In this episode, I chat with Fabi about losing her dad at 16 – right in the middle of her GCSEs. His passing was sudden and traumatic, happening in their family home, and it changed everything. We reflect on the struggles of grieving while still in school and how isolating it can feel when no one quite knows how to support you.

Fabi shares how she found strength in her support network – from her close-knit family, who, despite grieving in their own ways, came together to help each other through the hardest moments, to her friends who were a constant source of comfort and understanding. We also bond over dark humour as a coping mechanism and laugh about those odd, often bizarre grief conversations that only make sense to others who’ve been through it. If you’re not crying, you may as well laugh at the absurdity of it all, right?

We also talk about how tricky it is to tell new people about our loved ones passing. Sometimes we bend the truth or use humour to avoid the awkwardness. And don’t even get us started on the grammar of death – “dead,” “died,” “passed away” – we’ve got our favourites and least favourites.

Fabi now works as a paediatric intensive care nurse, and we explore how so many of us who’ve experienced trauma end up in caring professions. Is it healing, or is it madness? We’ll never know!

We also touch on the beauty of finding "grief friends" – people who just get it without needing explanations. It’s raw, real connection in a world that often doesn’t know what to say.

Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or just curious about how loss shapes lives, this episode is full of laughs, real talk, and the strange hope that comes from sharing stories.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Grieving during school
• The power of dark humour in grief
• Laughing at weird grief conversations
• Turning trauma into career passion (hello, paeds ICU)
• Bending the truth and choosing the right words for loss
• The comfort of grief friendships

💌 If this episode resonates, please share it with someone who might need it. You’re not alone – and it’s okay to cry, laugh, or both at the same time.

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Amelia, co-founder of the charity Suicide&Co, as she shares her deeply personal journey of grief after losing her mum to suicide. Amelia opens up about the unique challenges of processing loss in the wake of suicide, especially as a young adult, and the ways in which her own experience inspired her, and co-founder Emma, to create a much-needed support system for others.

We explore how media representation, language, and societal perceptions around suicide and grief can either help or hinder the healing process. Amelia offers insight into why help-seeking behaviours and mental health resources – like counselling – are so crucial, yet often underutilised.

She also speaks about the mission behind Suicide&Co, a charity dedicated to supporting those bereaved by suicide through free counselling, accessible resources, and community.

Whether you've experienced loss yourself or want to better support someone who has, this conversation brings compassion, clarity, and hope to one of the most misunderstood forms of grief.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Amelia’s personal journey of grief after her mother’s death by suicide

• The founding story and mission of Suicide&Co

• Why suicide-related grief is often misunderstood, especially among young adults

• The powerful impact of media portrayal on how we process and perceive suicide loss and grief

• How language shapes the stigma, and understanding, of suicide

• Why seeking support (especially counselling) is a vital part of the grief journey

• Barriers that prevent people from accessing mental health care after loss

• The role of community and connection in navigating bereavement

• Amelia’s emphasis on self-care, patience, and permission to grieve in your own way

Amelia’s story is a brave, tender, and an important reminder that we are not meant to carry grief alone but must put ourselves first and seek that help to start our healing journey. The work of Suicide&Co is transforming how we support one another through unimaginable loss, and lighting the way forward with empathy and hope.

Learn more about Suicide and Co:

https://www.suicideandco.org

Know that help is there, you just need to seek it – You are not alone. 

xxxx

In this heartfelt and enlightening episode, I sit back down with Reiki Healer Jenny to chat about her journey as a Spiritual Medium. We explore the unique and often misunderstood world of mediumship – especially as it relates to grief, healing, and connection with loved ones who’ve passed.

Jenny shares the difference between a spiritual medium and a psychic medium, and opens up about her personal journey into discovering and embracing her gift. She describes the role of a spiritual medium as a bridge between the physical world and the spirit world, helping to deliver messages that bring comfort, closure, and clarity.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The true definition of a spiritual medium — and how it differs from a psychic
• Jenny’s personal path into mediumship and how her relationship with her gift has evolved over time
• The various ways mediums receive and interpret messages from spirits
• Why energy plays a crucial role in spiritual communication
• How Jenny has learned to set boundaries and gain control over her abilities
• The healing and positive purpose behind spirit communication — far from the fear and stigma often portrayed in horror movies
• Why spiritual connections are always meant to serve the highest good
• The belief that everyone has innate psychic abilities – it's just a matter of choosing whether or not to explore them

Jenny’s message is one of peace, love, and healing – and she offers a gentle, grounded perspective on how spirit communication can be a profound part of the grief journey.

Whether you're curious, skeptical, or seeking comfort after loss, this episode offers such thoughtful insights into the world beyond the veil!

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In this episode, I’m joined by my lovely friend Emily for a really open, honest and at times light-hearted conversation about something that so many people experience but often struggle to talk about – grieving while at university. 

Emily also shares her own personal story of losing her lovely Nana whilst travelling Argentina with a friend. Emily reflects on how that distance added a whole new layer to her grief with having to make tricky decisions but chose to cherish the last moment she had with her Nana, holding onto that in her Grief. She reflects on their wonderful relationship and how lucky she felt to have had that, acknowledging how grief comes from an immense amount of love which can be a lovely sentiment to hold onto in what can be a really dark and lonely time.  

If you’re grieving, supporting someone who is, or just wondering how to show up better in your friendships, I really hope this episode brings you some comfort and guidance, and even a good giggle as sometimes that is all we need!

