Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and Discipleship

We all have those days when we feel like we are a terrible parent. Sometimes it’s because we blow a moment or decision. Other times it's because we compare ourselves to the best parts of other people’s lives. And sometimes it’s because we are fooled into thinking the false presentation of our friends on social media is true. 

Whatever your reason for being down about your parenting, listen to Jay’s pep talk as he encourages you to:

• Give yourself the benefit of the doubt

• Give your kids the benefit of the doubt

• Get over yourself

• Get better

Finally, be encouraged by Jay’s reminder from scripture that God uses suffering and brokenness to produce character, and that ALL things work together for the glory of God and the good of His children!

Resources:

I Wish I Was A Better Parent

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We never want trial or tragedy or broken hearts to come into our kids’ lives.  But in reality, the people we admire and want to be most like have walked through deep valleys. 

Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

No relationship has more impact on the spiritual direction of a child or teen than mom and dad. But every parent needs a community to raise a disciple. Today Jay is joined once again by Pastor Josh Luecht. Between the two of them they have over 40 years of student ministry experience. Jay and Josh share the best ways parents can engage with their church youth pastors and youth volunteers to minister to their children. In this episode, Jay and Josh discus: 

• The importance of knowing and communicating directly with youth workers

• How to give the inside scoop to youth leaders to help them have better conversations with your children

• Ways you can be involved in youth ministry even if you don’t want to be a small group leader

• What to do if you are frustrated with a certain aspect of your youth pastor or youth leader

• The importance of showing appreciation so your youth leaders stay for many years

• Discerning the times when you might need to directly speak to a youth pastor about a problem and the times when you need to involved senior leadership

• Ways you can use your knowledge and skills to improve your youth pastor’s knowledge and skill

• The importance of not dumping off all spiritual direction for your children to the youth pastor or church

Bio: Pastor Josh Luecht is a teaching pastor at Calvary Chapel Palm City, FL. He holds a M.A. in Biblical Leadership from Calvary Chapel University and loves leading students into a deeper understanding of the Gospel…Josh is also a sports fan, musician and reading enthusiast. In his spare time he enjoys watching hockey and hanging out with his wife. He has been married to Mary since 2012.

Resources Referenced:

Calvary Chapel Palm City Verse by Verse Podcast

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Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Dr. Tim McKnight, a missions and evangelism expert, reveals the potential for Gen Z to make a kingdom impact if parents can shepherd them well.

You will learn:

1. How is Generation Z different from previous generations, and what unique potential do they have to make a kingdom impact? 

2. What is the role of technology in shaping and influencing Generation Z?

3. How can parents help their children develop a biblical understanding of identity and the gospel of Jesus Christ?

Dr. McKnight is the Director of the Global Center for Youth Ministry and Associate Professor of Missions and Youth Ministry at Anderson University and Lead Pastor/Planter of Mosaic Church of Anderson. He is the author of Engaging Generation Z (Kregel) and editor of Navigating Student Ministry (B&H Acaemic).

 Dr. McKnight has pastored churches throughout West Virginia, Kentucky, Alabama, North Carolina, and South Carolina. He's served as an infantry chaplain in the United States Army Kentucky Army National Guard, deploying on Operation Noble Eagle and Operation Enduring Freedom.

Dr. McKnight is also a black belt in Kenpo Jujitsu and a NRA certified basic pistol instructor.

Resources:

www.drtimmcknight.com

Engaging Generation Z: Raising the Bar for Youth Ministry

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland

www.cfbcstuart.com

Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

When Jeremy Pryor discovers that God designed families to be teams on mission, not nests for individual success, he embarks on a journey to challenge the idol of individualism and bring his family closer together. You will learn how to strengthen family identity through everyday responsibilities with Jeremy Pryor's unique approach.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. What does it mean to be part of a multi-generational family?

