Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we delve into the concept of 'acting in' as opposed to 'acting out.' Using insights from psychologist Donald Nathanson's work on shame, we explore the core wounds of insignificance, incompetence, and impotence that often drive shame-based belief systems. Learn about Nathanson's 'compass of shame' and the four poles of shame responses: avoiding, attacking others, attacking oneself, and hiding. This episode focuses on 'acting in,' or intimacy avoidance, highlighting eight common techniques like stonewalling, controlling with anger, and withholding love. We'll also discuss potential counterbalances to these behaviors and how to foster genuine intimacy and connection. Join us to better understand the dynamics of shame and intimacy avoidance, and how to move towards a healthier, more intimate relationship.

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, join us as we delve deep into the topic of resentment and its critical role in addiction and recovery. Coaches Roy and Jacqueline explore their unique framework called S-ABCD, illustrating how shame, addiction, bitterness, control, and deceptive beliefs interlink to create a complex system of living and thinking. This episode specifically focuses on resentment—its origins, effects, and the multifaceted emotions it involves. The discussion further covers how addicts often project resentment onto their partners and how to navigate these emotional challenges. Practical tips include self-reflection, proper boundary-setting, and leveraging gratitude to eliminate resentment. Tune in to gain insights on transforming resentment into personal growth, healthier relationships, and lasting recovery.

00:00 Understanding the Framework of Recovery

04:32 Exploring the Concept of Resentment

05:04 Personal Reflections on Resentment

07:08 Resentment in Relationships

14:14 Managing Resentment and Setting Boundaries

31:12 Forgiveness and Gratitude

40:42 Conclusion and Call to Action

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy delves into the complex topics of lust and objectification, exploring whether they are morally wrong and why. Drawing on both scripture and behavioral science, Roy illustrates how these two fields often converge in their understanding of human behavior. He explains Jesus's teachings on lust from the Gospel of Matthew and parallels them with findings from behavioral studies on objectification and approach bias. Roy emphasizes the distinction between consumer and covenant relationships, highlighting the moral and injurious nature of treating sex as a consumer good. The episode concludes with actionable steps to combat lust, emphasizing the need for extreme measures and a transformed mindset to foster healthy, covenantal relationships.

00:00 Exploring Lust and Objectification

00:24 Scripture and Behavioral Science

02:24 Understanding Approach Bias

04:37 Teachings of Jesus on Lust

05:59 Covenant vs. Consumer Relationships

08:27 The Nature of Lust

12:30 Principles and Actions Against Lust

27:13 Extreme Measures to Combat Lust

29:50 Conclusion and Resources

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Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio with Jacqueline and Roy. Today, they dive into a sensitive and significant topic — overcoming lust, also known as objectification. Sharing their personal journey, they introduce their unique approach and the four phases they went through: defining the line, detecting the line, defending the line, and devoting the line. They discuss tools like Dr. Carnes' arousal template, the practice of 'bouncing the eyes,' and the importance of transparency and mutual support in their relationship. They also address the dangers of 'dancing on the line' and emphasize the importance of honesty, integrity, and self-control in recovery. This episode is packed with practical advice, personal experiences, and valuable insights for anyone facing similar struggles.

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy discusses the critical distinction between addiction and abuse, particularly in the context of compulsive sexual behavior. He emphasizes the importance of terminology, arguing that focusing solely on addiction can overshadow the reality of abuse and its impact on victims. Roy introduces the Minwalla model, which addresses both compulsive behavior and abusive dynamics, advocating for a holistic approach to recovery that prioritizes the well-being of victims.

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