Loving On Purpose

No excuses now.  I offer you 100 ways you can show your adult children you love them even if they don't share their love back with you.  Love is always a choice.  Love just loves.  Love will always feel best.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

This is a replay of a podcast I published a year ago but I felt it worth rebroadcasting it.
The most healthiest emotion we can have is gratitude.  When we are thankful for all the good things in life we enjoy we have a better connection with God, with our family, and with ourselves.  We live in abundance rather than scarcity.  We realize we already have so much of what we want in life.  Being grateful enables us to live a very satisfying life.

See full show notes and transcript HERE.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Are there times you feel consumed by the thoughts ruminating in your head over how you're being treated by your adult children?  And then these thoughts start impacting other relationships that are important to you.  You feel miserable because you can't stop the thoughts and you feel like you could explode with resentment and disappointment.  Listen to this episode to learn how to stop these negative thought cycles.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Do you really want to show up at Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner when you know you're going to be emotionally abused?  The better question to ask is do you know you have a choice?  What is the reason you'd be going?  Do you like your reason?  I hope this episode will shed some light on the choices you have about being around anyone that is emotionally abusive to you.  Love always wins but that doesn't mean you wear a sign that says"kick me" or "punch me."  You are a child of God and you are important.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We usually use the Model to get a result we want in our lives by focusing on the feeling we want to feel and change our thoughts to cause that feeling.  In this episode I'm giving attention to the action line of the model and how changing our behavior by show gestures of love can give us the result of feeling more love that results in living a peaceful, well lived life.  Love always wins....just every time.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Our love may feel rejected by our adult children but that doesn't mean they don't love us.  It's our expectation of a certain way they should be responding to our love that they are not living up to that causes us to feel they are rejecting our love.  Whether it's not thanking us for a gift we gave them to not including us in their children's lives that may cause us to feel resentment and anger rather than love.  But isn't that us, loving them conditionally?  Listen to this episode to learn some ways to keep loving our children when we feel they are rejecting our love.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

I share some insights into what adult children commonly complain about their parents since they have become adults.  You'll find from listening to this episode, it's many of the same complaints parents have about their adult children.  I discuss 10 common complaints adult children have shared.  I am not inferring that a struggling relationship is caused by the parents, but maybe you will learn some things that you could do to strengthen any relationship.  Anything we can do to be part of the solution instead of the problem always helps us to feel love more often.  Practicing choosing love over judgement is the most influential choice we can make to unconditionally loving our children.  Unconditionally loving our children is the key to finding peace in our relationship with them.

References:

My Adult Child Won't Talk To Me
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/06/my-adult-child-wont-talk-me/591274/#

 Five Complaints Parents and Children Have About Each Other
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-lines/202104/five-complaints-parents-and-grown-kids-have-about-each-other

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202207/6-sources-tension-between-adult-children-and-their-parents

 The Biggest Complaints Kids Have About Their Parents is....
http://www.tfcknoxville.com/psychology-blog/the-biggest-complaint-from-kids-about-their-parents-is

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

The cause of your painful relationship with an adult child may not be what you think it is?  When we find out what it is, it's mind blowing.  Because it's not their actions, but it's your thoughts about their actions that is causing you all your pain.  The good news is that we can't change their actions but we can change our thoughts.  It's learning that you are responsible for your feelings because you are the one thinking those thoughts.  Also, part of being an adult is knowing that you are responsible for fulfilling your own needs...not your children.  Tune in to find out some remedies for changing your thoughts that enables you to be the creator of the kind of life you want to live.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Many of my clients wonder if their children are disrespectful to them because they failed in their child raising techniques.  Unless a child was severely abused, how they were raised has nothing to do with how they treat their parents.  Most of the time disrespectful children don't see themselves as being disrespectful.  Whatever is happening, they see it from a different perspective.  It's their feelings that cause them to act a certain way; they feel a certain way because of the thoughts they are thinking.  If life is really hard for adult children, they are likely to have thoughts that cause them to have feelings that cause them to not show up as a respectful person.  It has nothing to do with you because you have no power to make a person feel a certain way.  Tune in to understand better why most of the time it's not a parent's fault if their child is disrespectful.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We can't control or change how we want people to act in a relationship.  Even with an out pouring of love, they still might not accept our love.  But we can control our behavior and the kind of person we want to show up as in any relationship.  Relationships with family members are always the most personal to us.  Listen to this episode to learn what you can control in your contribution to a loving, kind relationship.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life