Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

Suffering makes us human. We grow and learn through the pain and suffering life gives us. We cannot progress if we choose to stay in our comfort zone.

Short-term suffering leads to great victories. When we allow short-term suffering into our lives, we are creating the space to flourish our minds and spirits and become the better version of ourselves. The more we try to avoid suffering in the short term, the more suffering we will have in the long run.

In this episode, Andrew talks about the significant reasons why suffering isn't always a negative thing, the difference between short-term suffering and long-term suffering, and the long-term repercussions of how we choose to respond to the suffering that we are experiencing in the moment.

Listen to Episode 151 to learn more!

• How people perceive suffering [2:40]
• Short-term suffering leads to long-term problems [4:33]
• Why it is important for us to sacrifice things that are not in our best interests? [6:49]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [9:51]
• Avoiding suffering is avoiding its growth [10:46]
• The importance of starting our day right [13:07]
• Letting go of our inconveniences [14:00]

Curiosity is a strong desire to learn more about something. It is usually seen as a virtue as it helps us learn new things and grow as people. It's important for us to stay curious and learn how to be curious because if we never cease having the enthusiasm to truly know about something or someone, we'll continue to learn and connect with the world in a healthy way.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the significance of curiosity in eliciting emotions of love, and how curiosity can be a great way to develop meaningful and healthy connections with ourselves, the people in our lives, and, ultimately, with God.

Listen to Episode 150 to learn more!

• Curiosity is a good precursor for love [2:25]
• Why is it important to be curious about ourselves? [5:50]
• Why should we invest in our North Star Goal? [7:56]
• Having curiosity is a spark to learn how to love a certain thing [10:52]
• The importance of having a curious mindset in your life [12:42]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [13:35]
• The importance of being curious about God [14:02]
• Curiosity creates love in all areas of life [21:05]
• What is the impact of a lack of curiosity? [22:54]

The expression of sexuality is a part of the perfect plan that God has for the world. When we look at sexuality in the realm of our hearts and mind, we will be able to become people who are genuinely sexual wherein our sexuality ultimately becomes an integral part of our mental processes, our emotional states, our life experiences, and most importantly, our spiritual beliefs.

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Sandra and John Lowen, a powerhouse couple that represents heaven and earth. They share with us the nature of God's sexuality as well as how sexuality manifests itself across the creation. Dr. Sandra and John Lowen also discuss the most significant challenge that the current generation faces in terms of romantic relationships, the actions that a single person can take to get ready for a loving sexual relationship, and the significance of spending time by ourselves to learn more about who we are rather than engaging in unhealthy habits such as pornography.

Listen to Episode 149 to learn more!

• The spiritual nature of sexuality [4:07]
• The expression of sex without the genitals [9:10]
• The Cultural Manifestation of sex in Europe [10:27]
• Sexuality is powerful [12:51]
• The impact of the Industrial Revolution on sexuality [13:38]
• The hookup culture [18:43]
• The biggest issue regarding relationships that the present generation faces [21:22]
• How can a single person prepare for a loving sexual relationship? [23:26]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [29:12]
• The significance of understanding the emotional sponsor of the act of sex [29:39]
• The difference between the written tradition and the oral tradition [35:36]
• How important is it to understand exactly what you want as opposed to arguing about what you don't want? [45:12]
• What causes our fear of being by ourselves? [50:27]
• Getting to know yourself is the replacement for pornography [55:21]

Each of us is on a unique path toward becoming the kind of happy and fulfilled person we see for ourselves in the future. But, the question is whether or not our habits align with the person we desire to become.

Many people develop a habit that they have been led to believe is appropriate and acceptable. However, the reality is that their unhealthy habits, such as masturbation and watching porn, are what prevent them from connecting with the best version of themselves and with the people whom they truly love.

It is important to keep in mind that sex and pornography are two very different things. While sex has the ability to bring people closer together, pornography has the opposite effect, isolating people from both themselves and the rest of the world.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the concept of "I need to release.." humor, during which they offer a counter-narrative to the idea that is natural based on scientific research. They discuss its impact on leading a life of sexual integrity which means leading a life of intentionality.

Listen to Episode 148 to learn more!

