In this episode, we explore the heart of trauma work—not by focusing solely on the events themselves, but on the lasting impact they leave in our bodies. Trauma disconnects us from the present moment, often leaving us feeling unsafe in our own lives. But what if healing begins with reclaiming our ability to be fully present?

Together, we’ll talk about how practicing presence can gently rewire the effects of trauma and expand our sense of safety—one moment at a time. Whether the trauma is political, interpersonal, or institutional, the common thread is the loss of safety and connection. This episode is an invitation to begin rebuilding those foundations, slowly and kindly, from the inside out.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It's about really understanding and kind of figuring out the parts of your life that you are escaping because of the trauma.
• Practice doing something differently and notice how you feel.
• When we have our trauma lens on, we see what the trauma allows us to see, and we don't see anything else. We don't see the possibility or the opportunity.
• Everything survivors do is the skill of surviving. Sometimes surviving works against our ability to imagine. I call it being cloaked. If you weren't cloaked, then you would have to see. And it's so painful to see.
• Generational trauma is through missed opportunity of connection. So, because I was traumatized, I was now lost in attunement to my child. And so, it's missed opportunity of connection, missed opportunity of regulation, missed opportunity of co-regulation, missed opportunity of deep attunement to a child who really deserves all my attention. And when I am too traumatized to be able to attune, then the impact on them is great on their nervous system. And so to me, that's one way through attachment, that's one way that that trauma continues. Because now I've reshaped my child's nervous system by not attuning. Well, and then the great thing that we also have just as humans is the ability to continue to grow, have neuroplasticity, nothing is ever not changeable, really.

BEST MOMENTS

That stubborn decision — to keep getting up — saved me more times than I can count.

Life life’s all the time. Even under the best of circumstances, it's stressful.

I wonder if you could imagine that you’re not the problem.

We are here to care for and be in relationship with others.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

You can find Alisha at LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alisha-guthery-phd-ma-lmhc-71033a15/

Website: https://www.alishagutherycounseling.com/

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

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Email: [email protected]

Keeping your routine helps create structure and set the habits needed to reach your goals. It is also good for your mental health, improves your sleep, and helps you feel more in control. There are so many ways to start and keep a routine. We’ve talked about several of them here, but this list isn’t exhaustive. Keep honing your routine so that you are focused on what’s most meaningful to you!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Ways to manage your routine:

• Calendar
• Time Blocking
• Productivity
• Set a clock
• Habits

BEST MOMENTS

You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. –Unknown

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit. –Aristotle

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret to your success is found in your daily routine. –John C. Maxwell

Creating a healthy daily routine keep you grounded and can have a big impact on your physical and mental health. --Unknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

The 12 Week Year, by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington

Higher Performance Habits, by Brendon Burchard

Atomic Habits, by James Clear

 James Clear weekly email: https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

We can choose hope regardless of the environment we are in. We are wired and designed to be hopeful! We are wired to use our imagination to look at our future and create memories of that future and then think strategically about how to achieve our future goals.

Hope is contagious too! We can connect with other hopeful people. Those that are always looking positively at the future and openly talking about - and chasing - their goals. It’s inspiring. And transfers hope – we become more hopeful by engaging with them. We learn how to be hopeful by watching them. 

Thanks Jon Tunheim for your wisdom and insights!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Hope is a choice. You can learn to be hopeful and strengthen your hope skills. Here are the steps:

• See the future
• Set a goal
• Create strategies and pathways to move towards the goal
• Vary the pathway according to the obstacles you meet
• Use motivation and willpower to move forward and achieve that goal

BEST MOMENTS

It is hard to be a narcissist when you learn young that hope is believing in yourself, believing in others, and believing in your dreams. –Chan Hellman and Casey Gwinn

Hope is not a step in life, it is a stance.

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. –Fredrick Douglass

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Get your hope score here: www.hopescore.com

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) score test (2 options):

https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/

https://www.acesaware.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ACE-Questionnaire-for-Adults-Identified-English-rev.7.26.22.pdf

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

What you look for you find. With all that’s going on in the world, it’s important to stay focused on what you want and taking the action steps to get there. It’s so easy to get distracted, losing motivation and momentum taking you further and further away from realizing your dreams. Check out all the straightforward ways to stay focused and paying attention to what matters most.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• What do you want?
• Don’t focus on what you don’t want!
• Stop the doom scrolling.
• Take control of what you CAN do!

BEST MOMENTS

What you look for you find.

Focus is the art of knowing what to ignore. –James Clear

Your life is controlled by what you focus on. –Tony Robbins

Whether you’re 9 or 90, stop trying to fix the things you’re bad at, and focus on the things you’re good at. –Gary Vaynerchuk

Girls are the future mothers of our society, and it is important that we focus on their well-being. –Miriam Makeba

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

I’m so thrilled to have Molly Mandelberg as a guest on this episode. Molly is everything that Life After stands for; after a rough childhood, she chose to make her life what it is today including a healthy relationship and thriving business. And, she works with others to create and build world changing missions.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

When getting out of a relationship with a narcissist:

• You can make changes in the patterns you know.
• Your body will tell you when it’s wrong – so listen!
• Having people around you that can listen and hear you will help tremendously.
• Writing is a useful way to process what’s happening to you and confirms the behaviors and patterns of the narcissist.

