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Welcome to the thirty-eighth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the seventeenth "Ask Dr B" Show.
I'm so glad you could join me today. We've got four great topics so let's get to it!
First, since you're on this journey with me, I want to applaud your courage straight away. Truly! It not only takes courage, but determination and commitment to yourself to get the training you need to rise up and become the person you were intended to become. And it's worth every bit of the time, effort and energy it takes! I want you to have the life you want for yourself as much as any other person can want something for another. I feel it's your birthright to have a happy and productive life, and just because you haven't had it up to now doesn't mean you don't get to have it moving forward.
Today's episode is all about answering the questions you have about issues or challenges you experience as an adult living with ADHD, and offering you hope. How much time do we have? Not much. So let's get to it.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirty-seventh episode of Harness Your ADHD Power.
I'm so glad you could join me today. Whether it's the relationship with you, someone else or both, relationships are definitely wonderful vehicles for helping us to see ourselves more clearly and presenting us with opportunities for transformation.
I'm not just talking about the communication or lifestyle challenges or differences of opinion that you have with others or even within yourself. No. I'm talking about the deeper issues of your history or baggage, the meanings you've given it that have shaped your personal stories, and often slammed your self-confidence and self-esteem into the ground; and your beliefs and values that have taken a hit too.
And what about your intentionality in your relationships? Do you choose your relationships with negotiable and non-negotiable criteria that are well thought out, and honor your commitment to yourself, rather than impulsively jumping into relationships that don't match your criteria, because you are "impulsively reacting" rather than responding according to your criteria?
How about your self-awareness and clarity? Do you know yourself so well that you are crystal clear on exactly what you need your relationship with yourself to be; how you need to speak to yourself, treat yourself, be with yourself, motivate yourself, celebrate yourself, and organize your life so you are set up for successful outcomes? And what about your relationships with others? Are you equally clear about the people you will and won't be in a relationship with, personally and professionally? And do you keep your word or commitment to yourself, on this sacred non-negotiable? I suspect that most of you don't.
In this episode, I'm going explore the many ways that cultivating a healthy and loving relationship with your SELF isn't a selfish act; in fact, it's critical as an essential building block on the road to your success in academia, the workplace and your coupleship/family life or other relationships.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirty-sixth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the sixteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.
I'm so glad you could join me today. We've got a lot to cover today, so let's get to it.
I've been pretty hyperfocused lately on Executive Function overall and specifically the skills that we need to develop for a more successful adult life, especially if we didn't develop them starting back in childhood. So whether you've mastered them all (which probably isn't true if you're listening to my podcast show) or will be learning them now, the point is, you need to learn them because they're the foundational skills that we build a successful adult life on; with greater ability to successfully navigate the responsibilities that comes with adulthood. No lie here!
So today's episode is about the high cost of not knowing about executive function skills and the questions I've been getting recently about this topic: what is it, how come no one told me about it when I got my diagnosis of ADHD, and how come nobody told me I needed to develop these skills so that I could be more successful in my life?
What I see has been happening over the years is that many of us have received a diagnosis of ADHD, whether it's primarily inattentive, hyperactive, impulsive or a combination package of all three. Some of us have opted to include medication as part of our "treatment plan" and others have not. Some of us have opted to include rigorous exercise, good nutrition, a solid sleep routine and so on, as part of our "treatment plan." But nowhere in all of this have I heard of adults being told or knowing that they also had a decision to make of whether or not they were going to include the development and/or mastery of their Executive Function Skills. This is not even a conversation that adults I know have had, unless of course they are in my ADDventures in Achievement program, in which case, this is definitely what we are focusing on because every student in the program needs to up their game with Executive Function skill-sets.
And based on what I've been seeing, I trust that you also need to up your Executive Function skill-sets and this may be the first time you are even hearing about this. If so, I'm glad you're here today and getting this information.
Do you have a hard time even putting words to what you don't know? Let me help. It's okay to send me questions like "I don't understand why I can't fall asleep at night, even when I'm tired" or "Why I'm so slow to wake up in the morning even after a full 8 hours sleep." Whatever you send me as a question or statement, I'll write you back if I don't understand and ask you questions to clarify, so no worries. OK?
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirty-fifth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power.
