Life in Relationship

ILMS 47 – Ten Minutes of Truth

Kendrick Lamar “All the Stars” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yvOh7vVqlaE

“You can’t bring the truth to me…”

*warning: this song contains explicit lyrics

Ten Minute Truth #1 -

Share your own search for Truth with others to start the conversation.

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Truth matters in family to have naked and unashamed relationships. 

What’s love got to do with it?

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

• truth is both law and Gospel
• no longer hiding

Ten Minute Truth #3 - We often trust someone else’s word over God’s Word. 

Romans 1:22-25

• making ourselves feel better with lies
• shame and hurt result when we don’t hear truth to hear of God’s love

Ten Minute Truth #4 - We dwell in truth, live in truth, when we acknowledge who God is and who we are.

1 John 1:8-9

• confession acknowledges who God is, but also who we are, and who we are in relationship to who God is

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ILMS 49 —Ten Minutes of Justice

Violence and a culture searching for justice

Ten Minute Truth #1 - We often want the benefit of the doubt for ourselves, but rarely give it to our neighbor.

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Justice doesn’t have a simple solution, and it has only one solution. 

Job 38

- we think we know the right answers, but only God does

-  we will never see justice apart from Jesus 

Think on These- https://www.amazon.com/Think-These-Philippians-Heidi-Goehmann/dp/1536928631

Ten Minute Truth #3 - God gives us Jesus, but He also gives us the Holy Spirit for justice today.

Micah 6:6-8

Ten Minute Truth #4 - We desire justice for all people and have compassion for those who are unjust.

Hosea 12:2-6

- God enables us, justice is not something we can do on our own

- we can speak justice in Christ to a hurting world

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IMLS 48 — Ten Minutes of Honor

Cultural differences to consider

- honor and shame 

- performance reward

Ten Minute Truth #1 - Biblically, honor impacts more than just the individual.

-  connected across generations

-  community impact of actions

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Honor is related to what we will and will not compromise.

Number 22:15-21

What do we trade the Truth of God for in this world?

- as individuals, as churches, as church bodies

- quick to judge individual sins, but corporate sin and honor are also related

- OT concept of prostitution beyond sexual sin, but connected with giving ourselves and our hearts away to 

Ten Minute Truth #3 - Jesus turns honor on its head.

Luke 10:25-37

- reaching out in love for our neighbor when it looks like dishonor

- honor will probably look different from the way the world expects it

Luke 15:11-32

- we are always invited back, God honors us

Ten Minute Truth #4 - Jesus is the only one who is righteous and truly honorable.

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ILMS 46 – Written in Iron Ink: Weight loss

Special Guest: Sara Borgstede from The Holy Mess

Job 19

Sara’s story -

https://www.theholymess.com/100-lb-weight-loss-how-did-you-do-it/

the importance of therapy

Weight Watchers or other accountability program

10 years maintaining, changing habits, and beginning to love exercise

Highlights:

Compassion God has for His children overflowing to compassion for ourselves

Recommended encouraging Scripture

• write them on notecards to keep in front of you

Isaiah 43:19

Hebrew 12:1-2

Food, eating, and the deeper struggle

- relationship to emotions

- relationship to shame

- getting to those roots

- hope for the new thing God is doing and His work

Calling out cultural ideas about food and body image

The relationship between fellowship and food

Handling food at parties, potlucks, and church events

• find one person to focus on at the event
• shift in focus and thinking about the event
• tiny bites

Finding Goals

Accountability and relationships

Isaiah 43:4-5

Connecting in the journey

www.theholymess.com

www.faithfulfinishlines.com

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ILMS 45 – Practical Tools for Anxiety

*This podcast is not a replacement for local mental health resources. Please seek counseling or other local resources you have available to address any mental health concern.

4 Part Anxiety Series:

Episode 42 – Distinguishing Fear, Worry, and Anxiety

Episode 43 - Defining Anxiety: A Recontextualization

Episode 44 - Developing a Theology of Anxiety

Today – Practical Tools for Anxiety

Scripture often misapplied

Mark 9:23-25

• “I believe! Help my unbelief!”
• there will always be a component of doubt in this broken world
• Psalm 13, when doubts assail
• The relationship between doubt and anxiety

John 17:14-18

• Escape it or embrace
• In the world, with His Truth alongside us

Matthew 11:28-30

• With us in it v. Jesus just taking care of all the stuff
• Implode, explode, or rest
• Implode = shame, rumination, physical manifestation
• Explode = crying, exercise, praying from our heart’s cry, screaming in a pillow
• Rest = letting it be what it is, recognize God in it, read the Word

Judges 6-7

• God invites questions, even weird ones, even full of fear

Luke 12:22-32

• Relationship between anxiety and worry
• Emphasis on care of savior, little flock language

Spiritual Care –

The Body Keeps the Score

https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

What would you like to pray about?

