Life After: From Surviving to Thriving

SHORT DESCRIPTION

Our inner critics can steal our dreams. Which is such a bummer because those nasty little gremlins aren't even our own voices telling – and they are always giving us a false narrative. We have a choice though! We can decide what thoughts we allow – and with practice – we can have peace and joy!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Name it…
• … And then take away it's power and control
• Is it true?...
• … Of course not!

BEST MOMENTS

You've been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. – Louise Hay

Self-love means acknowledging your inner critic and choosing to silence it with self-compassion and kindness. –Unknown

Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up. –Ann Bradford

Say goodbye to your inner critic, and take this pledge to be kinder to yourself and others. --Oprah

Dear Inner Critic. You will never be the boss of me. --Uknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Obstacles and challenges are an inevitable part of life. What if you could face those challenges without losing your peace in the process? In this episode, we're talking about real-life ways to navigate obstacles while still protecting your energy and staying grounded.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Sleep on it
• Ask yourself – Am I the "problem"
• Don't assign blame
• We're all in this together – are we over or underestimating our skills?

BEST MOMENTS

Believe in YOURSELF and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is GREATER than any obstacle. –Christan Larson

What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. –Jane Goodall

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair

Life is full of challenges. How you handle these challenges is what builds character. Never be afraid to be who you are. –Erin Brokovich

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. –Maya Angelou

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Interested in Life Skills program? Here's the link to stay connected:

https://locatecoaching.activehosted.com/f/5

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

What a powerful episode with Melissa. Healing is a rebellion! Healing as a revolution! Learn ways to lean into the rebellion and revolution and change your life! Melissa has incredible wisdom through life experience and she's here to share it all with us! You're gonna love it!!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It's okay to take up space in the beginning (even – or especially – when it feels uncomfortable)
• Stand up and say "I'm not too much"
• Set boundaries without apology
• Learn to trust yourself
• Practice radical self-validation
• Find yourself – through writing, art, any creative endeavor

BEST MOMENTS

That is the narcissist test, right? If you can go into a relationship with someone and say no to them and they say, okay, thank you for letting me know. That's, you know, that's a good sign. But if they're trying to manipulate you into liking strawberry when you're like, no, I like chocolate, stop it. If they get mad at you for claiming you like chocolate, and then it's all this whole passive aggressive thing – that's a toxic relationship. Rebel. Rebel girlfriend! Rebel and run!

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Instagram: @breezyheartfoundation Facebook: Breezy Heart Foundation Website: www.breezyheartfoundation.org

Anchor & Rise FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1833849487176838

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/5questions to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

What you tell your brain is what it believes — and the messages you feed it matter more than you might think. This episode dives into how the external messages we allow, as well as our inner dialogue, shapes our habits, our health, and the way we feel about ourselves. Tune in for a compassionate reminder that your thoughts have power—and you have the ability to choose what they're saying.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Stay resourced
  • Eat well
  • Sleep
  • Move
  • Nature
  • Breathe
  • Use music
• Know your values and beliefs
• Use Affirmations

BEST MOMENTS

Be careful what you tell yourself, and do not belittle yourself, even in jest. Negative, deprecating self-talk can do significant harm to your self-image. –Cheryl Ilov

The stories you tell yourself and words you repeat to yourself become your reality. –Unknown

You are your best thing. –Toni Morrison

How you treat yourself is how you're inviting the world to treat you. –Jane Travis

Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. –Louise L. Hay

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Molly Mandelberg:

Instagram.com/wild_one_rising and instagram.com/magicfacilitation

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode, we explore the heart of trauma work—not by focusing solely on the events themselves, but on the lasting impact they leave in our bodies. Trauma disconnects us from the present moment, often leaving us feeling unsafe in our own lives. But what if healing begins with reclaiming our ability to be fully present?

Together, we'll talk about how practicing presence can gently rewire the effects of trauma and expand our sense of safety—one moment at a time. Whether the trauma is political, interpersonal, or institutional, the common thread is the loss of safety and connection. This episode is an invitation to begin rebuilding those foundations, slowly and kindly, from the inside out.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It's about really understanding and kind of figuring out the parts of your life that you are escaping because of the trauma.
• Practice doing something differently and notice how you feel.
• When we have our trauma lens on, we see what the trauma allows us to see, and we don't see anything else. We don't see the possibility or the opportunity.
• Everything survivors do is the skill of surviving. Sometimes surviving works against our ability to imagine. I call it being cloaked. If you weren't cloaked, then you would have to see. And it's so painful to see.
• Generational trauma is through missed opportunity of connection. So, because I was traumatized, I was now lost in attunement to my child. And so, it's missed opportunity of connection, missed opportunity of regulation, missed opportunity of co-regulation, missed opportunity of deep attunement to a child who really deserves all my attention. And when I am too traumatized to be able to attune, then the impact on them is great on their nervous system. And so to me, that's one way through attachment, that's one way that that trauma continues. Because now I've reshaped my child's nervous system by not attuning. Well, and then the great thing that we also have just as humans is the ability to continue to grow, have neuroplasticity, nothing is ever not changeable, really.

BEST MOMENTS

That stubborn decision — to keep getting up — saved me more times than I can count.

Life life's all the time. Even under the best of circumstances, it's stressful.

I wonder if you could imagine that you're not the problem.