I'm so glad you could join me today. Throughout my 30+ years of working with adults with ADHD, Executive Function deficits, depression, anxiety, addictions, and many other co-occurring challenges, I've noticed a theme that bears talking about today. And that is the abundance of "symptoms" that often present themselves to us, and are basically saying, "Hey you! There are things you need to pay attention to and take care of here." And, if we are fortunate enough to both hear and understand the messages of those "symptoms," and actually take action to search out what the underlying issues are, and follow through on resolving them, we can put an end to a lot of the suffering that we live with. Difficulties and challenges are part of life; ongoing suffering involves your mind and is optional.
So you might be wondering what all of that has to do with the topics abundant criticism and scarcity of kind words. I'll be getting there, so stay with me on this. I see this episode inter-connected with four others I've produced: "027-Figuring out where to start when so much needs your attention now, 001-It's not your fault & you're not off the hook either, 030-Ask Dr B – about Stories we tell ourselves, low self-esteem & self-sabotaging behaviors, and 004-What is your procrastination a symptom of?"
If you're like so many of the adults I work with, you have a ton of issues that all need your attention now and you don't even know where to start, let alone know how you are going to get them all done. And it hasn't you're your fault up to this point, because you most likely haven't been given the information you needed and the path to the learning and mastery of the missing skills, so you could take responsibility and make the necessary changes. And with so many years of failed attempts or failed outcomes, your self-esteem may be quite low, the stories you tell yourself are self-defeating and not empowering you at all and you fell into the trap years ago of short-term solutions or Band-Aids that have now become self-sabotaging behaviors because they were only intended as short-term solutions. And your procrastination "symptoms" are "messengers" telling you where to look for what the underlying issues are but if you don't know that and have been working on trying to "fix" your procrastination around getting started, keeping going and actually finishing up, then you've been chasing after the wrong issues because those are just "symptoms."
In this episode, I'm going to explore the many ways that criticism is abundant and kind words are scarce in the lives of adults with ADHD and other co-existing conditions. And a little hint: it has to do with your relationship with yourself.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirty-fourth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the fifteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.
I'm so glad you could join me today for my podcast show. We've got a tighter format, great topics and clear steps to take starting today, so let's get to it.
I'm going to be addressing three inter-related topics today to help you see the path from fuzzy to focused on becoming the successful adult living with ADHD you deserve to be. It's definitely a journey, one that's unique for each person.
And if you're on this journey, I applaud you for your courage straight away. Truly! It definitely takes courage and a lot of what I'm going to be talking about today to rise up and become the person you were intended to become. And it's worth every bit of the time, effort and energy it takes!
I want you to have the life you want for yourself as much as any other person can want something for another. I feel it's your birthright to have a good life and to be happy, and just because you didn't have that in the first half of your life doesn't mean you don't get to have it in the second half; it just doesn't.
And since I'm going to be talking about Executive Function and ADHD, if you need to learn and master some of these skills, then so be it. The time is going to pass in your life whether you learn them now, learn them later or never learn them. Funny thing about time, it's indifferent to the choices and decisions we make.
Did you wake up with questions or confusion this morning? Are you wondering how to get yourself organized? Or how to keep motivated to finish something today? Are you looking for answers? If so, consider sending your questions or confusion over to me so I can help you. I'd love to do that! If you're like so many other adults with ADHD, you might not know where to start, or how to start. Or what to do when you get to something that stops you. Or maybe you even doubt your own ability to make good choices for yourself and decide whether you should or shouldn't do something. Whatever is troubling you, ask me.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirty-third episode of Harness Your ADHD Power.
I'm so glad you could join me for today's podcast episode. If you've been trying to solve your procrastination challenges forever, without much success, perhaps it's because procrastination is a "behavioral symptom" and not the real problem. "Behavioral symptoms" are great because they tell us that something is wrong. It's just that we then need to look beyond them, if we're going to solve the underlying issues that are presenting us with those "behavioral symptoms."
It's kind of like having a fever (the symptom) when the underlying issue is a raging infection. I hope you'd be treating the raging infection and not just take something for the fever.
I want to introduce you to Professor Alfred Bandura, if you aren't familiar with his name or his work. Back in 1997 he said that self-efficacy is different than confidence. Confidence is this vague term that refers to your "strength of belief," but it doesn't necessarily say where your certainty is coming from. It's like you saying, "I'm confident I can do that." I'd have to ask you, "What makes you believe you can do that?" I'd want to know the evidence or behind the scenes knowing you have that allows you to make that statement. I'd want to know where your confidence is coming from; the evidence. It could be that you just finished a course or training on that topic or task, and understand it thoroughly and that is why you can make the confident statement. That would tell me why you are confident.
