Deconstruction, a word that is being heavily used amongst current and former evangelicals. The definition of the word is a method of critical analysis of philosophical and literary language which emphasizes the internal workings of language and conceptual systems, the relational quality of meaning, and the assumptions implicit in forms of expression. In evangelical culture this has sounded like tearing down old teachings, untangling one’s actual faith from things they were taught that they don’t align with, seeking to align more biblically, and in some cases walking away from church – or walking away from faith altogether. In this episode, the girls talk through the hope that can lie beyond one’s deconstruction. The rebuilding of faith and community – around the table. It is possible to deconstruct and rebuild. We believe that a big key to rebuilding is finding the right community. A community that encourages you, provides you space to process, is willing to answer your hard questions, and loves you unconditionally. If you are a member of a faith community and wonder why people walk away from the church and what you can do to help and support – this episode is for you! If you have walked away but long for a community of faith – this is one you don’t want to miss! 

Deconstruction is a word that is being heavily used amongst current and former evangelicals. The definition of the word is a method of critical analysis of philosophical and literary language which emphasizes the internal workings of language and conceptual systems, the relational quality of meaning, and the assumptions implicit in forms of expression. In evangelical culture this has sounded like tearing down old teachings, untangling one’s actual faith from things they were taught that they don’t align with, seeking to align more biblically, and in some cases walking away from church – or walking away from faith altogether. In this episode, the girls talk through deconstruction as Kat shares her personal story of what she refers to as a disentanglement of her faith – from sleeping on her grandmother's lap as a toddler in a church pew to a thirty-something pastor’s wife, Kat has walked a long road on her journey of faith. A journey that has included some wonderful experiences but has also seen loss, grief, and pain. This episode is vulnerable, honest, and a bit emotional. If you have ever struggled with your faith or your relationship with the church or God, you will be in good company here. If you have never struggled with your faith, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of those that have. If you aren’t a person of faith, we encourage you to listen in still, Kat’s story is engaging – full of love and compassion for all people, it truly holds space for everyone.

Deconstruction is a word that is being heavily used amongst current and former evangelicals. The definition of the word is a method of critical analysis of philosophical and literary language which emphasizes the internal workings of language and conceptual systems, the relational quality of meaning, and the assumptions implicit in forms of expression. In evangelical culture this has sounded like tearing down old teachings, untangling one’s actual faith from things they were taught that they don’t align with, seeking to align more biblically, and in some cases walking away from church – or walking away from faith altogether. In this episode, the girls talk through deconstruction as Alix shares her personal story of growing up in the church, pivoting, and ultimately walking away from the church completely for a time. This episode is vulnerable, honest, and a bit emotional. If you have ever struggled with your faith or your relationship with the church or God, you will be in good company here. If you have never struggled with your faith, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of those who have. If you aren’t a person of faith, we encourage you to listen in still, Alix’s story is engaging – full of love and compassion for all people, it truly holds space for everyone.

It’s Fall Y’all!!! And for a lot of girlies, including Kat & Alix, that means another perfect reason to hit play on the iconic show that is Gilmore Girls!!! This week on the show, the girls have all the fun, talking as fast as they can about their favorite characters, episodes, and even which enneagram type they think each of their faves are! If you love GG - you’re going to love this episode!!!! So grab a coffee coffee coffee and hit play!!!!

Expectations. We all have them. Some of them are far-fetched – some are really low – and others are what the world would consider normal. No matter the size of them, they don’t aways match reality. This week on the podcast, Kat and Alix discuss how their expectations can sometimes be wildly out of line with reality but that’s okay – we can fix it!! The key to every relationship is COMMUNICATION! Listen in as the girls discuss how to get in touch with your expectations, how to communicate them, and how to make your reality more like you expected.

Breaking Up Is Hard to do…

Have you ever broken up with someone or been broken up with? A broken heart is a wound like none other and unfortunately healing it isn’t as easy as bandaging a physical wound. In this week’s episode Alix and Kat discuss breakups and the aftermath that ensues – can we get through it and make it out the other side whole again? The simple answer is yes but the process isn’t usually an easy one. This episode dives into how to care for yourself after a break up, how to process your emotions, and how to move forward into healing. Take all the time you need, friends – breaking up is hard to do. 

**Trigger Warning** Sexual Trauma and Suicide are mentioned. **Listener Discretion is advised - all topics might not be suitable for younger listeners.  Purity Culture? If you don't know what that is, consider yourself lucky! If you do, you're in good company! Either way, this episode is for you! Kat and Alix discuss this very popular trend from evangelical culture in the 90s and 00s that had a major impact on church girls (and guys). In this two part episode, the girls discuss everything from modesty to shame to sex and everything in between. They dive into the trauma that this movement caused, the struggle it caused after marriage (which was never discussed in youth group), and how they have healed since. Whether you grew up in it, sort of know about it, or have never heard of it in your life, there is something for everyone in this episode, listen in! 

Alix and Kat bring the Enneagram back with a new BONUS series --- Fridays with Friends. In this bonus mini-series, Alix and Kat chat with 9 friends from each Enneagram type. So, if you have been dying to hear more about the Enneagram here you go!

Type Two in Brief (From the Enneagram Institute): Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.

Key Motivations: Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.

Are you someone who loves to learn and devour knowledge? Or are you someone who thinks that those 12 years of school were more than enough and you wish to never have to learn anything ever again? Maybe you're somewhere in between? 

This week, Alix and Kat discuss becoming a life long learner, and before you roll your eyes and scroll away - they aren't talking about having to sit through hours of calculus, unless that's what you're into! They chat about the importance of approaching your life from a position of learning. What can this person, experience, job, place teach me? What can I learn from this situation? How can I become a better version of myself from having gone through this or having spent time with these people? When we approach life from a posture of learning - we foster an environment for growth! Take a listen!!