Ever left a weird or uncomfortable situation wishing you'd spoken up, then spiraled wondering if you were just "being dramatic"? This episode is a real-life reckoning with that exact moment - the confusion, the self-doubt, and the guts it takes to go back and say, "Nope, that wasn't okay." We're digging into why you second-guess yourself, how old habits of keeping the peace can keep you silent, and what changes when you finally call it out - even if your voice shakes. If you're tired of swallowing your discomfort just to avoid rocking the boat, let's get honest about what it really means to have your own back.

This episode, Kimberly wades straight into the deep end of a topic most people would rather avoid: negotiating what you want in sex and relationships without losing yourself in the process. She coaches through a real-world situation ripped from the comments section: what do you do when you hate porn, your partner wants it, and now you feel boxed into a corner where you either send nudes or risk them looking elsewhere?

There’s no “right answer” here - just a whole lotta gray area, messy feelings, and questions about whose values, boundaries, and needs get to matter. Kimberly brings research, zero B.S., and her own experience with codependency, religious baggage, and neurodiversity into it, reminding you that you don’t owe anyone compliance, and “compatibility isn’t a moral victory march.”

You get permission to unpack the pressures (and shame) you’re carrying, get real about what you want, and ask: “Am I bending myself to keep someone, or is this actually a fit?” No highlight-reel quick fixes, but just some spicy honesty and an invitation to stop making your needs a negotiation.

Ready to stop bending yourself into a pretzel trying to “fit” someone else’s mold? Book a free 1:1 consultation with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com, or DM @theKimberlyMathis on Instagram to see how coaching can help you navigate your own messy relationship or sex-life crossroads.

Kimberly’s pulling back the curtain on what it’s actually like dating as a bisexual woman - and bringing her straight, military-vet partner Anthony along for the ride. No sugarcoating, no surface-level Pride Month fluff. They’re getting real about bi stereotypes (“There’s this idea that bi women are automatically cheaters... like, what?!”), the invisibleness that is bi erasure, and what it’s like showing up authentically in the Bible Belt. From codependent people-pleasing to not feeling “queer enough,” Kimberly lays out the awkward conversations, the questions straight dudes never ask, and why it’s so damn important to have space to be yourself. If you’ve ever felt erased, stuck between worlds, or just plain tired of explaining yourself, this one’s for you.

Feeling seen in this conversation and ready to coach through your own messy middle? Book a free consult with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com or slide into her DMs on Instagram @thekimberlymathis. You don’t have to do Pride - or life - alone.

Let’s get real about relationships, especially when you’ve got a messy resume of codependency, ADHD quirks, and a deep aversion to letting anyone in. This week, Kimberly invites her partner Anthony onto the pod for his first ever podcast episode - no performances, just an honest dive into what it actually looks like to build an equal partnership when you’ve spent decades over-giving and second-guessing yourself.

We talk about the awkwardness of learning to receive support (“It has been hard to settle into in some ways to allow...receiving support, receiving help from you in particular.”), how not to lose yourself when there’s finally someone in your corner, and why being honest is actually terrifying but essential when you’ve been burned in the past. Expect zero five-step-formulas, 100% real moments, and enough side stories about exes and dating apps to keep things relatable.

Oh, and there’s plenty of behind-the-scenes: from running a business together (hint: Kimberly’s the hype woman, Anthony’s the camera guy), to navigating ADHD, to what it’s like to be with a literal Green Beret (“It’s hot as fuck. And I love it. And I have to hold myself back from telling everybody all the time...”).

Ready to get honest about your own relationships - or finally figure out what it means to actually receive support? Kimberly’s taking on a few 1:1 clients. Get the details and book a consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com, or DM her on Instagram @heykimberlymathis.

And if you need a killer photographer (sports, weddings, brands, you name it), Anthony’s your guy: www.tkx-photography.com.

No filters, no faking - just honest partnership talk, business building, and the messy, hopeful stuff in between.

THE POD IS BACK!

In this heartfelt solo episode, Kimberly Mathis reflects on her nearly year-long break from podcasting, turning 40, and what real change looks like in life and work. She shares candid insights about navigating burnout, perimenopause, and embracing small, meaningful shifts over dramatic epiphanies.

