Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this eye-opening episode, we explore the profound impact of polygraphs in the journey of healing from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Our special guest, Stephen Cabler, a renowned polygraph examiner, shares his extensive expertise and real-life experiences in polygraph testing for sex addiction recovery. Listen in as Stephen discusses the process, benefits, and limitations of polygraphs, and provides invaluable advice for both addicts and their betrayed partners. Whether you're dealing with addiction, betrayal, or both, this episode offers insights and strategies to support your path to recovery. Don't miss out on this deep dive into truth, trust, and healing. Subscribe for more inspiring stories and expert guidance. Visit joy-recovery.com for more support.

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of polygraphs for betrayal recovery with polygraph expert Stephen Cabler. Discover essential insights on preparing for full disclosures, uncovering the truth, and utilizing polygraphs as a tool for healing and rebuilding trust. Stephen shares his extensive experience, success stories, and personal anecdotes that provide hope and clarity for couples navigating the aftermath of sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Don't miss this thorough guide to everything related to infidelity polygraphs, and learn how we can support your recovery journey at Joy-Recovery.com. Follow us on Apple Podcasts, subscribe to our YouTube channel, and leave a 5-star review to help spread the message of hope and healing to more couples in need.

00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio

00:35 Special Guest: Stephen Cabler

01:19 Steven Cabler's Background and Experience

03:08 First Encounters with Polygraphs for Sex Addiction

05:29 The Emotional Impact of Polygraphs

13:14 The Role of Polygraphs in Full Disclosure

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Join us for another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we dive into traveling post-betrayal and infidelity. Hosts Roy and Jacqueline discuss the challenges and strategies for safe traveling, sharing six essential lessons learned and a five-step process they use. Whether you're planning a beach vacation or navigating local events, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining safety and unity within your relationship. Tune in for practical tips, personal anecdotes, and hope for journeying together again.

00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio

00:14 Travel and Recovery: Can We Go to the Beach Again?

00:56 Challenges and Sacrifices Post-Infidelity

06:53 Lessons Learned in Travel Safety

13:28 Creating a Safety Plan for Travel

16:59 Researching and Booking the Perfect Resort

19:51 Creating a Comprehensive Safety Plan

20:44 Navigating the Airport Safely

23:47 Strategies for a Safe and Enjoyable Resort Stay

30:17 Debriefing and Continuous Improvement

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Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio. In this episode, we explore seven different types of love according to the ancient Greeks and discuss which ones are vital for creating a new, intimate relationship after betrayal. We delve into the characteristics and roles of Eros, Phileo, Storge, Ludus, Mania, Pragma, and Agape, and how they each contribute to healing and rebuilding trust. We also provide practical tips and examples to help couples navigate the journey of recovery and build a stronger, more honest connection. Join us to discover how to transform your relationship with these timeless principles of love.

00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio

00:16 The Impact of Betrayal on Relationships

01:11 Rebuilding a New Relationship

01:48 Understanding Different Types of Love

04:01 Eros: Romantic and Passionate Love

08:08 Phileo: Friendship Love

13:02 Storge: Family Love

15:54 Ludus: Playful Love

19:34 Mania: Obsessive Love

22:17 Pragma: Enduring Love

25:42 Agape: Unconditional Love

32:40 Conclusion and Coaching Information

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Welcome to this episode of Joy Recovery Radio! Today, we delve into groundbreaking research comparing five interventions for sex addiction recovery: willpower, mindfulness, awe, life meaning and purpose, and distraction. Discover which intervention proved most effective in reducing desire and increasing self-agency among addicts. Learn about meaning-centered recovery, the concept of existential vacuum, and practical tools to integrate meaning and purpose into your daily life. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion rooted in both scientific research and theology.

00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio

00:05 Overview of the Study on Interventions

01:36 Detailed Description of the Five Interventions

07:18 Results: The Most Effective Intervention

09:44 Exploring Meaning-Centered Recovery

24:48 Practical Tools for Meaning-Centered Recovery

32:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Research Article:  https://doi.org/10.1080/26929953.2023.2272613

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In this emotionally charged episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the controversial topic of whether sex is a need. Our host, drawing from expertise in behavior science, theology, and personal experience with sexual integrity issues, argues that sex is a desire rather than a necessity. This discussion is primarily geared towards men struggling with sex addiction, but it is not intended for those dealing with sexual anorexia. Join us as we explore core shame-based false beliefs, such as the notion that sex is the greatest need and the main vehicle for love. We also examine how these beliefs can lead to justification of harmful behaviors and the importance of redefining intimacy within relationships. This episode offers a fresh perspective that aims to foster respectful discussion and personal growth. Your comments and alternative views are welcome!

