Living Centered Podcast

Let’s just admit it: having friends as an adult can be difficult. Many of us struggle to find the time, emotional capacity, and intention we need to have the deep, meaningful friendships we want.  

Today Mickenzie and Lindsey sit down with Erin Falconer, psychotherapist and author of the new book How to Break Up With Your Friends, to discuss how we can find meaning and connection in our modern friendships. Erin brings honesty, permission, and the practical encouragement we all need to approach friendships with the same intention that we do all other important relationships in our lives.   

 
In this episode:
5:12 – Why we should audit our friendships  

9:55 – Treating friendships with the same intention as romantic relationships  

14:44 – How to do conflict resolution with friends  

17:16 – When it’s time to break-up with friends  

21:00 – Setting boundaries in friendship  

25:38 – The importance of diverse friendships  

31:58 – Friendships after an Onsite experience  

37:25 – Why we need self-awareness in our friendships  

39:50 – How our attachment styles affect our friendships  

44:02 – Repair friendships and shifting dynamics  

48:26 – Erin’s favorite practice to live centered  

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

At our core we all want to be seen, heard, valued, and connected. But few of us know how to live this in real life.  

Today’s guest, Jason VanRuler therapist, Onsite Guide, and author of the new book “Get Past Your Past,” joins Hannah and Mickenzie to provide a blueprint for creating connection with the people around us . Together the three define what it means to truly connect, how our attachment style impacts our connections, why not everyone can hold our vulnerability, and how to identify safe people.   

In this episode:  

6:36 – Our deepest needs to be seen, heard, valued, and connection in realtionships  

9:56 – Forming safe connections and community  

15:58 – How to find safe people in our lives  

21:14 – Why our Attachment styles impacts our connection with others  

31:39 – How to navigate conflict in relationships and identifying our non-negotiables  

34:56 – Identifying what really matters in our relationships  

37:56 – Jason’s encouragement to lean into community when it doesn’t feel safe  

39:31 – How to celebrate growth within ourselves  

41:22 – A practice that keeps Jason connection to the people in his life  

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

42% of workers report burnout. Most of us don't have to look beyond our homes and workplaces to find real-life examples of this statistic. But why are we so burnt out?  

Today, Mickenzie and Hannah sit down with Onsite Clinical Supervisor Ryan Bloch-Snodgrass to explore why we can't seem to overcome burnout, the impact on ourselves and the people who matter most, and how we can shift our relationship to the roles we play to find more balance, rest, and peace.   

In this episode:  

3:50 – Redefining burnout 

6:10 – The correlation between burnout and codependency  

9:34 – Shifting the relationships we have to our jobs  

17:33 – Creating the space at Onsite to address burnout  

21:44 – The relationship between passion, purpose, and burnout  

27:43 – Work-life balance and self-care  

31:50 – How to prioritize our needs  

37:48 – Managing burnout through small, intentional practices  

44:16 – The impact of collective burnout  

46:49 – Paying attention to the signs of burnout

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

Why does it feel so hard to set boundaries in our closest relationships? How can we show up as our most authentic selves with our families? What does it look like to accept someone for who they are but also have healthy expectations of those we love? 
  

Today, we’re diving into these questions and more with Minaa B., licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of the new book Owning Our Struggles. Join us as Mickenzie, Hannah, and Minaa explore the balance between practicing radical acceptance and setting boundaries with people in our lives and how to regain agency in the areas we need it most.

Get Minaa's new book.

In this episode:  

3:31 – Minaa's journey into the mental health field  

7:53 – Why Minaa wrote Owning Our Struggles 

13:23 – How to embrace struggle and overcome adversity  

16:47 – The role of radical acceptance in our relationships  

26:54 – The tension between radical acceptance and setting boundaries   

29:20 – The difference between abuse and a boundary violation  

31:07 – How to identify your personal values in relationships  

36:03 – How radical acceptance makes way for peace with ourselves and others 

42:57 – Why Minaa believes in community care  

46:02 – Maintaining relationships through communication and honesty  

49:09 – Understanding the complexity of familial relationships  

52:29 – The difference between belonging and assimilating  

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

“Hospitality is giving people a place to be when they would otherwise be alone.” 

