Life, Coached.

Are your goals clear? Are they accurate? Are they even attainable?

After setting goals with clients for years, I'm telling you about the top 5 mistakes I see people make when they talk about what they're wanting to achieve.

Make sure you aren't making these same mistakes because doing so will quite possibly make your goals harder to achieve - if they're even achievable in the first place.

And if you want to set goals and work with me to reach them, I'm taking 1:1 clients. Schedule a free consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis

Work with me at www.kimberlymathis.com

In this episode, I delve into the subtle yet impactful behavior of triangulation. While often associated with toxic dynamics, I shed light on how triangulation can seep into our everyday conversations and relationships without us even realizing it.

I break down what triangulation is and how it surfaces in our interactions, offering relatable examples that resonate with everyday experiences. Through open and candid discussions, I guide you on how to recognize and navigate triangulation to foster healthier, more authentic connections and relationships with the people who matter in your life.

You'll gain practical insights on spotting the signs of triangulation in your own interactions, understanding its impact on relationships, and implementing strategies for fostering healthier communication. I encourage you to reflect on your personal experiences with triangulation and provide actionable steps to decrease this behavior, empowering you to bring positive change to your daily interactions.

Tune in to gain valuable insights and simple strategies for navigating difficult relationships and breaking free from patterns of triangulation. If you've ever found yourself caught up in gossip or seeking validation from others instead of addressing conflict head on, this episode offers actionable steps to facilitate healthier and more direct communication.

TIMESTAMPED OVERVIEW:

00:00 Adding a third party changes a relationship.

06:56 Triangulation can sow distrust in relationships.

11:18 Seek support if necessary, avoid constant negativity.

15:09 Avoided conflict, sought outside advice, communication struggles.

17:07 Create clear personal boundaries to prevent triangulation.

20:29 Reaching out for support, not avoiding conflict.

25:09 Encouraging reflection on behavior and seeking support.

What does "visibility" mean to you? Is it ever something you think about focusing on, or working on in your life? If you associate "visibility" with how much you show up on social media, or how well-known you are, you're merely scratching the surface.

I just spent a week in Miami with other coaches and we did a visibility deep dive.

Listen to this episode to learn more about what visibility really means, what visibility work could look like in your own life, and how I'm thinking about visibility both in my personal and professional life.

Work with me 1:1 at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis

No, we're not talking about faking it until you make it.

But we are talking about taking action BEFORE you feel ready; before you have the thoughts & feelings you think are necessary to take the actions.

Listen in to learn why telling yourself you can't move forward without the beliefs or feelings you want is just holding you back, and how to create a guide for forward action anyway.

Work with me 1:1 to create your own compass and change things that feel unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

Picture this: there's a sticky situation in front of you, yet you spend less time figuring out what you want to do to move forward AND you aren't worrying as much about what other people are going to do or say.

On today's episode, we're getting clear on what's in YOUR control (spoiler: it's not someone else's mind drama) and how to ditch the emotional baggage of feeling responsible for everything and everyone. Get ready to trade mental chaos for clarity because, let's face it, you've got enough on your plate.

Work with me 1:1 to change what feels unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

It's been a sh*t Valentine's week for a lot of folks - including myself. So let's talk about love, shall we?

In this episode, we'll discuss:

- the difference between feeling love(d) and practicing love

- the cultural messages about love vs. what love actually entails

- how to love someone and cause pain by acting lovingly

If you want to change how you're loving yourself & others, I've got room for 1:1 clients. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here.

How many times have you told yourself - or told someone else - to "just let it go"? What do we mean when we say that? What do we expect that we should be able to do? Today we're unpacking that phrase, and getting really clear on what we can and can't let go of.

I'm also going to help you think about this phrase in a new way - one that gives you actionable steps to help you stop ruminating and overthinking.

Interested in working with me? Let's chat. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

When you're avoiding an outcome because it feels too tough to handle, it clouds your thinking and decision-making.

You end up reacting to your fear, instead of responding to the situation in ways that best align with your values, your intentions, and the person you want to be.

Anything we set out to do or achieve comes with inherent risk of experiencing things that can be shitty - and therefore, they also ask us to be WILLING to experience those things if we truly want to go after what we want.

So, are you willing to experience some shitty stuff? Let's talk more about what I mean, and what this can look like. I'll use my own personal life as an example.

✨Want to change some of your own responses to things? Want to do things differently? Then let's explore working together.✨

Book a complimentary consultation here.

Interested in working with me? Connect with me here.

It's a podcast milestone: THE FIRST GUEST!

Meet Dr. Gina Senarighi. Not only is she a relationship expert, she's also been MY coach throughout the last few years. I invited her on to continue the conversation we've been having about therapy & coaching and criticisms of the coaching industry.

In this episode we talk about the following:

Connect with Gina at www.heygina.com

I'm a therapist-turned-coach, with openings for 1:1 clients. If you're looking for someone to help you change things that feel unchangeable, schedule a complimentary consultation to see if I'm the best fit for you.

Full disclosure: this episode was prompted by an algorithmic gift on the 'Gram - a post titled "The Scam of Millennial Motivational Coaches." Not only was I offended by the mention of my generational label (millennials are AMAZING, ok??), but I had so many issues with the points being made throughout the post that I decided I needed to record an episode.

Listen as I walk you through these common coaching criticisms, and offer my own thoughts and a different perspective. This is a nuanced discussion, and my hope is simply that you have more information to help you decide who you want to work with when looking for a coaching (or therapy) practitioner.

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