BEST MOMENTS

Amazong quotes from Molly in this episode:

1. “I definitely had a knowing.”
2. “It’s not until we fully acknowledge that pattern that we’re able to hopefully break our way out of it.”
3. “It’s gonna have to get a little bit uncomfortable to get out of that pattern.”
4. “If this is a cycle that keeps continuining, do you wanna give it one year of your life? Do you wanna give it six years of your life? Do you wanna give it nine years of your life and maybe end up having his kids and being tied to him forever?”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

You can reach Molly at:

Instagram.com/wild_one_rising and instagram.com/magicfacilitation

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Your mindset can be impacted by limiting beliefs, fear and anxiety. Discover tips and tricks to change your limiting beliefs and mitigate or minimize your fear and anxiety so you can shift your mindset and achieve your dreams! We choose our mindset, and it’s much easier to do when we let go of our limiting beliefs and release our fears!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Quick ways to reduce fear and anxiety which will help improve mindset.  

• Focus on your breathing – breathing deeply compels our body to physically calm itself. Make sure that your exhale is longer than your inhale.
• Journal/write – keep track of how you are feeling/experiencing your fear for a couple of weeks. What patterns emerge? Writing the details down can help demystify your fears, thereby making them more manageable.
• Practice mindfulness – use what you learned in writing about your fears to become aware of your fears. Observe. Being passive raises your self-awareness and prevents you from doing the things you typically do when feeling the fear.
• Get out into nature – talk a walk outside. Being in nature is calming, reduces stress, and changes our moods, which all helps to shift our mindset.

BEST MOMENTS

Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry -- all forms of fear -- are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. –Eckhart Tolle

We must build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear. – Martin Luther King Jr.

The more you study delight, the more delight there is to study...I felt my life to be more full of delight. Not without sorrow or fear or pain or loss. But more full of delight. – Ross Gay

In the stillness of the quiet, if we listen, we can hear the whisper of the heart giving strength to weakness, courage to fear, hope to despair. – Howard Thurman

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Denise Duffield-Thomas: https://www.denisedt.com/

6 Strategies to Overcome Fear and Anxiety, by Real Life Counseling

Link: https://reallifecounseling.us/blog/overcome-fear-and-anxiety

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Trigger Warning: This episode deals with the issue of domestic violence, including gun violence.

This is a must listen episode. Elijah Gossett is my very special guest. He is a survivor of domestic violence who, from the moment he awoke from surgery, chooses to see the hope and gratitude of his circumstances despite the long physical recovery he faced. He chooses to see that love is everywhere and we are so privileged to hear his views on joy, love, hope, resilience, and choosing his mindset even when faced with serious adversity.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Choosing hope, joy, and beauty on the hard days is a conscious decision. No matter what you’ve been through, there’s beauty all around you if you take the time to absorb it. Don’t allow yourself to get bogged down in the difficult parts of life around you. There is always something beautiful or positive to see in the world.

BEST MOMENTS

• Life is beautiful – despite the hardships.
• I’m breathing. I’m alive.
• I wanted to give back to my community that helped me so much.
• I owe fire fighters my life.
• Hope is everything… and is pretty contagious.
• Never give up.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Welcome to Season 3! Mindset is everything! A nice refresher for the start of the season, with some tried and true tips, as well as a couple new ones, for shifting your mindset into the space that will keep you focused and moving in the direction of your success. Also, what are the 4 stages of learning curve and how does that impact your mindset.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

4 Stages of Learning Curve:

• Unconscious incompetence
• Conscious incompetence
• Conscious competence
• Unconscious competence

BEST MOMENTS

Follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be. - Joseph Campbell

Fear has two meanings: 'Forget Everything And Run' or 'Face Everything And Rise.' The choice is yours. - Zig Ziglar

Courage is not the towering oak that sees storms come and go; it is the fragile blossom that opens in the snow. - Alice Mackenzie Swaim

Do things differently and do different things. –Brian Moran

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode we are going to look at Gratitude. If you are new to a gratitude practice, it’s easy to get started and there are so many benefits! It doesn’t really matter how you start, just that you do! Also, take a little time to reflect on how the last year has gone for you and focus on what you are grateful for. Now is the perfect time to start. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Gratitude:

• Opens the doors to more relationships
• Improves physical health
• Improves psychological health
• Enhances empathy and reduces aggression
• Helps you sleep better
• Improves self-esteem
• Increases mental strength

BEST MOMENTS

The vibration of gratitude attracts more positive things into your life. –Cherie Roe Dirksen

It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude. It’s gratitude that brings us happiness. –Unknown

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. –Melodie Beattie

"Thank you" is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding. –Alice Walker

The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become. –Robert Holden

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude, Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-gratitude

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

The holidays can do even the best of us in! This year, I’m sharing a few tips and tricks to make this holiday season the most enjoyable ever. Easy things to keep your stress level low, focus on what matters to you most, and really enjoy your time in the ways you want! It can be done – and you won’t need a vacation in the New Year to recover!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Keep it Chill
• Don’t Overcommit
• Say No
• Ask for Help
• Be Kind!
• Share Your Feelings

BEST MOMENTS

My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. –Bob Hope

We light candles in testament that faith makes miracles possible. –Nachum Braverman

Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection. –Winston Churchill

There are always two ways to live in a world that is often dark and full of tears. We can curse the darkness or we can light a light. May we all help light up the world. –Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

It’s not what’s under the Christmas tree that matters, it’s who’s around it. –Charles M. Schulz

The spirit of Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights, is shared by all people who love freedom. –Norma Simon

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you’re struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you’re not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. 

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she’s used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast “Life After: From Surviving to Thriving”, Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]