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As we grow, heal, and transform, our relationships often change right along with us. But what happens when we realize we've outgrown someone? Does that mean the relationship has to end?
In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, we're exploring what it means to outgrow relationships, why even positive changes can feel painful, and how to navigate those shifts with intention. We'll talk about recognizing when relationships no longer fit, giving others the opportunity to grow with us, making room for grief, and creating meaningful connections that support who we're becoming.
Because outgrowing a relationship doesn't mean it failed. Sometimes it simply means we're growing into the next chapter of our lives.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. – Brené Brown
Love and abuse cannot coexist. –bell hooks
Only in growth, reform, and change, paradoxically enough, is true security to be found. –Anne Morrow Lindbergh
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
In this episode, we're breaking down what's really happening in your body during stress and trauma — and why your reactions make sense. From fight and flight to freeze, fawn, and even flop, you'll learn how your nervous system automatically responds to perceived danger — and why those responses are not weaknesses, but survival mechanisms designed to protect you.
We'll talk about what happens when you've been stuck in survival mode for too long — especially in toxic or high-stress relationships — and how that impacts your ability to think clearly, plan, and feel grounded. You'll also walk away with practical, research-backed tools to regulate your nervous system in the moment, including breathing techniques, grounding exercises, vagus nerve stimulation, and longer-term rewiring strategies.
If you've ever wondered why you reacted the way you did… or carried shame for not "handling it differently"… this episode will help you understand your body, calm your system, and move one step closer to thriving. You survived for a reason — and now you get to learn how to thrive.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Quick ways to settle your nervous system:
BEST MOMENTS
Your body will never forget how someone made your nervous system feel. –Unknown
The nervous system holds the key to the body's incredible potential to heal itself. –Jay Holder
A healthy nervous system is not always calm. It is flexible and resilient. –Jessica Maguire
If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer. –Stephen Porges
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Rebuilding your life can feel overwhelming, even when you know you're making the right decisions. Whether you're leaving a toxic or narcissistic relationship, navigating a major life transition, or simply choosing a different path, change doesn't always feel good right away.
In this episode, Jill explores why rebuilding can feel so difficult, how old patterns and conditioning influence our choices, and why the language we use matters. She shares how learning new skills, shifting our focus, and taking small, intentional steps can help us move forward with greater clarity and purpose. With four practical tips and tricks to help you navigate uncertainty, recognize your progress, and create a life that feels like your own.
Because rebuilding isn't about doing more work. It's about discovering what's possible.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? –Mary Oliver
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down. –Toni Morrison
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid. –Audre Lorde
You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both. –Brené Brown
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
What happens when you do everything you're supposed to do—you tell the truth, document what's happening, ask for help, advocate for yourself or your children—and the person or system that is supposed to help you simply… doesn't?
In this episode, Jill talks about the painful reality of being failed or misunderstood by the very people and systems we expect to protect us. From family court and schools to therapists, doctors, and other professionals, she explores what happens when the outcome isn't fair or right — and how to keep that unfair outcome from consuming the rest of your life. You'll learn practical strategies for separating what you can control from what you can't, documenting effectively, protecting your energy, supporting your children, trusting your own judgment, and continuing to build your life even when you didn't get the outcome you deserved.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. –Maya Angelou
What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. –Jane Goodall
We can do hard things. –Glennon Doyle
The biggest prison is in your own mind, and in your pocket you already hold the key: the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life. –Edith Eger
Hope begins in the dark. –Anne Lamott
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Waiting can feel passive, but it may be costing you far more mental and emotional energy than you realize. Whether you're waiting for closure, an apology, confidence, certainty, someone else to change, or simply for life to get easier, unresolved decisions have a way of staying with us—taking up attention, creating rumination, and contributing to decision fatigue.
In this episode, Jill explores the hidden mental cost of waiting and why avoiding a decision doesn't necessarily mean we've stopped thinking about it. She also looks at the ways we can unknowingly give our power away when we make our ability to move forward dependent on someone else's actions, approval, or understanding.
Most importantly, this episode asks one simple but powerful question: What would you do if you stopped waiting today? Because you don't need every answer, complete certainty, or someone else's permission to take the next step. Sometimes moving forward begins with deciding you've waited long enough.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
What are you waiting for?
