K is for Kinky!

We've got one word for you: coulrophobia.

It's everywhere! Literally. Thanks to the TV series "IT" and the movie remake by Stephen King, multiple generations are now terrified of clowns. But did you know that clown play goes beyond fear? Join us this week to hear from Unger, a kinkster with two clown personas who shares why he enjoys this unique fetish...and why sometimes, it's ok to approach street clowns (but seriously, maybe don't?)

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**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses clowns. If you are scared of clowns and cannot tolerate hearing about them, skip this one!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

Happy Halloween! It's time for us to answer a question nobody is asking (but we all really ought to) ... what do vampires and kinksters have in common? Besides frequenting dungeons, you'd be surprised by this theory that vampires are coded to represent a lot more than a creepy guy with hunger pangs!

We discuss many TV shows & books, so please heed the spoiler list below before listening. And much love to all of the authors, directors, and creators who have contributed to modern vampire lore! At the end of the day, we're all entitled to our opinions...but if somebody made this list, it's because they did something impactful with their art! Whether you sparkle in the daylight or get burned to a crisp, we hope you enjoy this Halloween special!

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**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses vampires and occasionally references things like blood. In particular, a throwback to our bloodplay episode can be avoided by skipping the following time stamps [9:38-9:52].

**SPOILER ALERT** We reference multiple movies and TV shows in this episode with several instances where certain parts are spoiled!

• "What We Do in the Shadows" is referenced in the opening [starting at 1:42 and ending at 2:09] & again in more detail later on [starting at 17:12 and ending at 18:55] with other mentions [starting at 32:00 and ending at 33:00] and finishing with a MAJOR POTENTIAL SPOILER from [34:50 to 35:18].
• Bram Stoker's "Dracula" is referenced [starting at 10:38 and ending at 10:48] with a few non-specific mentions throughout the rest of the episode.
• Anne Rice's body of work, but more specifically "Interview with a Vampire," is referenced multiple times throughout the episode. To avoid hearing explicit spoilers for Anne Rice, skip through the following time stamps [starting at 12:26 and ending at 12:54] & again [starting at 19:10 and ending at 20:18].
• "True Blood" is referenced multiple times [starting at 15:57 and ending at 16:05] and again [starting 28:33 and ending at 30:46].
• "Buffy" in referenced non-explicitly in the first 20 minutes but gets a slightly more thorough discussion later [starting at 20:20 and ending at 23:01] and again [starting at 23:29 and ending at 24:22].
• "Twilight" is brought up and spoilers are dropped [starting at 24:26 and ending at 28:27].
• Outside of earlier passing references, we end on the 2022 "Interview with a Vampire" TV series, which you can skip if you wish using these time stamps [starting at 35:19 and ending at 36:29].
• Other shows like "Vampire Diaries" are mentioned but not discussed in any spoiler-y detail!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

Happy Halloween! We are so excited for spooky season and thought we'd celebrate by doing a vewy scawy episode all about:

BLOODPLAY!

For real. This episode, we interview the amazing Sox to learn a little bit about the world of bloodplay. We cover safety, types of bloodplay, why this kink is so interesting...and why you should do your research before playing with leeches.

The audio quality of this episode is haunted - a ghost got in the machine and really jammed things up. We apologize! As a treat to make up for this trick, Eden commentates. So if you're ready to have a bloody good time, hit the play button and enjoy this K is for Kinky interview!

**TRIGGER WARNING!** This episode in its entirety has the potential to be triggering if you are squeamish about blood. There are also mentions of leech-play with a trigger warning inside of the episode to help you avoid the story. You have been warned! Please do not consume this episode if you are already getting squicked out by the title!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

It's a pretty steep climb to the top! What do new Tops face when they come into the scene? Miss Jenn and Eden share their own experiences and feelings on the subject, including:

• The burden on Tops to "know things"
• Being safe by being honest
• Pacing scenes
• Getting to know your own style
• ...and much more!

Make sure to check out our instagram so that you can follow along with our weekly Cheeky notes, selfies, and funny memes! We are KisforKinky :)

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

If you know, you know: it's a really big challenge to be a parent, let alone a parent who leads a covert kinky lifestyle!

• What do you do when your kiddos are too young to be left at home?
• How can shared custody impact opportunities to explore the scene?
• At what age is it okay to leave the kids behind to take a night for yourself?
• And most challenging of all...what do you do when your child gets old enough to ask questions about kink?

