Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

In this episode, writer, cultural producer, storyteller and empowerment speaker, Lacey C. Clark!, shares her story, why empowering girls is important to her, and how we can help our daughters feel empowered through their teen years and beyond.

Lacey discusses:

• How to ignite the spark of self-love 
• Focusing and celebrating strengths
• How to shift from comparison thinking
• Her biggest piece of advice for parents
• And more!

To learn more about Lacey C. Clark! and her work, visit www.phenomenally-u.com, or follow @laceycclark on Instagram.

Other references:

• Episode 7 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:  “10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter” by Wendy Snyder of A Fresh Start Family, which talks about focusing on one thing that your daughter can celebrate, as a step towards feeling more confident

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Ashley Carpentier shares her insights and advice for parents when it comes to eating disorders, body image, healthy relationships with food, self talk, and role modeling.

Ashley covers:

• Myths about eating disorders
• Signs of a possible eating disorder
• Why to avoid the word "diet"
• Healthier approaches to food
• What parents can do to support their daughters

To learn more about Ashley Carpentier and her work:

• Visit www.ashleycarpentier.com
• Instagram: @ashleyranaecarpentier
• FB: www. facebook.com/groups/learningtoloveyourselfcommunity
• Ashley also recently published her Self-Care Journal! The Self-Care Journal simplifies taking care of yourself so you can incorporate the practices daily. The journal provides space to process your daily routines including: self-care activities and times, tracking emotions, food, and movement. Self-Care ideas are included. The simpler the self-care, the more we can take care of ourselves. Let's revolutionize self-care!  https://form.jotform.com/213004202308133

If an eating disorder is affecting you or someone you care about,  please seek out support and additional information.  There are organizations that are ready and willing to help.

The National Eating Disorders Association has many resources at nationaleatingdisorders.org.  Call or text the NEDA Helpline at 800-931-2237 for support, resources, and treatment options for yourself or a loved one. Helpline volunteers are trained to help you find the support and information you need.

Here's a list of other organizations that help individuals struggling with eating disorders, as well as provide support for families and caregivers.

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What's a cognitive distortion? How do I manage my or my daughter's negative thought spirals?  Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan.  

Julia explains: 

• What cognitive distortions are, and dives deeper into
• Catastrophizing
• All or nothing thinking
• Magical thinking or mind reading
• Personalizing
• "Should" Statements
• Others not mentioned but that are widely recognized include:
• Mental Filter
• Disqualifying the Positive
• Overgeneralizing
• Emotional Reasoning
• Here's an article that helps explain them: https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/
• What we can do to retrain our brains
• How we can help our kids break negative thought patterns

Check out Julia's past episodes on Self-Care & Authentic Leisure and Boundaries!

Follow Julia Hogan, LPC here:

• www.juliamariehogan.com
• Instagram:  @juliahoganlcpc
• Sign up for her monthly newsletter here!
• Julia is the author of the book, It's OK to Start with You, published by Our Sunday Visitor (it’s also available on Amazon). Her next book titled, A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You, will be published in Spring 2022.

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Have you ever thought about how the art in museums, our monuments, and public art – are mostly made by and for men? And did you know that underrepresentation can foster feelings of inferiority and perpetuate implicit biases?  How do we teach our girls to recognize and understand why this is, so they aren't subconsciously limiting themselves by what they see?

In Episode 19 of “Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them,” Neysa Page-Lieberman, Monuments to Movement co-founder and co-artistic director, and a curator, lecturer, writer, educator, tackles representation in public art. She chats with host Carmelita Tiu about her work, the Monuments to Movement project, and the importance of seeing public works that reflect the diversity and richness of our communities.

To learn more about Neysa and Monuments to Movements (M2M):

• Visit www.monumentstomovements.org
• Instagram: @neysa_m2m and @monuments2movements
• To learn more about M2M’s inaugural monument initiatives (4 in total) – visit https://www.monumentstomovements.org/collaborations

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Mean girls. Queen bees.  Wannabes.  We've all felt or witnessed the ups and downs of female friendship, especially during those tween and teen years.

In this episode, author Jessica Speer chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and explains why tween & teen girls have friendship struggles, sheds light on friendship truths, and shares tips and advice on how moms can help their daughters navigate these challenging times.

