into the new year, addressing the anxiety that often accompanies returning to work after the holidays. They explore themes of self-care, balance, and the journey to feeling sexy in their 30s. The conversation delves into the difference between a 'glow up' and feeling sexy, emphasizing that true sexiness comes from within and is about embracing one's authentic self. The hosts share personal anecdotes and insights on how they navigate their lives, aiming to feel more grounded and confident as they move forward into the new year. In this engaging conversation, Meagan and Nicole explore the themes of femininity, self-care, and empowerment. They discuss how embracing one's femininity and engaging in self-pleasure can enhance feelings of sexiness and confidence. The conversation delves into the importance of assertiveness in relationships and the idea of creating an alter ego to help navigate personal and professional challenges. Ultimately, they emphasize the significance of defining what feeling sexy means to each individual and how to consistently tap into that feeling.

    Takeaways

    • The first episode of 2025 brings a sense of renewal.
    • Post-holiday anxiety is a common experience.
    • Finding balance in life is essential for mental health.Self-care practices can help alleviate stress.
    • Feeling sexy is more about mindset than appearance.
    • Embracing personal expressions of sexiness is empowering.
    • Glowing up often focuses on external validation.
    • True confidence comes from within and self-acceptance.
    • Creating rituals, like matching pajamas, can enhance feelings of sexiness.
    • Engaging in activities that make you feel good is crucial. Embracing femininity can enhance feelings of sexiness.
    • Self-care practices, like cooking and enjoying wine, contribute to self-love.
    • Self-pleasure fosters a strong mind-body connection.
    • Owning one's pleasure is a powerful act of confidence.
    • Understanding personal pleasure leads to better relationships.
    • Confidence in expressing desires is attractive.
    • Creating an alter ego can empower self-expression.
    • Feeling sexy is tied to personal definitions of femininity.
    • Establishing boundaries is crucial for self-respect.
    • Activating feelings of sexiness requires intentional habits.


      • Chapters

      00:00 Introduction to the New Year and Podcast Dynamics

      06:01 Embracing Balance and Self-Care

      11:58 Defining Glow Up vs. Feeling Sexy

      19:55 Embracing Femininity and Self-Care

      27:41 Confidence and Assertiveness in Relationships

      34:10 Defining and Activating Your Sexy Self




      39 min
    • episode 92 - being a millennial manager

      In this episode, Nicole and Meagan discuss the joys of the holiday season, personal achievements, and the challenges of navigating work culture as millennials. They explore the realities of work, emphasizing the often overlooked 90% of tasks that are monotonous compared to the 10% that are fulfilling. The conversation also touches on the changing expectations in the workplace, the importance of proactivity, and the balance between work and personal life. In this conversation, Meagan and Nicole explore the evolving landscape of management and workplace culture, particularly from the perspective of millennial managers. They discuss the importance of clear expectations, the shift from time-based productivity to impact-focused outcomes, and the necessity of bringing one's whole self to work. The conversation also delves into the significance of mental health and empathy in management, the trend of de-centering work in life, and the balance between ambition and work-life integration.

      Takeaways

      • Nicole shares her excitement about Christmas and personal achievements.
      • Making butter from scratch becomes a new passion for Nicole.
      • The hosts reflect on the holiday spirit and personal well-being.
      • They discuss the importance of work-life balance in modern corporate culture.
      • The conversation highlights the difference between the glamorous perception of jobs and the reality of daily tasks.
      • Nicole emphasizes the need for resourcefulness in the workplace.
      • Meagan questions the expectations of proactivity in younger employees.
      • The hosts agree on the importance of treating employees with respect and understanding their personal lives.
      • They explore the generational differences in work expectations and dedication.
      • The discussion concludes with thoughts on hierarchy and delegation in the workplace. Trusting your team is essential for effective management.
      • Clear communication of expectations is crucial.
      • The definition of productivity is shifting towards impact.
      • Bringing your whole self to work is about authenticity.
      • Mental health awareness is vital in the workplace.
      • Millennial managers are reshaping workplace culture.
      • Work-life balance is increasingly important for younger generations.
      • Expectations of commitment may differ across generations.
      • The landscape of work has changed dramatically in recent years.
      • Empathy in leadership fosters a supportive work environment.


