Loving On Purpose

Have you ever wondered why when you're hungry you are quicker to be offended by circumstances in your life?  Have you noticed that sometimes when you are disappointed you sometimes don't have the energy  to start a new task and the option to take a nap sounds pretty inviting.  Our physical well being and our emotional well being are interconnected.  One doesn't function at it's best if one of them is not healthy.  The best news ever is that understanding that nobody is their best self when they are hurting emotionally or physically.  This awareness can make a huge difference in understanding our adult children's and our own behavior.  By listening to this episode you can learn to be more compassionate and less judgmental, which benefits not only others but compassion feels so much better than judging others.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Do you love yourself?  Did you know you are thanking God for His greatest creations if you do?  Did you know that to unconditionally love yourself reduces stress?  Did you know it can help you make better decisions?  But the biggest benefit of all, it helps you love people that might be difficult to love.  Unconditionally loving yourself means to love all of yourself....your strengths and your weaknesses .  Listen to get some suggestions on how to love yourself unconditionally.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Sometimes our heartbrokenness isn't over our relationship with an adult child but over unharmonious relationships between our adult children.  It can have as much impact over us emotionally as a difficult relationship with a child.  In this episode I speak to what your role is in such a circumstance and offer eight suggestions of what you can do to find peace in your life.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

What if you believe really hard that your relationship with your adult child could improve.  Believing is the first step.  When we really, really believe it can happen we change from having a despairing mindset to having a hopeful mindset.  When we feel hope rather than despair we are motivated and determined to find opportunities to make it happen.  Listen to this episode to hear 5 steps to having a better relationship with your adult children by first "believing fiercely".

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Having a bank of empowering thoughts in our brain can't help us feel the feelings we want to feel more of the time.  I keep five or so of these thoughts, (which now have become default thoughts because I have practiced thinking them so often) in the front of my brain that allows me to not let the hard things in my life get me down.  I have a better understanding of why opposition is necessary.  But when Mr. Opposition or Mrs. Judgmental or Miss Negative shows up, I process the emotion for a minute or two and then one of my 5 power thoughts comes to mind and I find I'm able to deal with situation because I'm in a more peaceful mindset.  I hope this episode gives you some "food for thought".

If you want  the transcript to this episode so that you have a list of these thoughts, click here.  It should be up by the end of the day 8-24.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Do you deal with disrespectful adult children?  After all we sacrificed for them!!!.  In this episode I offer some suggestions as to why they are disrespectful;  what are some boundaries we can set so we are not the perennial "punching bag"; and what actions we can take to influence them to change their behavior.  We can't control or change them but maybe making some changes in our behavior can influence them to stop criticizing you, or withdrawing from you.  We make changes in our behavior by choosing love over judgement.  We choose love by having loving or compassionate or respectful thoughts.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

I get many of you asking what can I do to fill my time now that my children are raised that will be satisfying and fulfilling.  Have you thought of volunteering?  Some of you probably have but don't know where you to start.  Listen to this episode to find out the benefits emotionally to volunteering, how to assess where you should volunteer, and also some specific places that need volunteers.  One of the remedies I suggest to having a happy life when you are not spending as much time as you thought you would with your family is to "get a life".  That is, find some that excites your outside of your family.  Spending part of your time volunteering may be the perfect solution.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Thank you for submitting questions regarding your relationship navigation with your adult children.  Most relationships come down to what we focus on as to how we perceive whether it's accepting to us or not.  We have a choice.  To focus on the good in people or focus on what's not going right.  We have a choice to love another person or to judge them.  It's in our power to feel anyway we want about any relationship depending on what we choose to focus on and what we chose to think.  In this episode I address specific questions sent in by some of my listeners.  I feel most of our relationship problems can be fixed by answering the question, "What would love do?"

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Has the disappointment and sadness over your relationship with an adult child been with you too long? Are you tired of missing out on a life you thought you were going to have?  Making an effort to find those that need you might just be the perfect remedy;  those that are suffering that need your love and help.  We can't control our adult children.  We can't help them if they don't want our help but there are people out there that would love to be involved in your life and you in there's.  Focusing on serving others can bring happiness and fulfillment to your life once again.
Instead of using your energy despairing, use it to love and serve others.  I refer to an article by Joseph Grenny for insight of how to win this "battle". 

"Are We Losing?: A Gospel Perspective on Imperfect Families" by Jospeh Grenny.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Do you find yourself judging others and find fault in others as your default thinking?
It's your brains fault but you can change it; you can be uncharge of your brain instead of it reverting to its 3 motivational desires (which I explain in this episode).  It takes some intentionality to be the boss.  Listen to the 5 steps I give you to be able to default to noticing what is going right in your life rather than focusing what's gone wrong.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life