Life After: From Surviving to Thriving

Feeling stuck, unmotivated, or unable to move forward — even though you want to?

In this episode, we break down why getting stuck is a completely normal part of healing after a toxic or emotionally draining relationship… and the five tiny steps that help you rebuild momentum without overwhelm.

You'll learn how micro-shifts, pattern interrupts, future-self anchoring, and 5-minute promises can gently pull you out of the fog and back into forward motion.

This is your reminder: you're not failing — you're recalibrating. And small steps count. ❤️💜

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Quiet your inner critic
• Be consistent!
• Who do you want to become?
• Use evidence of past successes to motivate you out of the "stuck"
• Do something simple for momentum

BEST MOMENTS

Getting stuck is reactive, getting unstuck is proactive. –Sherene McHenry

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. –Eleanor Roosevelt

Don't look back – you're not going that way. –Mary Engelbreit

Your struggles aren't your identity – they're the training ground for your transformation. –Dr. Nicole LePera

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

After leaving a toxic or narcissistic relationship, there's a quiet space between surviving and thriving — a season I call rebuilding. In this episode, we'll talk about how to navigate that in-between stage with grace, patience, and courage. You'll learn how small, steady steps — not big leaps — lead to real transformation, and how hope, habits, and healing rituals can help you move forward with confidence. Because you've already done the hardest part — you survived — and now it's time to start living again, on your own terms.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Focus on progress, not perfection
• Build habits through hope
• You are not defined by what broke you (that's on THEM!)
• Start small – start Now!

BEST MOMENTS

Never underestimate the power you have to take your life in a new direction. –Germany Kent

Women need to shift from thinking "I'm not ready to do that" to thinking "I want to do that – and I'll learn by doing it". –Sheryl Sandberg

I learned to always take on things I'd never done before. Growth and comfort do not coexist. –Virgina Rometty

She outgrew the version of herself that needed to survive. She was ready to become the version of herself that was going to thrive. –Unknown

Transformation begins with self-awareness and the willingness to take responsibility for your own life. –Dian Mariechild

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. –Maya Angelou

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Real talk about toxic relationships, unexpected transitions, and the courage to trust yourself again. When you find yourself facing the same painful patterns — like attracting toxic people in different areas of your life — it's not failure, it's feedback. Every transition is an invitation to pause, notice, and choose differently. In this episode, we'll talk about how to recognize those patterns, use "pattern interrupts" to shift them, and finally move through your transitions with clarity, courage, and confidence.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

When going through a transition:

• Take the leap
• Make the jump
• Plan for any risk
• Really go for it!

BEST MOMENTS

The Secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new! –Socrates

My mission in life is not merely to survive but to thrive and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. –Maya Angelou

I am a woman who has learned repeatedly that while rock bottom feels like the end – it's always the beginning of something. -Glennon Doyle

If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one. –Dolly Parton

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Free 30-minute Path to Thriving Coaching Call: https://locatecoaching.as.me/PathtoThriving

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Wanna get off the narcissist's ride? You can!

It's time to end the endless loop of confusion, guilt, and second-guessing that always comes with being in a relationship with a narcissist. No matter what role they play in your life — partner, parent, boss, or friend — you have the power to step off the ride and take back control.

In this episode, we'll talk about simple, effective strategies to help you stop the spin, reclaim your peace, and start living life on your own terms.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Use "gray rocking"
• Practice your boundaries
• You don't have to defend yourself from the narcissist
• Choose You!

BEST MOMENTS

Children of narcissists learn that love is abuse. The narcissist teaches them that if someone displeases you, it is okay to harm them and call it love. –M. Wakefield

Narcissism is not about self love. It's a clinical trait that belies a deep sense of emptiness, low self-esteem, emotional detachment, self-loathing, extreme problems with intimacy. –Drew Pinsky

Narcissists purposefully target people who have high levels of integrity.

–from IforHer.com

Narcissists install a mental filter in our heads a little bit at a time… 'Will he get upset if I do/say/think this? Will he approve/disapprove? Will he feel hurt by this? Until we can uninstall the narcissist-filter, our actions are controlled by narcissists to some degree. –Sam Vaknin

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

This episode is all about where mindset and adversity meet. It's easy to stay positive when life is smooth sailing — but when challenges show up (and they always do), our mindset can take a hit. The truth is, it doesn't have to be that way. You can maintain a grounded, empowering mindset — not one that's toxically positive — even in the middle of struggle. Let's talk about how to do it.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Reframe
• Shift
• Take Action!
• Face your fear and anxiety directly

BEST MOMENTS

Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. –Roger Crawford

Your mind will believe what you tell it. So tell it that you're smart, talented, fearless & you have what it takes. –Unknown

The most fulfilling path is paved with challenges overcome and lessons learned. –Unknown

Never underestimate the power you have to take your life in a new direction. –Germany Kent

The most effective way to do it, it to do it. –Amelia Earhart

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Listen to three powerful episodes for more on Hope: Season 1 Episode 14, Season 2 Episode 38, and Season 3 Episode 52!