00:00 Introduction to a Controversial Topic

00:55 Setting the Stage: Disclaimers and Focus

01:52 Main Thesis: Sex is Not a Need

04:09 False Beliefs and Misconceptions

06:33 The Chemical Addiction Behind Sex Addiction

08:30 Rewiring the Brain: Abstinence and Recovery

08:57 The Problem with the Word 'Need'

10:28 Man Box Thinking and Entitlement

11:26 Cultural and Faith-Based Misconceptions

16:25 The True Purpose of Sex

19:48 Conclusion: Embracing a Healthier Perspective

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we continue exploring the Minwalla model by diving into Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (DCSR) and its impacts. Building on part one, we discuss the secret sexual basement analogy, deceptive sexuality, trauma on victims, and the next steps for both betrayers and victims. Join us as we delve into the unique form of trauma caused by deceptive sexuality, its parallels with PTSD and Complex PTSD, and the three phases of trauma as outlined in the Minwalla model. Learn how to process this extensive trauma and find healing steps for both perpetrators and victims.

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Part One

00:56 Understanding Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (DCSR)

01:31 The Secret Sexual Basement: A Deeper Dive

08:50 The Impact of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma

14:52 Phases of Deceptive Sexuality Trauma

26:46 Next Steps for Victims and Abusers

34:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Understanding the Minwalla Model: Deceptive Sexuality and Integrity Abuse Disorder - Joy Recovery Radio Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio's new multi-part series exploring the Minwalla Model. In this episode, we delve into the concepts of deceptive sexuality and integrity abuse disorder, explaining how these issues result in unique forms of trauma for all involved. This educational content is designed to provide insights, especially for those in recovery or related coaching practices. We discuss the components of compulsive entitled sexuality, the societal influences shaping male behavior, and the profound impact this has on partners and family members. Please practice self-care while engaging with this material, and consider the advice to process this individually before discussing it in your coupleship.

00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio

00:51 Introduction to the Minwalla Model

03:20 Understanding Deceptive Sexuality

05:19 Compulsive Entitled Sexuality (CES)

06:59 Sources of Entitlement

10:58 The Man Box and Masculine Entitlement

22:04 Integrity Abuse Disorder

26:18 The Secret Sexual Basement

31:20 Sociopathic Behaviors and Deceptive Sexuality Trauma

32:53 Conclusion and Next Steps

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In this compelling episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction and recovery. Focusing on the concept of powerlessness, we emphasize the importance of free will and mental autonomy in overcoming addictive behaviors. Challenging the belief that addiction is an involuntary condition, we explore how personal choice and perspective shifts play a critical role in the recovery process. Join us as we debunk the idea that factors like genetics, trauma, or emotional distress force individuals to act out, and learn how belief systems influence recovery outcomes. Understand why quitting problematic behaviors hinges on being fully convinced that a life without addiction is the most attractive and fulfilling option. Tune in now to reclaim control and reframe your approach to recovery.

00:00 Understanding Powerlessness in Recovery

01:20 The Gift of Free Will and Mental Autonomy

03:01 Challenging Recovery Assumptions

04:08 The Myth of Loss of Control

07:02 Addiction and Free Will

08:32 Neuroplasticity and Habit Formation

14:24 Debunking Genetic and Childhood Causes

21:55 Learned Connections and Sobriety

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the complex topic of emotional distance by exploring the mindset of a sex addict. Share in a personal journey to understand why intimacy is often avoided and emotions suppressed. Learn about Dr. Minwalla's concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder (IAD) behaviors and the fight, flight, and freeze responses. The episode also discusses how deeply embedded childhood survival mechanisms can affect adult relationships, offering insights into how emotional withdrawal can be unlearned through courage and vulnerability. Join us to transform emotional distance into emotional repair and forge stronger, more intimate connections.

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Distance

00:58 Understanding Emotional Withdrawal

05:53 The Freeze Response Explained

09:24 Childhood Roots of Emotional Suppression

12:51 The Cost of Emotional Suppression

17:17 The Path to Emotional Intimacy

24:15 The Challenge of Vulnerability

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