Today Mickenzie and Lindsey sit down with the queen of hospitality, New York Times best-selling author, and Onsite alum, Shauna Neiquist, for a practical and inspiring conversation about the healing power of hospitality. Together, they’ll explore how to overcome the barriers of gathering, simplifying, and rethinking what it means to host and how the act of being seen, heard, and valued can change us. 

In this episode:  

3:21 – How Shauna defines hospitality  

8:43 – Overcoming the barriers of hospitality  

10:33 – How to be a good guest  

12:33 – Sharing the load of hosting  

14:21 – Why Shauna doesn’t use the word ‘entertaining’  

22:17 – Understanding and rewriting our narratives around hospitality  

26:47 – What to do when food feels complicated  

29:22 – Curating an environment for meaningful conversation  

31:59 – How to host someone new  

35:19 – Extending hospitality to yourself  

41:20 – What is healing hospitality?  

42:27 – Rapid fire questions about books and food with Shauna  

51:04 – Finding a balance of spontaneous and planned gatherings
  

Shauna's recommendations: 

Best Book She's Read this Year: 

Demon Copperhead - Barbara Kingsolver

Favorite Curry Paste: 

Mae Ploy

Cookbooks: 

Let's Eat - Dan Polosi 

Shabbat - Adeena Sussman

Onsite Experiences mentioned in this episode:

Onsite’s Living Centered Program
There’s always room for more — depth, contentment, healing, love, purpose.
Whether you’re feeling stuck or broken, overwhelmed or ready to dig deeper, we can guide you to the more you’re seeking.

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

From fixing to shame spirals and resentment, in partnership, if one person struggles, the entire relationship dynamic is impacted. Today Onsite alums Chrissy and Sam Powers sit down with Lindsey and Mickenzie to share their individual and collective healing journeys. Together they share how they’ve navigated difficult seasons in their marriage, the boundaries they set as they created space for one another to heal, and the impact of growing and changing together.  

In this episode:  

3:32 – How Sam and Chrissy define living “connected” to one another and themselves 7:53 – The impact of unhealthy Coping mechanism in a partnership  

10:00 – When helping becomes enabling and setting boundaries in your relationship 

13:30 – Sam's decision to attend Onsite  

19:36 – Sam’s transition home from Onsite 

26:00 – Loving every version of your partner 

29:31 – How their mental and emotional health journey has impacted Sam and Chrissy's parenting 

36:52 – Chrissy's journey with embodiment work 

47:50 – Resources that have played a role in their journey  

49:45 – How their Onsite journey’s transformed their relationship and family  

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

Embodiment has become a bit of a buzzword in our current culture moment. Everywhere we turn, we hear people talking about it, but what does it mean to trust and be in a relationship with our bodies?  

Today, Mickenzie and Lindsey sit down with embodiment coach Kara Elise Campbell to explore what it means to live embodied. Kara shares how she began this work and how she now helps people find safety, connection, trust, and belonging within themselves.  

In this episode:  

3:13 – How Kara defines embodiment 

4:56 – Kara's embodiment journey and history with disordered eating  

9:54 – The process of reconnecting with our bodies  

12:52 – How mental health and embodiment interconnect  

15:45 – Practical resources and exercises to explore embodiment 

23:57 – Kara's Onsite experience  

27:46 – Trusting our intuition 

34:49 – How becoming a parent impacted Kara’s understanding of embodiment  

42:39 – Kara's daily embodiment practice  

44:19 – Kara's encouragement for you   

Mentioned in this episode:
Onsite's Living Centered Program
There’s always room for more — depth, contentment, healing, love, purpose.
Whether you’re feeling stuck or broken, overwhelmed or ready to dig deeper, we can guide you to the more you’re seeking.
 

