• Recognition | Terms of Endearment 

• How does he acknowledge you? 
• Ex: Babe, Boo, Pet Name, Hun, Sweet Heart, Pumpkin, Big Head, Never Calls You By Your Name 
• Does he call anyone else by the same “pet name” or term of endearment 
• • Interject story 
• Peep how he saves you in his phone 
• • “Butt Dial” while you’re near him if you need to
• Does he introduce you to people? If so, ho does he introduce you with a title

1a.) Communication 

• Does he call you only at night? 
• Is he sneaky about it? 
• Does he ever FaceTime? Or avoid you? 

• Dating Style 

• Rarely go out in public
• Time he sets the date 
• Cancels a lot / reschedule 
• Never wants to go out 
• Netflix and Chill 

2a.) Establish Your Expectations

• Have date places (activities and restaurants in mind) 
• Say what you’re looking for / See how he responds 
• • Does he avoid the topic 
  • Redirect the conversation 
  • Makes you feel like you’re crazy / making things up

• Stereotypical Signs

• He smells good
• He knows what to say to trip you up 
• Has charm and a dash of culture 
• 1. Will expose you to new things 
  2. Make you feel like you’re the one when he’s around 
  3. Disappears and says nothing when he’s away 
  4. Poor communication
  5. Multidates behind your back 
• Always has an excuse 
• He will ghost you 

Honorary Mentions 

• Checks out other people when you’re together
• Asks for nudes early in the conversation
• Too Sweet, Too Fast (Hey Queen, Goddess, etc)
• Holes in their stories
• Missing for hours on end
• Emotionally unavailable 

• After You Spot Him / Keep Dating 

• Don’t be committed to one person if you’re not in a relationship
• Don’t sit around waiting for a man to call you.
• Don’t be accessible for him if he’s not making you a priority
• Have him show mutual respect
• Don’t assume you two are exclusive

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Definition: A Pick Me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.

• Check Yourself 

• Why are you pressed for a man 
• Pace your excitement especially early on 
• He has to show who he is first, before you invest your time, money, and feelings 

• Identify Your Standards

• Establish what you want early on
• Learn the difference between conforming and compromising 
• Titles matter 
• Only invest your time where there is a return 
• Equal effort 
• Pay attention to his actions and words 
• Don’t fear asking questions the communication start early on

2a.) Find The Balance In Submission 

• We love a man that leads and takes control but we can’t be a complete pushover 
• Make him work for it
• Example: He doesn’t like natural hair, so you perm your hair to please him
• Dropping everything for him if he hits you up with plans last minute

• Know When To End It 

• Sticking to your boundaries and standards 
• Being single doesn’t mean you’re lonely 
• When you love yourself enough you can continue to honor your solitude

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Lately I’ve  been in a space of trying to “find” the light. When I struggle with this I lean into gratitude. 

• Current Life

• Unexpected shift happening around me 
• • Guy that I liked made another choice 
  • Brand partnership shifted direction 
  • (Don’t do it for the money / Do it for the service) | Don’t move out of desperation 
  • Changes occurred with Live Civil 
  • At this moment i dont know what I’m doing and there an odd joy nad excitement about it. I”m placing a test on life, myself, and are dreams real. 

• Perspective / Protect Your Energy

• This is happening for me and my greater good
• Be still and lean into gratitude
• Gratitude expands your life 
• • Prayed to receive reminders and from God and te universe that I need to grateful again
  • Show me the light around 
  • Then speaking aloud to my younger brother I knew this more so on my spirit to talk about 

• The recurring messages are coming at you for a reason 
• • The business idea I’ve sat on since last year has been brewing inside of me 
  • I saw a video of B.Simone placing a dollar into her savings account and was instantly inspired 
  • It gave me gratification that I can do it too
  • Filed for the business name LLC and secured all social media accounts
  • Next steps Trademarking
  • The concept is something that is so simple and makes sense 
  • Afraid or not just do it 
  • Identify the fears and possibilities / Do a pros an cons list ot get it off your chest. If the pros our way the cons there is your answer. Go for it. 

