Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different.

In Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned.

Some key takeaways:

1. It’s helpful for kids to have a sense for the work that parents put into giving them the life that they have.  Tough moments can create opportunities for them to step up and be helpful.
2. Sometimes divorce allows someone to be a better parent.  It may seem counterintuitive, but a toxic relationship can suck up an outsized amount of energy. 
3. When you as a mom are able to come from a happy and healthy place, that positively impacts all of your relationships.
4. Let your kids see your emotions.  It can open the door to talk about big feelings.
5. Normalize that idea that romantic relationships have seasons and phases, just like friendships, and may not last forever.  Help them understand when and how to let go in a healthy way.
6. Teach your daughters what a healthy relationship looks like.
7. Remember that we are not merely the roles we play.  The role of “mom” is just one part of our selves.

To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out:

• www.thirstythepodcast.com
• Instagram:  @thirstythepodcast

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How do we define "mindset"?  Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.  

Mary Beth Henry touches on: 

• The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are
• Why modeling a growth mindset is so important
• The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset
• How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity

Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny podcast missteps. So many trials and hiccups behind the scenes...she shares one that involved her daughters.

For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry

• www.mary-beth-henry.com
• Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can
• LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry
• Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on your favorite podcast platform
• Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp.  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9th 2022.

Other references in this episode:

• What did we get from our parents that we are passing on to our kids? Check out Ep. 30, Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning it Around // with Dr. Stephanie J. Wong.
• Ep. 27, Positive Psychology and Rewiring Your Brain For The Better // with Mary Beth Henry

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How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids?  If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions.

In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns.  

Stephanie shares: 

• What generational patterns are
• How we can better identify them
• What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful:  https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/genograms
• How to get deeper self awareness, especially in relation to our kids
• A perspective-shifting approach that can help us deal with opposition and pushback from our kids
• The one reminder she wants to share with us all 

Stephanie Wong is an Asian American, licensed clinical psychologist, entrepreneur, and founder and host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast. She works in private practice with Tech professionals, most of which are ethnic minorities, and at a hospital, serving military veterans. Her training in clinical interviewing has led to fireside chats with diverse podcast guests about advancing their careers and addressing mental health and cultural identity.  Dr. Wong is also a keynote speaker in academic, entertainment, and corporate settings, sharing her expertise in Asian American mental health, diversity training, and the treatment of anxiety, depression, substance use, work-related stress, and relationship and cultural concerns.

To learn more about Dr. Stephanie Wong and the award-winning The Color of Success Podcast:

• www.colorofsuccesspodcast.com 
• Instagram:  @color_of_success
• Twitter:  @DrStephJWong 
• Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/colorofsuccess
• LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/color-of-success-podcast

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How often do you stop to question the expectations you have for yourself? How do we figure out what's a healthy expectation, and what's not?

Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Marie Hogan-Werner, as she discusses challenging expectations and talks about her new book, “A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You.”  

Julia shares: 

• What inspired her to write the book
• Why we need to challenge expectations
• How to spot faulty expectations
• How she’s redefining “work in progress”

Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here:

• www.juliamariehogan.com – you can find her new book here, as well as on Our Sunday Visitor and Amazon.
• Instagram:  @juliahoganlcpc
• Sign up for her monthly newsletter here!

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What is positive psychology?  Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.  

Mary Beth Henry shares: 

• What positive psychology is
• How it differs from toxic positivity
• Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives
• The one thought she wants listeners to know!

For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry

• www.mary-beth-henry.com
• Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can
• LinkedIn:  www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry
• Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast platform
• Her newest program is called Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp.  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9, 2022.

Other references in this episode:

• Finding your daughter’s strengths:  listen to Ep. 7 with Wendy Synder - 10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter, and Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark! - Self-love and Second-guessing Society’s Definition of Success
• VIA Character Strengths Assessment - free online test to help identify your strengths

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Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity.

This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias.

While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it all out -- what gender bias is, how it shows up in women's lives, and what we can do about it.

In this episode on bias against women and girls, we cover:

• The definition of gender bias
• The most common biases that women face
• The bias that ties into imposter syndrome
• 4 ways women can move the needle on gender bias in the workplace
• 7 tips for helping reduce the negative impact of gender bias on our daughters
• One bonus tip for how to break your biases

Other references in this episode:

• Ep. 26 - Cynthia Changyit Levin - "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World"
• Ep. 11 - Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle - Unpacking Gender Equity

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As moms, we are powerful creatures. We know we have an impact on our children’s lives, and our families. 

But have you ever wondered, “How can I be a part of even bigger changes, bigger movements?”

In today’s episode, Cynthia Changyit Levin, author of From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started - discusses advocacy, motherhood, and points us in the direction to make even broader societal changes. 

Cynthia: 

• Gives us a simple definition of advocacy
• Shares how she got started
• Outlines the benefits of advocacy and tween & teen girls
• Demystifies the process
• Empowers us to get started!

For more info and to follow Cynthia Changyit Levin:

• www.changyit.com
• Instagram:  @ccylevin
• Twitter:  @ccylevin
• On International Women’s Day, March 8, you’ll be able to order From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started on Amazon and your favorite bookstores. But before March 8, 2022, you can order an autographed copy at www.changyit.com/books

Other references in this episode:

• Sunrise Movement- Youth org for climate justice – https://www.sunrisemovement.org/
• UNICEF UNITE - youth clubs for global health – https://www.unicefusa.org/startaclub
• RESULTS – www.results.org
• FCNL (Friends Committee on National Legislation) – https://www.fcnl.org/
• Citizens’ Climate Lobby – https://citizensclimatelobby.org/ 
• "The Path: Creating Your Mission Statement for Work and For Life” by Laurie Beth Jones

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In this episode, author Jessica Speer returns to chat with host Carmelita Tiu, to share more pointed and practical advice on navigating specific friendship scenarios.

Jessica discusses:

• Understanding friendship breakups
• Navigating toxic people
• handling things when friends grow apart
• And more!

Other references:

Episode 18:  Grappling with Girl Friendships

To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work:

• Visit www.jessicaspeer.com
• Instagram: @jessica_speer_author
• Facebook: @https://www.facebook.com/JessicaSpeerAuthor
• Twitter: @SpeerAuthor
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-speer-46b6457/
• If you’re interested in social-emotional  development, friendship and parenting topics, Jessica has a free monthly eNewsletter. Signup on her website, www.JessicaSpeer.com.  New subscribers receive a PDF of the Friendship Pyramid from BFF or NRF as well as social emotional resources. 

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What does representation have to do with body image?  What's body positivity, and what's body neutrality? Are you fat-phobic?  Do your words and use of the word "fat" inadvertently feed into fat culture?

In this week’s episode, body positivity expert Emily Lauren Dick delves into all of these questions and more.

Emily explains: 

• The origin of body image issues
• The difference between body positivity and body neutrality 
• What parents can do to help their daughters love their bodies
• Fat phobia and fat talk, and how to avoid feeding into thin culture

For more info and to follow Emily Lauren Dick:

• www.happydaughter.com 
• Instagram:  @realhappydaughter
• Find Emily’s Book, Body Positive: A Guide to Loving Your Body on www.happydaughter.com , Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other booksellers.

Other references in this episode:

• Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark! on Self-Love and Second-Guessing Society’s Definition of Success
• Ep. 19 with Neysa Page-Lieberman - Building Monuments to Resemble and Represent Us

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Host Carmelita Tiu tells the story of the worst/best valentine she ever received, and shares the truths she wants to share with her daughters, especially around this time of year.

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