        • Chapters

        00:00 Holiday Cheer and Personal Achievements

        06:01 Navigating Work Culture as Millennials

        12:29 The Reality of Work: The 90% vs. 10%

        17:59 Expectations in the Modern Workplace

        23:23 Navigating Managerial Mindsets

        25:21 Evolving Expectations in the Workplace

        27:53 Shifting Focus: Time vs. Productivity

        30:17 Bringing Your Whole Self to Work

        34:53 Mental Health and Empathy in Management

        36:20 Decentering Work in Life

        40:04 Balancing Ambition and Work-Life Integration

        47 min
      • episode 91 - 2024 lessons learned

        In this episode, Nicole and Meag reflect on their experiences over the past year, discussing the importance of health, the lessons they've learned, and the challenges of dating. They emphasize the significance of community and support among women in their 30s, while also sharing personal anecdotes about holiday celebrations and the joy of giving and receiving gifts. The conversation touches on the balance between manifestation and expectation, the importance of self-confidence, and the need to embrace the journey rather than fixate on outcomes. In this engaging conversation, Cole and Meag explore themes of self-discovery, joy, mental health, and self-care. They reflect on transformative experiences, the importance of following one's feelings, and the ongoing journey of understanding mental health. The discussion also highlights the significance of supportive friendships and setting intentions for personal growth in the coming year.

        Takeaways

        • You are nothing without your health; prioritize it.
        • Don't let past experiences hinder future opportunities.
        • Manifestation is powerful, but expectations can trip you up.
        • Surrendering to the process is essential for growth.
        • Invest in self-confidence through positive actions.
        • Community support is vital for women in their 30s.
        • It's okay to take a break from dating to recharge.
        • Unexpected gifts can bring immense joy.
        • Focus on actions rather than just results.
        • Celebrate small victories and progress in life. Transformation can lead to a newfound sense of self-worth.
        • It's important to validate and uplift friends.
        • Following your feelings can lead to joy and fulfillment.
        • Mental health is an ongoing journey of self-discovery.
        • Therapy can provide valuable insights into mental health challenges.
        • Self-care products can enhance well-being and confidence.
        • Setting intentions for the year can guide personal growth.
        • Embracing a 'selfish' era can be empowering.
        • Progress is more important than perfection in personal growth.
        • Creating space for self-care is essential for mental clarity.

          • Chapters

          00:00 Introduction and Reflections on Health

          06:02 Lessons Learned from the Year

          11:54 Manifestation vs. Expectation

          17:59 Dating Insights and Self-Confidence

          24:24 Self-Care Rituals: Products That Enhance Well-Being

          33 min
        • [rerun!] green flags in dating

          In this lively conversation - that happened back in 2022!! - Meagan and Nicole discuss the importance of planning and initiative in dating, exploring what they consider green flags in relationships. The conversation touches on financial dynamics during dates, personal preferences, and the challenges of adulting, all while maintaining a humorous and light-hearted tone. In this engaging conversation, Meagan and Nicole explore various 'green flags' in dating, emphasizing the importance of emotional awareness, listening skills, and individuality. They discuss the significance of chivalry, vulnerability, and the ability to engage in deep conversations. The dialogue also touches on the impact of social media on relationships and the value of actions over words. Through humor and personal anecdotes, they highlight what makes a partner truly attractive and compatible.

          Takeaways

          • They emphasize the importance of positive reinforcement in dating.
          • The conversation highlights various green flags in relationships.
          • Initiative and planning are seen as attractive qualities in a partner.
          • Financial dynamics on dates are discussed, with a focus on expectations.
          • Personal preferences, such as attraction to certain styles, are explored.
          • Living arrangements and adulting challenges are humorously addressed.
          • The hosts reflect on their friendship and the importance of shared experiences. A garbage can in the bathroom is a green flag.
          • Men who floss show good hygiene and self-care.
          • Emotional awareness and self-improvement are attractive traits.
          • Listening and asking follow-up questions are essential in dating.
          • Navigating awkward dates requires self-awareness and communication.
          • Vulnerability in conversations can deepen connections.
          • Playfulness and willingness to engage in fun activities are important.
          • Respect for friends and family is a key indicator of compatibility.
          • Expressing individuality, like having painted nails or tattoos, is attractive.
          • Chivalry, such as walking a date to their car, shows care and respect.




            • 1 hr 2 min
          • episode 90 - so i guess i'm in charge now?

            In this episode of 'It's Cool Us Too', we chat about work - probably the only thing we're actually qualified to talk about (lol)! We share personal anecdotes about our work experiences, the lessons we've learned from our career journeys, and the importance of following your talent rather than your passions. The conversation also delves into the transition from individual contributor roles to leadership positions, highlighting the struggles and growth that come with managing teams.

            Takeaways

            • Navigating work in your mid-thirties can be challenging.
            • Personal experiences shape our career paths significantly.
            • It's important to learn what you don't like in your career.
            • Following your talents can lead to greater success than following passions.
            • Leadership often comes from natural tendencies rather than formal training.
            • Self-care is essential amidst career challenges.
            • Understanding your values can guide your career decisions.
            • Transitioning to leadership requires a shift in mindset.
            • Being a good manager involves letting your team take the lead.
            • Continuous learning is key to personal and professional growth.

