Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

We often spend our lives avoiding things that make us feel uncomfortable, but we should feel and experience those things instead because they will give us the opportunity to fully appreciate what life has to offer. Even if we long to experience sensuality in our lives, some of us don't seem to be able to because they only stay for the good things in life and leave the bad ones behind.

We should allow ourselves to have both positive and negative experiences because life is all about them. We need to quit trying to escape the inconvenient things God sends our way because these things are not sent to us only to cause us pain; rather, they are sent to us for a special purpose.

In this episode, Andrew and Carina talk about the importance of understanding sensuality and how we may intentionally cultivate it to fully appreciate all areas of our lives.

Listen to Episode 141 to learn more!

Show Notes

• Sexuality impacts all aspects of our lives [5:31]
• What sensuality is all about? [7:00]
• The connection between sexuality and sensuality [9:44]
• Why we should understand and deal with our emotions [15:18]
• Allow ourselves to feel the negative emotions [25:43]
• The importance of experiencing [27:35]

A lot of people are going through a phase in which they believe that their unhealthy habits are valuable and that they benefit from them when, in reality, it is only causing destruction in their lives and preventing them from becoming the person they want to be. When we are aware that porn can have a bad impact on our lives and on our path to sexual integrity, we will not turn to it whenever we are feeling stressed or anxious; rather, we will learn to build a healthy habit that is genuinely valuable and from which we can significantly benefit.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the difference between being intolerant of porn and being allergic to it, the reasons why less porn leads to more porn, as well as how our small decisions can have a big impact on our lives. They also discuss the High Noon programs that can help us with our struggles, such as addiction to porn.

Listen to Episode 140 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The difference between intolerant and allergic to porn [4:46]
• Why is it important to be aware of which camp you belong to? [8:49]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [11:38]
• Having a porn habit serves no purpose [12:07]
• Three reasons why less porn leads to more porn [13:04]
• Our micro decisions can have a macro impact on our lives [14:28]
• The blessing of our discomfort [18:38]
• Why is it vital to figure out how can we become allergic to porn [21:32]
• Ascend: Sexual Integrity Training

Many people are going through personal struggles and are ashamed to open up because their struggles make them feel like they don't belong. High Noon has been helping a lot of people in restoring their relationships with themselves, their partners or marriages, and their families in order to build a fulfilled life with God as the center of it and with sexual integrity by providing programs that aim to help in overcoming struggles such as porn addiction and becoming the best version of themselves.

In this episode, Andrew talks about High Noon seeking to connect and engage with their audiences or listeners worldwide by creating a group called 1000 True Tribe members of High Noon and encouraging people to share their content with those who need it in order to create a great impact in their lives and inspire them to help others as well.

Listen to Episode 139 to learn more!

Show Notes

• What has been happening at High Noon? [1:23]
• What is the purpose of the book The Five Dysfunctions of a Team? [4:09]
• The true purpose of High Noon [5:40]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [7:30]
• Building 1000 true tribe members of High Noon [7:59]
• Shame is a connectivity issue [8:47]
• High Noon as a worldwide movement [9:28]

Many people struggle to leave their comfort zones and hold onto beliefs that they consider to be true because they are afraid of growth. Growing requires acceptance, and in order to develop and change our perspective about ourselves and the world, it is essential that we understand the situations in which we find ourselves. It is important that we align our values with the kind of person we want to be—a person with sexual integrity—because when we are certain about our values and our NorthStar Goals, it will be simpler to act and grow.

In this episode, Benjy talks about the most significant things we can impart to our children, his own personal journey to overcome porn, and how he was able to mend his sexual relationship with his wife. He shares with us the growth equation, which enabled him to let go of beliefs that were detrimental to his growth, as well as how we can optimize the growth equation in our own lives to overcome our personal struggles such as porn addiction.

Listen to Episode 138 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The most important lesson to impart to our children [3:31]
• The definition of growth [8:40]
• How to quickly overcome a porn addiction (Benjy's growth equation) [10:08]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [14:22]
• Why should we pay attention to the false beliefs we carry in our lives? [14:51]
• The significance of having a vision for ourselves [19:16]
• How to be fulfilled and happy in our marriages [20:09]

Our beliefs about what is right and wrong are reflected in our values. They help us become the people we aspire to be and create the world we see for ourselves. Our beliefs and principles are embodied in the choices we make on a daily basis.

Social media can have detrimental effects when we rely too heavily on it. Porn is one type of social media content that can erode our values. Because excessive amounts of anything are unhealthy, we should make it a habit to take breaks from social media and redirect that time toward activities that have both a positive and meaningful impact on our lives.

It is essential that our values are aligned with the kind of people we aspire to be, and a significant step toward realizing this goal is to surround ourselves with others who have similar perspectives. An organization such as High Noon is a great example of a healthy environment that actively practices values that are aligned with our greatest aspirations and ideals.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the significance of having values that are aligned with the kind of person we want to become, why is it important to understand them, as well as how social media is undermining our values. They also talk about the risks of excessive consumption of social media and the need of taking a break from it in order to break unhealthy habits.