We talk about: 

• Talking to friends about grief at Uni
• Feeling far from home while grieving
• How to be a good friend to someone who's lost someone
• Emily’s story of losing her Nana
• Carrying love through grief
• Letting grief be part of life, not something to hide

Thank you so much for listening. If this resonates with you, I’d love if you shared it with someone who might need it too. You’re never alone in this xxxx

In the continuation of the last episode with wonderful Jenny, this week carry on our wonderful conversation on reiki healing for those grieving, dealing with trauma or as a prevention to when a trauma hits in life. We go on to answer some of your questions from the Instagram and continue chatting on all of the wonders of energy healing to everyday life and life living with grief!

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This week's episode has been split into two parts - all on the incredible work of a reiki healer and what energy healing can do for grief and trauma! Tune in for part 2 coming soon!

In today's episode I have a lovely reiki healer called Jenny on. We discuss a lot but one thing I'd love to highlight is all the wonderful things you can all do at home to help support your energy, chakras and healing alongside Reiki if it is something you are interested in! Jenny is also my own reiki healer who I share my experience of a session with for some examples for you guys!

We approach a lot of questions:

• What is reiki healing?
• How does reiki healing work?
• What does a session of reiki look like?
• How can reiki help grief and trauma?
• What got Jenny into Reiki healing?
• Why does she also use crystals whilst energy healing?
• What are chakras? How many are there?
• How does it help to understand our chakras?
• What can I do support my energy and chakras?

And so much more!!

So settle in and I hope you enjoy, any further questions always feel free to DM on instagram and I can ask Jenny for you!

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This is a super special episode as another member of the Cragg family comes on the pod – my brother Harry, and this is a deep one!

We start by having a conversation that we have never broached before, about the actual day matt passed and how we both remember it. We fully go down memory lane, reflecting on our time at school, how quickly we both went back and how different our experiences were with Harry getting great support and mine not being so good in comparison to his - which he shares sad feelings over, with being my older brother. 

We talk moving onto university, our differing choices of why we chose where we ended up and our grief potentially playing a part in that. How individual grief is and how even losing the same person we all respond and cope differently, and this is okay!

Harry shares the painful reality of having lost something the rest of our family hasn’t, as he no longer has a brother figure at all, and the pressures of stepping into ‘older’ brother territory earlier than expected and being compared to Matt. 

We have a good old giggle and heart-warming moment over how close we have become over the last 10 years despite our trauma and how we think Matt would be smiling down on us. 

Harry shares how he connects with Matt in his daily life, shining a light on whatever it is large or small that makes you feel connected to just DO IT! 

We talk celebrations, pressures, marathons, music, friendships, uniqueness in grief and so much more… 

With Harry ending off the chat with this advice: “don’t compare yourself, and don’t be afraid to talk and to tap in” 

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Today, I’m chatting with Joe, Matt’s best friend from university. We dive into some deep topics like best friend grief at a young age, coping mechanisms, and finding that balance between what’s expected of you and what you actually need.

We reminisce on the last 10 years and how we have created strong bonds as family and friends of Matt, and how he would find it all so funny and wholesome, I’m sure! 

We get into the pressure of doing something in the memory of a loved one, but Joe shares how he never saw him running his marathon as pressure, more just something he wanted to do. He opens up about Matt being there in spirit, cheering him on right to the finish line.

We talk about big milestones, navigating grief, and Joe’s wedding to Lucinda (another one of Matt’s best friends from Leeds), and how they invited us to feel the ‘Craggy’ spirit on the day and my god did we do Matt proud being the last ones on the dancefloor!!

Joe also shares some solid advice for young men who are grieving—encouraging them to reach out for help, lean on the people who care about them, and to just be kind to themselves during the journey.

Popping the ‘Grief Bubble’

In today’s episode, my friend Ruby and I speak about the recent loss of her wonderful dad, all the ups and downs she has experienced in the last year, family dynamics changing and the importance of not losing hope.

We share our experiences with the ‘grief bubble’ and how it manifested itself in different ways for each of us due to our different losses, how sudden loss has affected us and contradictions in grief. 

We talk about:

• How we met and instantly bonded through our individual journeys with grief 
• The ‘grief bubble’, what it is like and coming out of it 
• How there is no rulebook to grief and it’s not linear so grieve how you want and need to grieve 
• The impacts of sudden loss and the effects is has on everyday life and how you view it 
• Contradictions in grief and how we have come to cope with them 
• Different levels of grief which we refer to as ‘low and high level grief’, how they manifest in your everyday life and how we navigate them
• Your outlook on life changing and cherishing those around you 
• Different outlets for your grief with Ruby’s being writing as she has started a grief blog (You can find this in my instagram highlights @lostandfoundwithfrankie) 
• The importance of looking after yourself and not losing hope - allowing the good times to come along for the journey too

And so much more! 

Links:

• Follow Lost & Found with Frankie on Instagram
• Follow Lost & Found with Frankie on TikTok
• Watch other episodes on YouTube 

XMAS SOLO EP:

That time of year has rolled around again... and gosh is it a tricky, dark, overwhelming and weird one.

In this episode I talk through all the ways my family and I get Christmas - which involves a lot of laughter that's for sure!! - and how we honour our loved ones whilst trying to allow the joy of the day to creep back in!

How ever you get through this day is completely individual and up to you... there is no right way to grieve or do Christmas.

One step at a time... One day at a time... One Christmas at a time...

Sending you all a big squeeze xx