"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks

Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship but the presence of limited beliefs can result in self-sabotage that will prevent you from having a healthy relationship.

Today, I'm talking about 5 limited beliefs that get in your way of establishing a healthy relationship.

Understand that "Two unhealthy people can never have a healthy relationship." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "Beyond the Pain." Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.

Ready to learn more on how to eliminate limited beliefs? Schedule a complimentary session with me or send em an email via my website to get started.

Have you found yourself struggling with the inner voices that make you criticize, judge or abandon yourself? 

Those voices you hear from when you were a child...the negative ones spoken by the caregivers/parents. The voices that keep replaying and lead to thoughts that make you create limited beliefs and awaken fear/ego.

Those voices echo constantly and prevent you from communicating with yourself. They make you shut down emotionally and begin to bury your emotions and feelings. 

The emotional wounds make you connect with others who may share similar pain/trauma causing you to trauma bond, get hurt in relationships and recycle patterns repeatedly.

The emotions suddenly ooze to the surface and you are not able to understand that there is an awakening to tap into those emotions, learn the lessons and move "Beyond the Pain."

However, you have to surrender if you want to heal...surrender things that you cannot control: the past, the pain/trauma and focus on what you can control while connecting to the buried emotions to learn the lessons about your life and self. As you connect with your emotions and learn what they are teaching you about yourself, you begin to heal and shift from the persona you created into your true self.

Learn more on my website: www.kemisogunle.com.

Understanding the power of forgiveness is essential to your growth process and life's journey.

"“Without forgiveness and love, you will live with resentment,  bitterness, malice and strife which result in more pain. You can never  love without forgiving. Forgiveness deepens your ability to love and  frees you from pain.” - Excerpt from my book, "Being Single" and "Beyond the Pain." Copyright ©2014 Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved.

Allow yourself to heal through forgiveness and break free from what is breaking you down or holding you bound.

If you need support, you can schedule a complimentary session with me via my website.

Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com

Have you found yourself struggling with internal conflicts? You overthink, worry, become anxious or depressed. 

We sometimes experience internal conflicts that result in triggers due to buried emotional wounds/trauma we are yet to heal from.

We overthink or over process our thoughts and create make-belief stories that limit us and keep us in a box of illusions that we hold on to.

Listen to today's episode on how to deal with internal conflicts.

Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com | [email protected]

Have you ever struggled communicating your feelings/emotions to anyone or your partner? 

Lack of great communication skills is why we struggle to express ourselves and get into arguments and discords.

Mastering communication is essential to having a healthy relationship with yourself and others.

Today, I'm sharing on the reasons why communication seem to be a struggle in our personal spaces.

"Lack of communication and ability to express yourself will result in emotional wounds that allow you to stay silent and self-sabotage." - Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com | [email protected]

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Have you ever found yourself repeating patterns and cycles in your relationship? Have you always thought it was your partner's fault and never taken a deep dive into how you were attracting such partners?

Listen in and learn more...

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It's another Valentine's Day weekend. There will be the gifts, flowers and chocolates for those in a relationship. Singles who are not in a relationship don't have to feel bad about being alone this year...have compassion for yourself and treat yourself with love. Become the love you need. Find happiness within and heal from any emotional wound/trauma that may be the road blockers.

For couples, don't create a transaction but learn to build on a relationship that will last a lifetime.

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Healing from a breakup, divorce or losss of a loved one can be challenging especially when there is buried pain/trauma. You may have become emotionally numb to some of your life experiences by choice. 

However, without uncovering those areas where you have shut down emotionally, you may find yourself repeating patterns that become habits and eventually a lifestyle.

“We become conditioned by repeating patterns that become routine. Those  routines become habits and habits eventually may become addictions. The  challenge, is to strive hard and change so that you can unlearn and  learn while taking risks and making choices that do not allow you to  become stuck or become an addict of your own habits.” - excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." - Copyright © 2014, Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved.

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Have you ever met someone and your initial conversations began with their painful past experiences?

You listen to them and it seems you share similar experiences. 

You begin to sympathize than empathize and try to become the adviser and fixer.

This is how emotional and trauma dumping begins.

If you are not consciously aware of who you are, if you haven't healed from the past, if you are not yet whole, you will trauma bond and get sucked into the trauma energy.

You will believe you have so much in common and you have to make the connection with the other person.

Emotional and trauma dumping are highly unhealthy and unconscious habits that lead to repeated patterns. They do not only affection your emotional and mental health but also affect every area of your life.

Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com

Oftentimes, we think the end of a relationship is the end of our world. However, it is the beginning of a conscious awakening to discovering who we truly are created to be. 

The end of a relationship is another phase to finding your true self.  It is the phase that exposes the "naked truth" that you don't know who you are.

You have a choice to connect to the real you or continue to get lost in the course of your journey.

However, if you choose to focus on your emotions and feelings, you will create a void that allows you to get lost in time in your own world and connect to pain (in addition to any emotional pain/trauma that exists in your own world).

Kemi Sogunle

www.kemisogunle.com

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