• The Spartan Program [2:50]
• The importance of understanding how our actions impact our psychology [3:37]
• Having integrity is important in our lives [12:20]
• Why is it so important to understand God and our relationship with Him? [13:59]
• Pornography and absolute sex are opposite [14:50]
• The real reason behind sex drive [16:12]
• The purpose of sexuality [17:34]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [19:39]
• What does absolute sex means? [20:06]
• The Pavlov's Dog analogy [23:44]
• The biggest contributor to escapism in men [28:59]

Pornhub is destroying humanity, the largest porn website in the world accountable for enabling and profiting off of the mass sex trafficking, rape, and exploitation of women and minors is destructive to humanity. Many groups are working together to shut down the website and hold it accountable for damaging the lives of countless individuals, particularly women and minors.

We could ponder how a single person might compete with powerful technology. One person stands in front of such a large company and is confident that they should be held accountable for taking the dignity and worth of many women and children and turning them into something to be exploited for their own enjoyment and profiting off of them.

In this episode, we are joined by Rafaela. She is fighting to hold Pornhub accountable after seeing how horrifying what Pornhub was doing in terms of posting endless footage of people being raped and minors having sex.

Listen to Episode 147 to learn more.

• What it's like to be on the front line of the battle against power? [8:14]
• Why Pornhub is destructive [13:45]
• The movement to take down Pornhub [16:40]
• The problem with age verification on Pornhub's website [18:33]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [22:21]
• God is in control of everything [25:54]
• The most important lesson about humanity [31:31]

Whatever we expose ourselves to has the potential to either be beneficial or destructive for us. The beast inside of us can be cultivated by our habits and the information we feed it. The beast that, if handled improperly and not effectively fought, will tear us apart and eat us alive.

Relapse is the most difficult stage of the healing process, and although our own paths to recovery may differ, we all experience it at some point. When we put our attention on battling our relapse, we frequently find that we have unexpectedly moved in the opposite direction. A relapse is a challenging situation, but we don't have to take any action to address it. Instead, we should ignore it and let it go away on its own.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about what this beast is that we all have inside of us, how to deal with it when it comes out, and how to weaken it so that we're not feeding it and letting it run our lives.

It is essential that we remind ourselves that we are the only ones who know ourselves better than anybody else and that we do not have to fight in every conflict that arises, as the strength of simply ignoring it is actually what will enable us to triumph over it and destroy it.

Listen to Episode 146 to learn more!

• Feeding the beast [2:41]
• How do we know when we're having a relapse? [7:15]
• Choose the right accountability partner [12:12]
• Watching violent content feeds the beast within us [15:16]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [16:56]
• Mantras are helpful in making micro decisions[18:39]
• The more we give power to something, the more it consumes us [23:51]
• The importance of being deliberate with your time [27:38]
• What is the beast within us? [33:27]
• What is High Noon Connect? [36:16]

Urges, whether they are healthy or unhealthy, are essentially a gift from God as they are the gateway back to realizing some areas of brokenness that exist inside us.

It is not a bad thing to experience negative emotions such as stress, anger, or anxiety. In fact, having these emotions can be helpful in fully understanding what it is about ourselves that needs to be healed or fixed. If we take a moment to reflect on how we handle negative emotions, we can improve as individuals and handle them more effectively the next time they arise. Having healthy urges will inspire and motivate us to live a more intentional life, form more healthy, productive habits, and see life in a more positive light.

Instead of escaping from our situation, take the time to figure out what our urges are trying to teach us about ourselves. Always remember that we are always worth the time and effort and that we should always give this to ourselves.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about what it is to have urges, why having unhealthy urges is not inherently a negative trait, as well as the significance of identifying healthy urges in our lives. They also discuss how urges, whether they are healthy or unhealthy, are the key to understanding and loving ourselves.

Listen to Episode 145 to learn more!

• Understanding our negative emotions [2:46]
• Noticing a limitation is informing and helpful [4:45]
• Understanding where our urges are coming from [8:37]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [9:42]
• Our subconscious fear of disapproval [10:56]
• Enjoy the process of getting to know ourselves [15:20]
• Why is it alarming when we lack strong positive urges? [16:48]
• How do we identify and indulge our productive urges? [23:52]

Each of us possesses the neurological pathways that link our mind to the outside world. It is meant to connect with and serve others. Some people take advantage of it for their own gain, where they isolate themselves, which leads to porn addiction and masturbation, causing them to become disconnected from the world.

