Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Gratitude Journaling is touted as a good thing. But why? And how does it work? Kate Brenton's short and thoughtful article sheds some light on the matter.

Especially at busy and potentially stressful times (like the holidays!), small life hacks that are sure to have a positive impact can be lifesavers.

To learn more about Kate and her work, visit:

• Website:  katebrenton.com - where you can sign up for her newsletter and learn more about Root to Rise: a six week coaching alignment to clear confusion and stabilize your vision for what you want to create in your life.   
• Instagram: @katembrenton 
• Twitter: @katebrenton
• Podcast: Rebirth - Stories of women change lives by living their own

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What is gender equity? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.  

In this episode, Annie:

• Answers the question, "What is gender equity?"
• Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it
• Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully 
• Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender roles
• Talks about the importance of having a list of shared family values

To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:

• for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagram
• for information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com

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Charlsey Childers, self-worth and confidence coach, is back with more actionable advice and wise words to help moms bolster their self-worth and raise confident daughters.

Check out Charlsey's previous episode here: Women, Self-Worth, and Raising Authentic Daughters

Charlsey and host Carmelita Tiu discuss:

• 3 ways to start boosting your self worth right away, including doing something every day that brings you joy!
• Dealing with the specter of social media and helping your daughter navigate that landscape (and what that has to do with The Three Little Pigs!)
• 3 ways to support your tween/teen as they traverse through adolescence

Other references:

• Cool Moms in Tech article about Instagram and body image
• James Clear's Atomic Habits

To learn more about Charlsey Childers and her work:

• Visit www.charlseychilders.com - there, you can download her free guide “10 Ways to Defeat Self-Doubt in 10 Minutes” and see what else she has in store!
• Instagram: @charlsey_childers

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:: Here's to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them. ::

Can you relate to this?  You have so much to be grateful for - good relationships, a good job, good friends, good health.  But still, you don’t feel happy -- you don't feel like you’re enough.  

In this episode, Charlsey Childers, a self-worth and confidence coach, explains why she became a coach, why women and girls struggle with self-worth, and how moms can help themselves and their daughters feel confident, worthy, loved, and show up authentically in life.

Charlsey shares:

• We are all born fully accepting of ourselves
• What causes low self-worth in women & girls
• How moms can help daughters show up authentically and  feel worthy and loved

To learn more about Charlsey Childers and her work:

• Visit www.charlseychilders.com - there, you can download her free guide “10 Ways to Defeat Self-Doubt in 10 Minutes”
• Instagram: @charlsey_childers

Other resources/good stuff referenced in this episode:

• Ep. 007 - Wendy Snyder's "10 Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters"

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What if your daughter decided to move out at 16? Our first “mom who’s been there” guest is Cheryl Spalding, a midlife empowerment coach.  Now a mom to two daughters in their 20’s, Cheryl and host Carmelita Tiu talk about raising girls through tough times, what worked for her, and more.

Cheryl shares:

• What her parenting approach was like, and her relationship with her daughters now
• How she handled her daughter moving out in her teens
• The importance of trust and reasonable boundaries
• The one thought she wants to share with all moms

Some key takeaways: Find allies you can rely on to help you through hard times. Allow freedom with reasonable boundaries. Instill in your daughter the trust that in her freedom she'll make the right decisions.

Listen for more nuggets of wisdom!

Follow Cheryl Spalding here:

• www.cherylspalding.com 
• Instagram: @liveyourbestlifenow.coaching
• Facebook:  live your best life now

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Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman?  An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?  

While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.” 

The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.

1. I love you no matter what.
2. You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
3. You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
4. How do you feel?
5. Gosh, I love my  ______ (body part)!  What is your favorite part of your body?
6. Oh yeah? Tell me more.
7. How can you be a light in this situation?
8. You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
9. How will you be the change you want to see?
10. I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.

To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:

• Website:  www.freshstartfamilyonline.com
• Instagram: @freshstartwendy  
• Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show 
• Got a strong-willed child? Click here for the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and check out "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening."
• You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting  www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass . 

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Do you say no, then feel guilty? Or maybe you say yes, then feel resentful?  These feelings are part of the important but difficult task of setting and managing boundaries.  Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Hogan.  

Julia explains: 

• The importance of boundaries
• Ways to understand and define your boundaries
• How a “No” can be a “Yes”
• How asserting boundaries relates to fairness

Listen to Julia on Episode 003, "Rethinking Self Care & Authentic Rest"

Find Julia Hogan, LPC here:

• www.juliamariehogan.com
• Instagram:  @juliahoganlcpc
• Sign up for her monthly newsletter here!

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“I’m Speaking.”  We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right?  

We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else?  Will they choose politeness over being heard?  Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend? 

Listen to hear:

• The different social norms for boys and girls
• Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
• When to interrupt back
• The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
• Sample phrases illustrating different ways to interrupt
• What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting

Key mentions/concepts:

• Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger, by Soraya Chemaly. www.sorayachemaly.com
• "10 Simple Words Every Girl Should Learn," by Soraya Chemaly. Retrieved from www.rolereboot.org.
• "The Art of Interruption, Or 'how to speak up without feeling like an asshole' (#BullCon14 Guest Post)" by Julie Fogh and Casey Erin Clarke of Vital Voice.

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Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing.

Today's article, "5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident.

When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. There were limited options, and the clothes were not age-appropriate, didn’t fit well, or were poor quality. She saw how this impacted her daughter’s confidence and decided to do something about it. Soon after that, Nadia Girl was born, and Briana began writing about issues affecting tween girls.

In this episode, you’ll learn ways you can help boost your daughter’s confidence, such as normalizing failure, encouraging risk taking, and more.  

Key mentions/concepts:

• "The Confidence Code for Girls," by Claire Shipman, Katty Kay, and JillEllyn Riley. www.confidencecodegirls.com
• Enclothed Cognition - see How Clothing Choices Affect and Reflect Your Self-Image, by Jill Ferguson. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com.
• For high quality, sustainable clothes with a proprietary fit made for tween girls’ changing bodies, visit www.nadiagirl.com, and follow NadiaGirl on Instagram @nadiagirl.

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Are "self-care" and "authentic rest" just buzzwords? Is there a right way to do self-care?  What does authentic rest or leisure look like?  Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan.  

Julia describes her road to becoming a therapist and writer, and she explains: 

• The importance of nurturing yourself and “filling your cup”
• Rethinking your self-care, making sure it works for you
• Authentic rest & leisure -- what these are
• The importance of modeling self-care and authentic rest for our daughters

To connect with Julia Hogan, LCPC, visit her website www.juliamariehogan.com where you can sign up for her monthly newsletter, or follow her on Instagram:  @juliahoganlcpc.

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