How many of us were taught the meaning of real love? Most felt it had to be earned, chased or approved it before it is given, leaving us to feel we'd fallen short.

Should we love responsibly?

Perhaps like a driver's license, we should have to take a test, which would tell us how ready we are to love freely without obligation. Instead, we develop a list of attachments (needy needs) when love isn't freely available:

1. Validation we're okay

2. Being a victim in need of rescuing

3. Constant reassurance as a result of jealousy

4. Earned trust

5. The need for safety and security

6. Love that must be proven

7. Denying our feelings of rejection and abandonment

And this list goes on where we feel holes in ourselves; when love has been an obligation and not given freely. Chasing one's parents for love in the form of people pleasing, performing, or overcompensating can leave us feeling we're not worthy of love as adults. Many of us settle as a result.

Join me to learn about why this obligation exists, and how to shift out of it so you move from the needy needs into self-worth and feeling good right where you are TODAY.