Live A Vibrant Life Podcast with Life Coach Kelly Tibbitts

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In this week's episode Ellen Mailhot and I discuss the evolving dynamics of parent-adult child relationships. Through a series of candid reflections, we offer some practical tools and suggestions that have helped us in navigating this tricky phase of parenting. 

• Tools that have helped us moved towards health in these relationships:
  • Try this power thought: “Be Present With Whomever Is Present”
  • Stop focusing on who isn’t there or how things used to be
  • Accept and adapt that your kids are now guests in your house
  • Notice the narrow road of parenting adult children - not in charge, not a friend, but more than a mentor
  • Make peace with sharing your adult children -with their +1s/spouse, their in laws, their friends, their innermost circle (which likely DOESN’T include you)
  • Check out this image of the "Relationship Circle" tool
  • Remember what it was like for you when you were in your 20s-  Don’t lose that perspective!  

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Are you stressed about the upcoming holiday season?  Let's unravel the nuances of holiday hosting. From setting a date to planning a food-sensitive menu, cleaning, decorating, and managing the emotional energy of your guests,  how can  you reserve  your energy for what truly matters?  The promise of peace and joy amidst the holiday rush may seem elusive, but with some thought work and planning, peace and joy are possible! Together, let's identify what tasks can be delegated, what can be omitted from your to-do list, and the power thoughts that will help you strike a balance. 

• Main points: 
  • ​​Notice the nuance-
    • Types of hosting-dinner vs overnight guests; family vs friends)=
    • Aspects of hosting - the house, food, people, and organizing
    • Notice for each area and task - what do you love/like/dislike/hate
    • What brings you energy? What depletes it?
    • Notice the timing of each task - before, during, after? 
  • Decide
    • What can be delegated or shared?  
    • What can be let go/said no to?
    • A power thought to carry you through the holiday season: 
      • Mine is “People in my life can think, feel and do whatever they choose.”
      • What’s yours?

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Deciding to prioritize one goal now, in October can equip you with practical strategies to nurture yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually throughout the holiday season.

• Main points: 
  • Decide ahead of time (in October) your priority over the holiday season
    • Mine is to live in abundant energy
    • What do you want yours to be?
  • Choose and schedule the practices that will move you towards your priority
    • Mine are:
      • Be intentional about staying in a peaceful state as I think about and interact with my adult children
      • Take one day for myself each week (to paint, read, stretch)
      • Practice simple meal planning
    • What are yours?

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In this episode, Life Coach Kelly Tibbitts helps you navigate through holiday chaos with grace. Using the serenity prayer as a guideline, we'll discern what we can and can't control, and learn to pivot our plans to suit our needs. Let's journey into a season that won't just be about survival, but true enjoyment and thriving. 

Main points: 

• By setting intentions, managing expectations, and harnessing the power of self-awareness, you can ensure your emotional and mental well-being remains intact during the chaos of the holiday season.                                         
• Pause to Notice -when you find yourself feeling really tired or confused or overwhelmed, practice pausing, putting your hand on your heart, taking a few breaths and just notice.
  •  What are you thinking?
  •  What are you feeling? 
  • What do you want to do /what would you like to decide to stop doing? 
• You can create healthy habits that truly serve you by regularly pausing to notice,  decide to create a plan, and practice what you’ve planned
• Holiday harmony in the midst of chaos comes from embracing our differences, not forcing everyone to think and feel the same .

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Get practical tips on maintaining focus on what truly delights you using self awareness,  your 5 senses, creativity, and self-care as your secret weapons towards a vibrant life and to fight against holiday stress. 

• Main points: 
  • Understanding the 3 centers of intelligence (Head, Heart, Body) and how differently they are manifested in each of us can help you live a more vibrant life, be more creative, and better navigate the challenges of the  holiday season
  • Notice what you are thinking with curiosity rather than self condemnation or judgment of others
  • Give yourself the gift of learning to notice your feelings (ALL of them, not just the good ones); accept them as they come, and just be with them
  • Pay attention to your 5 senses; notice the somatic messages from your body - this is important information!  Look beneath them, not just at the physical sensations. Connecting to each of our senses can help grow creativity and also brings us more joy and more happiness.

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There's a pivot required, moving from summer to fall, from fall into the holiday season, the holiday season into that early part of winter. 

Each of those pivots require us to stop and to notice “ What is the reality of my energy?” 

The goal of this episode is for you to notice your energy going into the next season.

From the serenity prayer to recognizing and focusing on the nuances of our various types of energy, we will explore many different ways to navigate life's challenges as we pivot from one season to the next.

• Main points: 
  • There may be more than 4 “seasons” in your personal life, each with different demands on your energy
  • It’s important to notice the ebb and flow of energy day to day, but also as seasons change for you.  And it’s different for each person
  • Check in with your energy- mental, emotional, physical, spiritual 
  • Notice what's important to you - what actually is required in this season, what things need to be accepted, what things need to be done, what things can be delegated. Are there things you can decide simply not to do? 
• Links 
  • Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart
  • Pat Lencioni Working Genius 

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One of the biggest struggles in our life is to wish to live a life like we have 120% of the energy we have, or 150% of the energy that we have, and just like putting debt on a credit card with compound interest, that payment still needs to come and be paid and what happens is we end up living exhausted, depleted lives instead of vibrant lives.

• Main points: 
  • Daily planning is transformational
  • Identifying and prioritizing aspects of our lives that truly matter to us is not a trivial exercise
  • It is critical to recognize that our energy is limited; we cannot manufacture more by trying harder
  • Intentional 'white space' is crucial for a vibrant life
• Links  https://kellytibbitts.com

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Are you searching for a way to better manage your time and energy?

 My Sticky Note System is a five-step approach to creating a budget for your time and energy that can totally change your life. 

 The 5 steps of my Sticky Note System include:

• Protocol - Create a  budget for your time and energy
• Plan - Make a plan  to decide in advance what to do each week, day, and hour
• Priority - Chose ONE priority/project at a time to move forward
• Practice - Decide small action steps for your chosen priority 
• Pivot- regularly reflect on your system and make changes to pivot as needed

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When a season is changing, it’s important to notice how that impacts your life and then make the necessary changes to pivot well into  the new season. 

• Main points: In this episode, 
  • The demands on our time and energy usually shift in times of seasonal change, and it’s important to pay attention to how that impacts the details of our lives 
  • Just like our finances, we need a budget for our time and energy to make sure that we are using our time and energy in a way that supports vibrant living
  • You get to choose how to adapt your plan and pivot into the new season

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You can download the .pdf for this episode here.
Identifying your strongest skills so that you are able to refill your energy reserves and navigate through draining and overwhelming circumstances can be life changing. 

• Main points:
  • Every one of us has unique gifts and talents, which makes us a genius in our own way
  • Those gifts and talents correspond to the 6 steps in the work process- wonder, invention, discernment, galvanizing, enabling, and tenacity.
• Links 
  • https://kellytibbitts.com/working-genius-workshop
  • https://www.workinggenius.com

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