What weights or pressures do you feel right now? (physical and metaphorical)

*Do not forget to refer to a mental health professional. Spiritual care is different than therapy and other mental health services.

Tools

Basic Mindfulness

• Being in the today, tomorrow has enough trouble of it’s own
• Beautiful reminders written down

http://ilovemyshepherd.com/2018/01/new-word-year-beautiful/

• Prayer journal

Music

• Classical, yes, but any music that’s helpful for you
• Hard music, loud music, etc.
• Example: Red- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yH-k_6tU9Wc

Gratitude List

• 30 days, 3-5 things a day, never repeat the same thing

Handwritten cards and texts

• share the burden, hand it to Christ with someone else

Romans 8:38-39

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ILMS 44 – Developing a Theology of Anxiety

*This podcast is not a replacement for local mental health resources. Please seek counseling or other local resources you have available to address any mental health concern.

4 Part Anxiety Series:

Episode 42 – Distinguishing Fear, Worry, and Anxiety

Episode 43 - Defining Anxiety: A Recontextualization

Today - Developing a Theology of Anxiety

Episode 45 – Practical Tools for Anxiety

Why a theological framework

• psychology will never adjust our view of the Bible
• the Bible will always accurately reflect the struggle, and the Truth in life and in science, including the subject of psychology
• God’s creation, redemption, and restoration effects how we view anxiety and mental health

Created by God

The Relationship of Fear, Sin, and Shame (Genesis 3)

• We want to cover sin, whether it’s ours or just sin in the broken world
• Stress and eustress
• Developed by God, overdeveloped by Satan
• We can present all of it before God, the good, bad, and ugly
• Creation response + makes us aware of our brokenness

Values of God v. the world                           

World – perfect answers, safety and protection, personal control, solutions, stuff, knowing, now, peace and peace on earth, escaping struggle and suffering,

God – seeking and discovery, risk with his protection, acknowledging His control, the journey, people, being known, eternity and the grand plan, peace through the storm, what is happening because of the struggle and suffering

Redeemed by Christ – the Theology of Glory and the Theology of the Cross/Suffering

• You can do better, think better, be better v. God is working in this
• Relying on the Spirit and the Body of Christ
• Naked and unashamed in the wrestling (Genesis 2:25) with Christ

The community context

• The Body is not secondary
• Always experiencing Scriptures message and life in our relationship with God and one another

How do you see Scripture misapplied in mental health and other struggles?

What Scripture do you find helpful in spiritual care of mental health?

Philippians 4:4-7

1 Peter 5:6-10

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ILMS 43 – Defining Anxiety: A Recontextualization

*This podcast is not a replacement for local mental health resources. Please seek counseling or other local resources you have available to address any mental health concern.

4 Part Anxiety Series:

Episode 42 – Distinguishing Fear, Worry, and Anxiety

Today - Defining Anxiety: A Recontextualization

Episode 44 - Developing a Theology of Anxiety

Episode 45 – Practical Tools for Anxiety

Incorporating Biblical/theological and psychosocial perspectives

My proposed definition: An internal biological response, as well as an uncomfortable conscious and unconscious, or subconscious response to present events related to past experiences

4 parts to the definition:

Neurobiological

Hormonal, neurotransmitters, neuroatonomical components

Useful Articles:

■Martin, Elizabeth I. , Ressler, Kerry J., Binder, Elisabeth, and Nemeroff, Charles B. The Neurobiology of Anxiety Disorders: Brain Imaging, Genetics, and Psychoneuroendocrinology , Psychiatric Clinics of North America, 32(3): 549–575, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3684250/

■Charney, Dennis S. and Drevets, Wayne C. (2002). NEUROBIOLOGICAL BASIS OF ANXIETY DISORDERS, Neuropsychopharmacology: The Fifth Generation of Progress. 913ff. https://www.acnp.org/asset.axd?id=b87a4164-c7df-4554-9b44-f38860e4d191

Medications have their place and purposes

• Important for the church not to shame people for using medication
• See a specialist, a psychiatrist in particular
• No magic pill, consider the other parts in the definition

Past and present

EMDR - http://emdria.org

https://www.amazon.com/Eye-Movement-Desensitization-Reprocessing-EMDR/dp/1572306726

https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Self-Help-Techniques/dp/1609619951

Inside Out

Powerpoint of my presentation on anxiety - http://ilovemyshepherd.com/mental-health/

• therapy- an important component for wellness

Discomfort and response

Escape it or embrace it?

