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What happens when you do everything you're supposed to do—you tell the truth, document what's happening, ask for help, advocate for yourself or your children—and the person or system that is supposed to help you simply… doesn't?
In this episode, Jill talks about the painful reality of being failed or misunderstood by the very people and systems we expect to protect us. From family court and schools to therapists, doctors, and other professionals, she explores what happens when the outcome isn't fair or right — and how to keep that unfair outcome from consuming the rest of your life. You'll learn practical strategies for separating what you can control from what you can't, documenting effectively, protecting your energy, supporting your children, trusting your own judgment, and continuing to build your life even when you didn't get the outcome you deserved.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. –Maya Angelou
What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. –Jane Goodall
We can do hard things. –Glennon Doyle
The biggest prison is in your own mind, and in your pocket you already hold the key: the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life. –Edith Eger
Hope begins in the dark. –Anne Lamott
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Waiting can feel passive, but it may be costing you far more mental and emotional energy than you realize. Whether you're waiting for closure, an apology, confidence, certainty, someone else to change, or simply for life to get easier, unresolved decisions have a way of staying with us—taking up attention, creating rumination, and contributing to decision fatigue.
In this episode, Jill explores the hidden mental cost of waiting and why avoiding a decision doesn't necessarily mean we've stopped thinking about it. She also looks at the ways we can unknowingly give our power away when we make our ability to move forward dependent on someone else's actions, approval, or understanding.
Most importantly, this episode asks one simple but powerful question: What would you do if you stopped waiting today? Because you don't need every answer, complete certainty, or someone else's permission to take the next step. Sometimes moving forward begins with deciding you've waited long enough.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
What are you waiting for?
BEST MOMENTS
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
You must do the thing you think you cannot do. –Eleanor Roosevelt
Real change, enduring change, happens one step at a time. –Ruth Bader Ginsburg
I have already lost touch with a couple of people I used to be. –Joan Didion
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Some of life's most important lessons aren't learned when everything is going according to plan—they're learned when it absolutely isn't.
In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill shares three unexpected lessons she learned while navigating toxic and narcissistic relationships and the adversity that followed: your mindset changes what you're able to see, you have more choices than you think, and there is more than one way forward.
You'll learn how to stop trying to solve your entire life at once, distinguish between having no choices and simply not liking your choices, and expand your options when you can't yet see a solution. Because sometimes moving forward isn't about having the perfect answer—it's about finding the next piece of the puzzle.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
We can't choose to vanquish the dark, but we can choose to kindle the light. —Dr. Edith Eger
Change your life today. Don't gamble on the future, act now, without delay. —Simone de Beauvoir
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. —Marianne Williamson
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it. — Maya Angelou
One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. — Eleanor Roosevelt
If you wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down. — Toni Morrison
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
What if making progress didn't require constantly pushing yourself harder? In this episode, Jill explores the difference between pressure and momentum—and why being hard on ourselves isn't always the best way to create meaningful change.
You'll learn how motivation and momentum work together, why small actions can be more powerful than waiting to feel motivated, and how to keep moving forward without falling into perfectionism, overwhelm, or burnout. Jill also shares practical strategies for making your next step obvious, creating a realistic "minimum" you can consistently protect, focusing on what's important instead of what feels urgent, and celebrating progress before you reach the finish line.
Because you don't have to choose between relentlessly pushing yourself and doing nothing. Momentum doesn't require pressure. It requires movement—and sometimes one small step is all you need to get started.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. –Maya Angelou
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. –Maya Angelou
You must do the thing you think you cannot do. –Eleanor Roosevelt
Momentum does not require pressure. It requires movement. –Jill McKnight 😊
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Empathy is a beautiful gift—but in a toxic or narcissistic relationship, it can also become one of your greatest vulnerabilities if it isn't paired with healthy boundaries.
In this episode, Jill explores the difference between empathy and over-functioning, why highly empathetic people are often targeted by manipulative individuals, and how empathy can unintentionally become self-abandonment. Through personal stories and practical strategies, you'll learn how to protect your peace, trust your intuition, stop carrying responsibilities that don't belong to you, and embrace the powerful truth that you can care deeply about someone without sacrificing yourself.
If you've ever struggled with guilt, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for someone else's happiness, this episode is for you.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy, we can all sense a mysterious connection to each other. –Meryl Streep
Empathy is the most radical of human emotions. –Gloria Steinem
Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you. –Princess Diana
What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. –Jane Goodall
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Most of us think we're waiting for the right moment. The truth? We're often waiting for certainty that simply doesn't exist.