BEST MOMENTS
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
You must do the thing you think you cannot do. –Eleanor Roosevelt
Real change, enduring change, happens one step at a time. –Ruth Bader Ginsburg
I have already lost touch with a couple of people I used to be. –Joan Didion
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Some of life's most important lessons aren't learned when everything is going according to plan—they're learned when it absolutely isn't.
In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill shares three unexpected lessons she learned while navigating toxic and narcissistic relationships and the adversity that followed: your mindset changes what you're able to see, you have more choices than you think, and there is more than one way forward.
You'll learn how to stop trying to solve your entire life at once, distinguish between having no choices and simply not liking your choices, and expand your options when you can't yet see a solution. Because sometimes moving forward isn't about having the perfect answer—it's about finding the next piece of the puzzle.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
We can't choose to vanquish the dark, but we can choose to kindle the light. —Dr. Edith Eger
Change your life today. Don't gamble on the future, act now, without delay. —Simone de Beauvoir
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. —Marianne Williamson
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it. — Maya Angelou
One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. — Eleanor Roosevelt
If you wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down. — Toni Morrison
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
What if making progress didn't require constantly pushing yourself harder? In this episode, Jill explores the difference between pressure and momentum—and why being hard on ourselves isn't always the best way to create meaningful change.
You'll learn how motivation and momentum work together, why small actions can be more powerful than waiting to feel motivated, and how to keep moving forward without falling into perfectionism, overwhelm, or burnout. Jill also shares practical strategies for making your next step obvious, creating a realistic "minimum" you can consistently protect, focusing on what's important instead of what feels urgent, and celebrating progress before you reach the finish line.
Because you don't have to choose between relentlessly pushing yourself and doing nothing. Momentum doesn't require pressure. It requires movement—and sometimes one small step is all you need to get started.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. –Maya Angelou
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. –Maya Angelou
You must do the thing you think you cannot do. –Eleanor Roosevelt
Momentum does not require pressure. It requires movement. –Jill McKnight 😊
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Empathy is a beautiful gift—but in a toxic or narcissistic relationship, it can also become one of your greatest vulnerabilities if it isn't paired with healthy boundaries.
In this episode, Jill explores the difference between empathy and over-functioning, why highly empathetic people are often targeted by manipulative individuals, and how empathy can unintentionally become self-abandonment. Through personal stories and practical strategies, you'll learn how to protect your peace, trust your intuition, stop carrying responsibilities that don't belong to you, and embrace the powerful truth that you can care deeply about someone without sacrificing yourself.
If you've ever struggled with guilt, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for someone else's happiness, this episode is for you.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy, we can all sense a mysterious connection to each other. –Meryl Streep
Empathy is the most radical of human emotions. –Gloria Steinem
Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you. –Princess Diana
What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. –Jane Goodall
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Most of us think we're waiting for the right moment. The truth? We're often waiting for certainty that simply doesn't exist.
In this episode, we're exploring why feeling stuck has less to do with a lack of information and more to do with our brain's desire for certainty. You'll discover why waiting to feel "ready" keeps you exactly where you are—and how taking one small step creates the confidence and clarity you've been looking for all along.
If you've been putting off a difficult decision, a career change, leaving an unhealthy relationship, or pursuing a dream because you're waiting for more certainty, this episode will help you shift your mindset, take action, and begin building certainty one choice at a time.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
When you feel stuck, walk through these five questions:
Those five questions interrupt overthinking and create movement.
BEST MOMENTS
There is something incredibly powerful about a woman who no longer abandons her inner truth...
— Anonymous
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.
— Alice Walker
Other people's certainty about who you are is not evidence...
— Anonymous
If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.
— Dolly Parton
I learned to always take on things I'd never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist.
— Virginia Rometty
When one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear.
— Rosa Parks
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about honoring yourself. In this episode, Jill explores why boundaries can feel so difficult, especially for people who have experienced trauma, people-pleasing, toxic relationships, or insecure attachment. She shares personal stories about learning to hold boundaries in both her marriage and professional life, explains why discomfort is often a sign that a boundary needs attention, and offers practical strategies for strengthening your "boundary muscle." If you've ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for putting yourself first, or found yourself repeatedly moving the line for others, this episode will help you begin creating healthier, more respectful relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. – Brené Brown
Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously. –Nedra Glover Tawwab
No is a complete sentence. –Anne Lamott
Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me at the same time. –Prentis Hemphill
No is a complete sentence. – Anne Lamott
Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your job is to disappoint someone else. –Glennon Doyle
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
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