 Embodiment Deck 

Simple and beautiful tools to support you on your embodiment journey - back home to the bod

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

How can you know if what you experienced was, in fact, trauma? Kicking off our new season, we welcome Onsite’s Lead Clinician, Carlos Martinez, for a conversation all about the “T Word.” In this deep and powerful interview, Carlos helps us wade through the impulse we may have to label everything or nothing as trauma. In a compassionate exploration of this topic, he invites us all to reckon with our story and provides practices and tools to help us begin this work.  

In this episode:   

3:54 – Why Carlos thinks we should be talking about our feelings and our trauma

9:06 – Carlos' favorite definition of trauma  

13:27 – The role our nervous system plays  

22:10 – A therapist’s perspective on recovered memories  

26:29 – Why we need someone to validate our experience  

29:35 – How different Onsite experiences approach trauma  

37:33 – Practical tools for trauma recovery  

45:26 – Carlos' encouragement for you 

Onsite Experiences mentioned in this episode:
Onsite's Living Centered Program
There’s always room for more — depth, contentment, healing, love, purpose.
Whether you’re feeling stuck or broken, overwhelmed or ready to dig deeper, we can guide you to the more you’re seeking.

Onsite's Healing Trauma Program
Tired of dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, or isolation? Our world-renowned workshop is designed to address the disruptions that can follow trauma and provide you with the tools necessary to reset and recover.

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!

Join our co-hosts for a sneak peek into the newest season of the Living Centered Podcast, launching Monday.

Do you feel like the year is FLYING by? It’s already July, and we want to create a moment to reflect on the first six months of the year and how they can inform how we live out the rest of 2023. In this episode, Mickenzie and Hannah walk through a practical exercise to help you set intentions for the second half of the year. We’ve also got some exclusive and exciting updates about the podcast and an invitation to share your voice and shape the next season! 

While We’re Away...  

Share your voice and tell us what you want to see in future seasons!  

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Podcast23 

Sign-Up for Our Free Mini-Classes  

What to Do When Your Life Needs a Jumpstart – Three Steps to Get Unstuck   

Feeling stuck? In a funk? Like life isn't just working anymore? At one point or another, it happens to us all. We lose traction, lose direction, or even lose our sense of self.  

Sometimes we can't trace down the reason why, or even put words to it—we just know that something needs to change (and preferably right now!) 

The good news is, it's possible. We can break free of our funk and live a more optimized and purposeful life. It's what we've helped tens of thousands of people do at Onsite.  

But where do we begin?  

This FREE interactive online class will help you understand how you got here, get clear about where you want to go, and give you the jumpstart you need to move forward. 

How to Skip the BS and Find a BFF – Three Steps to Making Friends as an Adult  

Let's be honest—making friends as an adult can be really hard, not to mention a little awkward.  

Many of us have lots of "friends," but we still feel pretty lonely. If you've found yourself wondering if close friendships exist in adulthood, you're not alone.  

We all want deep, meaningful friendships—ones where we feel seen, known, and valued. But how? 

This FREE interactive online class will equip you with a roadmap to build (and sustain) the friendships you desire. 

How to Hack Your Emotional Health (And Why You Can’t Afford Not To)  

Are you ready to take your emotional health to the next level? 

One of the greatest ways to hack our emotional health and optimize every area of our lives is to incorporate the power of habits. Our habits, whether conscious or subconscious, are the way we embody the type of person we want to become. So ask yourself, are your habits reflecting the life you truly want to live? 

This FREE interactive online class will equip you with a roadmap to build and maintain healthy habits and hack your emotional health! 

 Check out a few our podcast playlists! 

Discover the Right Onsite Experience For You
Whether you’re in a challenging season or just want to learn and grow, Onsite has an experience to meet you right where you are and guide you to the more you’re seeking.

We pair the finest hospitality with the best clinical minds in the country to guide you toward lasting transformation. Our holistic care is thoughtfully designed to help you connect to yourself and the community you form at Onsite.

You deserve healing. We're here to guide you! Start the process today or connect with our Admissions team at 1-800-341-7432 to discover the right experience for you!