Life After: From Surviving to Thriving

Trigger Warning: This episode deals with the issue of domestic violence, including gun violence.

This is a must listen episode. Elijah Gossett is my very special guest. He is a survivor of domestic violence who, from the moment he awoke from surgery, chooses to see the hope and gratitude of his circumstances despite the long physical recovery he faced. He chooses to see that love is everywhere and we are so privileged to hear his views on joy, love, hope, resilience, and choosing his mindset even when faced with serious adversity.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Choosing hope, joy, and beauty on the hard days is a conscious decision. No matter what you've been through, there's beauty all around you if you take the time to absorb it. Don't allow yourself to get bogged down in the difficult parts of life around you. There is always something beautiful or positive to see in the world.

BEST MOMENTS

• Life is beautiful – despite the hardships.
• I'm breathing. I'm alive.
• I wanted to give back to my community that helped me so much.
• I owe fire fighters my life.
• Hope is everything… and is pretty contagious.
• Never give up.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Welcome to Season 3! Mindset is everything! A nice refresher for the start of the season, with some tried and true tips, as well as a couple new ones, for shifting your mindset into the space that will keep you focused and moving in the direction of your success. Also, what are the 4 stages of learning curve and how does that impact your mindset.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

4 Stages of Learning Curve:

• Unconscious incompetence
• Conscious incompetence
• Conscious competence
• Unconscious competence

BEST MOMENTS

Follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be. - Joseph Campbell

Fear has two meanings: 'Forget Everything And Run' or 'Face Everything And Rise.' The choice is yours. - Zig Ziglar

Courage is not the towering oak that sees storms come and go; it is the fragile blossom that opens in the snow. - Alice Mackenzie Swaim

Do things differently and do different things. –Brian Moran

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In this episode we are going to look at Gratitude. If you are new to a gratitude practice, it's easy to get started and there are so many benefits! It doesn't really matter how you start, just that you do! Also, take a little time to reflect on how the last year has gone for you and focus on what you are grateful for. Now is the perfect time to start.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Gratitude:

• Opens the doors to more relationships
• Improves physical health
• Improves psychological health
• Enhances empathy and reduces aggression
• Helps you sleep better
• Improves self-esteem
• Increases mental strength

BEST MOMENTS

The vibration of gratitude attracts more positive things into your life. –Cherie Roe Dirksen

It's not happiness that brings us gratitude. It's gratitude that brings us happiness. –Unknown

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. –Melodie Beattie

"Thank you" is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding. –Alice Walker

The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become. –Robert Holden

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude, Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-gratitude

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

The holidays can do even the best of us in! This year, I'm sharing a few tips and tricks to make this holiday season the most enjoyable ever. Easy things to keep your stress level low, focus on what matters to you most, and really enjoy your time in the ways you want! It can be done – and you won't need a vacation in the New Year to recover!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Keep it Chill
• Don't Overcommit
• Say No
• Ask for Help
• Be Kind!
• Share Your Feelings

BEST MOMENTS

My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. –Bob Hope

We light candles in testament that faith makes miracles possible. –Nachum Braverman

Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection. –Winston Churchill

There are always two ways to live in a world that is often dark and full of tears. We can curse the darkness or we can light a light. May we all help light up the world. –Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

It's not what's under the Christmas tree that matters, it's who's around it. –Charles M. Schulz

The spirit of Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights, is shared by all people who love freedom. –Norma Simon

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Leadership skills are incredibly important skills to develop and grow regardless of your job title at work. In part because we use our leadership skills everywhere, and also because the impact that they have on the people we spend our time with can be meaningful and impactful. Being self-aware and knowing your leadership skills strengths and weaknesses will help you enhance those skills you already have, and focus on and improve those that needs attention.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Here are some leadership skills to focus on:

• Communication
• Collaboration
• Respect
• Mentoring
• Motivation
• Authenticity
• Curiosity / Learning Agility
• Adaptability / Flexibility
• Creativity
• Empathy
• Integrity
• Positive attitude
• Relationship-building
• Problem-solving / Critical Thinking
• Self-awareness
• Vision
• Influence
• Conflict resolution
• Time management
• Reliability / Trust

BEST MOMENTS

Leadership is not about title, positions or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another. –John C. Maxwell

A Leader is one who knows the one, goes the way, and shows the way. –John C. Maxwell

If you actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader. –John Quincy Adams

Leadership is not about being in charge. Leadership is about taking care of those in your charge. –Simon Sinek

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

10 Effective Leadership Skills to Lead a Team, Indeed

Link: https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/effective-leadership-skills

8 Essential Qualities of Successful Leaders, Harvard Business Review

Link: https://hbr.org/2023/12/8-essential-qualities-of-successful-leaders

10 Essential Leadership Skills to Develop, Indeed

Link: https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/resumes-cover-letters/leadership-skills

12 Essential Qualities of Effective Leadership, Center for Creative Leadership

Link: https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/characteristics-good-leader/