Kimberly opens up about her evolving coaching practice, being more selective with clients, and stepping back from content that doesn’t feel authentic. She talks about partnering in her boyfriend’s business, launching a new program combining coaching with AI, and even applying for a part-time job as a bridal stylist - just for the fun of it.

Join Kimberly as she invites you into her messy, in-between season and reminds us all that you’re allowed to change your mind, pivot, and experiment - even when you don’t have it all figured out. If you’re craving more ease, joy, and real conversations about growth, this episode is for you.

Ready to evolve alongside Kimberly? Tune in and remember, you’re not alone on the journey.

For updates and ways to connect, visit www.kimberlymathis.com.

In this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," I sit down with my client, Jessica, for an insightful and deeply personal conversation about her experience working with me as her coach.

Join us as we delve into Jessica's journey of uncertainty - from her initial concerns about pregnancy to her evolving mindset and newfound sense of self-worth. Jessica's experience is a fantastic example of the impact of coaching on personal growth and navigating life's uncertainties, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking a first-hand account of what it's like to work

Listen to this episode to gain practical tips for addressing fears, working through mindset shifts, and adapting to individualized coaching needs. Our conversation emphasizes the value of personal development over monetary gain, offering tangible takeaways for enhancing mental and emotional well-being.

Tune in to uncover the simple and doable actions that Jessica implemented on her coaching journey, and discover how these insights can apply to your own life. This episode is a raw and honest exploration of the coaching process, giving you clear examples of how coaching can empower and support you no matter what you're bringing to the coaching table.

🌟 In this episode, I'm sharing 39 things that you might not know about me. Why 39? Because I'm turning 39 this month!

It's not a regular episode. It's a raw, real, and unfiltered peek into who I am – from family dynamics to mental health struggles, personal growth, relationships, and everything in between. 🌿✨

I talk about growing up influenced by '90s purity culture, early marriage, motherhood, and the work I've done on self-discovery, including being diagnosed with ADHD at 34.

This episode is not about platitudes or sugar-coating life – it's about being real with you. Coaches are regular people too. I hope you'll find a sense of solidarity, reflect on your own journey, and feel more compassionate toward all parts of you. 🌈🌻

This episode is a reminder that every decision – big or small – shapes our narratives. It's a heartfelt invitation to explore the intricacies of our stories, celebrate resilience, and find beauty in the messy, unfiltered tapestry of life. 🌸

There are multiple ways to work with me. Check them out at www.kimberlymathis.com or find me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis

In the this episode, I discuss a topic that's close to my heart - making peace with our past and allowing ourselves to move forward without feeling stuck. I share a story about one of my clients who's been struggling with shame and the belief that she needs to change her feelings about her past to move forward.

Key takeaways from the episode:

- Stop using coaching or therapy against yourself: Sometimes we get stuck in trying to change our thoughts or feelings, leading to a constant struggle. It's okay to accept our genuine feelings and beliefs and find a new way forward.

- Embrace your current reality: Instead of fighting against your thoughts and emotions, consider how you can move forward while acknowledging and accepting them.

- Focus on who you are becoming: It's essential to redirect your energy towards the person you are becoming and how you want to show up in the world, rather than getting caught up in changing unchangeable aspects of yourself.

Want to work with me? Schedule a free consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com

Hope is not a strategy. Hope is not going to get you the end result that you want. It has got to be a decision, because a decision has a plan.

In this episode, I'm sharing the way I started thinking about decisions differently, and how this has become THE most important thing in my life, and in the work I do. I'll also clarify what a "decision" really includes, so that you can start making some for yourself.

Want to work with me 1:1? Go to www.kimberlymathis.com and schedule a free consultation.

If you're a people-pleaser, you've probably never associated those behaviors with control. But here's the thing: people-pleasing isn't just about being nice. If you can better understand the motivation behind people-pleasing behavior, you can more easily change those patterns.

Join me as we peel back the layers of people-pleasing and uncover its roots. From the fear of rejection to the illusion of control, I'm breaking down why we fall into this trap and how to break free. So if you're ready to stop sacrificing your authenticity for the sake of others and have more control over your own life, this episode is for you.

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