              • Chapters

              00:00 Welcome and Personal Updates

              03:01 Navigating Work and Career Paths

              06:00 Career Journeys: From Education to Employment

              11:57 Lessons Learned from Career Challenges

              17:53 The Importance of Following Your Talents

              24:01 Transitioning to Leadership Roles

              30:11 Managing Teams and Leadership Styles


              We reference TikToks from @ScottGalloway and @gracemccarrick in this epi.



              36 min
            • episode 89 - starting fresh after a divorce

              In this episode, Meagan and Nicole chat with Hanna about her journey through divorce, raising 2 kids, and dating in your 30s. Hanna shares her experiences of navigating the challenges of being a single parent while managing her professional life. The conversation delves into the emotional complexities of separation, the importance of seeking professional guidance, and the transformative power of embracing a fresh start. Hanna reflects on the highs and lows of her new life, emphasizing the significance of listening to one's gut and prioritizing personal happiness. In this conversation, Hanna shares her experiences navigating the dating scene as a single mom post-divorce. She discusses the challenges of online dating, the stigma associated with being a divorced parent, and how her perspective on relationships has evolved. The conversation also touches on the importance of authenticity in dating, the societal shifts regarding divorce, and the value of friendships during life transitions. Hanna offers advice for women entering the dating scene after divorce and reflects on what living well in her 30s means to her.

              Takeaways

              • Divorce was a gradual realization rather than a sudden decision.
              • Listening to your gut is crucial in relationships.
              • Single parenthood comes with both challenges and opportunities.
              • Professional guidance can ease the separation process.
              • It's important to prioritize personal happiness post-divorce.
              • Children adapt to new family dynamics over time.
              • Finding joy in new hobbies and friendships is essential.
              • Embracing change can lead to personal growth.
              • Managing emotions as a single parent can be overwhelming. Navigating online dating as a single mom can be challenging.
              • Disclosing children on dating profiles can feel daunting but is essential for authenticity.
              • The stigma around divorce is lessening in society.
              • It's important to find a partner who adds value to your life.
              • Dating perspectives shift significantly after experiencing marriage and divorce.
              • Women often feel pressure regarding their desire for children on dating apps.
              • Friendships can deepen during challenging life transitions like divorce.
              • Living well in your 30s means prioritizing what truly matters to you.
              • It's okay to embrace a 'fuck it' attitude in dating.
              • Building a fulfilling life involves cutting out negativity and focusing on joy.

                • Chapters

                00:00 Introduction and Background

                05:59 The Decision to Separate

                12:02 Seeking Professional Guidance

                17:50 Embracing a Fresh Start

                31:04 Shifting Perspectives on Dating After Divorce

                39:10 Advice for Women Entering the Dating Scene Post-Divorce


                56 min
              • episode 88 - how to be happily single, right now

                In this episode of 'It's Cool Us Too', Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being women in their 30s, particularly focusing on the feelings of loneliness and societal pressures that arise during the winter months. They share personal anecdotes about dating, the excitement of preparing for a Taylor Swift concert, and the challenges of cooking and self-care. The conversation delves into the impact of social media on mental health and the importance of reframing feelings of singlehood. Through humor and vulnerability, they navigate the ups and downs of this stage in life, emphasizing the need for connection and understanding. In this conversation, Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of being single in their 30s, discussing the societal pressures of timelines in relationships, the joys of singlehood, and the emotional struggles that come with it. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging feelings, celebrating personal freedom, and finding community while navigating the ups and downs of love and connection.

                Takeaways

                • It's important to celebrate being single, especially in winter.
                • The winter months can amplify feelings of loneliness.
                • Cooking can be a therapeutic distraction.
                • Social media can negatively impact mental health.
                • Comparison with friends in relationships is common.
                • Finding joy in small moments is essential.
                • Creating your own fun and excitement is key.
                • Having supportive friends can help navigate tough feelings.
                • It's okay to feel overwhelmed during the holidays.
                • Embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Meeting a partner doesn't have a strict timeline.
                • Singlehood can offer unique joys and freedoms.
                • It's okay to feel bitterness while celebrating friends' successes.
                • Acknowledging feelings is crucial for emotional health.
                • Finding community can help shift negative energy.
                • New experiences can enrich your life and perspective.
                • Manifesting love involves believing it's possible for you.
                • Self-criticism can compound feelings of inadequacy.
                • Celebrating personal achievements is important, even if not recognized by society.
                • It's essential to focus on personal growth and connection.


