It's So Hard

Yes, yes, we are still on that break but it's Xmas and we felt it was only appropriate to celebrate somehow!

In this week's Xmas Quickie, we chat holiday plans, play some festive Truth or Drink and talk through our current fantasies. We also give our tips for managing a sometimes complex time of year, and you'll get a sneak peak of Tess' new Patreon series!

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

Yes, we're still on a break but it's an important week and we wanted to recognise the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers on the 17th Dec.

We continue Tess' discussion about assumptions of safety, violence and sex work: we consider the ways structural, cultural and direct violence impact sex workers and how important it is for all of us (looking at you too civvies!) to push for the structural justice of decriminalisation.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

We're technically on a break... but we couldn't help but share some of the other great content we've enjoyed making this year!

This week, you get a piece of Patreon with an edit of our discussion on International Sex Workers' Day 2021! We talk legislation, the history of sex workers' rights and how civvies can get educated and support those on the frontlines.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

We've reached our 50th ep and we're ready to party on It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry!

Jenn tries out her newfound skills to make some sexy cocktails, we set up a drinking game for our listeners and we muse about relationships and jealousy. Tess walks us through some work Q&As and Jenn shares more about her juicy public sex experience.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

A slight change of plans, but we roll with the punches for ep 49 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry

This week, Jen puts on some purple lippy, Tess gets a little tipsy and we get *erotic*! We take the Erotic Blueprint quiz by Jaiya, and decide we have quite a bit in common, we're both a little kinky AND we could all benefit from learning more about our own erotic needs and desires. 

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us at patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise
Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

Let's all bow our heads and hear the Word of Ep 48 for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.

That's right folks, Tess and Jenn get into some churchy business again. We talk public shame and restorative justice, how religion has fucked us up a little and that one time that Tess' sermon was too extreme for the cult!!!

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

Kate's back to finish our discussion for ep 47 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.

This week, we continue to mull over the highs and lows of breaking up, the attraction of ex sex and Tess talks about the process of breaking up with clients. Kate also advises against moving to the country for love and Jenn suggests we should all throw open the doors of possibility for what relationships, sex and intimacy should look like.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info/ or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

We welcome back Kate for ep 46 of It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.

In part one of this two-week ep, we dive into the criteria for a real breakup, what it means to start queer dating for the first time and the age-old question: to have the break-up fuck or not. Kate also shares her candle endeavours, Jenn reminisces about public sexy times and Tess gets hit on by an attractive mouse. There's a lot to take in here, folks!

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info or support us at patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

We're in our mid forties at It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry!

And to help us celebrate, Juno has dropped back in to catch up and chat about attraction, navigating civvy friendships and why capitalism is always the bad guy. We also cover stealthing as sexual assault, why Jenn is SO bad at flirting and Tess makes a sexual discovery.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. You can find us on social media @sohardpod, at our website itssohard.info or support us on patreon.com/itssohard.

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour. This week also includes an explicit discussion of sexual assault.

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32

Ep 44 is here for It's So Hard, the podcast about life in and around the sex industry.

This week, Jenn and Tess revisit coercive communication and behaviour. Jenn shares why she's hopeless at remembering appointments lately, we both agree that being late is the worst feeling ever and we muse over the nuances of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. On a more serious note, Tess then shares an experience of coercive behaviour with a client that resulted in sexual assault and we both discuss the ways that we can all avoid coercive dynamics and strive for healthy communication styles.

Join our hosts for a laugh, a muse and some of the real (and occasionally sexy!) convos. And if you're keen to participate in the pod, or just give us feedback, you can email us at [email protected].

Content Warning: NSFW, contains explicit sexual descriptions and some naughty humour. In addition, this week contains explicit descriptions of rape and sexual assault.

Hosts: Jenn and Tess Louise Intro Music: Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/58028 Ft: rslane32