What Are Leadership Skills, and Why Are They Important?, Coursera

Link: https://www.coursera.org/articles/leadership-skills

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Adversity is a marathon that we don't feel prepared for. When that's the case, we have to adapt, and manage our energy to get through it. One of the reasons some adversity seems insurmountable is because it leaves us feeling powerless. We aren't! We can still make choices. Acknowledge what's happening, connect with and support others to keep a more positive mindset, and act! Having a plan, or nested plans, keep you focused and moving forward in the face of adversity.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

In order to move through adversity:

• Acknowledge
• Connect – get and give support
• Meditate
• Dance
• Plan

BEST MOMENTS

Through adversity, not only are we given opportunity to discover our inner strength, we are also given the gift of foresight so we can shine a light for others who go through the experience after us.

–Rachel Bermingham

It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life's story will develop. –Deieter F. Uchtdorf

It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for oneself and others. –Dalai Lama

Perhaps the most radical act of resistance in the face of adversity is to live joyfully. –Ari Honorvar

VALUABLE RESOURCES

9 Ways to Overcome Adversity, Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/202411/9-ways-to-overcome-adversity

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

In today's episode, we welcome the brilliant Matthew Melendez to share with us how music can change your life. Matthew also gives us fantastic ideas for how to start regularly using music to improve our moods, increase our positive emotions and make connections with others. This is a must listen episode!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We are acting on our feelings all the time.
• Music is an easy entry point into figuring out how to feel our feelings; how to build some emotional awareness.
• Find a group to sing with!
• Music helps with depression, anxiety, agitation, and rumination.
• Music is an emotional container
• We all have innate musical skills, so explore your musical side!

BEST MOMENTS

Matthew talks about using the recorder as a fantastic beginner instrument to test out your musical skills in a fun and creative way, in addition to your voice. There are also several apps out there that will allow you to tinker with, and make your own, music. Consider music emotional finger paint.

When you sing with a group, you all get the get the same benefits and you all emerge from it, no matter how different you think you are going in, with a fundamental knowing, a fundamental awareness, that's a deep knowing, that you have more in common than not. Which allows us to see each other more clearly. It makes it hard to "other" each other.

We can use music to help manage our self-care.

Remember, you are perfectly capable being safe all by yourself.

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://greatbendmusic.org

To receive resources from Jill: https://locatecoaching.activehosted.com/f/1

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill is a mindset coach and speaker who loves to help people. She knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances... and move from surviving to thriving!

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

How can you rebuild your life when you don't have the ability to just walk away like in Eat, Pray, Love or Wild. We explore the ways you can rediscover yourself and find some peace amongst the chaos. We emphasize how you can make changes in your life when you are feeling lost and alone.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

v Breathe

v Get outside

v Be present

v What do you want?

BEST MOMENTS

It is always the simple that produces the marvelous. –Amelia Barr

Do something today that your future self will thank you for. –Unknown

Vitality shows not only in the ability to persist but in the ability to start over. –F. Scott Fitzgerald

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. –Lucille Ball

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist. –Oscar Wilde

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert

Wild, Cheryl Strayed

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

Change is happening all are around us all the time! Change is the one thing we can be absolutely sure of is happening all the time! Don't be afraid to lean into change; accepting and acknowledging change will actually give us more opportunity to decide what life looks like on the other end of the inevitable change.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Don't be afraid to go through change
• When you want to accomplish a lot in life, embrace change!
• Declutter, declutter, declutter (thank you Denise Duffield Thomas!)
• When if feels overwhelming – get back to the basics

BEST MOMENTS

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. –Socrates

Change brings opportunity. –Nido R Qubein

Change is the only constant in life. One's ability to adapt to those changes will determine your success in life. –Benjamin Franklin

Remember that the only constant in life is change. –Buddha

Great things never came from your comfort zone. –Unknown

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks Than Others Do in 12 Months by Brian P Moran and Michael Lennington

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Link to related episode

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]

We rely on resilience when we're stressed and need to get back on track. Practice building resilience and grit in good times, so it's available to you when you need it. Resilience reminds us of our commitments, interests, passions and gets us back on track. We all have ups and downs, it's very natural. It's not about being positive all the time. It's about having skills and choosing to shift your mindset to move through adversity as smoothly as possible.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Even when we feel like we are on our own, we aren't
• Use gratitude to stay grounded
• When we are feeling challenged, we're focused on challenges and then everything seems challenging
• Cultivating resilience is key
• Don't watch the news!

BEST MOMENTS

Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again. –Nelson Mandela

Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, your hurt. You fall. But, you keep going. –Yasmin Mogahed

She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails. –Elizabeth Edwards

VALUABLE RESOURCES

To receive resources from Jill: https://locatecoaching.activehosted.com/f/1

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

For more on Resilience, check out Season 1, episode 10.

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: [email protected]