The most dreaded day of the year for many Mothers.  My heart goes out to those who could never be a mother whether it be from not getting married to infertility problems.
Any enjoyment we get from life is generated by our thoughts.  What thoughts we think and choose to hang on to bring us pleasure or pain.  If we have a disappointing Mother's Day, it's all because of disappointing thoughts we choose to believe are true.  Listen to this episode to learn what your responsibility is in having an enjoyable Mother's Day.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you given up hope on actualizing a better relationship with an adult child?
This episode is for YOU!  Our biggest roadblock is not being willing to wait for them to want a connection with us.  And it does happen.  I share an experience in my own life where after three years of a non-existent relationship with one of my children we are speaking and connecting with each other in a way I never dreamed possible.  I talk about in this episode why it's important to wait for your children to change their behavior, on their timeline, and how to wait without feeling hopeless.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Are you feeling unimportant because your child don't call you or invite you out to dinner?  Are you frustrated because you always have to reach out to them?  Are you disappointed on your birthday because they didn't plan a celebration for you?  Are you already dreading Mother's Day?  If your answer was yes to any of these questions, this podcast is for you.  I discuss how to remedy these concerns.  I help you understand what the real problem is in not living the life you thought you would be living and how to create a life you wish you were living.

My daughter Natalie Clay, a marriage Life Coach, is offering a free class on Thursday, April 11, 2024  at 6:00pm PDT called DISAGREE WITHOUT ARGUING.  Even though it is focused toward couples it is easily applied to how to disagree without arguing with adult children.
Click Here to register.  You need to register to have access to the replay.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

I'm interviewing my good friend Kurt Francom who is the founder and executive director of the non-profit organization , Leading Saints.  He also has a weekly podcast by the same name, which I highly recommend.  His mission is to help us become better leaders whether it's in a church position or as a leader of a family.  His podcast covers a various range of topics.  Today I'm interviewing him about his newly published book, "IS GOD DISAPPOINTED IN ME?  Removing Shame from a Gospel of Grace.".  We discuss how really understanding how much God loves us helps us be better parents.  We talk about why we don't need to worry about the disappointing actions of our children in relation to their standing with God.  I think you will find this episode enlightening but even more inspiring is his book.

Click here to order the book.  It is available in paperback, audio, and Kindle versions.

To learn more about his organization and to get access to a library full of helps on topics of controversial nature that may be pertinent to some of the issues families struggle with regarding their adult children, click here to go to his website.

To listen to his podcast, click here.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

What you think is the problem between you and your adult children is probably not what you think it is.  We were raised to believe that the way they behave toward us causes us to feel a certain way.  If they have very little contact with us, we may feel we are unimportant to them.  Their behavior is the circumstance.  Circumstances are neutral.  They are the actual facts about the situation.  The circumstance causes us to have certain thoughts.  These thoughts cause us to feel in a certain way.  Knowing the cause of our problems (our thoughts not our children's behavior) is they key to feeling the emotion you want to feel, in any situation, by managing our thoughts.  Listen to this episode to hear true stories of how to make this happen in your life.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Isn't it great when all of your family members can gather together?  We all have different opinions as to why or maybe even why not.  I am sharing some of my observations in navigating life with adult children of how different topics of information are shared depending on what makes up the family gatherings.  In this episode I discuss what I found happens to me and my involvement and interaction with my children in an entire group gathering; a single family event; only my adult children getting together with us (no grandchildren); when we meet with one of our children and their spouse; what it's like for us when we meet singly with one of our children.  Each situation creates a different result.  Listen to decide what works for you.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Many of us had expectations of when we had adult children what life would be like.  We thought we would be involved in their lives.  When this expectation or need is not fulfilled we often feel unimportant and unloved.  As an adult, we are responsible for fulfilling our own needs.  One way to accomplish that is to spend more time with friends.
We are fulfilling our own needs by finding like minded people to associate with.  It is not our children's responsibility to fulfill our needs.  They don't OWE us anything.  In this episode I talk about why our children possibly aren't helping fulfill our needs and five benefits to having friends to fulfill our need to love and be loved.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

All of us have people in our lives that we dislike.  It seems especially painful when we dislike and finally own that we really don't like one our adult children. Sometimes we try to move too fast out of feeling this way instead of "being" with this emotion for a while. In this episode I tell of reasons some of my clients have chosen to dislike their children, why it’s owning our thoughts are causing this feeling, and not the circumstance of our children's behavior, and some remedies, some new thoughts to start “trying on” to find peace with your feelings about your adult children. 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

The freedom to be free of non-serving emotions, feelings that don't help us live emotionally healthy lives, can happen in our lives when we are trained in how to have thoughts that empower us and give us permission to be ourselves.  First, we need to let go of the thought that we feel we need approval in order to like ourselves.  Second, we need to quit being the victim to what's happening in our lives and starting creating the life we want to live by managing our thoughts.  I call this the practice of emotional self-care.  In this episode I give you suggestions on how to implement some thoughts to free you to be free from what's holding you back from living a happy life.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Our relationship with our spouse is probably the relationship we should be spending the most time strengthening.  I believe families can be together forever, even after we die.  But I have millions of ancestors and could potentially have millions of predecessors so that seems like a bigger gathering than I can imagine.  But I can wrap my mind around being with my husband forever.  We worry about being with our children for eternity because of some of their behaviors.  But what about  my behavior toward my husband isn showing him love, kindness, and respect?  Could I be better?  Both relationships are important but I believe that if I work at managing my thoughts around my husband, if I practice being the person I want to be around my husband, it then transfers to how I treat everyone.  Love is always the best choice.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life