2. How do identities shape and limit freedom?

3. What does it look like to embrace fatherhood/motherhood as an identity?

4. How can we use everyday responsibilities to help shape our children's understanding of identity, value, and worth?

"When we're in a multi generational family, the father or mother is always thinking about their grandkids, how am I raising my kids to be really good parents to my grandchildren someday? And so of course you have to be really thoughtful about how to parent." -Jeremy Pryor

Jeremy Pryor is a family identity expert and author of the book "Family Revision". His passion is helping families discover and live out their multigenerational mission to further the Kingdom of God.

Jeremy Pryor had been on a journey to understand the meaning of family. He embraced the idea that identities, including those of sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers, were meant to be handed down through generations, and that freedom of self expression was not the ultimate goal. He saw that individualism had been put on a pedestal and was causing chaos, and he realized that families were designed to be teams to rescue and bless each other,

Resources:

https://familyteams.com/

Family Revision: How Ancient Wisdom Can Heal the Modern Family

Episode 230 Your Family as a Team with Jeremy Pryor

Connect with Jay:

 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letsparentonpurpose

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letsparentonpurpose

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland

www.cfbcstuart.com

Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Discover how to unlock spiritual growth and maturity through the power of relationship and identity.

"Relationship inspires behavior, and gives us motivation for obedience.”

Pastor Jon Price has been in ministry for 35 years and is a speaker, trainer, author and coach. He lives in north Georgia with his wife of 26 years and has two grown children also in the Atlanta area. He is the Pastor of Missions and Connections at Peachtree Corners Baptist Church in Peachtree Corners, GA. 

Through Alan Shore's research on brain science, Jim Wilder's books and Marcus Warner's teachings, Jon learned that the right side of the brain, filled with relationship and identity, is the key to spiritual maturity and growth. With this knowledge, Jon realized that the joy of God is the strength that helps us through our trials and the importance of remaining relational with those around us.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. The power of identity and group identity in spiritual growth and maturity.

2. The importance of relationship and joy in providing nourishment for the brain.

3. The concept of "rare maturity" in remaining relational and keeping relationships foremost.

Resources:

Twitter: @baldjonp

Instagram: @baldjonp

Revjonprice.com

[email protected]

Invited In and Set Free: Meditations on Galatians https://tinyurl.com/Invited-In 

Books by Jim Wilder: https://amzn.to/3H8zSgU

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/jaydholland

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/

Website: www.letsparentonpurpose.com

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Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Generation Z is the most unchurched and unreached generation alive today. At the same time, research shows that the vast majority of people who put their faith in Jesus do so before the age of 18. Pastor Josh Leucht joins Jay for a conversation on the difference approach we need to take in sharing the gospel with Generation Z. Their discussion includes:

• Understanding how many in Gen Z find it offensive for you to share your moral standards.

• The pressure Christian students feel for having absolute truth claims and believing Jesus is the only way.

• How many older methods of sharing the gospel don’t work as readily. 

• The difference in law/punishment cultures and honor/shame cultures

• How the gospel speaks into honor/shame cultures and reaches Gen Z

• The effectiveness of story

• The effectiveness of pointing out brokenness as an entry point to the gospel

Pastor Josh Luecht is a teaching pastor at Calvary Chapel Palm City, FL. He holds a M.A. in Biblical Leadership from Calvary Chapel University and loves leading students into a deeper understanding of the Gospel…Josh is also a sports fan, musician and reading enthusiast. In his spare time he enjoys watching hockey and hanging out with his wife. He has been married to Mary since 2012.

Resources Referenced:

Episode 88 A Happy Adoption Story

Calvary Chapel Palm City Verse by Verse Podcast

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Series Overview: Jay will be discussing the unique challenges of parenting Gen Z and the struggles they face due to the world they live in. 

Today's Topic:  Jay shares how the gospel speaks into the topic of gender identity and sexuality.  This includes a Theology of the Body: Jay will be sharing a piece of a sermon he recently preached in the church on how the incarnation of Jesus helps bring clarity where there is confusion over gender, identity and sexuality. He encourages listeners to have their kids listen along and discuss the content with them.