• Things That I Want: 

• I want… 
• • to be a millionaire by 35 
  • Diversifying my streams of income 
  • a partner who is a go getter and driven for abundance in life
  • Create opportunities for others 
  • Be of service to others and provide the key tools so everyone can make “It” too 
  • Everyone to experience abundance and happiness
  • Other to have tier dreams come true and if I can be apart of it in one way or another I feel like being of service te most

 Story:  

• In my twenties I was coming form a space of self and just what I wanted for me and mine 
• The followers / Gratification / Being seen / Known 
• I like my privacy. I like helping people. I like giving joy. 
• Between last year 2020 and now  nother shift happened and purpose rose. 
• My passion became my motivator
• The desire to want to help in a genuine place where it was less about me and how I can serve you all as listeners 

• The Next Move

• Do what feels right 
• • Doesn’t have to make sense at all | You will block your blessing trying to figure out 
  • Feeling universe 
  • • What feels good to me is this podcast 
    • Helping and providing clarity where there is confusion 
    • This podcast is apart of my service / almost a year of doing it for free 
    • There are possibilities now 
  •  Move in faith and uncertainty 
  • That what faith it 
  • Keep in mind it don’t be foolish and spend your last dollar
  • Educate yourself, ask questions, seek answers
  • Want it more than be afraid of it.

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Allow Yourself To Feel The Burn 

• It definitely stings 
• Allow yourself to feel every and embrace the feeling 
• These emotions don’t last forever (Thankfully) / Its not the end of the world
• There is risk in putting yourself out there, but there’s also a beauty in humanity
• Insecurities do arise like well what about me didn’t “make it” cause I was enamored 
• Take heed when action change because they speak louder than the words (ex: does he call when he says he will or FT) 
• Is there urgency?  / Is the excitement still there? / If he thinks about you he’ll show it! 

Self Reflection 

• Know your self worth 
• I got a taste of my own medicine 
• You think of should I rebel and cover the void with another person or thing
• Should I run and download another app and race to it 
• At this point I’m well aware these apps are all about personal validation and ego 
• I don’t want to rely on that
• Being single is enough 
• Karma is real 

Speak Truth 

• Now we don’t just blindly run into these situations 
• Legit was minding my business and not trying to entertain anyone, but he was persistent so I obliged 
• There are the Lawrences of the world / “The Nice Guy” with fuck boy tendencies 
• Definitely led me on, but I still held back emotionally
• I still love to revel in a crush and person who has mystery. The mystic of a person is attractive to me
• I still remain open because it would be unfair to my own lived experience 

Better Is On The Horizon 

• The blessing is I’ll never have to say shoulda, woulda, coulda 
• I put myself out there openly 
• Clearly, the other person offered something I wasn’t providing 
• Little to no access to me 
• There has to be an emotions 
• I don’t mind the hurt and I welcome it because its living proof that I’m alive 
• Once I was scared that I lost touch with emotion 

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Relationship Expert / Guru Message 

• Is he credible? 
• The depiction of him didn’t align with his messaging 
• Preached about being faithful, but was cheating the whole time
• Who made him a relationship Guru 
• Speaks with A LOT of conviction 

Hypocrisy

• Never revealed his wife publicly 
• Cheated with 3 Women 
• One woman was in his bed 
• One was a doctor and terminated the pregnancy 

Body Language / Religion 

• Held hands 
• Wife took him back
• Used God as a cushion during his apology
• Beanie
• Army Fatigue

Capitalism

• How convenient it will be to releasing a book in promotion 
• Product placement

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Travel 

• See the world and allow yourself to experience new cultures 
• Jamaica, PR, DR, London, Germany, Paris, Costa Rica, Mexico, Bahamas 

Fall In Love 

• Be hopeful in love
• Allow yourself to experience it 
• I can have my shell, but honestly, I’m open and fearless in being hurt
• At this point, I feel like I’m just taking my time before I full immerse myself again 
• I’ve learned the ability to be open and vulnerable is way more beautiful 

Take Control of Your Finances 

• Open a Roth IRA (retirement account) 
• Invest In The Stock Market regularly 
• • Things I already have and believe in 

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Being finanicailly literate is definitely important before getting into a relationship. On this episode, Sebastien explains the importance and being financially secure before getting into a relationship or jumping the broom. Make sure you are where the money resides!

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Disclaimer: 

Be better than me in all of this. 