Listen to Episode 137 to learn more!

Show Notes

• What does it mean to be a value-driven person? [2:36]
• The impact of cultural erosion [5:44]
• The influence of people around us on our values [11:01]
• How social media can promote false beliefs and social norms [11:58]
• The value that should guide our lives [14:30]
• The erosion of values [17:27]
• Why is it important to connect our values with the type of person we want to be and to surround ourselves with individuals who share these beliefs? [19:38]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [21:09]
• The significance of integrating our best selves into our sexuality [21:38]
• How taking a break from social media can help us get rid of bad habits [22:50]

How we define sex is significantly influenced by how we first learned about it. People frequently learn about sex from porn and social media, which distorts their understanding of sex and leads them to believe that their destructive habits are normal.

Recognizing our unhealthy habits and determining if they are aligned with the person we want to become is fundamental. We must break old habits, change our perspectives on sex, and develop new, healthy meanings for ourselves that are based on the person we want to become—a person with sexual integrity.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about how important it is to understand why we experience, think, and feel about sex the way we do, and how these things are influenced by the way that we were first exposed to sex. They discuss how we imprinted this and developed ideas about sexuality that we considered normal.

Listen to Episode 136 to learn more!

Show Notes

• What is sexual imprinting all about? [7:34]
• The harmful effects of porn on sexual imprinting [11:54]
• Why a person develops a bad habit [15:48]
• The difference between short-term pleasure and long-term pleasure [19:27]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [20:16]
• Why does having an authentic identity matter? [20:46]
• How social media and pornography can distort our perception of sexuality [23:53]
• How the false meanings society gives to sex can have a bad effect on our sexual imprinting [27:09]
• Make yourself a new standard of sexuality that better reflects your ideal self [31:35]

When we want to learn something and achieve our goal, we need to focus on the fundamentals first. If we have the right sexual integrity fundamentals, our journey will be a wonderful experience. By fully committing to our journey, we will be able to recognize our old, unhealthy habits, allowing us to become the person we want to be by incorporating new, healthy habits into our lives. Having an accountability partner helps us progress and understand our process. Reclaiming our sexual integrity is only possible if we are honest with ourselves and committed to becoming the person we hope to be.

In this episode, Andrew talks about how important the fundamentals are on our journey to sexual integrity, and the benefits of starting our journey with the appropriate fundamentals that will pave the way for continued success.

Listen to Episode 135 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The importance of learning about the fundamentals [2:40]
• Why is being ALL in important? [5:07]
• The impact of having an accountability partner [5:41]
• Commit to the process of transformation [6:16]
• The significance of understanding our bad habits [6:51]
• A culture where there are no shadows [7:24]
• Focus on YOUR integrity [9:39]

Growing is a beautiful journey as it allows us to experience and learns new things not only from our surroundings but also, and perhaps most importantly, from ourselves. We get to learn unexpected things about ourselves that we didn't know existed, but we embrace and enjoy this discovery nonetheless. Growing is also painful. When we see the progress that other people have made, we have a tendency to feel as though we are falling behind, that we are not making any progress, and end up right back where we started.

Our journey to sexual integrity is both beautiful and painful, just like the process of growing. Like when we are embarking on a trip or adventure, we must be prepared, pack the essentials, and even anticipate what may occur so that we can be ready. Similarly, on every journey, we must be prepared from the moment we decide to set out on our path. We must determine what would be the biggest roadblock in our journey and be prepared to address and resolve it when faced. The beauty of our journey lies in part in our willingness to welcome discomfort along the way. Experiencing discomfort doesn't necessarily indicate pain and suffering, but it only means that we are stretching our boundaries and being truthful with ourselves on this journey.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about how to keep moving forward, the steps we should take to get out of feeling stuck without going back to where we came from, and what we should do with the framework of greatness we already have. They also discuss how important it is, to be honest, why our journey to sexual integrity should be enjoyable, as well as why we shouldn't be afraid to try new things.

Finding an accountability partner is an essential aspect of our journey. High Noon is a community that cultivates sexual integrity. High Noon is an accountability partner that helps people in their journey toward sexual integrity by helping them in overcoming the things that they are reluctant to let go of - the things that are preventing them from moving forward. When you embark on a journey, it can be comforting and inspiring to know that you have someone by your side who will guide you and on whom you can rely.

