"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks

I often get asked the question, "How do I begin to love myself?"

On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I touch on some points on Self-Love.

Loving oneself is often mistaken for caring for oneself externally. 

Loving yourself begins within your soul, mind, body and spirit. It is all about alignment with your core.

Without this alignment, you become a wandering soul lost in your own world.

Listen to today's episode and send in your questions via email: [email protected].

Self-abandonment is an unconscious choice that we make when we encounter hurt/pain/trauma. It is the beginning of the journey of losing oneself.

Today, I share a few points on why we self-abandon and why it is important to gain a conscious awakening to this truth in order to find who you are created to be and become.

Without becoming conscious aware of the reasons why you self-abandon, you will become stuck in your own life and journey.

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As a single woman, you may meet a man who hasn't healed himself. You may also still be dealing with some buried emotional wounds that you are yet to heal from. You may have fantasized about the partner who will rescue you. You may have met someone who mirrored back your emotional wounds to you and you both trauma bonded. 

However, you are trying hard to make him see why you are the "one." The truth is that you cannot make a man ready until he comes ready on his own. 

Listen to today's episode and let you know what your thoughts are.

Don't forget to pick up my books, "Being Single," "Beyond the Pain" and "On Becoming Restored" to learn more about this topic.

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How you value yourself will determine how others see you and the values you have/bring to the table.

Without knowing your own value, it will be difficult for others to see your value and treat you based on your value.

Listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks and let me know what you think.

Send me a message to provide feedback and I'll look forward to hearing from you.

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The month of May is mental health awareness month. 

Your mental health is vital to having a balance healthy life and relationship. 

Without taking care of your mental health, you may develop mental illnesses.  It is important to get professional support to heal from buried emotional wounds that result in mental health disorders. 

The emotional pain/trauma we all suffer from right from our childhood constitute to emotional and mental health issues.

Make healing a choice and always remember this: "No one can make you a priority if you are not making yourself a priority." - Kemi Sogunle

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Have you found yourself struggling in your marriage and you believe divorce is the only way out (if there is no abuse)?

Do you compare your marriage to those of others and think divorce is your final solution?

On today's episode, I share 4 reasons why you should never rush towards divorce.

If you believe you need to work on your relationship or you have the desire to work on your marriage before making divorce your final option, send me an email for a complimentary session at: [email protected] and I'll be happy to support you.

Always remember that: "Love is unconditional...if it comes with conditions, then it is a transaction." - Kemi Sogunle

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Have you ever wondered if you are self-disciplined and committed to yourself? Do you have boundaries or lack boundaries?

Self-discipline and commitment are acts of self-love that allow you stay grounded and contribute to your growth and healthy mindset.

Without being committed to yourself and self-disciplined, you may find yourself struggling to have healthy relationships, be respected by others and you may also struggle emotionally and mentally.

These two essential factors also allow you to introspect, learn life lessons and reset when needed.

Got questions around this topic? Feel free to email [email protected] for a 30 minutes complimentary session.

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Have you ever met someone and right from the start you shared stories about your life? It suddenly seems like you have known them forever and you start to entrust your life to them.

Out of the blue, their actions no longer seem to make you want to trust them and you feel betrayed.

What initially took place was trauma bonding and dumping of emotional pain/trauma that created the illusions that you have met someone to rescue you. This resulted in infatuation and inflated emotions of anxiety coupled with the excitement that the "rescuer" will take away all the pain/trauma and validate all the feelings and emotions that have been buried for so long.

However, when the disappointment sets in, we must learn the lessons to find our true selves, gain the wisdom and build on trusting ourselves before others. 

"You cannot love if you cannot trust." - Kemi Sogunle

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Do you really know your love language? Does your love language really define what love is in your relationship or help your relationship grow?

Love Languages only create transactional and unhealthy relationships that result in codependency. Love Languages stem up from the emotional wounds/trauma that we carry and do not heal from. We seek for others to meet these needs but become frustrated when the needs are not met.

What will happen if your partner stops fulfilling the love language? Does this mean your partner never loved you? How will you fill the void in your own life? 

Reality is that you must know who you are (through the journey of self-discovery and healing), master your true self, meet your own needs and become whole. 

Think about this as you listen to today's episode and let me know what you think. 

Email me at [email protected] to share your thoughts.

Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com