Jessica discusses:

• The basis of friendship evolves as kids grow up 
• How friendship struggles aren’t unique to girls; boys have them too
• The importance of a growth mindset when it comes to friendship
• What secondary trauma is and how if we overreact, our kids will stop sharing with us
• How to encourage self-awareness through dialogue, quizzes, and ongoing conversations about friendship
• Why we should avoid labeling kids
• Teaching your daughter that you don’t have to be friends with everyone, not everyone is going to like you, and you’re not always going to be included

To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work:

• Visit www.jessicaspeer.com
• Instagram: @jessica_speer_author
• Facebook: @https://www.facebook.com/JessicaSpeerAuthor
• Twitter: @SpeerAuthor
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-speer-46b6457/
• If you’re interested in social-emotional  development, friendship and parenting topics, Jessica has a free monthly eNewsletter. Signup on her website, www.JessicaSpeer.com.  New subscribers receive a PDF of the Friendship Pyramid from BFF or NRF as well as social emotional resources. 

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The end of the year always triggers look-backs and goal-setting for the future. If you're like most moms and high achievers, the new year comes with excitement, some trepidation, and some guilt that your previous year's goals didn't play out the way you thought they would (or guilt because not everything on your to-do list has been checked off).

In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu shares some thoughts on how to shift our mindsets around failure (in big or small ways):

• Celebrate the big no’s, an idea from Greg McKeown;
• Release ourselves from a narrow, fixed definition of “win”
• Choose progress over perfection.

These quick tips nudge us to show ourselves some compassion, and allow us to celebrate how far we've come.

Take the time to reflect and celebrate the progress you've made this year!

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What does it mean to be creative?  How do we raise good kids? What does a mom of 3 grown daughters wish she knew back then, or know for sure now?

My guest this week, and the second featured “mom who’s been there”, is Melissa Ohlman-Roberge.  Melissa is the mom of 3 daughters, ages 29, 26 and 24 as well as their dog, Zoe, and is partner to husband Kevin, who dabbles on the stage when not running his staffing business.  She calls herself a “creative instigator” who thrives on the energy of the creative process as it unfolds in real time. She has worked as a theater artist and educator for more than 30 years.  In addition, Melissa is a visual artist focusing on mixed media collage and printing. 

In this episode, Melissa shares her hard-earned wisdom as an educator and mom, and the importance of creativity as an everyday approach, as well as tips for moms of tween & teen girls today.

Melissa shares:

• What her parenting approach was like, and her relationship with her daughters now
• The importance of true creativity and appreciating the process
• What she learned from raising her three daughters
• Her best advice for moms of tweens & teens today 

For more about Melissa Ohlman-Roberge, head here:

• Instagram: @MORcreates
• Facebook:  look up “MORcreates”
• Additional links:  https://linktr.ee/MORcreates

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Feeling overwhelmed feels awful.  The to-do lists pile up, healthy habits are put on the backburner, and exhaustion and burnout start to creep in.  It feels stressful and out of control - but how can we reign in the overwhelm and start thriving again?

In this episode, therapist and life coach Liz Pessaran tackles this and more with host Carmelita Tiu.

Liz shares:

• Why moms often feel overwhelmed
• The importance of self-trust and how it differs from self-abandonment
• Why you should practice “Hell Yes” and “Hell No”
• Using your calendar to help you fight the overwhelm
• And more!

To learn more about Liz Pessaran and her work as a therapist and life coach:

• Visit www.lizpessaran.com
• Instagram: @lizpessaran
• Facebook: @lizepessaranlifecoaching

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Bullying can take many forms -- and we’re all too aware of the damage it can cause.  In this episode, hot Carmelita Tiu chats with coach, mentor, Youth Diversity Advisor, writer and speaker, Aime Hutton about how she survived being bullied, her current work, and more.

Aime shares:

• Her experience of being bullied 
• Her source of solace during that time
• What she wishes went differently
• Tips for parents to support their kids
• Her work to help empower girls
• A favorite quote - "Be bold, be brave, be yourself."

To learn more about Aime Hutton and her work, including her 1:1 mentoring with tween/teen girls:

• Visit www.inchbyinchempowerment.com
• Instagram: @inchbyinchempower
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ibiempowerment

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Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with Nicole Nepa, a certified life coach with a B.A. in psychology and an M.S. in mental health & school counseling, who specializes in coaching for teens.

Nicole describes her coaching journey, and shares:

• The upside of not fitting in
• How she helps teens cope 
• The importance of quietude and stillness for our kids
• Why your kids should see you napping and taking breaks

For more information about Nicole, including her coaching programs for teens:

• Visit risingphoenixlifecoaching.com 
• follow her on Instagram @risingphoenixlc 
• Rising Phoenix Life Coaching (facebook)

Episode references:

• Brene Brown, “The Gifts of Imperfection” 

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

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