This is if you're single or even in a relationship. I’m pretty consistent with this I’m legit good with a once a month tuneup or I can even go longer. Romance and sensual. (Fair update on my neighbor) 

•  Send Sexy Messages

• Builds anticipation for what's to come if you know for sure you going there 
• Tell him what you want to do to him 
• Send him some thirst traps so he knows what he’ll get tonight

• Share Your Fantasies (Long term relationship with someone) 
• Express something you’ve never done but want to try

• Have sex in a new location

• Don’t be embarrassed. Share your fantasies over a glass of wine. Remember that you’re in a safe space.

• Attire: 

• What do and don’t wear sets of what’s about to go down
• Lingerie, cute underwear, thongs, jock straps, bodysuits lingerie come now for both men and women (edible underwear) 
• I love a ROBE in a heartbeat. Get a few in different colors, fabrics, and/or lengths 

• Atmosphere: 

• Set the mood with a aroma this includes the scent you put on you 
• I get my oils from the hood males… now you can get them from the beauty supply stores, but I try to buy black and I’ll drive the longer way to pick it up 
• Burn candles, incense, diffusers, sent that you pumpkin, lavender, vanilla, cinnamon, peppermint, and ginger aphrodisiacs 

• Playing music or subtle sounds

• Hot Wax, lubricant, body oils

• Foreplay:

• Best part of the entire situation 

• Slow kissing

• Find the pressure points on the body 

• (I get really submissive with a desire to please) Head, Stomach, Feet, Ears, Back 

• Role Playing

• Make the bedroom a judgement free zone
• Set limits in advance
• Pick from a list of relationships

• Send Sexy Messages

• It builds anticipation for what's to come
• Tell him what you want to do to him 
• Send him some thirst traps so he knows what he’ll get tonight

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3 Ways To Love On Yourself

1. Body Maintenance

• Facials, Try New Products, (My think jojoba oil and a steamer) 
• Eyebrows, Not Nairing, Hair Removal, I’m a hairy bitch right now
• Workout and do your cardio, bitch 
• Knowing what hair products are good for you have hair 
• Giving yourself daily treatments that pour back into you. Where you don’t have to share 
• My space has always been the bathroom and shower 
• Literally feeling the water hit my body with no interruptions

2. Nutrition

• Drink your water friend 
• Cook at home 
• Try new meals and/smoothies 
• Take those vitamins / prescriptions  
• Use sugar alternatives (agave, honey, ect) 

3. Masturbation/Self Pleasure

•  Set The Mood
• • Turn down the lights
  • Turn on Your favorite video
  • Slowly Tease Yourself
  • Pull up your favorite site on incognito 
  • Light scented candles too. Nice smelling aromas could help with your imagination for whoever you’re thinking about.

• Switch Positions  

• Try standing up or laying down. You could also lean against a wall. Or use your other hand. You can utilize different strokes on yourself.

• Toys

• Toys could open up a whole new world. There are anala beads, fleshlights, pocket strokers, and prostate stimulators too. “Nipples. The clitoris of the torso.” (@karen_hobbs)

• Using vibrators or dildos could give more pleasure than just using your hands.

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You can multi-date and seriously date at the same time. I recommend keeping it between 1 to 2 guys. You don’t want to keep giving yourself away in pieces. 

Seriously Dating 

• Dating with expectations of (eventually being exclusive & something long term)
• Seeing and living the potential of where things can go 
• Are their words and actions aligning or not? 
• When he says he wants to see you does he really try? 

What Seriously Looks Like 

• He communicates 
• He does what he says 
• You’re sharing experiences 
• Meeting friends/family 
• Seeing their place 
• Open and honest communication 
• Honoring each other’s love languages 
• A serious relationship will challenge you/ push you to grow depending on the kind of partner you have and want 

Conversations To Have: 

1. Ask each other what a relationship looks like to you
2. What are your long-term goals? 
3. What are some of your interests and hobbies? 
4. What are some fun activities you like? 
5. Don’t worry about being nice, be honest 
6. Finances can be discussed 
7. Where do you see yourself in 5 to 10 years? 
8. What are some values you align yourself with?
9. What are your triggers? 
10. How do you handle conflict? 

Don’ts 

1. What’s your credit score? 
2. What’s your body count? 
3. Are you paying? 
4. Don’t ask about the ex
5. Where did things go wrong…

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