Life, Coached.

Get ready for an episode that will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about being nice and being kind. We're diving into the difference between the two and why it's so important to choose kindness over just being nice. Kimberly shares a personal anecdote that highlights the confusion between the two concepts and the societal pressure placed on women to be "good girls." Join us as we unpack these gender norms and explore how they can lead to resentment and a loss of self-identity. This episode is a must-listen, especially if you identify as female.

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Today, we're tackling a feeling we all know too well: resentment. But here's the twist - we're flipping the script on this emotion. Instead of blaming others for how we feel, we're diving into the power of self-reflection and taking control of our own happiness. From partners who don't pull their weight to bosses who drive us crazy, resentment can creep into any area of life. But guess what? It's actually a sign that we've neglected our own needs and boundaries. Join me as we uncover the real meaning behind resentment and learn how to shift our relationship & response to that unpleasant emotion.

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In this episode titled "Decisions that Hurt People," Kimberly tackles the tough topic of making decisions that have a painful impact on someone else. As a former marriage and family therapist turned coach, Kimberly shares her insights on navigating these difficult choices, acknowledging that while we have influence we do not have control, and she introduces the concept of "clean pain" and "dirty pain" that will help you release some responsibility for people's experiences. Join us as we delve into the nuances of this important conversation and learn how to make decisions that align with our true selves without ignoring the impact on others.

Are you tired of feeling uncomfortable and sacrificing your own needs for the sake of others? I've got you. I lived that way for years, and have been practicing changing that pattern. It's not been easy, but I see progress all the time and I want to share a celebration of that progress with you.

In this episode, we talk about decisions that help you tap into the power of acting on your values and making decisions that align with who you want to be. I'll share a recent story of my own defiance, resilience, and self-reliance that will leave you feeling inspired and ready to take charge of your life. From saying "no" to pushy salespeople to navigating uncomfortable situations, you've got it in you to handle it all.

So grab a cup of coffee, kick back, and enjoy. And if you are ready to work with me, go to www.kimberlymathis.com and schedule a consultation call.

As a former licensed marriage and family therapist turned mindset coach and decision facilitator, I've helped countless individuals navigate through tough decisions and change what feels unchangeable. While this podcast focuses on all types of decisions, big and small, today we're honing in on the worst-case scenario and why it's crucial to face it head-on. Join me as we discuss the lurking anxiety that comes with avoiding the worst-case scenario, the instinctual need to protect ourselves, and how understanding the worst-case scenario can greatly influence our decision-making process. Stay tuned for valuable insights and practical strategies that will empower you to embrace the worst-case scenario and make more confident decisions. 

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How do you make decisions? What are the downsides of doing it that way, and what could you do differently? That's what this episode is all about. If you want to improve your decision-making, and trust the choices you make, you can work with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com

📎 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Embrace Your Decision-Making Style: No one decision-making style fits all situations. Whether you're a data gatherer or an impulsive decision-maker, own your style and see where you can make improvements.

2️⃣ Get Comfortable with Discomfort: Stepping out of your comfort zone is crucial for growth. Being too safe and comfortable can lead to frustration and feeling stuck. Embrace the discomfort and unlock new possibilities.

3️⃣ Avoiding Decisions Limits Your Potential: By deferring decisions or waiting until the last minute, you limit your choices and allow others to make choices for you. Embrace the reason-driven decision model and trust yourself to figure things out.

📎 Key Moments:

[00:00:49] Two decision-making types and their downsides.

[00:04:36] Calculated decisions based on past experiences.

[00:07:21] No guarantee of perfect decision without obstacles.

[00:12:48] Embrace discomfort, explore possibilities, take calculated risks.

[00:15:12] Don't give away decision-making power, embrace it.

In this episode, you'll learn about the topic of Relationship Anarchy.

🔔 Here are 3 key takeaways from this thought-provoking episode:

1️⃣ Trust and Communication: Relationships thrive when we choose to trust and assume the best in our partners. Trust requires generosity in our assumptions, giving the benefit of the doubt, and open, honest communication.

2️⃣ Relationship Anarchy: The philosophy of Relationship Anarchy encourages autonomy and self-determination in defining relationships on our own terms. It challenges relationship hierarchy and promotes valuing each connection as unique. It's not just for nonmonogamous or polyamorous relationships, but applicable to all types of partnerships.

3️⃣ Your Own Design: Designing your own commitments and partnerships allows you to create a fulfilling life according to your needs and values. Explore and integrate aspects of Relationship Anarchy that resonate with you and question the societal norms. Remember, the only limitations are the ones you impose on yourself.

If you're interested in exploring these concepts further, book an Indecision Intervention at www.kimberlymathis.com and schedule a free call with Kimberly. She's THE decision coach for becoming more decisive and trusting your decisions. Happy listening! 🎧✨

It's time for a relationship reality check.

In this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," we discuss the Relationship Escalator. Just because a relationship lasts a long time doesn't mean it's successful. 📆 Many long-term relationships can have toxic dynamics, so it's important to define YOUR own version of relationship success. 🌟 Instead of following society's expectations, let's explore alternative markers of success. 🎉 Let's celebrate milestones, establish traditions, and decide for ourselves what relationship moments are special. 🎊 🤯 Break free from the relationship norms and consider a "Relationship Smorgasbord" where YOU choose different aspects that work for YOU. 🍽️ Remember, not all parts of a relationship are necessary or required. It's all about finding YOUR definition of happiness. 🔥 Stepping off the Relationship Escalator can be challenging and make you feel alone, but you can find a community that values similar values and choices.

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Let's talk about something that's often controversial and complex, but oh so important - sexual orientation. 🌈✨ This episode was a tough one to record, and could easily bring controversy. But for people going through the experience of coming out - especially if they are well into adulthood - there's a really important message here. On this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," you'll be asked to question why we feel the need to label sexual orientation as a choice, or something we're born with? Is it valid to simply embrace the truth of where we are now - who we love, who we are attracted to, the capacity we have for various relationships - whatever that may be? Let's unpack this often-debated question, challenge the norms, and be deliberate in choosing our beliefs about this issue. You're invited to celebrate the diverse tapestry of human love and whatever evolutions we experience during our lives. Remember, your journey of self-discovery is valid and beautiful, no matter what it looks like. ❤️🌈

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🧠 Are you on a quest for self-improvement? 💪🏼 Seeking that elusive version of yourself that seems "perfect"?

It's time to reconsider what "better" really means. In this thought-provoking episode of "Decisions Change Everything," we challenge the common pursuit of eliminating our flaws and reaching some unattainable ideal. Learn why accepting our humanity, embracing discomfort, and being open to change is the true path to personal growth. Discover how self-acceptance, self-awareness, and self-motivation can help you navigate life's challenges with grace and authenticity. Let's redefine "self-improvement" and make decisions that genuinely impact what it means to be a "better" version of yourself. Make sure to tune in. Send this episode to a friend who needs to hear this today, and share it with your network to spark meaningful discussions.

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