K is for Kinky!

This week, we discuss the intersection of purity culture and how AFAB folks tangle with body image upon entering and learning to navigate the scene. What can the pressures of idealized body image do to a person? And how can we start to reject the false standards of beauty taught to us through media and social reinforcement?

Please note that in this episode, we used the terms "male-bodied" and "female-bodied" but have since learned more and are changing our language to "AFAB" and "AMAB" in future discussions moving forward!

Here's an article on purity culture! --> Purity Culture and Its Effect on Mental Health (verywellmind.com)

**TRIGGER WARNING** We will be discussing purity culture, referencing rape culture briefly as it is correlated to purity culture, and discussing the impact of distorted body image & body dysmorphia.

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

Have you ever wondered what the appeal is when it comes to kinkifying religion & religious trauma? There is something so alluring and taboo about this sacred form of play and inversion - many people are curious, and some are downright scared to look closer. Join us as we interview Miss Blu Thiccc'ems (tatted_unicorn on fet!) and she takes us through her journey into coping with religious trauma through kink!

If you are interested in Miss Blu's Church of Blasphemy class series, check out the link here and follow her on fetlife for more! ---> Blu’s Church of Blasphemy - Event | FetLife

**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode contains references to the following content which some may find triggering or disturbing:

• References to underage kink & sex (this non-explicit part of Miss Blu's story is included because we are committed to honoring people's life experiences. K is for Kinky does not condone or endorse underage kink or pedophilia of any kind!) Specific reference begins at 10:20 in the episode and ends at 12:18.
• References to child abuse and religious trauma start at 13:05 and goes until 14:46.
• From minutes 19:12 to 26:52, Miss Blu discusses childhood abuse, religious trauma, and a corrective kink experience. These stories are graphic and may be disturbing to some listeners. A trigger warning is inside the episode to cue you in case you are listening and need the verbal reminder!

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You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

A listener wrote in with a great question that many Tops struggle with...how do we stay connected in scenes and show up with our full selves? How do we access our vulnerability as Tops? In a world where Tops are often portrayed as knowing it all, doing it all, and somehow embodying calm aloofness at all times, we need to be able to detangle the fantasy and look at the real goal...which is human beings showing up for each other be they Tops or bottoms. What does it take to be your full self in a scene? And how can you stand strong in your role without sacrificing your authenticity?

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You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

Did you know there's a kink server for SoCal where 300+ members hang out, go to munches, and even throw their own gatherings? Welcome to So Cal Kink (aka SCK), the server that started small and boomed during the covid shutdowns! We interview Cid, the incredibly kind organizer who designed the SCK server and poured his passion into creating a safer community space where people could be themselves and form lasting friendships.

How did SCK get started? Why is Cid called "Cid?" And when is a leader not a leader?

Find out in this episode of K is for Kinky!

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You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

For the very first episode of season 3, we sit down with Mistress Cyan to discuss what it's like to start and manage a dungeon space! If you have ever thought about opening your own dungeon or want to know some of the behind-the-scenes details about what it takes to make ends meet and build connections, this is definitely a must-listen episode!

Please consider helping out our homeless/unhoused population in the Los Angeles area! One easy way of doing this is to donate funds or time to an organization that distributes resources to the homeless. We want to highlight Solidarity & Snacks, a ragtag mutual aid group that distributes supplies to skid row every Saturday. Click on the link below to find out more!

Solidarity and Snacks | Twitter | Linktree

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You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

In this final episode before Season 3, we answer a listener question about how to dismount from a scene that goes sour. What happens internally when we wonder if it's time to call a scene, and how do we recover in the aftermath? We discuss this from the Topside, bottomside, and even through the lens of first-time-scenes vs. established play partnerships! Calling a scene doesn't have to be a bad thing. Let's talk about why so many of us struggle with discomfort, and how to reframe the process of calling a scene!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him

Happy Holidays from K is for Kinky!

We wanted to share this top-secret hot take with all of you as a special thank you for tuning into season 2! As the year closes, we are taking a little breather to get through the holidays and set up our schedule for season 3! More changes will be announced in our final episode of the season, so keep an eye out for that and get ready for a brand new season starting next January!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

We answer a listener question about how to maintain long-term dynamics and relationships. It's a heartfelt take on what it really means to watch a person grow over time, including reflections on our own relationship and the impact of personal development and organic change in how we view ourselves, what we want, and the impact this can have on our partnerships. We get into the organs of this question, but we also provide some concrete tips to keep your relationship fresh!

Most of all, we hope you take away from this episode that no relationship is perfect. People change over time, and there are always ups & downs. If you are struggling in your relationship or simply wondering what it's like to be in a long-term dynamic, we can offer insight into our own journey that will hopefully be useful as you navigate your life!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

This holiday season we want to pour some love onto one of our favorite vendors...The Kinky Peach! Join us as we explore their website thoroughly, complete with genuine reactions and descriptions of some pretty innovative, adorable toys! If you stay tuned for the whole episode, you might even get a 15% off discount code...

Are YOU a vendor with unique kinky stuff? Send us an email at [email protected] to see if we can help spotlight you in 2024!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

A lot of people know the phrase, "Your kink is not my kink and that's ok!" But kinkshaming manifests in lots of different ways, and this conversation addresses some of the nuances between internalized reactions, processing, projections of discomfort, and the space between kinkshaming and discussing risks and concerns.

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

~*~

Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!