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Life doesn't always go the way we want — or expect. So, what do you do when things don't go as planned? You acknowledge it, adapt and find a new path forward! Whether it's Plan B, C, or D – there's a whole alphabet to choose from. And you always have choices! This episode is going to help you bring it all together!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Manage your stress:
  • Build and continue self-care
  • Be sure to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep
  • Drink lots of water
  • Keep a routine
  • Get outside!
• What's possible?
• Acknowledge it!
• I CAN versus I can't

BEST MOMENTS

Life can still be beautiful, meaningful, fun, and fulfilling even if things don't turn out the way you planned. –Lori Deschene

Sometimes, things don't work out. Not because you don't deserve it, but because you deserve so much more. –Unknown

When things don't go as planned, it's an opportunity to create a new plan. –Unknown

She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails. –Elizaveth Edwards

Be thankful for the roadblocks, closed doors and detours. They protect you from paths and places not meant for you. –Unknown.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Books, books, books, and more books! This episode is a little different, a departure from our normal content – I'm sharing some of my favorite reads and why I love them! Reading is one of the best ways to shift your perspective, inspire growth, and become a catalyst for change. And the right book – at the right time – can be revolutionary!!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Read 😊
• Books are an amazing resource
• Share your favorites with me!

BEST MOMENTS

She reads books as one would breathe air, to fill up and live. –Annie Dillard

Think before you speak. Read before you think. –Fran Lebowitz

If a book is well written, I always find it too short. –Jane Austen

Great books help you understand, and they help you feel understood. –John Green

What a blessing it is to love books. –Elizabeth von Arnim

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1

The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks Than Others Do in 12 Months, by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, by James Clear

Killing Floor, by Lee Childs

The Assassin's Blade, by Sara J. Maas

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Change, change, change – why is it so scary for so many of us. And why do we resist it? Knowing that change is a good thing, that it gives us choices and improves our lives can be a hard thing to accept. Unfortunately, even when we know this, we may still resist. This episode is a reminder that change is good and that welcoming change into your life provides you so many opportunities.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Change is good!
• Change allows us to have choices
• Every step you make – it adds up!
• Feeling discomfort? – it's time to grow

BEST MOMENTS

Nothing is permanent – except Change. –Unknown

You may not be able to change the past, but with each action, you can change the future. –Jade Fire Gold and June C.L. Tan

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. –Socrates

Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. –Keri Russell

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Today we celebrate! We should never forget to celebrate – big or small! Celebrating along the way reminds us to live, especially when we are recovering and healing from a narcissistic relationship. Celebration is part of the journey back to yourself.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Be sure to take a pause and celebrate… before you move on to your next accomplishment.
• Some of our transitions in life require us to celebrate… it's liberating!
• It's going to be okay. It's going to work out. Believe!
• Use hope. Feel hope. Give hope.

BEST MOMENTS

Too much of a good thing can be wonderful. –Mae West

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. –Oprah

Life should not only be lived, it should be celebrated. –Unknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Tina Swithin: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

An abundance mindset says there is a wealth of something. It broadens your perspective to allocate your resources better. And, when you practice an abundance mindset, you can attract more resources – more easily. Often when people think about an abundance mindset, they are focused on money. However, abundance goes far beyond just money alone to all areas of our lives.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Here are some tips for building your abundance mindset:

1. Gratitude First.
2. Challenge Scarcity Thoughts.
3. Surround Yourself with Growth-Minded People.
4. Give Without Expecting.
5. Visualize Your Version of "More Than Enough."

BEST MOMENTS

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. –Paulo Coelho

What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create. –Buddha

The belief that you have to be a certain way or a particular personality type comes from a place of scarcity. –Denise Duffield Thomas

As we work through, process, recategorize, and assign new meaning to our past memories and experiences, we are able to release them. –Amanda Frances

You have to release the limiting beliefs you've been hiding behind. –Tanya Dalton

And this last one, so, so true!

The world will become a much better place when more women prosper financially and are financially independent, including you! –Denise Duffield Thomas

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

Denise Duffield Thomas - https://www.denisedt.com/

Amandra Frances - https://amandafrances.com/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/sesilpir/2021/03/28/8-mindsets-that-will-re-shape-the-future-of-work-experience/

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]