In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore the crucial role of empathy in healing relationships after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Learn practical strategies and deep insights to enhance your empathic abilities. We discuss the definition of empathy, barriers to becoming empathic, and the five levels of empathy using the Carkhuff Empathy Scale. Discover how empathic communication can facilitate the healing process and rebuild trust between partners. Join us as we dive deep into understanding and improving empathy to support your partner's recovery journey.

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Breaking the Chains of Self-Deception: Healing After Infidelity | Joy Recovery Radio

Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the role of self-deception in addiction, especially related to sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We explore how self-deception is foundational to addiction, the ways it manifests, and practical strategies to overcome it. Learn about the importance of self-awareness, feedback, and an intimate relationship with God. This episode aims to provide clarity, comfort, and new perspectives on your healing journey. Join us and discover a path toward genuine healing and hope.

00:00 Understanding the Heart and Self-Deception

02:49 Biblical Perspective on Self-Deception

04:37 Practical Examples of Self-Deception

07:07 Blame Shifting and Its Impact

10:56 Cycle of Abuse and Upcoming Webinar

12:05 Justification and Rationalization

13:26 Minimization and Denial

15:33 Shame and Sexuality

18:01 Breaking the Cycle of Self-Deception

18:20 Self-Awareness and Relationships

22:15 Reflective Questions and Conclusion

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss the critical issue of abusive behavior among sex addicts, through the lens of the Minwalla model and biblical teachings. We emphasize the importance of personal accountability and rejecting abusive behavior. Host Roy expands on how abusive behavior and addiction stem from the same root issue—a heart of pride—and explains how cultivating a heart of humility through daily practices and spiritual guidance can lead to transformational healing. Practical insights and personal experiences are shared to inspire and guide both addicts and their partners toward a lasting recovery. Visit Joy-Recovery.com for additional support and resources.

00:00 Understanding Abusive Behavior in Sex Addicts

02:06 Foundational Assumptions for Addressing Abuse

05:01 Common Misconceptions About Abuse

10:35 The Root Cause of Abuse: A Heart Problem

15:37 Transforming Pride into Humility

21:00 Jesus' Teachings on Power and Humility

25:46 Personal Testimony and Daily Practice

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In today's episode, we explore an excerpt from our Conscious Contact group focusing on the spiritual side of recovery. Learn from expert teachings, including a four-phase process inspired by Dr. Robert Enright and the teachings of Jesus, to identify, process, and work through resentments. We delve into exploring resentments, committing to change, the work of forgiveness, and achieving freedom from emotional prisons. Join us for this insightful journey towards healing and forgiveness. Visit joy-recovery.com for more resources and support.

00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio

00:43 Introduction to Conscious Contact

01:24 Understanding and Identifying Resentments

01:52 Exploring the Roots of Resentments

03:41 Differences and Expectations in Relationships

05:53 Valid vs. Invalid Resentments

07:31 The Three I's of Shame and Projection

09:54 Primary and Secondary Wounds

11:29 Committing to Forgiveness

16:10 Rehumanizing the Perpetrator

21:00 Giving the Gift of Forgiveness

24:56 Stepping into Freedom

28:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate relationship between deception and sex addiction. Discover the science of what happens in the brain when we lie, the role of the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and nucleus accumbens, and how chronic dishonesty can affect cognitive function and emotional regulation. Learn about the potential for neuroplasticity and actionable steps to rewire your brain for honesty and integrity. Join us for insights, strategies, and hope for couples navigating recovery from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma.

00:00 Introduction to Deception and Sex Addiction

01:54 The Neurological Impact of Lying

02:45 Key Brain Players in Deception

06:50 The Role of Deception in Sex Addiction

09:01 The Downward Spiral of Chronic Lying

13:40 Hope Through Neuroplasticity

15:45 Steps to Rewire Your Brain for Honesty

21:35 Harnessing Dopamine for Positive Change

23:46 Final Message of Hope and Summary

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Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio, where we provide insights, strategies, and real-life stories to help couples heal after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. In this episode, hosts Roy and Jacqueline introduce a new series on the Minwalla Model's IAD Behaviors, diving deep into deception and manipulation. Discover how deceit, from bold-faced lies to gaslighting, impacts both parties and learn strategies to rebuild trust with radical honesty and accountability. Join us as we explore the path from pain to purpose, ensuring that you don't have to walk this journey alone.