This episode IS about kinksters who are parents. This episode is NOT about raising children within BDSM, nor do we condone exposing children to BDSM or other adult activities. We are here to have a conversation about the nuance and balancing act that raising kiddos requires when you lead a kinky double-life!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

In this episode, Jenn & Eden answer a listener question about exhibitionism & possessive behavior in relationships. Why do so many people find possessiveness, protectiveness, and even jealousy arousing? How can we safely play with these feelings without crossing the line into toxic behavior? And how do you break the news to your partner that you like it when they get a little jealous?

Jenn & Eden cover:

• The broad range of behaviors that could fall under an exhibitionist category
• Why we might enjoy exhibitionism - is it embarrassing/humiliating, is it exciting? What's underneath this fetish?
• We explore some healthy ways to consensually explore possessive behavior
• ...and also some not-so-healthy examples of possessiveness going sideways!
• Bonus roleplay included!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

In this episode, Jenn & Eden answer a listener question about what the difference is between a Dominant and a Master/Mistress!

You will hear...

• What a kink is vs. what a role/honorific is
• The spectrum of roles & the overlapping spectrum of power exchange
• What some people think it means to be a Master/Mistress
• Adjectives vs. Roles
• Whether or not the BDSMtest.org is a true litmus test of who you are and what you're into (our answer may shock and/or delight you!)

What did YOU get on the BDSMtest.org test??? Tell us on discord or email us at [email protected]!

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**Episode Resources**

• Psychology Today Article on Kinks - What Is Kink? | Psychology Today
• BDSMtest.org Test - BDSM Test: What kind of sexual deviant are you?

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

Have you ever thought of dressing up like a schoolgirl and getting spanked? How about doing a roleplay where you call your naughty submissive into the principal's office? Student/Teacher and school-themed roleplays are some of the most prevalently discussed fantasies in vanilla and BDSM culture alike...but why? What is so enticing about these archetypes? Most importantly, how can we use roleplay to explore the darker corners of our psyche?

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**Trigger Warning** This episode discusses the way our culture fetishizes teenage sexuality. While it is not the main subject of this episode, it is acknowledged and referenced by the hosts as a legitimate and important aspect of reflecting upon why the teacher/student roleplay kink is so prevalent. If you do not want to hear about the way our culture portrays teenagers in media, please check out a different episode of K is for Kinky!

**SPOILER ALERT** We reference multiple movies and TV shows in this episode with several instances where certain parts of each story are spoiled! The 1996 movie "Matilda" is openly discussed [spoiler starts at 14:20 and ends at 15:27 and comes up AGAIN from 30:20 to 30:27], the plot of the 2006 movie "Loving Annabelle" is described in detail [spoiler starts at 15:38 and ends at 16:17], very basic references to the Breakfast Club are made [spoiler starts at 17:30 and ends at 17:54], aspects of the Witcher are discussed pertaining to Yennifer of Vengerberg's origin story [spoiler starts at 24:36 and ends at 26:06], mild spoilers for The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina Season 1 are referenced [spoiler starts at 27:47 and ends at 28:20], and aspects of the show Wednesday are discussed [spoiler starts at 28:23 and ends at 28:40]. Other movies and TV shows are also referenced, but nothing said is spoiler-worthy!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

***Originally, this episode was called "Chewers VS Spewers," a phrase we heard without knowing for sure where it originated from! We have since had it brought to our attention that Multiamory did a podcast in 2020 which covered these terms, so we wanted to credit them with popularizing this concept and discussing it first! Thank you Multiamory (and others who have used these terms before us!) We always try to credit our sources and appreciate this opportunity to acknowledge Multiamory for the contributions they have made to this discourse!***

Almost every relationship has one...a chewer (somebody who needs a freakin' second to process and figure stuff out before continuing an argument) and a spewer (the person who canon-balls into every argument because wading sucks). PUN INTENDED. In this episode, we talk about these two conversation/argument styles and how to manage the gap between chewing and spewing!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!

What are the top 5 hardest things about being a Dominant when you're in a 24/7 dynamic and you live together? Miss Jenn talks about Her experiences in the hopes that sharing will make other D-types feel less isolated if they are struggling with similar challenges. D/s is not easy, but the benefits of doing it well and the collaborative growth that occurs is well worth it!

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We will be dropping episodes every Wednesday at 5AM PST, so stay tuned for next week's episode and be well, precious kinklings!

You can follow us on instagram, facebook, and twitter @kisforkinky - and leave a review if you really want to knock our socks off!

Psst...don't forget to become a patron! https://www.patreon.com/kisforkinky

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Our kickass theme song was crafted by Adam - contact us at [email protected] if you want to reach him!