Loving On Purpose

What kind of person do you want to be? The first kind of person doesn't realize that their feelings are created by themselves and so they blame something outside of themselves for their negative emotions.  They become victims to their circumstances,  The second kind of person isn't a victim to their circumstances, but they change their circumstances , thinking they will feel better. The third kind of person takes responsibility of how they feel when life is not going as they would like by watching his mind and intentionally paying attention to and managing his thoughts which changes how he thinks, feels, and acts. He evolves into a person who is in charge of living a life he wants to live.  Listen to learn how to become the person you want to be.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you ever notice your choice of one word can cause a different feeling than another word?  I'm not talking about opposite words but using just the right word, still a positive word, but a word that changes the meaning, thus, changing the feeling  of the phrase or sentence.  Example:  You're concerned your child is making so many bad choices in their lives that he/she is destined to living an unhappy life.  Someone says, "They're a good kid.   They'll get their act together.  They'll end up doing something good in their life."  It's a nice, complimentary thing to say, but you still go down the thought path that it doesn't resonate with you enough to even feel hope.  But what it if thoughts were state using the word possible.  "It's POSSIBLE they'll get their act together and do something great and wonderful with their life."  Using the word possible makes that thought so more believable., causing you to feel hopeful instead of heartbroken.  Listen to this episode to learn several other "power words"  to help you start feeling more hope, peace and optimism.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Is your life with your adult children as you pictured it would be?  Or is nothing like  what you had expected?  Are you feeling unimportant?  Ignored?  Left out of their lives?  Resentful?  Disappointed?  You are not alone.  You are suffering what I refer to as expectation pain.  What you were expecting life with your adult children is not happening.  Do you think you might have a "manual" of how your adult children are supposed to be behaving?  Listen to this episode to learn how to overcome expectation pain and what one expectation you are allowed to have that will help have a better connection with your children, and anyone else that is important to you.  

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

In thinking about who you want to be or become have you ever thought about what you would like to be known for? The idea for this episode came to me while watching the Masters Golf tournament on TV last weekend.  A golfer was teeing off and I asked my husband who it was and why did I recognize him and not remember his name.  His reply was "HE IS KNOWN FOR BEING DISHONEST."  That made me start thinking. What am I known for and is that what I want to be known for? We can't control others thoughts and feelings but we can control how we feel about ourselves.  We have the capacity to become who we want to be known for.  Listen to this episode  for the benefits of becoming that person.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We know we are the beneficiaries when we forgive someone that has wronged us.  But what about those people that don't deserve to be forgiven?  It can be difficult to do.  Our thoughts cause our feelings so that means our hurting is coming from the thoughts we are thinking.  But it can be hard to change our thoughts when we can't believe them so that means we continue to feel hurt.   I believe we are only able to believe the new thoughts to cause the pain to go away from the enabling power of the atonement of Jesus Christ.  In this episode I give you 5 steps to take to help you forgive those that seem impossible to forgive.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you wondered why everyone is so full of joy on the day they get married?  They don't care if it's snowing when it was supposed to be a sunny summer day; they don't care if the cake didn't arrive.  It's because they are focusing on what matters most; they are focusing on what's going right!  It can be one of the happiest days of our life because of what we are focusing on.  Sometimes we have to intentionally look for something good to focus on that will bring us joy, often with difficult family members.  Maybe the focus could be that they aren't difficult, they are just different.  Circumstances are not what bring us joy.  It's our thoughts about the circumstance that can bring us joy.  If we choose to focus on the good in a person or on what's going right in any given situation we will feel joy.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

The future is a mystery but yet we tend to spend a lot time thinking negatively about it that actually robs us of the present (which is a present and that's why it's called that).  In this episode I give you 7 thoughts that will help you view the future more optimistically. We don't have control over the future but we can choose to view it with optimism.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Do you know the difference between confidence and self confidence?  Confidence is knowing you have the ability or skill to do something.  I am confident I can bake a cake.  Whereas, self confidence is the belief and trust we have about ourselves.  When we are self confident we feel comfortable in our own skin.  Listen to this episode to find out 7 ways we can foster it and help develop it in yourself.  We were born to be creators.  Lack of self confidence is a roadblock to creating the life we want to live.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We always want to know if we did or said the right thing in a touchy situation with our adult children.  In this episode I give you 5 tips you can use to evaluate for yourself what to say or do.  There is no right or wrong way to act in any situation.   When my client ask "What should I say?" or "Is that ok to do?"  I always respond with "What do you want to say"; "What do you want to do."  You will have some guidelines after listening to this episode.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

What is God's plan for you?  Did you know it's different than God's plan for your children.  We can prove that but if look at all the different ways to grow in this life, all the different learning styles, we can assume that our "lessons" for becoming the person we want to become are going to be different than our children's.  Our time is well spent if we focus on fixing ourselves instead of focusing on fixing our children.  While we can agree with this thought, we often want to get in God's business of knowing what's best for our children.  If we can learn to wait and let our children learn what's best for them their way, things can work out better than we ever could have imagined.  In this episode I offer you two ways help you learn to wait.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life