Connection is key to healing

            - Christ with us in the murky waters of a messy life

            -  the work of the church and the gift of relationships around us

Anxiety is experienced on a spectrum, just like any mental or physical health struggle.

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ILMS 42 - Distinguishing Fear, Worry, and Anxiety

*This podcast is not a replacement for local mental health resources. Please seek counseling or other local resources you have available to address any mental health concern.

4 Part Anxiety Series:

Today – Distinguishing Fear, Worry, and Anxiety

Episode 43 - Defining Anxiety: A Recontextualization

Episode 44 - Developing a Theology of Anxiety

Episode 45 – Practical Tools for Anxiety

Everyone experiences anxiety differently.

Helpful article:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/05/truths-about-anxiety_n_5240381.html

• How do you experience anxiety?
• Anxiety’s connection to anger, irritability, and hangry. ;)

*The following information is not meant to be all inclusive of all Biblical and Scientific knowledge on fear, anxiety, and worry, nor are these terms completely distinguishable. This is meant to be the beginning of a conversation regarding what we mean by these words in our current 21st century western context.

Fear

• Biblically there are things to be afraid of
• Battle and courage, Joshua 1:9
• Sexual assault, traumatic experiences
• God encourages, does not shame even when He says, “Do not be afraid.”
• David’s Psalms – fear while walking the walk of faith
• Fear excacerbated by Satan
• Fear and it’s relationship to doubt (Mark 9)
• Fear = our experiences associated with limited information, or our experience based on what we associate it to be based on things in our past

Anxiety

• Neurobiological process with hormones and chemistry involved
• Triggers from past experiences

Worry

• Tought process related
• Can involve rumination (thinking about something over and over again)
• Most frequently related to provision, safety, and protection
• Prodigal God by Timothy Keller (Luke 15)
• Very often relational, effects our relationship with God and others close to us
• The value of writing out to give it to God
• Control related

Body Keeps the Score

https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748

Anxiety = the murky waters of a messy life, but Christ is in it

• The relationship of anxiety to brokenness in the world
• Resting in God, turning to God, He sits with us in our struggle

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ILMS 41 – Ministry Moment: Happy Hour

Happy Hour

Where it came from…

• One pastor’s idea for welcoming people in
• Get to know one another in the congregation
• Invites neighbors, friends, strangers in a comfortable setting to know the Body of Christ

How…

• 5-8pm or time of your choosing
• 2nd Friday of the month or steady date each month
• email invites, verbal invites
• prep and plan appetizers, drinks
• budget

Why? The Purpose

• relational ministry
• inviting the unchurched, the churched, the church across the street
• no agenda, no prayer, no Bible study
• transparency in ministry
• giving people a new perspective of the church
• a time of rest and conversation in busy life

Acts 2:46-47

The Art of Neighboring

http://www.artofneighboring.com/

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ILMS 40 – Written in Iron Ink: Cross Cultural Ministry

Special guests – Christel Neuendorf and Rachel Jaseph

1 Corinthians 9:19-23

• Paul’s wisdom on serving those “inside the law” and “outside the law”
• Coming into different cultural places and spaces with different backgrounds

Lessons learned:

Ask questions

Don’t make assumptions, recognize your assumptions

Don’t group language groups into cultural groups

Consider the history of idioms and why people say what they say

Ask Questions ;)

Consider and look for subcultures in the US

Cultures change and develop

It takes time to gain trust. Be patient.

Don’t leave when it gets uncomfortable

Remember that other people have perceptions and misconceptions as well.

Ask yourself- How is someone understanding my intentions?

Relationship first, always

Be the Body – rejoice together and suffer together

What can I learn from people? Not just what can I teach.

Ask Questions ;)

Be present

Be in your community

People want to be asked questions ;)

Yellow and blue make green

People welcome others in different ways

Feeling like a foreigner is not always bad

Do not disparage each culture’s weaknesses

We’ll mess up, but we are covered by grace

Resources:

When Helping Hurts

https://www.amazon.com/When-Helping-Hurts-Alleviate-Yourself/dp/0802409989

Toxic Charity

https://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Charity-Churches-Charities-Reverse/dp/0062076213

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