It is necessary to develop principles that will guide our actions and beliefs toward other people. Only then can we grow and appreciate how wonderful life is and the significance of the connections we create.

In this episode, we are joined by M.G. Tomasini, MD, author of Meta-Connected Sex: The Moral Case For the Power of the Brain's Chemistry and Connectivity for Sex. She devoted her life to understanding more about the science of human love, relationships, talents, creativity, and sexuality as they relate to worldwide success, happiness, fulfillment, and freedom.

Dr. Tomasini shares with us what Meta-Connected Sex is all about, the significance of understanding the interconnectedness of our mind, body, and spirit, and the importance of developing principles in our lives.

Even though some of us did not grow up in a healthy environment, which is what we need to shape our minds centered in principles, we can still find our safe places, like High Noon where we can blossom and develop our freedom to choose principles that will allow us to fulfill our greatest desires.

Listen to Episode 144 to learn more!

• What Meta-Connected Sex is all about? [2:42]
• The Three Ps: Principle, Purpose, Plan [5:50]
• How does our prefrontal cortex work? [7:42]
• Freedom of choice of principles [11:09]
• Freedom in terms of sexuality [17:00]
• Creating clear sexual principles? [23:54]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [26:03]
• Our neurological pathways [26:32]
• What does meta-connectedness look like? [31:54]
• What do healthy meta-connected people look like? [32:11]
• Why men and women are complementary? [36:48]
• Why is it important to have principles in our lives? [42:28]

Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world as our children are completely dependent on us, and the way we bring them up has a significant impact on how they develop. It is a lifetime commitment that requires us to provide them with support, direction, and most importantly, love; yet, we cannot provide any of those things to them if we are self-centered, and we cannot even provide that to ourselves.

Before we get married, it is important that we have already healed and made ourselves whole. This will ensure that we are able to provide for our families in any way they need and that we are prepared to put them ahead of ourselves. In our lives, selflessness manifests itself when people have sexual integrity. Because having sexual integrity also means having intentionality, which is a vital aspect for us to have in order to provide boundless love and care for our family.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the role that a husband plays in the birth of his child, as well as the support that he provides to his wife during her most difficult times, such as giving birth. They also discuss how important it is to deal with our emotions and deal with our sexual integrity while we are single.

Listen to Episode 143 to learn more!

• Benjy's newborn baby [1:25]
• A childbirth experience from a man's perspective [4:25]
• The significance of sexual integrity in marriage [6:09]
• What kind of energy do we give to our wife while she's pregnant? [9:29]
• The importance of a strong support system in marriage [13:29]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [15:03]
• What emotions does the husband experience while his wife gives birth? [16:15]
• The importance of intentionality in parenting [23:32]
• The difficulties of becoming a parent [25:13]

High Noon got its beginnings when there were just a select few people working for the organization who all had the same great desire to further its mission.

The world is in need of restoration and healing, which is why High Noon is working toward the goal of reaching every area of the world. They do this in the hope that they will be able to help more people in the process of healing, guide them in their journey toward sexual integrity, and ultimately create radiant, blessed families, couples, and individuals.

From its humble beginnings, High Noon has come a long way. A great number of positive things take place within the organization, and the community continues to grow; yet, one thing does not change, and that is the unquenchable desire to help people quit porn and lead a fulfilled life.

In this episode, Andrew gives some insight into the workings of High Noon. He talks about the things that High Noon is aiming to do right now as well as the many things that they want to accomplish in their communities and all over the world.

Listen to Episode 142 to learn more!

Show Notes

• David, Mitsue, and Sammy are going to Asia. [1:28]
• High Noon is cleaning up its community [3:31]
• Why High Noon focus on sexuality? [5:53]
• Why do the Wolfenbergers spread the mission of High Noon even in their spare time? [7:21]
• What our European tour looked like [9:21]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [10:55]
• How High Noon has evolved and where it is going [13:38]