Listen to Episode 134 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The importance of identifying the biggest roadblock of our journey [2:20]
• Why should we allow ourselves to feel uncomfortable? [06:40]
• We all have the framework for greatness; we just need to work on fixing our lives [9:25]
• Why shouldn't we have high expectations for ourselves? [9:59]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [13:43]
• We should STOP comparing our success to the success of others [14:12]
• Are we really fulfilling the purpose of sexual integrity? [18:09]
• The importance of enjoying our journey to sexual integrity [19:11]
• Don't be afraid to try new things [22:58]

In today's society, people are less likely to openly talk about our sexual organs. Because of the taboo that normally surrounds sex, there's rarely a safe space to talk about our sexual organs in a manner that won't elicit crass comments. However, our sexual organs play an important part in our lives - after all, this is how our DNA is passed on to the next generation, as well as where love is manifested. It is important that we develop a relationship with our sexual organs and treat them with care, and respect, and nurture them with a great deal of love as this reflects how highly we value ourselves and the kind of relationship we want to have with our future spouse.

People learn about sexuality in various ways. Some learn it from their parents, teachers, or other people in their immediate environment. Some discover it independently. Each of us has a unique perspective on it; consequently, we each have a unique understanding of its true purpose. Our sexual organs are significant and sacred, so we must take care of them and develop a healthy relationship with them. Instead of associating our sexual organs with things that can only destroy our relationships with them, such as shame, porn, masturbation, and other bad habits, we should treat them with respect, love, and most importantly, in accordance with God's will.

In this episode, we are joined by our special guest, Carina Cunningham, as we talk about the value of our sexual organs, the importance of building a healthy relationship with our sexual organs, as well as the habits we should avoid that can devalue our sexuality. We also discuss sensuality, which comes from the book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing By Jay Stringer.

People who become addicted to things, such as masturbation or porn, do so because their relationship with their sexuality and sexual organs is unhealthy or misaligned. Discipline is key when we are breaking free from addiction, and it goes hand-in-hand with determining the cause of our broken relationship with our sexuality and reconnecting with it to form a much healthier relationship. It is of the utmost significance that we cultivate a relationship with our sexuality because it is connected to the relationship that we have with God and our future spouse.

Listen to Episode 133 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The value of our sexual organs [4:21]
• What do our sexual organs actually represent? [6:31]
• Create a healthy connection with our sexuality [9:35]
• True Parents' view of sexuality [13:13]
• Finding our own way to bridge the gap between our sexuality and God [14:03]
• How our interpretation of sexuality can be profoundly impacted by having a different worldview about it? [16:38]
• Our beliefs should be in line with our actions [20:17]
• The Blessed Couple Podcast [22:13]
• What is selfishness all about? [23:15]
• A "little porn" always leads to "more porn" [27:36]
• A must-read book: Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing By Jay Stringer [29:26]
• Porn hinders us from seeing even the smallest beautiful aspects about people [29:48]
• Sensuality, sexuality, and sex are connected to absolute sex [32:40]
• Why do we need to prioritize sensuality in our lives? [33:48]
• The most important discipline [39:09]

When we own something, we treat it with respect, take care of it, are aware of when something is wrong, and we are able to fix it on our own. However, when we have something that we don't own or are the "renter" of, we often have no knowledge about it, give it little attention, and have no understanding of how to fix it when anything goes wrong.

Porn and sexual deviance are destructive habits that some people develop because they seek to escape from their traumas. These are areas of our lives for which we take no responsibility, so we are unaware of our ability to heal from them. When we fully own and begin reclaiming those broken areas of our lives, we can also begin to evaluate our lives, connect to the person we want to be, and get rid of those unhealthy habits.

Owning our sexuality entails loving ourselves beyond all else. This means that we must always learn to treat ourselves with respect and kindness. We cannot fully love another person if we do not first love ourselves as we cannot really offer what we do not have. Our sexuality should be a reflection of who we aspire to become. When we learn to fully own our sexuality, we can see how valuable and beautiful we are and that we are the person we have been yearning for all along.

In this episode, Andrew, Benjy, and special guest Eric talk about what it means to be an owner and a renter, as well as how to fully own and take control of our sexuality. They discuss different analogies of what ownership means and how we can use those definitions to apply them to why we should take control of our sexuality.

A lot of us believe that everyone will eventually cross paths with someone who can mend the broken parts of our lives. Many times we are so focused on searching for that right person when all we really need is the courage and bravery to finally take control of our lives and our destiny as we are the only ones who can truly make us whole.

Listen to Episode 132 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The difference between an owner and a renter of your sexuality [2:07]
• The definition of ownership [7:26]
• Why should we claim ownership of our sexuality? [8:17]
• Why does unconditional commitment matter the most in a relationship? [9:54]
• The value of being accountable for our own lives [13:47]
• Why do some people enter marriage as 'renters'? [15:08]
• Why should our sexuality mirror who we want to be? [15:42]
• Our limitation isn't a burden but a gift [15:59]
• The limitations we impose on ourselves are all our responsibility. [17:12]
• Why should we take back control of the areas of our lives where we don't do so? [19:08]
• The essence of High Noon organization [25:13]