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In this episode, we discuss the top 10 key traits essential for rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships affected by infidelity. Join us as we share our stories, strategies, and insights on how to navigate the path of recovery together. From the importance of full disclosure to cultivating emotional intimacy and developing a shared vision for the future, we cover all the critical steps needed for healing. Subscribe and like our episodes to help spread this message of hope and healing to more couples in need.

00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio

00:54 Personal Gratitude and Relationship Insights

01:42 The Journey of Recovery

04:37 Full Disclosure and Safeguards

09:16 Rebuking All Forms of Acting Out

12:15 Building a New Relationship from the Ground Up

17:43 Commitment to Communication

21:20 Breaking Down Walls of Secrecy

22:18 Daily Acts of Care

23:24 Vulnerability and Prioritization

27:17 Building a Future Together

33:38 Individual Healing Work

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In this episode, we're diving deep into the critical role of emotional intimacy in relationships, especially post-betrayal. Join Roy and Jacqueline as they introduce the revolutionary HELP tool designed to help men cultivate vulnerability, create new neural pathways, and redefine masculinity. Discover practical strategies to rebuild trust, enhance emotional connection, and start a transformative movement towards emotional growth. 

00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio

00:41 The Importance of Emotional Intimacy

01:20 Understanding Emotional Intimacy

02:41 Challenges in Rebuilding Intimacy

05:28 Men and Emotional Vulnerability

08:33 The Power of Neuroplasticity

15:08 Introducing the HELP Tool

19:16 Implementing the HELP Tool

23:06 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

26:51 Closing Remarks

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we explore why men often struggle with emotional attunement and how this impacts their recovery journey after betrayal trauma and sexual infidelity. Discover key insights into emotional intelligence (EQ), the 'man box' concept, and how societal norms influence men's emotional expression. Learn five main reasons men struggle emotionally and five actionable strategies to improve emotional intelligence, fostering deeper, more fulfilling connections within relationships. Tune in for practical advice, real-life stories, and expert guidance to help both addicts and their partners navigate the difficult path of recovery and healing.

00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio

00:48 Episode Introduction: Emotional Attunement in Men

01:02 Understanding Emotional Stagnation in Addicts

01:59 The Concept of Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

02:50 The Importance of Emotional Attunement in Relationships

04:05 Five Reasons Men Struggle with Emotions

04:14 Reason 1: Lack of Emotional Role Models

05:14 Reason 2: The Man Box and Masculinity

08:28 Reason 3: Emotional Transference in Sports

12:25 Reason 4: The Double Bind of Emotional Expression

13:35 Reason 5: Fear of Losing Control

15:14 Five Solutions to Improve Emotional Intelligence

15:19 Solution 1: Recognizing Emotional Awareness

17:30 Solution 2: Reducing Distractions and Embracing Solitude

19:25 Solution 3: Practicing Emotional Labeling

21:24 Solution 4: Lowering Your Emotional Shield

22:38 Solution 5: Embracing the Big Five Emotions

23:59 Encouragement for Betrayed Partners

26:46 Conclusion and Call to Action

28:40 Closing Remarks and Resources

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In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss how couples can navigate the journey of healing after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. We emphasize the importance of transparency, acceptance, and support, providing men with practical guidance through 12 essential actions and 5 critical mistakes to avoid. Our conversation draws on the expertise of Dr. William Clark, Dr. Ken McGill, Dr. Omar Minwalla, and Michelle Mays. Tune in for insights, strategies, and real-life stories to help rebuild trust and a new life together.

00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio

00:54 Introduction to Today's Episode

01:45 Guidance for Betrayers: The Big Ticket Items

03:45 The 12 Do's for Healing

16:02 The 5 Don'ts for Healing

21:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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