Or, are you just saying that you are confident because you "hope" you can do it, but don't know with certainty that you have the skills or necessary training, and hence don't really know that you can? Or, you might even know with certainty that you don't have the skills but still "hope" you can do it; hence "fantasy or wishful thinking;" which is very, very common. The differences are very important.
Self-efficacy is you believing you will be able to accomplish a specific task. It refers to both your capability level and your strength of belief in your capability level. You are "confident" you can produce successful results because you are "competent" in the necessary skills, abilities or beliefs to do so. Hence, Competence = Confidence.
A quote by Henry Ford is fitting here. He said, "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right."
In this episode, I'm going to dig deeper into the procrastination puzzle and piece together a different way of looking at this "symptom" that can get you into action instead of sitting and waiting for the block to pass.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.
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I'm so glad you could join me today for my podcast show. We've got a tighter format, hot topics and clear steps to take starting today, so let's get to it.
So many of the adults I work with or dialogue with have been diagnosed later in life. There are many reasons for this and it's not the end of the world; far from it - it's the beginning of your new life. Borrowing a phrase from the Foreword to the First Edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous - "recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body" is what comes to mind when I think of ADHD and Executive Function Deficits. Many adults have lived or continue to live in a seemingly hopeless state. Many haven't received a diagnosis yet or any truly useful help, and many feel hopeless; even suicidal at times. I've even sat with pre-teens who were feeling so hopeless that they couldn't focus or study or keep up with their assignments and had all but given up. That is just NOT okay! Not for anyone!!
And since our mental health system doesn't seem to be able to catch up or step up to address this huge problem, then it's up to you to educate yourself and advocate for yourself and your loved ones as best you can, so that the care that is so desperately needed is received. And that's all well and good for me to say that, but you might not feel that you are able to do this on your own. I get it. And, I'm going to give you whatever I can here to help.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.
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Welcome to the thirty-first episode of Harness Your ADHD Power.
I'm so glad you could join me for today's podcast episode. It's time for another change to the format. The episodes have been getting a bit long, so I'm moving back to the sweet spot of roughly 30 minutes. That means cutting out some of the repetitive content, in order to keep the episodes focused on great content, stories, action steps and a favorite quote of mine. I appreciate all your suggestions and input so I can consider everything and provide you with the best of me in ways that are best for you too.
Just because you can speak, doesn't mean you can communicate skillfully or say what you intend to convey. Just because you know the words doesn't mean that you are using them skillfully. Just because you get everything out that you want to say, doesn't mean it is received as you intended. And, if you have beliefs about not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings, then you've already set yourself up to not say what's on your mind because you'll be focused on censoring yourself; not focused on what you want to convey.
Some of the goals for this episode are to provide you with a basic understanding of communication; what it is and is not. What your responsibility is as the communicator. What your responsibility is as the listener. The role boundaries play in communication. How to communicate assertively, skillfully and say what you intend with greater confidence and ease of expression. And of course, there will be some actions steps you can begin to take today.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Welcome to the thirtieth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, and the thirteenth "Ask Dr B" Show.
I'm so glad you could join me today. I get SO excited to create episodes that you my listeners ask for. You send me questions or issues that you are struggling with and ask for insights and solutions, which results in inspiration and another great episode. You have no idea how happy that makes me; or maybe you do.
Based on Monday's episode 029, I hope you all get just how important it is that we develop executive function skills; just not something we should skip over or take lightly. If you haven't listened to that episode yet, I recommend you do so you'll understand what I mean. There's no short cut here. These skills are the pre-requisites to the more advanced skills we need to learn and master in adulthood; and we can't jump to advanced skills without the basic foundational ones in place. Correction…we can jump there, but we can't stay there because we don't have what is needed to succeed.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.Episode Resources:
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Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this!
Welcome to the twenty-ninth episode of Harness Your ADHD Power, a podcast by Dr B that explores the many facets of adult ADHD life and how we can learn to become unstoppable. In this episode, Dr B explores our assumptions, expectations, shame and guilt as it relates to adult life with ADHD and helps you to move past it to a new found freedom. Be sure to subscribe to this podcast so you receive each new episode as soon as it's released, as well as "special episodes" with guests. Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life! My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.
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