                  • Chapters

                  00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Weekend Recap

                  03:00 Navigating the Excitement and Challenges of Dating

                  05:53 Preparing for the Taylor Swift Concert

                  09:01 The Impact of Seasonal Changes on Mental Health

                  12:03 Feeling Lonely in November

                  14:59 Coping Mechanisms for Singlehood in Winter

                  17:59 The Comparison Game and Societal Pressures

                  19:58 The Pressure of Timelines in Relationships

                  22:41 Celebrating Singlehood and Personal Freedom

                  24:15 Navigating Emotions: Bitterness and Joy

                  27:05 Acknowledging Feelings and Moving Forward

                  31:42 Finding Community and New Experiences

                  35:56 Manifesting Love and Connection


                  TikToks referenced by @melrobbins and @notskinnybutnotfat


                  42 min
                • episode 87 - breaking up with drinking

                  Sarah Gagne shares why she stopped drinking 2 years ago, discussing the challenges and insights she gained along the way. From her initial decision to stop drinking to the profound impact it had on her relationships and self-identity, Sarah emphasizes the importance of authenticity and finding peace in one's choices. The discussion also touches on the evolving nature of friendships and the spectrum of sober curiosity among peers, highlighting the personal growth that comes from embracing a healthier lifestyle. In this engaging conversation, the guests reflect on their personal journeys, focusing on themes of self-awareness, sobriety, and the transition into their 30s. They discuss the importance of trusting one's instincts, the value of relationships, and the lessons learned from past experiences. The dialogue emphasizes the beauty of embracing change and the wisdom that comes with age, particularly as they approach a new decade in life.


                  Takeaways

                  • ​Sarah has been sober for two years, which has opened up new experiences.
                  • ​She felt a constant battle between her hobbies and alcohol's influence.
                  • ​Breaking up with alcohol allowed her to focus on what adds value to her life.
                  • ​Self-discovery led her to realize she was more introverted than she thought.
                  • ​Her friendships have deepened, with more meaningful connections.
                  • ​She encourages others to find what makes them happy, regardless of societal expectations.
                  • ​The journey to sobriety is unique and should be viewed as a spectrum.
                  • ​Sarah emphasizes the importance of mental and physical well-being in her journey.
                  • ​She found that she didn't miss out on experiences after quitting drinking.
                  • ​Authenticity and self-assurance grew stronger after removing alcohol from her life. Trusting your gut is essential for personal growth.
                  • ​Embracing change can lead to beautiful outcomes.
                  • ​Self-awareness is a powerful tool for women.
                  • ​Relationships are the foundation of a fulfilling life.
                  • ​It's important to slow down and enjoy the process.
                  • ​Life is about continuous learning and applying lessons.
                  • ​Your 30s can be a time of beauty and self-assurance.
                  • ​Focus on what truly makes you happy.
                  • ​Don't let societal pressures dictate your path.


                  Chapters

                  00:00 Introduction and Eminem Nostalgia

                  02:32 Sarah's Journey to Sobriety

                  05:59 Breaking Up with Alcohol

                  11:50 Self-Discovery and Authenticity

                  19:37 Impact on Friendships and Relationships

                  23:01 Finding Balance and New Experiences

                  25:00 Embracing Change and Trusting Instincts

                  31:05 Reflections on Turning 30

                  40:12 Living Well in Your 30s





                  46 min
                • episode 86 - come as you are

                  This is a campaign against being the 'good company' friend. In this epi, hosts Nicole and Meagan explore the complexities of friendship, vulnerability, and authenticity, particularly as women navigate their 30s. They discuss the importance of being able to show up as one's true self, the societal pressures to be 'good company', and the need for flexibility and support in friendships. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, they emphasize the value of being present for friends during tough times and the significance of creating safe spaces for vulnerability. The conversation also touches on practical tips for deepening connections and fostering meaningful relationships.

                  Takeaways

                  • Authenticity is crucial in friendships.
                  • It's okay to be messy and vulnerable.
                  • Friendship should allow for flexibility and support.
                  • You don't have to be 'good company' all the time.
                  • Being present is more important than fixing problems.
                  • Reach out to friends when you need support.
                  • Create safe spaces for vulnerability in friendships.
                  • Games can help foster deeper connections.
                  • It's important to communicate your needs in friendships.
                  • Friendships can be the center of our universe.

                    • Chapters

                    00:00 Introduction to 'Come As You Are'

                    02:55 The Importance of Authenticity in Friendships

                    06:40 Navigating Vulnerability and Messiness

                    10:12 The Pressure to Be 'Good Company'

                    14:05 Understanding Emotional Needs in Friendships

                    18:04 Flexibility and Support in Friendships

                    21:54 Being Present: The Key to Friendship

                    25:06 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability

                    29:40 Tips for Deepening Friendships

                    32:34 Games and Activities to Foster Connection

                    36:56 Conclusion and Reflections


                    36 min

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