Kindness and expectations—well there’s an oxymoron! How can you be authentically kind while having certain expectations? If I’m acting in a certain way so someone gives me what I want (some call it being “nice”), that’s built on expectations. Wanting something in return for your kindness does not stem from a place of generosity.

Kindness comes from a compassionate and loving heart; an outpouring of what you feel inside. If you have attachment issues, this can be a thorn in your side. You may find you have resistance toward being kind because you feel owed by someone, or maybe you feel empty and need them to fill you up. That powerlessness makes finding kindness inside you nearly impossible because you’re so focused on filling the empty space. Grasping for control takes precedence, causing you to focus on what’s missing instead of being grateful for what you have.

It’s a bit of a loop because practicing genuine kindness can help us become less attached. It can guide us beyond our self-made walls rather than hiding behind them. Join me to learn how ditching expectations can clear a path for genuine kindness and compassion to flow. Not only will those around you appreciate it, you’ll be a happier human.