In this episode of Sister Wives Season 20, Episode 14, we react to Kody and Meri’s intense one-on-one conversation and break down why his apology feels so complicated, loaded, and hard to watch. From years of emotional distance to unresolved power dynamics, this meeting says a lot about where their relationship truly stands.

We also dive into the idea of “basement wives” and how that label reflects deeper patterns of hierarchy, neglect, and worth inside polygamous marriages. On top of that, we talk about Janelle’s desire for a spiritual release—and why, in fundamentalist Mormonism, religious permission can feel just as important as emotional closure.

As former members of Mormon and Mormon fundamentalist communities, we share personal insight into how faith, control, and loyalty shape these conversations—and why walking away isn’t always as simple as it looks from the outside.

Let us know your thoughts in the comments. Did Kody’s apology feel sincere to you? And should Janelle still need a spiritual release to move on?

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