In this episode, we're exploring why feeling stuck has less to do with a lack of information and more to do with our brain's desire for certainty. You'll discover why waiting to feel "ready" keeps you exactly where you are—and how taking one small step creates the confidence and clarity you've been looking for all along.
If you've been putting off a difficult decision, a career change, leaving an unhealthy relationship, or pursuing a dream because you're waiting for more certainty, this episode will help you shift your mindset, take action, and begin building certainty one choice at a time.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
When you feel stuck, walk through these five questions:
Those five questions interrupt overthinking and create movement.
BEST MOMENTS
There is something incredibly powerful about a woman who no longer abandons her inner truth...
— Anonymous
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.
— Alice Walker
Other people's certainty about who you are is not evidence...
— Anonymous
If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one.
— Dolly Parton
I learned to always take on things I'd never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist.
— Virginia Rometty
When one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear.
— Rosa Parks
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-creating a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
Boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about honoring yourself. In this episode, Jill explores why boundaries can feel so difficult, especially for people who have experienced trauma, people-pleasing, toxic relationships, or insecure attachment. She shares personal stories about learning to hold boundaries in both her marriage and professional life, explains why discomfort is often a sign that a boundary needs attention, and offers practical strategies for strengthening your "boundary muscle." If you've ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for putting yourself first, or found yourself repeatedly moving the line for others, this episode will help you begin creating healthier, more respectful relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. – Brené Brown
Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously. –Nedra Glover Tawwab
No is a complete sentence. –Anne Lamott
Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me at the same time. –Prentis Hemphill
No is a complete sentence. – Anne Lamott
Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your job is to disappoint someone else. –Glennon Doyle
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill explores one of the most difficult challenges after betrayal, toxic relationships, and heartbreak: learning to trust again. She unpacks how childhood attachment styles shape our ability to trust, why betrayal often damages trust in ourselves as much as trust in others, and how trauma can make connection feel risky.
Through personal stories, practical examples, and actionable strategies, Jill shares how to rebuild trust slowly, set healthy boundaries, recognize trustworthy behavior, and reconnect with your own inner wisdom.
This episode is a compassionate reminder that trust isn't built through words—it's built through patterns, actions, consistency, and learning to listen to yourself again.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. –Maya Angelou
Trust is built in very small moments. – Brené Brown
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. –Eleanor Roosevelt
I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely. –Glennon Doyle
Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn't lie. –Oprah Winfrey
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
In this deeply personal episode, Jill explores the complicated and often misunderstood reality of closure after toxic and narcissistic relationships. While many people long for one final conversation, apology, or moment that finally makes everything make sense, Jill explains why true closure rarely comes from the other person — especially when dealing with someone who lacks accountability, empathy, or self-awareness.
Through vulnerable and honest storytelling from her own experiences with both narcissistic relationships and toxic work environments, Jill shares how grief, rumination, unresolved expectations, and the search for "the perfect conversation" can keep us emotionally stuck far longer than we realize. She also discusses post-separation abuse, the lingering effects of emotional control, and why healing is rarely a straight line.
This episode offers compassionate but practical insight into what actually helps us move forward: reframing our expectations, reducing the emotional "real estate" toxic people occupy in our minds, allowing ourselves to fully grieve, and finding supportive community with people who truly understand the experience.
If you've ever struggled to let go, questioned why someone treated you the way they did, or wondered whether you'll ever fully heal, this episode is a reminder that peace is still possible — even without perfect closure. Little by little, healing happens. And eventually, what once consumed you can become nothing more than a dusty banker's box tucked quietly away in the attic of your mind. 💜
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
You don't have to have a reason to let go. –Cheryl Strayed
You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. –Elizabeth Gilbert
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. –Maya Angelou
Life is brutal. But it's also beautiful. Brutiful. –Glennon Doyle
Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. –Pema Chödrön
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill explores the connection between mindset, productivity, routines, and healing from toxic relationships. She shares practical strategies for creating routines that support your real life—not someone else's version of success—including time blocking, planning ahead, avoiding burnout, and redefining productivity in a hustle-driven world. This episode is a reminder that productivity isn't about doing more—it's about creating a life that feels focused, grounded, and free.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
BEST MOMENTS
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. –Annie Dillard
Creativity is a habit, and the best creativity is the result of good work habits. –Twyla Tharp
Success doesn't come from what you do occasionally. It comes from what you do consistently. –Marie Forleo
You don't have to feel ready. You just have to start. –Mel Robbins
You are your best thing. –Toni Morrison
VALUABLE RESOURCES
If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.
EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT
Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:
https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site
ABOUT THE HOST
Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.
Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!
Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.
CONNECT & CONTACT
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching
IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg
Email: [email protected]
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