Resources Referenced:

Talking to Your Children about Gender Identity and Sexuality with Dr. Sean McDowell

Equipping our Children for Conversations on Gender identity and Sexuality with Dr. Sean McDowell 

What if Your Children Identify as a different Gender identity or Sexuailty with Dan Seaborn

Pointing to a Deeper Orientation in Jesus with Dan Seaborn

Genesis 1:27, passages on homosexuality, adultery, coveting your wife and your neighbor's stuff.

Support Let's Parent on Purpose through your Tax Deductible Giving

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Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Snow Plow Parenting. You might have never heard of the term, but you have definitely witnessed method in families. Are you a snow plow parent? 

Today I finish my Boundaries to Help Your Family Thrive series with my guests Nathan and Amy Oliver. They explain Snow Plow Parenting, share signs to recognize if you might be a snow plow parent, and give healthy boundaries to allow your children to grow resiliency. 

In Snow Plow Parenting you pave the path of least resistance for your children so they don’t encounter difficulty or failure in life. The hard things of life are inevitable. You’re not always going to win. It’s important we teach our children how to deal with the hard emotions that come with life. 

It’s essential for children to experience loss and suffering and failure more than they feel comfort and ease. Questions to help you evaluate your parenting:

How do I feel when my chid fails or is rejected?

Is my interaction helping them become more capable and competent or incapable and incompetent?

What does love look like?

Bio:

Nathan and Amy Oliver are both licensed professional therapists and members of Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church in Stuart, Florida. They specialize in marriage/family therapy, teens/young adults, substance addiction, depression, and anxiety. The Olivers are individually available for virtual counseling sessions. To find out more visit www.olivercounselling.com

Resources Mentioned: 

www.olivercounseling.com

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Let's Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Counselors Nathan and Amy Oliver are back to help us navigate healthy boundaries in the realms of Social Media, Sleepovers, and Curfew. This is part three of our four part Boundaries to Help Your Family Thrive series. Remember, we want to insulate our children, not isolate them. Each child is different, and you need to be a student of your children. Therefore, each boundary flows out of the question: What does love look like? And what does love look like for each individual child?

We also talk about the challenges of boundaries when you are a single parent or blended home.

Resources Mentioned: 

The Innovation of Loneliness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6Bkr_udado

www.olivercounseling.com

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The very best way to love your children well is to have an amazing marriage. If there’s not a oneness in your marriage, children will see that and exploit it. Today my guests Nathan and Amy Oliver help us set boundaries to protect time and relationships in our marriage. Listen as we discuss the following healthy boundaries: 

Regular date night 

Evenings 

The Bedroom 

Bedtime

In a marriage there has to be unity in what you say yes to and what you say no to. Step back and define - what is your goal and mission and mission of you your household?

It’s not just good decisions, it’s good, better, and best. 

Nathan and Amy Oliver are both licensed professional therapists and members of Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church in Stuart, Florida. They specialize in marriage/family therapy, teens/young adults, substance addiction, depression, and anxiety. The Olivers are individually available for virtual counseling sessions. To find out more visit www.olivercounselling.com

Resources Mentioned: 

Sign up for my Things for Thursday Email: https://tinyurl.com/292kv68y

Support Let’s Parent on Purpose! https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/

LPOP 290 How to Have Healthier Conflict with Nathan and Amy Oliver: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/how-to-have-healthier-conflict-with-nathan-and-amy-oliver/

LPOP 291 Skills to Communicate with Your Spouse with Nathan and Amy Oliver https://letsparentonpurpose.com/skills-to-communicate-with-your-spouse-with-nathan-and-amy-oliver/

LPOP 292 Five Healthy Marriage Habits with Nathan and Amy Oliver https://letsparentonpurpose.com/five-healthy-marriage-habits-with-nathan-and-amy-oliver/