We are here to care for and be in relationship with others.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

You can find Alisha at LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alisha-guthery-phd-ma-lmhc-71033a15/

Website: https://www.alishagutherycounseling.com/

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Keeping your routine helps create structure and set the habits needed to reach your goals. It is also good for your mental health, improves your sleep, and helps you feel more in control. There are so many ways to start and keep a routine. We've talked about several of them here, but this list isn't exhaustive. Keep honing your routine so that you are focused on what's most meaningful to you!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Ways to manage your routine:

• Calendar
• Time Blocking
• Productivity
• Set a clock
• Habits

BEST MOMENTS

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. –Unknown

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit. –Aristotle

You'll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret to your success is found in your daily routine. –John C. Maxwell

Creating a healthy daily routine keep you grounded and can have a big impact on your physical and mental health. --Unknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

The 12 Week Year, by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington

Higher Performance Habits, by Brendon Burchard

Atomic Habits, by James Clear

James Clear weekly email: https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

We can choose hope regardless of the environment we are in. We are wired and designed to be hopeful! We are wired to use our imagination to look at our future and create memories of that future and then think strategically about how to achieve our future goals.

Hope is contagious too! We can connect with other hopeful people. Those that are always looking positively at the future and openly talking about - and chasing - their goals. It's inspiring. And transfers hope – we become more hopeful by engaging with them. We learn how to be hopeful by watching them.

Thanks Jon Tunheim for your wisdom and insights!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Hope is a choice. You can learn to be hopeful and strengthen your hope skills. Here are the steps:

• See the future
• Set a goal
• Create strategies and pathways to move towards the goal
• Vary the pathway according to the obstacles you meet
• Use motivation and willpower to move forward and achieve that goal

BEST MOMENTS

It is hard to be a narcissist when you learn young that hope is believing in yourself, believing in others, and believing in your dreams. –Chan Hellman and Casey Gwinn

Hope is not a step in life, it is a stance.

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. –Fredrick Douglass

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Get your hope score here: www.hopescore.com

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) score test (2 options):

https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/

https://www.acesaware.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ACE-Questionnaire-for-Adults-Identified-English-rev.7.26.22.pdf

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

What you look for you find. With all that's going on in the world, it's important to stay focused on what you want and taking the action steps to get there. It's so easy to get distracted, losing motivation and momentum taking you further and further away from realizing your dreams. Check out all the straightforward ways to stay focused and paying attention to what matters most.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• What do you want?
• Don't focus on what you don't want!
• Stop the doom scrolling.
• Take control of what you CAN do!

BEST MOMENTS

What you look for you find.

Focus is the art of knowing what to ignore. –James Clear

Your life is controlled by what you focus on. –Tony Robbins

Whether you're 9 or 90, stop trying to fix the things you're bad at, and focus on the things you're good at. –Gary Vaynerchuk

Girls are the future mothers of our society, and it is important that we focus on their well-being. –Miriam Makeba

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

I'm so thrilled to have Molly Mandelberg as a guest on this episode. Molly is everything that Life After stands for; after a rough childhood, she chose to make her life what it is today including a healthy relationship and thriving business. And, she works with others to create and build world changing missions.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

When getting out of a relationship with a narcissist:

• You can make changes in the patterns you know.
• Your body will tell you when it's wrong – so listen!
• Having people around you that can listen and hear you will help tremendously.
• Writing is a useful way to process what's happening to you and confirms the behaviors and patterns of the narcissist.

BEST MOMENTS

Amazong quotes from Molly in this episode:

1. "I definitely had a knowing."
2. "It's not until we fully acknowledge that pattern that we're able to hopefully break our way out of it."
3. "It's gonna have to get a little bit uncomfortable to get out of that pattern."
4. "If this is a cycle that keeps continuining, do you wanna give it one year of your life? Do you wanna give it six years of your life? Do you wanna give it nine years of your life and maybe end up having his kids and being tied to him forever?"

VALUABLE RESOURCES

You can reach Molly at:

Instagram.com/wild_one_rising and instagram.com/magicfacilitation

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Your mindset can be impacted by limiting beliefs, fear and anxiety. Discover tips and tricks to change your limiting beliefs and mitigate or minimize your fear and anxiety so you can shift your mindset and achieve your dreams! We choose our mindset, and it's much easier to do when we let go of our limiting beliefs and release our fears!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Quick ways to reduce fear and anxiety which will help improve mindset.

• Focus on your breathing – breathing deeply compels our body to physically calm itself. Make sure that your exhale is longer than your inhale.
• Journal/write – keep track of how you are feeling/experiencing your fear for a couple of weeks. What patterns emerge? Writing the details down can help demystify your fears, thereby making them more manageable.
• Practice mindfulness – use what you learned in writing about your fears to become aware of your fears. Observe. Being passive raises your self-awareness and prevents you from doing the things you typically do when feeling the fear.
• Get out into nature – talk a walk outside. Being in nature is calming, reduces stress, and changes our moods, which all helps to shift our mindset.

BEST MOMENTS

Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry -- all forms of fear -- are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. –Eckhart Tolle

We must build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear. – Martin Luther King Jr.

The more you study delight, the more delight there is to study...I felt my life to be more full of delight. Not without sorrow or fear or pain or loss. But more full of delight. – Ross Gay

In the stillness of the quiet, if we listen, we can hear the whisper of the heart giving strength to weakness, courage to fear, hope to despair. – Howard Thurman

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Denise Duffield-Thomas: https://www.denisedt.com/

6 Strategies to Overcome Fear and Anxiety, by Real Life Counseling

Link: https://reallifecounseling.us/blog/overcome-fear-and-anxiety

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]